are escorts against fwb?

[R88K]

Probably a stupid question but I was jus curious if trying to befriend an escort is pointless.im the type who doesn't wanna be looked at as a client but it always ends up being about the money in the end. Im nit sure how to go bout meeting twirls in the jersey shore area so escorts seem like the only way to meet girls that I actually find attractive
I don't mean to offend anyone I jus wanted some input. Thanks.

[flabbybody]

not to say the girls don't have favorites but
Once a trick always a trick..... that's all they'll ever see you as

[Willie Escalade]

not to say the girls don't have favorites but
Once a trick always a trick..... that's all they'll ever see you as
Real talk...and it doesn't matter how much you treat them...

[RyderMonroe]

its not pointless. its improbable, but it really depends on you and your personality. regardless of anything though you should start out by being a good customer. Be respectful, dont be rude or cheap, dont call her a tranny or a shemale, dont smother her. and be aware of your status as a client until she says otherwise. Dont try to manipulate her or guilt her into a relationship.

[tsadriana]

I think there are more factors ,,,Like if a guy wants to date a girl and he likes her,maybe escorting its the only way in suvaving ,or another reason its maybe you want to befriend with her just for sexual reasons etc?

[saifan]

not to say the girls don't have favorites but
Once a trick always a trick..... that's all they'll ever see you as

Not true... I've been seeing a girl since '09. I was a client exactly 1 time. Not saying it's easy but it can happen.

[R88K]

Well it makes sense the few times I have gone to an escort they always end up lying bout their pics even when they didn't need to. I just don't think its fair to pay for ur time if ur jus deceiving me from the get go. Im not a bad looking guy from what iv been told, im always respectful and honest I guess im jus looking for an attractive girl without having to pay for her time but I guess that's too much to ask for. Im not like most guys id rather hang out n get ta know u than jus hook up n leave I understand if that's not what these girls r looking for but how do I find what im looking for? Anyone know of any sites cause I feel like a bother when I hit up girls asking them to chill in a non business kinda way. Am I just being ignorant to what girls really want?

[tsadriana]

Well it makes sense the few times I have gone to an escort they always end up lying bout their pics even when they didn't need to. I just don't think its fair to pay for ur time if ur jus deceiving me from the get go. Im not a bad looking guy from what iv been told, im always respectful and honest I guess im jus looking for an attractive girl without having to pay for her time but I guess that's too much to ask for. Im not like most guys id rather hang out n get ta know u than jus hook up n leave I understand if that's not what these girls r looking for but how do I find what im looking for? Anyone know of any sites cause I feel like a bother when I hit up girls asking them to chill in a non business kinda way. Am I just being ignorant to what girls really want?

Are u looking for someting serious or just someting to play with?

[Jamie French]

Sounds like you're fishing in the wrong pond. Why the obsession with specifically trying to land an escort? Just go meet girl whose not in the sex trade. As an escort I can say without hesitation that it's always so creepy to encounter dudes who try to will away the clear division between a woman's work and her private affairs.

[Donkey]

not to say the girls don't have favorites but
Once a trick always a trick..... that's all they'll ever see you as
I disagree. Not trying to brag, but I can't tell you how often, over the years, I've paid to see a girl, and at some point after the date she basically tries to be my girlfriend.

[R88K]

I wouldn't call it an obsession but my options are limited bc of my location. Even when iv tried meeting a girl on a dating site she would tell me she was a bartender then I figured out from our time together that she was an escort n this has happened multiple times. Im not against being in a relationship but I do believe sex is a big part of a healthy relationship or atleast for me it is. Iv found that the only girls who want to be in a relationship anyways is cds n there jus not my cup of tea. Im not shallow but I want a gorgeous girl (with brains would be nice) with a Sexy body n I can't seem to find that unless im willing to give up half a weeks pay for an hour of her time. I guess it is pointless I was jus hoping I was wrong

[Dino Velvet]

I wish they all were.

[Jamie French]

Welcome to the world of being an adult male. Lemme get this straight - All you're asking for is stunning beauty, and brains to boot but you can't seem to figure out why there would be a price attached to such desirable premiums?

Escorts, hookers, perfect 10's - They all command a price. That's is a reality you and every other man on Earth has to learn to accept. The very fact that you started this thread speaks volumes about your capability to interact with what might otherwise be perfectly attainable dating material. The problem is larger than your initial inquiry acknowledges.

The answer is simple. Reel back and re-prioritize your standards... if you're looking for a real relationship then looks come second, third, hell, even fourth, (brains, humor, decency, etc. THEN looks.) If you insist that looks take precedence then you deserve nothing less than a price tag and a stopwatch as the hallmarks of your dating experience.

Also, you can move. It's a big country. It's an even larger world.


I wouldn't call it an obsession but my options are limited bc of my location. Even when iv tried meeting a girl on a dating site she would tell me she was a bartender then I figured out from our time together that she was an escort n this has happened multiple times. Im not against being in a relationship but I do believe sex is a big part of a healthy relationship or atleast for me it is. Iv found that the only girls who want to be in a relationship anyways is cds n there jus not my cup of tea. Im not shallow but I want a gorgeous girl (with brains would be nice) with a Sexy body n I can't seem to find that unless im willing to give up half a weeks pay for an hour of her time. I guess it is pointless I was jus hoping I was wrong

[R88K]

While i feel u hav the wrong idea about me considering u dont kno me outside of what iv posted those r all very fair points n I understand y u would feel that way n what i want is asking for too much. But the same way not all girls should be genralized as bein escorts or being miney hungry, not all guys should be genarlized as being an asshole who only wants to have sex, etc. I try to get to know every girl I meet past their work n what not n im sincerely honest when I want to be friends with these types of girls platonic or not. For me physical beauty is the first thing that attracts u to anyone. Im very easy to get along with n I get along with personalities of all types that's y its not as important to me. Like I said I didn't mean to offend anyone if I did I apologize I jus wanted some input on the situation.

[R88K]

↓↓ and I do appreciate ur honesty thank u

[R88K]

Ill never again pay for sex bc im no longer that desperate n I always left disappointed whether its bc of being rushed or being lied to about pics etc.I was hoping there was an easier or more useful way of going about it but Ill jus hafta wait n see if what I want eventually comes my way...good things come to those who wait

[Dino Velvet]

A good escort is a good find.

[C. Saw]

I must be f'd up too, cause I think that R88K is being thoughtful and making good points. Even if I had unlimited cash flow, seeing an escort is not really what I want too. Not all guys want a girl for sex and nothing else. I am not comfortable with that, I would want to know someone first.

[jamiethewild]

Probably a stupid question but I was jus curious if trying to befriend an escort is pointless.im the type who doesn't wanna be looked at as a client but it always ends up being about the money in the end. Im nit sure how to go bout meeting twirls in the jersey shore area so escorts seem like the only way to meet girls that I actually find attractive
I don't mean to offend anyone I jus wanted some input. Thanks.

Why bother an escort with fwb?

I am srry but there's nothing that pisses me off more when someone asks me if its a possibility to have ftw. Your young so you'll learn. If am advertising then don't bother me with bs, i gotta pay bills also. Looking at your bio , i can see you're clearly a liar. You said, you couldn't upload your pic because it wouldn't let you? What a piss poor excuse. Try again.
Appreciate, all the suffers i have gone through in life, my hardships, my hormones, and boobs. Appreciate am a TS. Appreciate, I came to your city to work, appreciate how beautiful am I, appreciate your standards, how beautiful you want your girl to be in bed because without me, you wouldn't have the fantasy you want. APPRECIATE. So yes, YOU GOTTA PAY, thats the way to appreciate.



I disagree. Not trying to brag, but I can't tell you how often, over the years, I've paid to see a girl, and at some point after the date she basically tries to be my girlfriend.

Maybe, those escorts need to step back and realize what standards they want in a bf and to realize if their in the right business?
Maybe, your trying to sound cocky.

[fivekatz]

You can befriend an escort. They are after all people, they just happen to make their living by providing sexual services.

But just how deep a relationship can you have? Most girls I have met are more than willing to engage in more than just mechanical sex. But at the end of the day, this is how she makes her living. She more than likely separates business sex and broader relationships.

Even if you become fast friends what are the odds that both of you are willing to commit to a deeper relationship? When exactly do you stop bringing a gift in an envelope with green paper inside? When does she decide not to escort anymore and if she doesn't are you going to be cool with that? Any of those speed bumps would not make you a guy who just wants to cum and run or the girl a money grabber. Rather they are the complications of meeting a person with the original basis being consensual sex for monetary gifts.

What you propose probably isn't impossible but is far from the best way to meet a girl you want to have a relationship with that runs deeper than getting off and having a congenial relationship with.

In my time on this planet I have found that you never find when it comes to either love or true friendship if you look to hard for it.

[R88K]

C.saw thank u its nice ta know someone understands where im coming from. Jamie I completely understand where ur coming from. The last thing I wanna do is fuck wit someones money but most girls iv met make more in one night than I do in a week or 2. Im sure girls in ur line of work are always getting hit up from guys wanting a freebie or whatever but i don't want sex as much as I want interaction. I don't have a computer so it wont let me upload pics from my phone so u can think what u want about me, that's ur right, but I have no reason to lie. Ur right I do have alot to learn but the only way im gonna learn is if I ask the right questions, right? Thank u for commenting and giving me ur point of view, any input wither positive or negative is appreciated.

[R88K]

"In my time on this planet I have found that you never find when it comes to either love or true friendship if you look to hard for it."

I also have found this to be true but u can't get what u want without some effort no?

[Rusty Eldora]

its not pointless. its improbable, but it really depends on you and your personality. regardless of anything though you should start out by being a good customer. Be respectful, dont be rude or cheap, dont call her a tranny or a shemale, dont smother her. and be aware of your status as a client until she says otherwise. Dont try to manipulate her or guilt her into a relationship.

Donkey
I disagree. Not trying to brag, but I can't tell you how often, over the years, I've paid to see a girl, and at some point after the date she basically tries to be my girlfriend.

Everybody needs to work, escorts work giving you pleasure. The good escorts take their masks off when they are with you and let you peek inside. I've become very good friends with a number of escorts. Friendships require a connection and it is hard to predict who would connect. Friendships also require work. I have had the same experience as Donkey.

As Ryder says be a client, then a regular client if you enjoy time with her. She will let you know if there will be time off the clock. It will only click maybe 10% of the time IF you are lucky, but I have known after the 1st time with her if it could click. Consider it training to land a good civilian girlfriend. I have a civilian girlfriend here and a provider girlfriend that lives in Hawaii. I still see escorts and enjoying Tgirls. I've been married.

Guess what - for the sex part of it, escorts by the hour are less $ than the provider GF, the civilian GF about the same, the wife cost $$, and the ex-wife cost $$$$$$$$!!!!! Ouch!

Don't try and make it happen, it will only happen when the time is right. And yes, if you want model material you will pay for model material.

If the escort you are seeing is on time, provides good or great service and helps you live a fantasy, she is acting not lying.

[SuzySnappz]

Your question is reasonable in some ways, but I have some problems with it. For one, some escorts do have boyfriends, but looking for a "fwb" (friend with benefits) relationship is really pushing it. As an escort, the last thing I'm looking for is an no-strings-attached fuck buddy, I already get plenty of that. A boyfriend, maybe yes. Someone who's a friend, but is also there for me emotionally on some level, and is also ok with me escorting... it's not necessarily easy.

As for whether an existing client could become a boyfriend, that's a tough one too... it hasn't happened for me but I couldn't rule it out. I do know that guys calling me via an escort ad looking for a free date or an fwb thing right off the bat are annoying and time-waster-ish.

[RyderMonroe]

Your question is reasonable in some ways, but I have some problems with it. For one, some escorts do have boyfriends, but looking for a "fwb" (friend with benefits) relationship is really pushing it. As an escort, the last thing I'm looking for is an no-strings-attached fuck buddy, I already get plenty of that. A boyfriend, maybe yes. Someone who's a friend, but is also there for me emotionally on some level, and is also ok with me escorting... it's not necessarily easy.

As for whether an existing client could become a boyfriend, that's a tough one too... it hasn't happened for me but I couldn't rule it out. I do know that guys calling me via an escort ad looking for a free date or an fwb thing right off the bat are annoying and time-waster-ish.

i agree. lol I actually didnt realize that "fwb" stood for "friends with benefits". I assumed the op was looking for a genuine relationship.. Yes its pointless and annoying to try and pursue an fwb thing with an escort.

[sucka4chix]

not to say the girls don't have favorites but
Once a trick always a trick..... that's all they'll ever see you as

The saying should be "Once an escort always an escort" since the problem stems from THEIR perspective. Many girls have an alter ego or split personality when it comes to sex. That's how they cope with what they do. It's not the trick who has the issue, it's the girl who can't get past it. My bestie is a girl I met doing cam and escorting. It took a looooooong time to break through that. She insulated herself with many many layers. The person who turned tricks was not the real her, but she rarely makes that real person available. It's a very complex psychology and one that most people don't have the patience to deal with. But if you really care about someone,(most people aren't going to care that deeply for an escort) it's doable. However, I'm speaking of real friends, not the fucking kind.

[fivekatz]

i agree. lol I actually didnt realize that "fwb" stood for "friends with benefits". I assumed the op was looking for a genuine relationship.. Yes its pointless and annoying to try and pursue an fwb thing with an escort.I also misunderstood friends with benefits. I am sure many of the escorts already have regulars that are friends with benefits.

Those benefits would include genuine enjoyment of each, conversation that goes beyond sex banter and of course the donation.

So if the OP wants a FWB and isn't just look for an escort without any fee attached, my guess is that you will meet some cool people who for whatever their reasons are currently escort.

[RallyCola]

honestly, i am going to second the idea that once a john, always a john. if you can meet a girl socially and approach her as a potential bf or just a friend, and not for the purposes of sex, your chances have to increase.

[Remy757Photog]

Seriously, don't bother escorts with "fwb" request, it's very disrespectful to call an escort for anything but setting up an appointment. There are so many trans women that aren't in the sex industry to pursue. Also, it's totally possible to meet trans women (escort or otherwise) in the everyday world, which includes Jersey Shore, just like you would genetic girls.