is it wrong to be friendly with an escort? need help

[ew86riv]

so basically, i saw a girl at the beginning of december. we had a good time, and she said keep in touch. i don't really have any intentions of seeing her again for sex, but i would like to send a text and say hi. is it wrong to say hi if you're not going to see her anytime soon?

[RallyCola]

idk the nature of your interaction with her, but realistically, you should not be surprised if she does not return the friendly overtures. just think of things from her perspective as an escort who may be bombarded by former clients with similar sentiments.

[templek]

dont you get it? when she said keep in touch it, was not for a curtesy call but to make future bookings!

[wiltthestilt]

so basically, i saw a girl at the beginning of december. we had a good time, and she said keep in touch. i don't really have any intentions of seeing her again for sex, but i would like to send a text and say hi. is it wrong to say hi if you're not going to see her anytime soon?

In my opinion, yes. It is. Don't waste her time if you don't intend on booking soon. What type of relationshp do you intend to have with her? Sending worthless texts back and forth? Staying up late on the couch together watching movies? Get real. It's her job to try to have a good time with you. And even if she genuinely liked you, she has better things to do than texting back and forth with someone she hardly knows.

If you have seen her many times, and it's clear the two of you hit off, then you might send a few friendly texts now and again, or maybe even do something nonsexual off the clock if she is willing. But after one visit, forget it.

[ew86riv]

In my opinion, yes. It is. Don't waste her time if you don't intend on booking soon. What type of relationshp do you intend to have with her? Sending worthless texts back and forth? Staying up late on the couch together watching movies? Get real. It's her job to try to have a good time with you. And even if she genuinely liked you, she has better things to do than texting back and forth with someone she hardly knows.

If you have seen her many times, and it's clear the two of you hit off, then you might send a few friendly texts now and again, or maybe even do something nonsexual off the clock if she is willing. But after one visit, forget it.

i'm not looking for a relationship with the girl. i just want to keep in touch so the next time i want to see her she remembers me. that's the real purpose.

[rodinuk]

You don't have any intentions of seeing her for sex and you don't want a relationship then when exactly is the next time you're going to see her?

What's the change in outcome at that next time if she doesn't remember you?

[sophiebendable]

Since you say you don't intend to ever session with her again, I have to agree with everyone else that this is disrespectful of her time and business. It seems like half the men who call me are only interested in leading me on for some weird virtual friendship, probably because I seem like (and am) the GFE type. Luckily, I've gotten pretty good at identifying those guys.

What I hate, though, is how it makes me cautious in a way that I might seem a bit frigid to real guys first contacting me. I totally respect that some girls are all business, but I personally have no problem exchanging friendly emails with someone who I know I will see regularly. I actually enjoy it. The key, though, for anyone wondering, is to build that friendship in a way thay makes you seem like a regular well-adjusted guy! In other words, get in touch when you have something to talk about, not several times a day whenever you feel lonely :p

[ew86riv]

You don't have any intentions of seeing her for sex and you don't want a relationship then when exactly is the next time you're going to see her?

What's the change in outcome at that next time if she doesn't remember you?

when i do see her again i'm going for sex, but in the time i don't see her it would be nice just to be able to say hi. i also wouldn't text everyday or week. this would be like once a month. i'm just trying to be friendly. not looking for a relationship or special treatment.

[Quiet Reflections]

she is going to think the worst of you if you start sending texts and being weird about shit. Just leave it, best not to even seem like a stalker.

[ew86riv]

Since you say you don't intend to ever session with her again, I have to agree with everyone else that this is disrespectful of her time and business. It seems like half the men who call me are only interested in leading me on for some weird virtual friendship, probably because I seem like (and am) the GFE type. Luckily, I've gotten pretty good at identifying those guys.

What I hate, though, is how it makes me cautious in a way that I might seem a bit frigid to real guys first contacting me. I totally respect that some girls are all business, but I personally have no problem exchanging friendly emails with someone who I know I will see regularly. I actually enjoy it. The key, though, for anyone wondering, is to build that friendship in a way thay makes you seem like a regular well-adjusted guy! In other words, get in touch when you have something to talk about, not several times a day whenever you feel lonely :p

i do have the intention of seeing her again, but it may not be a weekly thing or monthly thing. every couple months i might see her so in the time i don't i would like to just say hi every now and again. i have no intentions on texting her everyday or every week. just every so often to maintain contact between visits.

[Prospero]

You are contradicting yourself ew - for in your first post you say you don't really have any plans to see her again for sex and then you say you want to keep in touch so the next time you see her for sex he will remember you. Are you just wasting everyone's time here with this nonsense? Just send her a text - say you'll be bi to see her sometime but in the meantime just wanted to say h.
Otherwise this is just a load of crap isn't it.

[ew86riv]

You are contradicting yourself ew - for in your first post you say you don't really have any plans to see her again for sex and then you say you want to keep in touch so the next time you see her for sex he will remember you. Are you just wasting everyone's time here with this nonsense? Just send her a text - say you'll be bi to see her sometime but in the meantime just wanted to say h.
Otherwise this is just a load of crap isn't it.

i wrote it wrong at it first. i didn't mean i would never see her again for sex. i meant to say i won't be seeing soon for sex. i probably won't be able to see her again until the summer.

[flabbybody]

suppose it's OK to say hi but never forget : Time is money

[giovanni_hotel]

Escorts DO have friends - not fucking. I suppose some are former clients. Unlikely.

It's much easier to be a paying fuck friend with an escort because even if you go the 'friend' route, you both know at some point you'll want a freebie.

Unless she's retired or both of you have some kind of deep emotional connection, you're going to get played.

Some escorts are cool as shit people so I know that urge. But oftentimes these girls are masters at manipulating the male psychology; they get a feel for what kind of girl you like and they give it right back to you.

If you really like an escort just as a human being, you can't be fucking them as a client.

I once tried to do the 'casual thing' with an escort, just treating her like I would any female socially. I told her I was more comfortable if she just asked me to 'loan' her a couple hundred from time to time and I'd hook her up.

Um, that really didn't work out.lol

Once a trick, always a trick. Lesson learned.

[TSMichelleAustin]

I think its bad idea... if a guy text me to text me and not see me, I feel its wasting my time. Unless I have seen u often and we have that repor, but u seeing me once and not wanting to see me again, then I would ignore u once I found out u werent interested in seeing me! I always say keep in touch but that means when your back this way and want to do it again! Not to be friends.

[wiltthestilt]

i do have the intention of seeing her again, but it may not be a weekly thing or monthly thing. every couple months i might see her so in the time i don't i would like to just say hi every now and again. i have no intentions on texting her everyday or every week. just every so often to maintain contact between visits.

If you're not going to listen to anyone why did you start the thread? This is obviously not the answer you want but it's basic hobby etiquette. Post this same question on other message boards where escorts are discussed and you will get the same answer. This insistence on maintaining contact with her after only one visit is awkward.

[bluesoul]

so basically, i saw a girl at the beginning of december. we had a good time, and she said keep in touch. i don't really have any intentions of seeing her again for sex, but i would like to send a text and say hi. is it wrong to say hi if you're not going to see her anytime soon?

she only cares about your money. how can you think someone cares about or is interested in you when you paid for the sex?

[Dino Velvet]

i wrote it wrong at it first. i didn't mean i would never see her again for sex. i meant to say i won't be seeing soon for sex. i probably won't be able to see her again until the summer.

If you plan on visiting her in the Summer possibly a heads up text letting her know you soon plan to see her wouldn't hurt.

I see a few escorts on a regular basis. One called me the other day reminding me a TV show I liked was starting up again. I like the girls I see and wouldn't bother with them if I didn't. I write a few E-Mails here and there and called a couple the other day to wish them a Happy Valentine's Day.

[Rusty Eldora]

What I hate, though, is how it makes me cautious in a way that I might seem a bit frigid to real guys first contacting me. I totally respect that some girls are all business, but I personally have no problem exchanging friendly emails with someone who I know I will see regularly. I actually enjoy it. The key, though, for anyone wondering, is to build that friendship in a way thay makes you seem like a regular well-adjusted guy! In other words, get in touch when you have something to talk about, not several times a day whenever you feel lonely :p

Yes, its a business transaction, but I am friends with my business clients (to a certain level) and I have become quite good friends with several escorts. My area has several local review boards (GG only) where reviews are posted and there is discussion. If you enjoyed time with her, write a review, and recommend her to others.

Yes, respect their time, OK to be friendly and text / email at times, but get a sense if they are OK with it. She would love to see you again, but would just as likely love seeing someone referred to her.

[wiltthestilt]

Yes, its a business transaction, but I am friends with my business clients (to a certain level) and I have become quite good friends with several escorts. My area has several local review boards (GG only) where reviews are posted and there is discussion. If you enjoyed time with her, write a review, and recommend her to others.

Yes, respect their time, OK to be friendly and text / email at times, but get a sense if they are OK with it. She would love to see you again, but would just as likely love seeing someone referred to her.

If you are a repeat client (i.e., you running a large tab) and she values your business then some extras are fine.

But after a first visit sending a random text without requesting an appointment = awkward. Especially since she'll be thinking that's why you are texting her.

JMHO--I don't even exchange friendly texts with girls I see regularly. If I find myself getting the urge to text a provider for reasons other than sex, I know I really want something that is not to be found in the hobby.

[fivekatz]

Dude, text me could mean a few things:

1. Love to take some more of your money, you were a gentleman and I had a nice time.

2. Love to take some more of your money, I'd like to keep you on a string so I can work you for in call or out call when shit gets slow.

3. While less likely, it could mean you were really cute and I'd like to take more of your money.

4. While even less likely, it could mean she sees you could be a potential BBF.

In any case being top of mind with an escort, which you say is your intent is sort of useless, she'll take your money so long as you aren't a creep or difficult in some other way.

If you aren't interested in anything beyond client-escort I can tell you that you better be pretty damn confident that the girl isn't. Because if any girl TS or GG ever starts crushing on you and you encouraged it unwittingly or not, it is a crappy thing to do. Maybe more so to TS who have a harder time finding guys who are straight up interested in them and not just into getting head (cc. BB and SGT for details.) (chaser)

If you are interested it gets awkward. When do you stop paying? When are you two friends with benefits instead of client-escort with great rapport. Are you actual ready to say fuck the rest of the world, this is my girl and if it bothers you she has a cock go fuck yourself?

If you really like this girl and want to take chances yours or her emotions text her and see what comes of it. But if all you want is to maybe call her again on a professional basis, let it go IMO, don't go there. She'll take your money, show you at least as good a time as the first time.

[Rusty Eldora]

If you are a repeat client (i.e., you running a large tab) and she values your business then some extras are fine.

But after a first visit sending a random text without requesting an appointment = awkward. Especially since she'll be thinking that's why you are texting her.

JMHO--I don't even exchange friendly texts with girls I see regularly. If I find myself getting the urge to text a provider for reasons other than sex, I know I really want something that is not to be found in the hobby.


I do exchanged texts/emails with some of my provider friends. But do not ever expect it to be anything other than pay to play.

Yes the primary meaning is "please schedule with me again".