Eh, lost the spark

[SXFX]

As of about 9 months back or so I more or less just gave up on dating for a variety of reasons. And for the most part have a three or four lady friends with benefits. Girls get stressed, their BF's are dicks, or dating is going bad or they just want to chill and hang out...i'm the friend and well there are benefits. Strange i know but such is life i guess.

But i've noticed that since I gave upon dating and moved to the FWB situation well...yeah sure the sex is there...and it's good and I orgasm and all but....after there is no real emotional attachment. And before yeah there is excitement and anticipation but.....

I don't know I feel a bit numb.....

Have you ever not only lost your human attachment to sex?

[jaxqt28]

NSA fun is where it's at. I don't really date GG's or otherwise. I've found swinging to be a great alternative to dating. You get to have sex with beautiful women without the emotional attachment :banana: It's win win. Sounds like FWB/NSA isn't your cup of tea. To each his/her own...

[amberskyi]

Dude, you answered your own question.your lack of emotional attachment to your partners makes sex superficial.
Out of curiosity why did you give up on relationships/love?

[SXFX]

Yeah.
Why did i give up on dating?
Simple, it's fun to flirt with women but....after that first bit of fun...i was done.
Also i'm in NNJ, and well what i want to date isn't here. Most of the women here tend to be a bit too thick and too obnoxious, it's snookyville. So i just said fuck it

[amberskyi]

Yeah.
Why did i give up on dating?
Simple, it's fun to flirt with women but....after that first bit of fun...i was done.
Also i'm in NNJ, and well what i want to date isn't here. Most of the women here tend to be a bit too thick and too obnoxious, it's snookyville. So i just said fuck it

lmaooooo @ snookiville.
maybe instead of giving up on dating you just wait for someone whos worth investing your time in.
as a ts girl it would be so easy to just to be jaded towards dating but i just try to me a bit more careful about who i invest in and no longer settle.
as far as the horny shit while you wait? theres always porn and your hand. xtube and lotion have become a must in my life lol

[Yeah]

I've been in a situation of not dating too. Just got tried of not finding anyone that like me for who I am. Unfortunately I don't have any friends with benefits, but thats the way the ball bounces. You get use to it.

[Rabbiteyes]

Ehh, I could never do FWB...

I know I want more than just to get off. Really, that is easy to do on my own.

I don't want another person in order to have a fancy sex toy... I want another person because I want some type of human connection.

Being used for your body isn't much fun. It is just emotionally draining and kills your heart and how to look at other people ~_~

I never want to end up a jaded person whos heart has calloused over so much I don't feel anything when taking advantage of a persons loneliness and desperation for some connection that they are willing to give me their body for a night.

[SXFX]

Its funny women may have a plethora of sex toys but they all say the same thing.
"Nothing is better than a dick."
well maybe my dick? i don't know.
and we do make a thing of it.
she comes over, we have dinner or watch some movies or have a few drinks and start off and then the next morning my friend is off. And when i see her later on in the week it's perfectly normal. Even when they are over my house and I'm giving them one on one yoga classes?

and yeah it's fun and well who doesn't want to have sex but right after the orgasm i have to force my self to cuddle and feel bad when they walk away....

Sadly and shame i don't have any TS friends, that would just be too good right?

[lifeisfiction]

lmaooooo @ snookiville.
maybe instead of giving up on dating you just wait for someone whos worth investing your time in.
as a ts girl it would be so easy to just to be jaded towards dating but i just try to me a bit more careful about who i invest in and no longer settle.
as far as the horny shit while you wait? theres always porn and your hand. xtube and lotion have become a must in my life lol

Just curious, what genre of porn do you watch?

[amberskyi]

Just curious, what genre of porn do you watch?

gay porn and big booty bitches lol

[loveboof]

theres always porn and your hand. xtube and lotion have become a must in my life lol

I thought you had a nice boyfriend on the go? I am shocked at your flagrant use of tube sites tho! Shocked lol! Someone could be along threatening bans in a minute... ;)

[Wendy Summers]

I thought you had a nice boyfriend on the go?


It think its safe to say he went :p.

[eccentricBlue]

Yeah.
Why did i give up on dating?
Also i'm in NNJ, and well what i want to date isn't here. Most of the women here tend to be a bit too thick and too obnoxious, it's snookyville. So i just said fuck it

LOL, you should probably go out more often. NNJ is one of the most densely populated areas in the nation. If you can't find what you like then your not looking hard enough.

My guess is you probably set your standards too high and your FWBs aren't much to write home about. But hey, to each his own.

[rockabilly]

lmaooooo @ snookiville.
maybe instead of giving up on dating you just wait for someone whos worth investing your time in.
as a ts girl it would be so easy to just to be jaded towards dating but i just try to me a bit more careful about who i invest in and no longer settle.
as far as the horny shit while you wait? theres always porn and your hand. xtube and lotion have become a must in my life lol

What lotion?
Do you use Jergens for your jerkin

[amberskyi]

I thought you had a nice boyfriend on the go? I am shocked at your flagrant use of tube sites tho! Shocked lol! Someone could be along threatening bans in a minute... ;)

xtube is mostly amateur vids,not so much pirated content.

[amberskyi]

It think its safe to say he went :p.

lots of late night crying still but im so looking to the cali trip to take my mind off of things

[loveboof]

xtube is mostly amateur vids,not so much pirated content.
Yeah, was only joking...

lots of late night crying still but im so looking to the cali trip to take my mind off of things
Well the whole of Singledom is happy to have you back amongst us! :)

[SXFX]

It think its safe to say he went :p.
Wendy has bumped into me once on the town.
I think she can vouch for me not being a creeper or a fatty.
A little crazy and maybe a little emotionally damaged...sure....fugly...no?
Right?

[amberskyi]

Wendy has bumped into me once on the town.
I think she can vouch for me not being a creeper or a fatty.
A little crazy and maybe a little emotionally damaged...sure....fugly...no?
Right?

nothing says attractive like emotional damage lol....dont worry dude im right here with you