So, I'm letting my transgender friend

[Manjenko]

Perform anal sex on me. I have had intercourse with her before and at that point I considered myself bi even though I had done it once and don't mess with "men".

She brought it up to me last week and said it was something she wanted to do. I told her no because I wasn't in to it. I caved in and said okay because she is a good person. So I am wondering, how normal is it for a Transgender woman to want to perform anal?

[GroobySteven]

Or how normal is it for someone who is bi but doesn't "mess with men" want to have their friend "perform anal sex" on them?

Just do it, or don't do it. Normal has nothing to do with it.

[tommy001]

Just go with it and see how it goes! No harm is trying once lol

[maddygirl]

Because she's a good person? Lol. Interesting reasoning.

[Manjenko]

lol, so you are telling me that because having some sort of connection with a transgender women and being willing to do something that is not something that you are particularly interested in is odd? Nevermind, thanks for the greeting.

If you are having with sex with someone with a penis why wouldn't that make you bi?

[GroobySteven]

being willing to do something that is not something that you are particularly interested in is odd?

Yes that's very odd. Why do it, if you don't want to?

[GroobySteven]

If you are having with sex with someone with a penis why wouldn't that make you bi?

I don't know, does it? How about a woman with a strap on?

[Manjenko]

so you've never done anything for a friend because you valued their friendship even though it's something you aren't that interested? This sounds more like a newbie hazing then a logical conversation. How many times have you gone to movie that you probably don't like because someone that you care about wanted to go? Hey it hasn't been done as of yet, I came on here because I thought this was a forum for the open minded.

[Manjenko]

I don't know, does it? How about a woman with a strap on?

I never knew that a strap on was the same as a penis. I am looking at this from a biological standpoint. I'm not loosely using terms to make myself feel better about anything I decide/decided to do. I say just accept what it is.

[GroobySteven]

so you've never done anything for a friend because you valued their friendship even though it's something you aren't that interested? This sounds more like a newbie hazing then a logical conversation. How many times have you gone to movie that you probably don't like because someone that you care about wanted to go? Hey it hasn't been done as of yet, I came on here because I thought this was a forum for the open minded.

It's not a newbie hazing - but your question (or statement) opens up so many other questions that this thread just has the potential to be brilliant.

Have I ever went to a movie I didn't like because a friend asked me to? YES.

Have I ever been fucked in the ass because a friend asked me to?
NO.

Where is the "logic" in what you are saying?

[GroobySteven]

I never knew that a strap on was the same as a penis. I am looking at this from a biological standpoint. I'm not loosely using terms to make myself feel better about anything I decide/decided to do. I say just accept what it is.

Well what's the difference if you believe being bi is having sex with a person with a penis - or not? Do you think TS women are men (answer yes, and if you sleep with women also then you would be defined as bi) - or if you think of your TS friend as a woman, then whatever appendages she has, whether real or plastic would be irrelevant and you wouldn't be bi. There is no one right answer.

You say "just accept what it is" - agreed, I think that's what I told you in my first answer and then beggars the question, why did you need to ask it here?

[Manjenko]

It's not a newbie hazing - but your question (or statement) opens up so many other questions that this thread just has the potential to be brilliant.

Have I ever went to a movie I didn't like because a friend asked me to? YES.

Have I ever been fucked in the ass because a friend asked me to?
NO.

Where is the "logic" in what you are saying?



Look at this statement because your logic is off. You are doing something that you aren't particular interested doing in both cases. Substitute the act out and it's more or less the same exact statement. That's where the logic comes in. smh

Why not come on to this board and ask questions about transgender women, isn't this a transgender board? Or is this a forum for people with fetishes? If that's the case I'll leave. I mean you have a picture of a transgender woman sucking a dick as your avatar. Maybe that's okay

Just be comfortable with acts you choose to do. I've never been asked by a woman to be fucked with a strap on. If I cared for her, I'd consider it.

Now seriously, are you open as far as dealing with transgender women, or are you only behind the scenes type person. I hang out with my friend, go on dates movies and what not in public. Not trolling the internet or sneaking around with her?

[GroobySteven]

Now seriously, are you open as far as dealing with transgender women, or are you only behind the scenes type person. I hang out with my friend, go on dates movies and what not in public. Not trolling the internet or sneaking around with her?

Seriously, I'm just behind the scenes. I probably wouldn't meet one or be seen at the movies, dinner on in public with one in case someone found out about me. I just jack off to online porn.

I still wouldn't let a friend fuck me in the ass "just because they wanted to" though - and I would expect someone to let me fuck them in the ass, simply if I asked either. Now if you are genuinely interested in experimenting with her, then good for for you go for it - but not just because she asks.

If you can't see the difference between sitting through 2 hrs of a Sandra Bullock movie - or being poked in the asshole ... then again, scrap that analogy.

[bluesoul]

How many times have you gone to movie that you probably don't like because someone that you care about wanted to go?

i've accompanied friends to movies many times, but if those same friends wanted to fuck my ass i'd refuse. part of it (obviously) has to do with choice- i choose to accompany said friends to a film but i choose not to have my ass penetrated.

btw i'm curious: why didn't you suggest for your friend to get the services of a male escort? there are men who prefer to be fucked. you could still support your friend by offering to help find a suitable candidate for this intimate love-act

[bluesoul]

Now if you are genuinely interested in experimenting with her, then good for for you go for it - but not just because she asks.

well, he did say she's a really nice person, so i'm guessing she's one of those people who, when they ask can i fuck you in the ass, you have no choice but to seriously consider it.

[GroobySteven]

well, he did say she's a really nice person, so i'm guessing she's one of those people who, when they ask can i fuck you in the ass, you have no choice but to seriously consider it.

She'd have to be Kiera Knightly AND nice.

[Redballs]

Don't over think this. Suck her hard, get on your knees and enjoy.

[bluesoul]

i'd consider letting courteney cox do it, but i still wouldn't guarantee i'd go through with it. besides i'm not even sure if she's nice- i just know she's nice to look at :)

[Manjenko]

Honestly, I really do believe if you care about someone you should be willing to do things out of the ordinary for them. There is logic difference, doesn't matter how extreme as long as it's within reason. I won't say I was trolling but. I've always been curious why do men that sleep with transgender women find it so hard to consider themselves bi or gay? I was pretty much waiting for the "oh I only do this online", or "I go out with my transgender friends comment"

I truly do have a friend that I grew up with that changed his gender, 100% passable. Would I mess with her, no. We had a great conversation about how difficult it was for her to date because most guys just have sexual fetishes and they have issues just accepting the fact they are sleeping with people that were born of a different gender. Which prompted this thread.

Now that we have that out of the way, what makes one act any worse than the other? whether you are giving it, and taking it you are still sleeping with someone that was born a man. If you jerking off to dick on the internet you are still bi curious. Why not just own that instead of looking for loop holes to consider yourself something that you aren't? There is nothing wrong with being gay or bi, why deny it when technically, and biologically, you are?

I have not thrown a single insult nore have gotten personal. Just want clarification and some insight from men that sleep with and or jerk off to transgender women, why do you have issues considering yourself gay or bi?

[maddygirl]

Stop being such a baby. It's a forum, and they're giving their opinions. If you don't want answers, why ask a question? No one is insulting you. Jeez.

[Manjenko]

Stop being such a baby. It's a forum, and they're giving their opinions. If you don't want answers, why ask a question? No one is insulting you. Jeez.

read the post below.

[carpenterX13X]

Send her my way. I'll "take one for the team".

[maddygirl]

Honestly, my opinion to your question... don't do something you don't want to do because this is never a good idea. If you want to do anal sex with her, do it, if you don't... don't do it. My boyfriend asked me if he can fuck my ass before, and I said no. This doesn't mean I don't love him, I'm just not interested in getting fucked in the ass. Just think about if you really want to do it, then take your decision. I hope your friend will understand either way.

[Manjenko]

Honestly, my opinion to your question... don't do something you don't want to do because this is never a good idea. If you want to do anal sex with her, do it, if you don't... don't do it. My boyfriend asked me if he can fuck my ass before, and I said no. This doesn't mean I don't love him, I'm just not interested in getting fucked in the ass. Just think about if you really want to do it, then make your decision. I hope your friend will understand either way.



You didn't read my later post. I do have a friend who is a transgender woman. Knew him while we were growing up, value his friendship but I would never sleep with him because at the end of the day he was born a male. I wanted to see how some men rationalize not being gay or bi when they sleep with people that were born men.

I mention the extreme of a man being penetrated by a transgender women and you have men that admit to jerking off to transgender porn or sleeping with transgender women but not being penetrated insinuating that its "not right".

My question is what's the difference? You are still sleeping with someone that was born a male.

[maddygirl]

You didn't read my later post. I do have a friend who is a transgender woman. Knew him while we were growing up, value his friendship but I would never sleep with him because at the end of the day he was born a male. I wanted to see how some men rationalize not being gay or bi when they sleep with people that were born men.

I mention the extreme of a man being penetrated by a transgender women and you have men that admit to jerking off to transgender porn or sleeping with transgender women but not being penetrated insinuating that its "not right".

My question is what's the difference? You are still sleeping with someone that was born a male.
Lol you cry like a baby that we're not open-minded enough for you, then say something like that, the fuck?

[bluesoul]

Honestly, I really do believe if you care about someone you should be willing to do things out of the ordinary for them.

i believe this as well, but to some extent. for example: if one of my friends asked me to shoot a porn film with her i'd probably refuse because that's just not something i want to do in life.

now if this friend is truly a friend of mine, they'd respect my boundaries and not question my friendship because this isn't personal (it's not like i'd rather do a porn film with another person and not them, it's just that i wouldn't do a porn with anyone- well, maybe a private film with a girlfriend or something)

[bluesoul]

My question is what's the difference? You are still sleeping with someone that was born a male.

k. it now sounds like you're asking a different question from what we all initially thought. it now sounds like your question is "why would you have sex with a transsexual as a top only and not bottom for her?" is this correct?

here is my answer. because i don't want to.
also, not all transsexuals want to fuck men in the ass.

[Manjenko]

Lol you cry like a baby that we're not open-minded enough for you, then say something like that, the fuck?


You just don't get it, there is no crying. Let me break it down.

I have a transgender friend. I value their friendship. Grew up with them, will get dinner watch a movie whenever we feel. I'm not ashamed of my friend.

We've never had sex and have no intentions of having sex. I am open minded but sex with a male is sex with a male to me. There is nothing wrong with it, it's just not for me. Okay.

The purpose of my post was to ask, why men that sleep with transgender women do not consider themselves bi or gay.

The reason I posted about anal sex was, many men that penetrate transgender women do not consider themselves bi/gay. But they make it seem as if something is wrong if they are penetrated. I am just asking, why?

I don't have sexual experience with a transgender person.

[Manjenko]

k. it now sounds like you're asking a different question from what we all initially thought. it now sounds like your question is "why would you have sex with a transsexual as a top only and not bottom for her?" is this correct?

here is my answer. because i don't want to.
also, not all transsexuals want to fuck men in the ass.

Okay that's fine but my question now is why were people up and arms when I mentioned the fact that a man that sleeps with a transgender woman is bi/gay. There is nothing wrong with being either (I have to repeat this)

[GroobySteven]

You didn't read my later post. I do have a friend who is a transgender woman. Knew him while we were growing up, value his friendship but I would never sleep with him because at the end of the day he was born a male. I wanted to see how some men rationalize not being gay or bi when they sleep with people that were born men.


My question is what's the difference? You are still sleeping with someone that was born a male.


Called it as a troll as soon as I saw it.
Say goodbye to everyone - and thank you for the visit and humor.

If you'd came on here with a sincere question about sexuality, it would have been answered - but instead, you're just another asshat with an agenda.

[carpenterX13X]

I just consider myself a guy who likes a good time!

[maddygirl]

You just don't get it, there is no crying. Let me break it down.

I have a transgender friend. I value their friendship. Grew up with them, will get dinner watch a movie whenever we feel. I'm not ashamed of my friend.

We've never had sex and have no intentions of having sex. I am open minded but sex with a male is sex with a male to me. There is nothing wrong with it, it's just not for me. Okay.

The purpose of my post was to ask, why men that sleep with transgender women do not consider themselves bi or gay.

The reason I posted about anal sex was, many men that penetrate transgender women do not consider themselves bi/gay. But they make it seem as if something is wrong if they are penetrated. I am just asking, why?

I don't have sexual experience with a transgender person.
You obviously know nothing about transsexuals, so I won't pretend you do anymore. I crown you the straightest HA member in the land (who just happens to talk about getting assfucked then retracting it). Ain't no tranny gonna mess with you. Nuh uh! *Confetti* Do you feel validated yet?

[scroller]

so you've never done anything for a friend because you valued their friendship even though it's something you aren't that interested? This sounds more like a newbie hazing then a logical conversation. How many times have you gone to movie that you probably don't like because someone that you care about wanted to go? Hey it hasn't been done as of yet, I came on here because I thought this was a forum for the open minded.

Not so much, mostly hardened agendas. Hey, I made a pun.

[Manjenko]

You obviously know nothing about transsexuals, so I won't pretend you do anymore. I crown you the straightest HA member in the land (who just happens to talk about getting assfucked then retracting it). Ain't no tranny gonna mess with you. Nuh uh! *Confetti* Do you feel validated yet?

No validation needed at all. You are emotional. I had a question made a scenario and started a conversation based on that. Isn't that what people do online? If I wanted to have gay sex, why not just have it?

Why do gay/bi people feel like it's an insult to call someone who is not in what they are into gay or bi?

I mean you might as well just point your finger and laugh at me and say, ha ha you're just like me. what sense does that make?

I never claimed to know much about transexuals. I have my friend that's it. That's why you come online and ask questions. You are too sensitive. Be comfortable in your own skin. I didn't come here to fight, just wanted some insight.

[bluesoul]

Okay that's fine but my question now is why were people up and arms when I mentioned the fact that a man that sleeps with a transgender woman is bi/gay. There is nothing wrong with being either (I have to repeat this)

you seem to change the story with each post. in the first post you said "I have had intercourse with her before and at that point I considered myself bi" but later you said you've never slept with a transgender woman.

also, your original question was also "how normal is it for a transgender woman to want to perform anal sex" and now you're asking "why don't men who sleep with transgender women" consider themselves "gay/bi"

i think this is the problem people had with you

[maddygirl]

No validation needed at all. You are emotional. I had a question made a scenario and started a conversation based on that. Isn't that what people do online? If I wanted to have gay sex, why not just have it?

Why do gay/bi people feel like it's an insult to call someone who is not in what they are into gay or bi?

I mean you might as well just point your finger and laugh at me and say, ha ha you're just like me. what sense does that make?

I never claimed to know much about transexuals. I have my friend that's it. That's why you come online and ask questions. You are too sensitive. Be comfortable in your own skin. I didn't come here to fight, just wanted some insight.
Lol emotional? I'm not emotional. If you know nothing about transsexuals don't make claims about something you don't understand. Gay men want men not women. How fucking cut and dry is that, right? Anywho, I have to book a plane flight to visit my boyfriend, so we can commit naughty, homosexual acts where he puts his dick in my vagina. I'm already repenting.

[Rusty Eldora]

I gladly get topped by Tgirls that I am attracted to. That attraction primarily is based on how "fem" they vibe. If I feel that I am with a woman it is all OK, if that woman feel is just so-so, indecisive, or a guy in a dress, I am out of there.

Labels are just that, I consider myself somewhere between straight and bi and am very happy to have the relationships I have had with Tgirls.

If the OP is uncomfortable with it, I would recommend not doing it.

[dderek123]

::facepalm::