Straight Noob+Tranny OBSESSED.

[Mojopink]

Taking a chance on something new: actually discussing my lifelong obsession with trannies. I'm a straight man, freshly 40. In and out of straight relationships. Love females, love she-males. I live in BKLYN NY, and have been with a handful of escorts. I am looking for advice on:

1. Where the hell can I go to meet up with trannies on a CASUAL wavelength? Are they ALL just straight up prostitutes? I'm looking for a GFE. I will pay for it, and have (I got here by Googling reviews of a certain Kym in the BX on Backpage. Sad to read what a rip she is/was). But I'm wondering if there really are private trans girls who are looking for some companionship. And before you say it, FUCK paying for TS Dating.com. That would be like paying YOU to link me to BP/EROS.

2. Is my only hope a club? I'm not really up for slipping into a gay club alone (this is my dark secret remember). Read a few bits on here about a place called Luchos. I'm not an oiled-up 22 year old. I'm a grown man who walked out of the clubs several moons ago. With good advice however, I'll venture out to any establishment that you guys deem worthy.

I'm a noob to this forum. I'd like any advice that you good people are willing to share. Thanks.

[Willie Escalade]

Transgenderdate.com

The girls are out there.

[RyderMonroe]

Nobody wants to be someone's "deep dark secret" unless they're getting paid. Stick with the escorts...

[Mojopink]

I'm a straight, trans-curious man seeking advice. I'm not judging/condemning anyone, but without any genuine access or guidance, that's how it feels to me. A secret. And sticking to the escorts is not what I want.

[Corran]

Ryder..oh baby..I'd show you off to everyone! :Bowdown::Bowdown::Bowdown:

[bluesoul]

what kind of "genuine access or guidance" do you need? road signs with a HUGE markee and arrows flashing "transsexual here"?

i'd suggest getting involved in some GLAAD type activities- eventually you'll meet a tranny or someone that knows one. also, you could relocate to an area with a high concentration of them to give yourself an advantage

lastly, have money. not always necessary but let's just say "it's very important"

oh, and lastly, don't be weird. this is the new "must give" advice.

good luck

[amberskyi]

I want a ts girl but its my deep dark secret....good luck dude cause every girl is going to tell you to get lost

[tranlove]

If you aren't attached why hide it? If you are going to keep it as your deep dark secret you'll have to pay. I volunteer in an LBGT help program, and don't waste their time trying to hook up there, the transgender people that I see are looking to be recognized as who they are not kept in a dungeon.

[MacShreach]

Taking a chance on something new: actually discussing my lifelong obsession with trannies. I'm a straight man, freshly 40. In and out of straight relationships. Love females, love she-males. I live in BKLYN NY, and have been with a handful of escorts. I am looking for advice on:

1. Where the hell can I go to meet up with trannies on a CASUAL wavelength? Are they ALL just straight up prostitutes? I'm looking for a GFE. I will pay for it, and have (I got here by Googling reviews of a certain Kym in the BX on Backpage. Sad to read what a rip she is/was). But I'm wondering if there really are private trans girls who are looking for some companionship. And before you say it, FUCK paying for TS Dating.com. That would be like paying YOU to link me to BP/EROS.

2. Is my only hope a club? I'm not really up for slipping into a gay club alone (this is my dark secret remember). Read a few bits on here about a place called Luchos. I'm not an oiled-up 22 year old. I'm a grown man who walked out of the clubs several moons ago. With good advice however, I'll venture out to any establishment that you guys deem worthy.

I'm a noob to this forum. I'd like any advice that you good people are willing to share. Thanks.

Well, your post is kinda ambivalent. You can keep secret and pay. That's fine, and it's what a lot of men do. If you want something other than a business relationship, it's simply not fair to keep it secret. I'm not saying you have to walk down the street wearing a beanie hat and a big sign saying 'I date transwomen' but you know, just being prepared to take her for a drink or dinner. In public.

A lot of men, when they first get involved with transwomen, fail to understand two things: it is really expensive to transition, and it is much tougher for a transwoman to get a decent job. Not always, but in the absence of a PhD or Master's in a desirable area....you get my drift. So, you know, even if it's not a business relationship, be generous.

Apart from the above, most transgirls are kinda old-fashioned. They like you to open doors, pull out chairs, pick up the tab and buy them nice presents. Don't have to be really expensive presents, as my mother used to say, it's the thought that counts.

Transwomen can also be volatile. Learn to go with it and support her emotionally and it will be worthwhile.

[RyderMonroe]

Ryder..oh baby..I'd show you off to everyone! :Bowdown::Bowdown::Bowdown:

i like your avatar ;)

[Corran]

i like your avatar ;)

"Tis a position I often dream (asleep and awake) of having you in, my lovely seductress.

[bluesoul]

Apart from the above, most transgirls are kinda old-fashioned. They like you to open doors, pull out chairs, pick up the tab and buy them nice presents. Don't have to be really expensive presents, as my mother used to say, it's the thought that counts.

aren't all women like that?

[Mojopink]

Ok, I'll take the blame for being vague in my description. While it's not something I've ever discussed with anyone, it's not something I am ashamed of. I'm aware of the costs a TG girl has to shoulder, both financial AND emotional. So far the advice here has ranged from sincere to snarky. I like snarky, I excel at it. But I learn nothing from it. I could cruise a gay/drag bar. But that's not my scene. And I'm not sure that trolling a support group works for me either. I have a career, a life. I just want to see if a TG girl would be right for me as a genuine girlfriend and NOT just a prostitute I visit occasionally. And I'd like to know if there's a good starting point, a place I could go to where I wouldn't feel like a stranger in a strange land. I'm still hoping this forum is that starting point.

Ryder, your videos are some of my favorites btw. I love redheads. Just saying.

[RyderMonroe]

Ryder..oh baby..I'd show you off to everyone! :Bowdown::Bowdown::Bowdown:

aww thank u :). I hope you find what you're looking for!

[TSMichelleAustin]

Most tgirls not working girls will never be in a gay club or a club that caters to trans women. They live normal lives and go to str8 bars. If you want a secret she will charge. But if ur looking for a non working girl in NY good luck!!!

[ClareSensual]

Where the hell can I go to meet up with trannies on a CASUAL wavelength? Are they ALL just straight up prostitutes?

I have certainly never been a sex worker. And I've never set foot in a club. I live a quiet life. I'm a lawyer with a nonprofit agency. And I date men all the time. I saw a construction worker yesterday. For some reason, they all seem to be hot guys in their 20's; I'm in my 40's. I guess it's the cougar thing. I'm not complaining, believe me.

Try Craigslist, transgenderdate.com and tgpersonals.com. Show a few good face pictures and be honest about yourself. Be patient. If you habituate yourself to using sex workers, you may never find what you're looking for.

[giovanni_hotel]

You need a tranny 'girlfriend' to let you hang out with her on the weekends.lol Some of the coolest undercover girls I've met in D.C. were from just chilling at someone else's crib and a supastar chick shows up.

If you live near D.C./BaltimoreNY/Atl you should go to a ball event. It's a non-professional setting and easier to meet girls who aren't on the clock....initially.

Even if a girl isn't escorting, if you come at some TS the wrong way and she feels you're either ashamed of who she is, or disrespecting her T, expect to get charged for her time.

[bluesoul]

You need a tranny 'girlfriend' to let you hang out with her on the weekends.lol Some of the coolest undercover girls I've met in D.C. were from just chilling at someone else's crib and a supastar chick shows up.

so... you're saying get a friend with a cool crib that regularly gets visits from supastar chicks? aiiight. how about saving the guy some time and introducing him to your friend so he can snag one of those undercover girls


If you live near D.C./BaltimoreNY/Atl you should go to a ball event. It's a non-professional setting and easier to meet girls who aren't on the clock....initially.

that's good advice. he can slip her a hotdog whilst they watch the game too

[giovanni_hotel]

so... you're saying get a friend with a cool crib that regularly gets visits from supastar chicks? aiiight. how about saving the guy some time and introducing him to your friend so he can snag one of those undercover girls



that's good advice. he can slip her a hotdog whilst they watch the game too


Snarkiness aside, many TS don't escort as a vocation.
If you aren't in those circles or know people, there's literally no way to meet these girls unless you cross your fingers and sign up to a tranny dating site.
A 'supastar' TS is an attractive, passable girl who's NORMAL. SHe's not made up like a drag queen or obsessed with how much money you can give her.

I can tell you've never been to a TS ball, IMO it's one of best places to meet trans-chicks and get numbers.

I know it's shocking to hear, but there are guys out here into TS who would rather not be seen as a trick.

The point is to meet TS IRL you need to go out and meet people and form friendships within the community.

EDIT: I just got that bluesoul thought when I said 'ball event', he thought I meant a ballgame like baseball.lol

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You'll never find a GF on Eros.

[Mojopink]

LOL, I did think you meant a sports event. Well, this has finally given me a little perspective. Thanks.

[bluesoul]

I can tell you've never been to a TS ball, IMO it's one of best places to meet trans-chicks and get numbers.


EDIT: I just got that bluesoul thought when I said 'ball event', he thought I meant a ballgame like baseball.lol


hey you're right, i've never been to a "ball event" but my reason is because i'm not looking for a ts girlfriend. mojopink is the person who is searching for a ts girlfriend.

also, you're right. i seriously thought you meant a baseball game. i honestly thought for a second "hrm... that's a strange place to meet a ts" but chalked it off to me not knowing any ts girls as well as never having gone to a baseball game myself either.