Words Better Not Used Around Transsexual Ladies

[Dino Velvet]

I don't mean the derogatory words relating to porno. I try not to use words like special, unique, or anything that she would think I'm talking about her situation being transsexual. I know I make a lot of wrong assumptions but I try to error on the side of courtesy and respect.

Any advice from the ladies would be helpful. What words that guys use do you dislike or roll your eyes at?

[Nikka]

I know I have to pay because I know all TS are prostitutes

[MrsKellyPierce]

"It must be hard to be you"
"I admire you"
"You're so strong"

Those make me roll my eyes..

[Dino Velvet]

I accidentally messed up really bad after taking a gal out to dinner. We went to a Barnes & Noble to look around. I waited in the DVD section while she looked at actual books. When she came over to check on me an innocent coincidence occurred. My stupid and overexcited self held up Blu-rays of Dog Day Afternoon and The Crying Game. I slowly lowered them after seeing the disappointed expression on her face. Still plead Not Guilty.

[Stavros]

Just as well it wasn't Brian de Palma's Dressed to Kill or she may have screamed and run out the shop...

[MrsKellyPierce]

I accidentally messed up really bad after taking a gal out to dinner. We went to a Barnes & Noble to look around. I waited in the DVD section while she looked at actual books. When she came over to check on me an innocent coincidence occurred. My stupid and overexcited self held up Blu-rays of Dog Day Afternoon and The Crying Game. I slowly lowered them after seeing the disappointed expression on her face. Still plead Not Guilty.
Awe, I don't think I'd of cared much. I really enjoy movies where there is a transgender character, just not the ones where they make us outlandish or put male performers as the actors.

But for me the ones I mentioned above are the top ones..


Those make me roll my eyes..I know the heart and sentiment is meant well..still annoys me.

There was no choice in it..just like you wake up every day and know your sex..I knew mine..so there was no other way.

[Dino Velvet]

Awe, I don't think I'd of cared much. I really enjoy movies where there is a transgender character, just not the ones where they make us outlandish or put male performers as the actors.

But for me the ones I mentioned above are the top ones..


Those make me roll my eyes..I know the heart and sentiment is meant well..still annoys me.

There was no choice in it..just like you wake up every day and know your sex..I knew mine..so there was no other way.

My subconscious mind forced me to reach for them I think. As soon as I saw what I was holding I was horrified.

I have a bad habit perhaps of trying to pump too many positive thoughts into an escort's head before I leave. I like the girls I see but only see them when I can. My intention is to counterbalance the jerks I assume also visit them.

[Dino Velvet]

Here's a wrong assumption the other way. I see a really nice Indonesian GG and was visiting her one day. We've had a number of meetings already. She made a big deal out of putting this CD on while we were together. We started getting it on and everything was just fine, the music not being a distraction. As things get more serious and dirty I start hearing the plucking of banjos then a bunch of fellas howling about drinking beer. Still inside of her and continuing, we start to have a discussion about her musical selections and assumptions about me. She was backpedaling and apologetic but such a pro she never missed a beat either. I really kidded her the next time I saw her about it.

[Remy757Photog]

I'm really tall so it irks me when a person walks up and asks "do you play for the Lady Monarchs" (basketball team)

[Dino Velvet]

I'm really tall so it irks me when a person walks up and asks "do you play for the Lady Monarchs" (basketball team)

Does he try to get you to palm the back his head then take it to the hole with a thunderous dunk that breaks his backboard?

[Remy757Photog]

Does he try to get you to palm the back his head then take it to the hole with a thunderous dunk that breaks his backboard?

Too funny! But no that has yet to happen thankfully

[BellaBellucci]

Spell 'girl' with a U and I'll cut you...

... out of my life! Come on! I'm not violent! <3

~BB~

[Jamie French]

"Sir".

[Dino Velvet]

"Sir".

I'm careful, when more than one, not to refer to them as "You guys". I say that all the time to GGs but try not to do it to TSs.

[BellaBellucci]

I'm careful, when more than one, not to refer to them as "You guys". I say that all the time to GGs but try not to do it to TSs.

To be honest, I kind of find that to be pandering. It makes me uncomfortable when people around me feel like they have to walk on eggshells or do anything different than they would around a born-female. It feels othering, even if it's an attempt at conveying acceptance - true acceptance need not be explicitly stated.

Just don't use 'tranny,' or 'shemale,' or spell girl with a U (or put it in quotes), and we're all good.

Oh... and some people do deserve to be called 'sir.' I find it interesting that some girls have a clearly unpassable voice and get upset about being called that on the phone. It's like, umm, REALLY?!

~BB~

[Dino Velvet]

To be honest, I kind of find that to be pandering.

~BB~

I'm sure I'm guilty of some of that. I've said things and rolled my eyes at myself.

[Rusty Eldora]

I too would like to know the better terms around TS ladies, it is like the dilemma around someone who is black.

When with someone who is black, should I call them African American or is black acceptable. I know a lot of terms that are not acceptable, but it seems there is no term that is acceptable.

With the TS escorts I have been with I have been pleasantly surprised how they are feminine in mind, spirit, as well as looks (well except for that great part). It seems like nearly all I have met have no desire for sex with a woman and would cringe at the thought. Much like a straight guy is with men.

Nearly all TS have endured the journey of transitioning, but when we meet should we not talk about it? Is it OK to ask when the started to transition?

Is Tgirl ok, or is Transexual ? I like Shemale but I hear that is bad, what is correct?

[BellaBellucci]

I too would like to know the better terms around TS ladies, it is like the dilemma around someone who is black.

When with someone who is black, should I call them African American or is black acceptable. I know a lot of terms that are not acceptable, but it seems there is no term that is acceptable.

With the TS escorts I have been with I have been pleasantly surprised how they are feminine in mind, spirit, as well as looks (well except for that great part). It seems like nearly all I have met have no desire for sex with a woman and would cringe at the thought. Much like a straight guy is with men.

Nearly all TS have endured the journey of transitioning, but when we meet should we not talk about it? Is it OK to ask when the started to transition?

Is Tgirl ok, or is Transexual ? I like Shemale but I hear that is bad, what is correct?

I've sort of found peace on the terminology thing myself. Unless you're talking about sex, I don't see a need to make a distinction between a trans woman and a genetic female. Terms that 'other' people should be avoided. If they must be used, I prefer trans woman.

As to the other words, these days I try to let people call themselves whatever they want, even though quite honestly it does make my life as a trans woman more difficult as it serves to confuse as opposed to educate people about gender and gender issues.

If you want to be a 'shemale,' then be a shemale, but don't get upset if I don't offer you the same respect for your gender that I do a TS who self-identifies using a less sensational term or a genetic female. In my opinion, if you label yourself a 'shemale' for any purpose other than porn or escorting (and even then I still encourage girls to avoid it as I do), you're inviting people to see you only as a cheap fetish and you deserve the public image you accordingly receive.

And yes, there are girls who are not involved in porn or escorting who use this term as a descriptor for themselves. It boggles the mind.

~BB~

[Jamie French]

You know what never gets you in trouble? Calling someone by their freakin' NAME. When I'm around fellow white people I never find it necessary to mention anyone's whiteness, same goes with black folks, same with trans, etc. Just call people by their names and if you find you have to second guess a topic, guess what? Keep your mouth shut. Before you know it you'll be making friends and having picnics.

[Dino Velvet]

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"Note to self: Earmark some time to practice getting better at remembering people's names."

[Protoman2050@gmail.com]

I've sort of found peace on the terminology thing myself. Unless you're talking about sex, I don't see a need to make a distinction between a trans woman and a genetic female. Terms that 'other' people should be avoided. If they must be used, I prefer trans woman.

As to the other words, these days I try to let people call themselves whatever they want, even though quite honestly it does make my life as a trans woman more difficult as it serves to confuse as opposed to educate people about gender and gender issues.

If you want to be a 'shemale,' then be a shemale, but don't get upset if I don't offer you the same respect for your gender that I do a TS who self-identifies using a less sensational term or a genetic female. In my opinion, if you label yourself a 'shemale' for any purpose other than porn or escorting (and even then I still encourage girls to avoid it as I do), you're inviting people to see you only as a cheap fetish and you deserve the public image you accordingly receive.

And yes, there are girls who are not involved in porn or escorting who use this term as a descriptor for themselves. It boggles the mind.

~BB~

I use shemale occasionally, but mostly I call myself a transgirl.

[MsDazzler]

"Are you going to chop it off?"

"SNIP, SNIP"

"Oh, my god, I didn't know you were trans! What is it like?"

"Can I suck you at least?"

[BellaBellucci]

I use shemale occasionally, but mostly I call myself a transgirl.

Apparently though, you also use 'man,' i.e. your username. :?

~BB~

[Jericho]

I'm broke! :hide-1:







































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[MrsKellyPierce]

Do you sit when you pee?

Can you still cum?

So like your married to a dude what does that make him? Gay or Straight?

[Dino Velvet]

Do you sit when you pee?

I have to admit the first time I took a T-Girl out to dinner I giraffe'd my neck around to see which bathroom she went into.

[MrsKellyPierce]

I have to admit the first time I took a T-Girl out to dinner I giraffe'd my neck around to see which bathroom she went into.
lmao Dino!

[Protoman2050@gmail.com]

Apparently though, you also use 'man,' i.e. your username. :?

~BB~

It's my username on every forum, and I joined this site before I realized I was TS. Besides, what's wrong with liking Protoman (Megaman NT Warrior version)?

[Prospero]

I used to have a real problem remembering names... and once forget the name of a girl I was on a date with. In desperation I started to call her darling. She was somewhat surprised at the quantum leap in my feelings.

[RallyCola]

I'm broke! :hide-1:


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[alyssaluxor]

I dont like this words from guys

"When you start to feel like a girl?" - like duh im a girl since i was a fetus lol

"When did you start to transition?" - i dont transition this is who i really am

"Did you had breast surgery? Did you had butt implants?" - like its non of your business to know what plastic/cosmetic surgery i had, can we remain it private

"How long is your dick?" - ohhh my so gay question!!! im not into gay guys pls i like straight men only *wink*

[my my my!]

Words better Not used around Transsexual Ladies:

"I'm unemployed"

This girl(transsexual)and I went out to a movie then to dinner and it seemed like we were really hitting it off. Talking about the usual things people talk about on a first date. (I payed for the movie)

Well, as it is with MOST women, the curiosity about a man's income/financial responsibility came up.

Her- "So, what do you do for a living?"
Me (not unemployed, just trying to see what reaction I would get)- "Well, I'm unemployed. But..." (before I could finish..)
Her- rolls eyes, uses napkin to wipe her lips, gets up out of the chair and walks out on me
me- seen enough, paid the bill and left as well

So, moral of the story. NEVER tell a transsexual woman you're unemployed, that's a dealbreaker for sure. They have probably dealt with alot of guys that don't have money, and they don't want to pay for the man as it is still considered in most situations that the man has to/should pay for the first date(s).

Did the same with a gg, and she actually let me finish and said
Her- "well hopefully you find something, I've been there and done that, it sucks being Unemployed" "If you want, i'll pay the bill"
Me- "No, it's ok I'm actually good at saving money and can live off savings for a while so I'm good"
Her- "Ah ok, how sweet"

I know it seems like playing games, and I was lying through my ass about being unemployed, god bless I had(have) a job during those dates. But I was just trying to get a feel about certain reactions. It says alot about a person.

Ladies and gents, don't give me that crap about the game playing and trivia. Almost everyone does it and women ask stupid little stuff just to see if you're the future husband or future friend zone guy forever.

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[altstu2]

I use shemale occasionally, but mostly I call myself a transgirl.

I have always believed this, Live like a girl, Look like a girl you are a girl. I hate to narrow it down to which bathroom you use...if you use the ladies room in public on a regular basis, it doesn't matter what sex of genitals you have, you are a girl.

[Dino Velvet]

I used to have a real problem remembering names... and once forget the name of a girl I was on a date with. In desperation I started to call her darling. She was somewhat surprised at the quantum leap in my feelings.

My problem is I get to know some girls enough I start mixing up their real name with their work name. This one I see often uses her sister's real name as her work name. Be kinda awkward to mix them up when I know better.

[Dino Velvet]

I dont like this words from guys

"When you start to feel like a girl?" - like duh im a girl since i was a fetus lol

"When did you start to transition?" - i dont transition this is who i really am

"Did you had breast surgery? Did you had butt implants?" - like its non of your business to know what plastic/cosmetic surgery i had, can we remain it private

"How long is your dick?" - ohhh my so gay question!!! im not into gay guys pls i like straight men only *wink*

I won't get in that kind of trouble with you. My thing would be, "Alyssa, I think you dropped something.":fuckin:

[Quiet Reflections]

I always hate when people say "IT" or "He" right before the make whatever statement they are about to say.

[loveboof]

if you use the ladies room in public on a regular basis, it doesn't matter what sex of genitals you have, you are a girl.

Or just a pervert... lol

[runround04]

What the fuck is wrong with people? Its really not that hard to be a decent human being. I dont know how you ladies dont stab some of the these guys with your dinner fork out of frustration.

[BellaBellucci]

What the fuck is wrong with people? Its really not that hard to be a decent human being. I dont know how you ladies dont stab some of the these guys with your dinner fork out of frustration.

Who says we haven't? :whistle:

~BB~

[runround04]

Who says we haven't? :whistle:

~BB~

High Five lol

[Dino Velvet]

I dont know how you ladies dont stab some of the these guys with your dinner fork out of frustration.

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[SXFX]

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[betts]

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[Bribi]

Some people are probably rude or say things they shouldn't, but a lot of you girls are also way too sensitive.
You interpret whatever the person say to turn it like an offense.

[nysprod]

I accidentally messed up really bad after taking a gal out to dinner. We went to a Barnes & Noble to look around. I waited in the DVD section while she looked at actual books. When she came over to check on me an innocent coincidence occurred. My stupid and overexcited self held up Blu-rays of Dog Day Afternoon and The Crying Game. I slowly lowered them after seeing the disappointed expression on her face. Still plead Not Guilty.

Weird thing happened to me recently...I was driving with a girl I'm very infatuated with (after another super-hot session)...she was pushing the buttons on my radio presets and hit on the one for the classic rock station here in NY and then it happened:

Steve Tyler was belting out "Dude Looks Like A Lady"

To say that I felt uncomfortable would be the understatement of the year...

[TSLexi]

Weird thing happened to me recently...I was driving with a girl I'm very infatuated with (after another super-hot session)...she was pushing the buttons on my radio presets and hit on the one for the classic rock station here in NY and then it happened:

Steve Tyler was belting out "Dude Looks Like A Lady"

To say that I felt uncomfortable would be the understatement of the year...

I love that song! It was so funny when me and my friend was walking in a supermarket and it came on the PA. We just turned to each other and had a giggle fit.

[nysprod]

I love that song! It was so funny when me and my friend was walking in a supermarket and it came on the PA. We just turned to each other and had a giggle fit.

You just gotta laugh when shit like that happens...

[amberskyi]

Putting girl in parenthesis...i hate that shit

[Rusty Eldora]

Who says we haven't? :whistle:

~BB~

They probably deserved it too.

[Rusty Eldora]

I'm careful, when more than one, not to refer to them as "You guys". I say that all the time to GGs but try not to do it to TSs.

Its time to be southern and dust off that "You all" with the southern drawl.

[Quiet Reflections]

Putting girl in parenthesis...i hate that shit
I hate that too but I also cant stand the gurl spelling of the word girl. Terms like ass-pussy are pretty cringe worthy as well.

[amberskyi]

I hate that too but I also cant stand the gurl spelling of the word girl. Terms like ass-pussy are pretty cringe worthy as well.

Agreed..im also not a fan of words like shenis, pussy stick,etc.it's like don't be in denial i have a dick and asshole lol

[Tits McButts]

Agreed..im also not a fan of words like shenis, pussy stick,etc.it's like don't be in denial i have a dick and asshole lol

That's so relative, though. There are so many chicks out there that prefer all the little pet words and nicknames. I usually just stick to using proper pronouns and avoid terms that infer she's anything but a woman until I start hearing that vocabulary come out of her mouth. Even then, what's there to talk about? Like, how often do trans-issues really need to come up in conversation anyway? I'd assume most transsexuals or transgendered women don't want to deal with guys that can't drop the topic.

[Bigshot88]

Agreed..im also not a fan of words like shenis, pussy stick,etc.it's like don't be in denial i have a dick and asshole lol

I must admit i roll my eyes at terms like this too. it annoys me to see terms like boyclit, pussy stick, asspussy, etc. What would they call their balls, clitty ornaments? it's a dick. A fat, veiny, baby batter shooting dick with a set of wrinkly, bouncing balls.

[Michelle.]

It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl. It's spelled girl, not gurl.

I learned something today. Personally I find the word "tranny" to be offensive. She-male gets an " ugh" out of me. As far as twenty questions goes, it's all in the context people.

[PEPE3Z]

I see trans girls as girls, just girls, so I treat them like any other girl in this world.

[Foggy]

Not to come off as insensitive, but these terms are pretty mild compared to the words the ladies use to describe the men that are attracted to them.

Fag, homo, trick, john, chaser.

Derisive words. Hard to make me believe that the word "gurl" falls in the same category.

[TSLexi]

Not to come off as insensitive, but these terms are pretty mild compared to the words the ladies use to describe the men that are attracted to them.

Fag, homo, trick, john, chaser.

Derisive words. Hard to make me believe that the word "gurl" falls in the same category.

When I say trick, I mean trick. If a guy's attracted to me, they're just another guy.

[bluesoul]

words like shenis

k- that made me laugh pretty hard. not sure i ever heard that before

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[amberskyi]

Not to come off as insensitive, but these terms are pretty mild compared to the words the ladies use to describe the men that are attracted to them.

Fag, homo, trick, john, chaser.

Derisive words. Hard to make me believe that the word "gurl" falls in the same category.

I never use those terms because it's insulting to me indirectly.
Gurl is mildly demeaning because it implies we're not really girls but something else

[Dino Velvet]

Agreed..im also not a fan of words like shenis, pussy stick,etc.it's like don't be in denial i have a dick and asshole lol

I always refer to a transsexual lady's anus as "sweet pussy" in person.

[Tits McButts]

I never use those terms because it's insulting to me indirectly.
Gurl is mildly demeaning because it implies we're not really girls but something else

What if it's used like slang?
"Gurl, why you ackin' so cray-cray?"
"Guuuurl, you make my caterpie go metapod"

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