Help ... I'm wanting to transition and I need advice.

[GroobySteven]

Well not me but here is a hypothetical situation.

18 yrs old. Lives at home. Wishes to transition. Parents, family and friends unaware.

Where do I start? Who do I look for to get hormones? Where can I buy clothes? Who can help me with feminization techniques?

Girls : what are the questions you had to find the answers to?
It's the questions I want - more than the answers (coming later).

[EvaCassini]

"How the hell am I going to afford this transition?"

Biggest one of mine, when I was ready mentally to start pursuing a way to transition back when I was about 16-17.

[my my my!]

I'm not a girl...
But the girls I've talked to say that It's not an easy process

"Parents family and friends are un-aware"
This is a big one. A person can either choose full disclosure and let those people know, and perhaps find that they DO HAVE SUPPORT , instead of assuming they might react negatively. On the other hand, if the person knows their family and friends all too well, this might not be an option.

Some of the girls have told me, that the way they got started, after life at home got unbearable (from coming out as "gay" or transgendered), was to find and seek out other transsexual women. Get a minimum wage job and move in with another TS, all the while saving up some extra little cash for hormones and clothes.

Advice would be, to contact people through craigslist or another social medium, find the w4w/t4m sections or transgendered sections, and find other transsexuals, call them and ask for advice. As long as they don't find the jaded escorts that give them bad advice and get them into drugs, they might actually find some good advice and support. I have a few older transsexual friends (30-45) that have taken a younger TS under their wing and helped them out, not financially, but a place to stay, etc.

The "secret" life at home almost never works out, and the first step, is taking the initiative to either move out, or tell the family.

Sadly , there is no 12 step process of "how to be the woman you desire to be in 12 easy steps" .

[LilyRox]

How do I change my voice?

The main thing I focused on from the start was voice practicing. Though I looked up on Youtube to find videos that help with this. I mostly learned on my own. I practiced every day for hours by listening to myself through a headset for about 2 weeks until I was content with the way I sounded and could do it on cue without having to hear myself through the headset. What really helped was when I was a child I used to go to speech therapy for years to help my slurs and eventually fixed everything. I believe that practice in speech therapy and being a musician truly helps being able to feminize your voice. I can do many voices though the female voice was probably the hardest to learn and how to decide how you want to portray yourself as a feminine figure is also one of the hardest parts. I decided to go for the super excited little girl voice. If you heard my birth voice you wouldn't believe it's me.

[GroobyKrissy]

Personally, I think all things stem from the very simple, basic questions of:

How am I going to live?
How am I going to provide for myself (this excludes escorting)?
How can I create a stable living situation during this process?
Who in the heck out there hires Transgendered individuals... I mean REALLY hires them and provides meaningful employment that is respectful and provides a living wage?
What are the legal rights I have concerning housing, employment, and etc?

IMO, you've got to be smart about life and answer the basic questions of living and quality of life.

From there, everything else is kind of secondary... If you can't provide for yourself when / if everyone you know turns their backs on you, then you've got to rethink your timing.

[christianxxx]

Lily's answer was very interesting. thanks

[LilyRox]

Lily's answer was very interesting. thanks

No problem :)

[VictoriaVeil]

Well not me but here is a hypothetical situation.

18 yrs old. Lives at home. Wishes to transition. Parents, family and friends unaware.

Where do I start? Who do I look for to get hormones? Where can I buy clothes? Who can help me with feminization techniques?

Girls : what are the questions you had to find the answers to?
It's the questions I want - more than the answers (coming later).

The biggest question for me, was How Would I survive? Secondary questions were. How to come out? Purchasing clothes and hormones were way down on the list.

I can remember a time when there was no internet so there was no Shemaleyum or support of ANY kind. Heck there wasn't even marginal acceptance to the consideration to live as a TS. This closest thing to support small clubs where you could perform in Drag and dungeons-- where there was an air of acceptance for an individuals desire to become who they wanted to be whether domme, puppy, slave, exhibitionist, voyeur or TS.

Outside that environment, it was a world of derision, denial, shock, hate and violence. You want a nice normal corporate job? haha, Good Luck. I had friends with Doctorates and couldn't get hired.

Fast forward to today there are support groups, political lobbies for TG rights, the interwebs where people can connect with the push of an enter key, and much much more. There have been huge strides

So as to the Hypothetical - your 18 year old could benefit from a number of resources that are readily available. Also as they are now adult could easily seek them.

Once family knows, they wont care. If they do care your family will become relatives. A family is a support system. A relative is someone you could possibly see at Christmas. (they may see in-laws instead) Your Friends will remain friends, if they don't well then they probably weren't friend in the first place.

Sometimes I find myself thinking it would be great to be that 18 year-old today; so many possibilities! But I am actually happy being centuries older, the difficulties of days past have provided my strength for today as well as the paving for a brighter future for all the marvelous TS to come.


Thanks for asking this SC, writing this response was therapeutic! :banana:

[NightmareX0666]

I have to give all the ladies(and the guys) here and everywhere a huge amount of respect. It is one thing for a person to come out as gay, but to want transition is a whole other experience. And the insight from those who responded is honest and real; hopefully this could be made as a sticky/reminder to those who wish to transition and may not have thought it out completely or wish to understand what they are looking towards.

[tsmirandameadows]

I think the first set of questions I had to ask myself generally revolved around self-acceptance. I still vividly remember being alone in my dormroom as a freshman in college, reading the Amazon preview for a book written by a gender therapist on transsexuals, in which there was a checklist like description of the kinds of experiences that the closeted transsexual has as he or she grows up. I went down that list and was checking off every box: I was stunned/floored/flabbergasted/shocked/etc. How could I possibly be a TRANSSEXUAL?!? I had known that I had always wished I was a girl, had vivid memories of that desire all through out my life, had come so achingly close to telling my parents that I needed to be a girl when I was 13, and as a high school student had turned to tranny porn, with which I would masturbate to the idea that I was the girl getting fucked, as my go to for sexual release, but even despite all of that the notion that the label TRANSSEXUAL fit me perfectly, and that transsexuals don't ever stop being transsexuals hit me like a ton of brick. I was utterly terrified, realizing the horrible truth, but at the same time trying to find a way to not look at the terrifying implications of what this all meant. How did this happen to me? WHY did this happen to me? How will I ever have a "normal" life if THIS is what I have to deal with? If I am so terrified of what I see in myself, how will other people react when they see it in me? What am I going to do?

It took a while to get past those questions.

[BellaBellucci]

I thought you were trolling. I'm so disappointed. This could have been epic. :lol:

~BB~

[GroobySteven]

I thought you were trolling. I'm so disappointed. This could have been epic. :lol:

~BB~

I frequently disappoint.

[BellaBellucci]

I frequently disappoint.

Bastard. :lol:

~BB~

[Rivz]

If I had the resources there are now for young transgendered people, my life might of been completely different, as well as I might of gotten 40DD boobs to boot.

[Odelay]

What really helped was when I was a child I used to go to speech therapy for years to help my slurs and eventually fixed everything.

I went to speech therapy as a kid, too. :banana: Got to ride my first elevator in a very small town to get to the therapists office. About all I remember. But I was able to speak right by the time I was in 2nd grade.

[GroobySteven]

About all I remember. But I was able to speak right by the time I was in 2nd grade.

It's a shame it didn't help with the grammar. :-)

[Ben in LA]

It's a shame it didn't help with the grammar. :-)

You is funny. :D

[BigBlackMan]

Well not me but here is a hypothetical situation.

18 yrs old. Lives at home. Wishes to transition. Parents, family and friends unaware.

Where do I start? Who do I look for to get hormones? Where can I buy clothes? Who can help me with feminization techniques?

Girls : what are the questions you had to find the answers to?
It's the questions I want - more than the answers (coming later).

Just do it bro. If you feel you want to be a woman, go for it seanchai.

[NightmareX0666]

Just do it bro. If you feel you want to be a woman, go for it seanchai.

Oh damn! You had to go there...

[GroobySteven]

Oh damn! You had to go there...


Too predictible - I'm surprised it took so long!

[EvaCassini]

Awwwwe Well hun, I'll help you out and give ya pointers and get your some make-up for your birthday! ;)

[robertlouis]

Well not me but here is a hypothetical situation.

18 yrs old. Lives at home. Wishes to transition. Parents, family and friends unaware.

Where do I start? Who do I look for to get hormones? Where can I buy clothes? Who can help me with feminization techniques?

Girls : what are the questions you had to find the answers to?
It's the questions I want - more than the answers (coming later).



I believe it all, Seanchai.

Except for the bit about being 18, obviously. :kiss:

[Wendy Summers]

Oddly my first question was can a transsexual be something other than a sex worker.

[robertlouis]

Oddly my first question was can a transsexual be something other than a sex worker.

I know quite a few. A lot of workplaces, on this side of the Atlantic anyway, are pretty enlightened these days, so girls can make a living just as most other people do.

[desireejones]

Yes he should just do it


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Just do it bro. If you feel you want to be a woman, go for it seanchai.


I believe it all, Seanchai.

Except for the bit about being 18, obviously. :kiss:

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