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I've been in a relationship with a TG woman for over a year now (my first TG relationship) and we seem to always fight about something...everything is about her. We started an online business together and she doesn't seem very dedicated to it (up at 10am and goes to sleep at 2am). And it seems as soon as I leave the house she starts watching porn and masterbating and then starts checking out "Hot guy's" online or commenting on explicit content on facebook. And she's 32! Never had this issue with GG and wondering if it's her or are all of them like that?
LibertyHarkness
01-09-2013, 04:54 PM
no we are all like that just filthy wankers . :)
RallyCola
01-09-2013, 04:54 PM
IMHO, tgirls have all the emotional baggage and difficulties associated with a relationship with a ggirl and all the complexity of the transition process therefore, it makes it something you have to work a bit harder at to make it work.
Now, what you mention, (1) always fighting, (2) everything being about her, (3) lack of interest in you joint venture, (4) watching porn and looking into other men...these are NOT behaviors specific to tgirls so what I would say is that regardless of her status, she is just not that into you. It would appear that you have valid complaints about her and you should examine whether or not she is the right lady for you, as it may be that you are not the right man for her.
I would suggest that you not lump these issues on to her transitioning status at all. Your GF is acting no different than a girl (t or g) who is bored with you.
Kevin Dong
01-09-2013, 05:20 PM
IMHO, tgirls have all the emotional baggage and difficulties associated with a relationship with a ggirl and all the complexity of the transition process therefore, it makes it something you have to work a bit harder at to make it work.
Now, what you mention, (1) always fighting, (2) everything being about her, (3) lack of interest in you joint venture, (4) watching porn and looking into other men...these are NOT behaviors specific to tgirls so what I would say is that regardless of her status, she is just not that into you. It would appear that you have valid complaints about her and you should examine whether or not she is the right lady for you, as it may be that you are not the right man for her.
I would suggest that you not lump these issues on to her transitioning status at all. Your GF is acting no different than a girl (t or g) who is bored with you.
I agree with RallyCola. Time to get a new GF bud.
I was hoping for better insight besides "She's just not into you". She seems very connected to me when we're together but the behavior is questionable only when I'm not around. It just strikes me as childish behavior you would see from a college kid out on his own for the first time and not from a 30 something adult. I have never seen this in type of behavior in a GG. Guess I'm getting a little concerned that it's more a TG issue and oppose to just her.
tao1kiku
01-09-2013, 05:34 PM
Exactly, childish behavior. I've been in a relationship and now engaged to a Tgirl, only 3 fights in 2 years. She is stable, focused, has a career and dedicated to the relationship
Thanks TAO...just what I was looking for. There are good stable TG's out there.
amberskyi
01-09-2013, 05:39 PM
I was hoping for better insight besides "She's just not into you". She seems very connected to me when we're together but the behavior is questionable only when I'm not around. It just strikes me as childish behavior you would see from a college kid out on his own for the first time and not from a 30 something adult. I have never seen this in type of behavior in a GG. Guess I'm getting a little concerned that it's more a TG issue and oppose to just her.
kinda sounds like your pushing for this to be some ts defect instead of having to admit to certain issues in your relationship
No, it's my first TG relationship and I'm not sure if these issues are related to her or her gender. I'm asking because if this is a TG issue I don't want anything more to do with them after this relationship.
Kevin Dong
01-09-2013, 05:50 PM
No, it's my first TG relationship and I'm not sure if these issues are related to her or her gender. I'm asking because if this is a TG issue I don't want anything more to do with them after this relationship.
sounds like a "you" issue
amberskyi
01-09-2013, 05:51 PM
well people are answering based on their varied experience.so accept their feed back or stay convinced that we all act like that (i do masturbate allot but i think its cause im single lol)
LibertyHarkness
01-09-2013, 05:53 PM
just sounds like she is bored at heart ... maybe your both just in a rut ....and neither has the balls to end it ... so you carry on flogging a dead horse basically ...
Its not a TG issue ,, TG women are like natal women and like men , all have own personal characteristics that are not generic to a type of person ...
Myself i am not overly funny or humorous in person, i am much more darker and sharp and blunt.. my friend on other hand is like a fluffy bunny rabbit all cuddle and googoo gaga in her life ...
Some relationships workout some dont .. main thing is life is for learning and if things dont work out move on .. but take a positive from it .
Kevin, why do you say it sounds like a "Me" issue?
LibertyHarkness
01-09-2013, 05:54 PM
haha amber i wank alot too .. and so does my partner . she phones me up at night in bed to tell me she is wanking her pussy haha ..
MrsKellyPierce
01-09-2013, 05:57 PM
Umm sounds like you got a hood rat
I only masturbate for cam purposes lol
I masterbated a lot too when I was single. Having someone to take care of you sexually is the key to not masterbating. If you're still masterbating alot and your in a relationship it telle me you would rather masterbate then love your partner.
rodinuk
01-09-2013, 05:59 PM
So she's 32 - how old are you?
Sounds like you need to talk to each other ... perhaps away from the normal surroundings you're both in, for starters on neutral ground
A bit of space might help first?
MrsKellyPierce
01-09-2013, 06:00 PM
What's a hood rat?
Someone who is lazy and has no drive.
jamiethewild
01-09-2013, 06:04 PM
I've been in a relationship with a TG woman for over a year now (my first TG relationship) and we seem to always fight about something...everything is about her. We started an online business together and she doesn't seem very dedicated to it (up at 10am and goes to sleep at 2am). And it seems as soon as I leave the house she starts watching porn and masterbating and then starts checking out "Hot guy's" online or commenting on explicit content on facebook. And she's 32! Never had this issue with GG and wondering if it's her or are all of them like that?
I personally think your having a hard time accepting what "RallyColla" said to you and want to hear yes all TS are like that ... She's just bored with you and not interested in you anymore, thats the truth your having a hard time with. I know some of my girlfriends in serious relationships and their fine. Your just trying generalize us....
Just for the record most US t-girls are into escorting....am just giving you reality and getting you into the program buddy... so be thankful you got one TS to be in a serious relationship you :wiggle:
Kevin Dong
01-09-2013, 06:06 PM
Kevin, why do you say it sounds like a "Me" issue?
Because you're the one who needs his eyes opened. You said there's a business you started together and she's up at 10am and bed at 2? I'm a porn producer and I don't get up that late. You also said she's on Facebook as soon as you're out of the house. She's also checking out "hot guys" online. What is there to explain? She clearly doesn't see a problem with doing that. It's not her issue, it's your issue that you don't understand what's going on there.
MrsKellyPierce
01-09-2013, 06:21 PM
It sounds to me you are looking for someone with a different mindset and lifestyle.
Maybe you should find another girl :)
I've been in a relationship with a TG woman for over a year now (my first TG relationship) and we seem to always fight about something...everything is about her. We started an online business together and she doesn't seem very dedicated to it (up at 10am and goes to sleep at 2am). And it seems as soon as I leave the house she starts watching porn and masterbating and then starts checking out "Hot guy's" online or commenting on explicit content on facebook. And she's 32! Never had this issue with GG and wondering if it's her or are all of them like that?
It doesn't matter whether it's a gg or ts, you can't change anyone. If they aren't who you like it's time to move on.
Castor_Troy05
01-09-2013, 11:11 PM
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ed_jaxon
01-09-2013, 11:24 PM
A couple of brief questions.
Was she like this when you first met?
Did something happen that caused her to slip into this behavior pattern such as job loss or another life change?
If it was there in the beginning was it something you slowly came to notice but now realize it was there all along?
Can you accept her never changing and be happy with the relationship?
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