sunairco
04-21-2013, 09:07 AM
It's going to happen sooner then later and most likely within my lifetime here in the states. Once gay and lesbian marriage becomes ratified throught the 50 states, that's going to open the door to transgendered and perhaps even polyamourus groups. I'm sure the the fundies are shitting in their pants waiting for the next shoe to drop on their concept of marriage.
So let me be blunt.
Is a LTR marriage possible between a transgendered person and a heterosexually identified individual? I really don't know what to ask here. There's too much societal detritus and predjudice that gets in the way to begin questioning possibilities. I'll leave this to those of you that have a better grasp on this.
For the sake of comparison. Is a marriage between for example a heterosexual woman and a gay man possible in the long term. This one is potentially an explosive reality that may soon come as more and more women are higher educated and have high paying careers and refuse to settle for anything less then a higher status and wealthier mate that share's their interests. This demographic will be a force to be reckoned within the next 20 years as more and more 35+ professional women are finding themselves outside the marriage market and will not settle for anything less then their ideal of their own prince charming. Translate that to a high status Banker, Doctor, or other higher earning professional that shares their interests in art, fashion, and culture. That's not happening and most guys in that class would rather date a much younger, early 20+ and could care less about the artsy fartsy nonsense.
How about two straight people of the same gender getting married ? Not as crazy as it sounds. A century ago, so called "Boston Marriages" between two educated and self sufficent women was legal. These weren't marriages based on sex or orientation. These were marriages of convenience based on close friendship and common support. Theoretically two straight women can marry in states that have same sex marriages, carry on separate sexual lives with multiple male partners, yet draw state/paternal child support benefits from the biological father as a legally recognized married couple and all of the other state benefits afforded to single mothers.
This isn't about sex and primal attraction. I'm wondering about the feasability of a ltr based on love,affection, and caring for one another even if the gender roles don't conform to the current norm.
So let me be blunt.
Is a LTR marriage possible between a transgendered person and a heterosexually identified individual? I really don't know what to ask here. There's too much societal detritus and predjudice that gets in the way to begin questioning possibilities. I'll leave this to those of you that have a better grasp on this.
For the sake of comparison. Is a marriage between for example a heterosexual woman and a gay man possible in the long term. This one is potentially an explosive reality that may soon come as more and more women are higher educated and have high paying careers and refuse to settle for anything less then a higher status and wealthier mate that share's their interests. This demographic will be a force to be reckoned within the next 20 years as more and more 35+ professional women are finding themselves outside the marriage market and will not settle for anything less then their ideal of their own prince charming. Translate that to a high status Banker, Doctor, or other higher earning professional that shares their interests in art, fashion, and culture. That's not happening and most guys in that class would rather date a much younger, early 20+ and could care less about the artsy fartsy nonsense.
How about two straight people of the same gender getting married ? Not as crazy as it sounds. A century ago, so called "Boston Marriages" between two educated and self sufficent women was legal. These weren't marriages based on sex or orientation. These were marriages of convenience based on close friendship and common support. Theoretically two straight women can marry in states that have same sex marriages, carry on separate sexual lives with multiple male partners, yet draw state/paternal child support benefits from the biological father as a legally recognized married couple and all of the other state benefits afforded to single mothers.
This isn't about sex and primal attraction. I'm wondering about the feasability of a ltr based on love,affection, and caring for one another even if the gender roles don't conform to the current norm.