Bad client experience...

[PrincessaGianna]

Sorry for bugging you guys but i have to vent.

I had a client call tonight I had spoken with before who always seemed like a good positive guy, with good intentions, and with a generous attitude. He requested that I come to see him so I called and ordered my usual sedan service driver to come and pick me up at around 11:45. I got a call from him requesting I be there early at around 11:30 even though I told him I couldn't make it until later.

After we decided to meet and go out on a date the next day, we hung up and I tried cancelling my car but it was too late. The driver was already half way... And I had to pay the fee. I called him and asked him if he would cover it the next day if I paid it, and he agreed very nicely, saying it would be no trouble at all.

Well the driver took me to an ATM and I realized I had just changed my code on the card and it would take a certain amount of time (24 hours) to be in effect, well that amount had not yet passed.

I called him back and he requested we charge it on his card, but they could not take cards at that time of night. I asked him if I could come by and he said sure... But then hung up on my driver while she was discussing options.

I tried calling his room, through the hotel and was told he requested not to be disturbed.

Having no cash on me I had no idea what to do... So I went to the room he told me he was staying in and it did not exist. The driver was angry and threatening to call the police for not paying so I had a panic attack, because I did not want to go to jail, I couldn't think of anything more frightening than that happening, especially since I am legally male.

The driver ended up having some compassion when I told her that I was 19 and that I was an escort, and the whole story with him. Luckily for me she was a femminist.

She took me home and said I could pay tommorow when the bank is open.
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I just don't know why people have to be like this and why men cannot own up to their actions. He knew very well that it was his reposibilty, he said so himself and appologized and assured me it would be ok.

I guess I am just a naive 19 year old girl (hahaha cop out!. I know better than this!

But, Isn't there a website to report bad clients? I suppose if he would do this after giving his word, then who knows what else he might be capable of. I just hope no one has to deal with this head ache.

[Cat]

He might have thought you were pulling a fast one... but the room that didn't exist is a little odd. That's no excuse, though... And I can imagine how frightening that would have been.

I've never been with an escort, but from what I've seen, your rates are very good. Too bad I don't live in Florida. :x

[PrincessaGianna]

NO SHADE MENT BUT YOU NEED TO FACE REALITY, YOUR ENTERING A WORLD WHERE THATS VERY VERY COMMON....THATS NOTHING, SHIT A LOT OF GIRLS WOULD READ WHAT YOU JUST WROTE AND SAY " YEAH SO WHATS THE BIG DEAL, I GET THAT KINDA SHIT ALL THE TIME " ....LISTEN UP, IF YOU CANT DEAL WITH GETTING LOCKED UP THEN TEARS AINT GONNA HELP YA, NEITHER WILL SELF INDUCED PANIC ATTACKS...MOST ESCORTS HAVE AT LEAST BEEN LOCKED UP ONCE IN THEIR ESCORT LIFESTYLE , ITS COMMON IN THIS LIFE STYLE.....ESCORTING IS NOT LEGAL AND ITS NOT A JOKE , GIRLS HAVE BEEN KILLED BY THIER DATES ......GIANNA, YOU SEEM LIKE A NICE GIRL BUT I DONT THINK YOUR CUT OUT FOR THAT ECORTING TYPE OF LIFESTYLE.....YOUR SOFT AND TOO EASY GOING, ITS NOT YOU.....IF YOU DO ESCORT THEN GET READY TO GO THROUGH A LOT OF SHIT CAUSE THATS PART OF THE DRAMA ESCORTS DEAL WITH...YOU VCANT BE A PRIMA DONNA OR CRY OVER LITTLE EPISODES, YOULL GET EATEN ALIVE BY THE LIFESTYLE........KEEP IN MIND, MOST GIRLS ESCORT CAUSE THEY WERE ON THIER OWN AT A VERY YOUNG AGE AND THEY CANT REALLY DO MUCH MORE...FACT: YOU DONT GET MONEY FOR NOTHING......THE ESCORT GAME IS NOT GARUNTEED THAT YOU WILL MAKE TONS OF MONEY , OTHER GIRLS MAKE IT SOUND EASIER THEN IT IS.......ITS ILLEGAL AND YOUR GOING TO MEET SHADY PEOPLE ALONG THE WAY, A LOT OF SHADY PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY OTHER GIRLS,SO DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM, THEY ARE ALL LIARS AND ALWAYS REMEBER THAT MISERY LOVES COMPANY....MY ADVICE TO YOU IS, GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER , DONT LOOK FOR FAST CASH...WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU TONIGHT IS NOTHING, ITS COMMON, GET USED TO IT OR FIND A REAL JOB.....I DONT MEAN TO SOUND HARDLINE...BUT I PERSONALLY KNOW A FEW GIRLS WHO WERE EITHER BEEN KILLED BY A DTRICK OR DIED PARTYING WITH A TRICK.....ILL SAY THIS AGAIN, YOU SEEM LIKE A SMART GIRL, I THINK I READ IN A POST THAT YOU SAID THAT YOUR FAMILY ACCEPTS YOU AND YOUR NOT A DRUG ADDICT / ALCOHOLIC....IF THATS THE CASE THEN YOUR WAY AHEAD OF MOST OF THE OTHER GIRLS.....BE A ROLE MODEL FOR THE REST OF THE NEW GIRLS....GET IT TOGETHER....MY GIRL IS A TS AND SHE WORKS AS A VP OF A MAJOR COMPANY AND NO ONE KNOWS HER PERSONAL BUSINESS...SHE HAS NEVER SOLD HER SOUL ( ESCORTED OR POSED NUDE ) , SO STOP LOOKING FOR THE EASY WAY OUT, I CAN TELL YOUR NOT CUT OUT FOR THIS........ONE MORE TIME, I MEAN NO HARM, IM JUST TRYING TO GIVE IT TO YOU STRAIGHT, I WISH YOU NOTHING BUT THE BEST IN LIFE, BUT I THINK YOU BETTER THINK THINGS OVER.........SORRY IF I HAVE OFFENED YOU, IM ON YOUR SIDE......PEACE & LOVE TO YOU...

Hi there,
Thanks for all of our advice on this situation...

But what you don't know is that I very well know of the harsh realities of escorting and life. And I wish to keep that personal. In the paragraph, where I wrote that "I am naive" is because I know better fron what I have gone through to allow what occured to ensue.

I take no offense from your post and think highly of someone who is concerned and takes their time to share it... However I don't agree with everything you said, as your words were poorly chosen to address me, someone you have not met before.

I don't think it's fair, however, for you to tell me to get it together so I can set an example for the new girls. They will have their own harsh cards they are dealt, and furthermore I am doing what I can to survive on my own at 19. If I could get a "real job" I would have already.

I consider myself very blessed with what I have, and what I have worked hard to acheive. I also consider life to be an unfair game, that me crying and being upset about will do nothing to change the rules.

I just had to vent my anger, that's all ;-)

[DeathFox]

Maybe its a sign for you to settle down, quit escorting, find a loving man and get married

[dajuicy]

i love it when the MEGA winds come roaring in.....put your cap on, and zip up your coat, cause the words can sting!....yep, the bad tricks, the tricks that get tricked....the chuck, the jive....the bullshit stories, the scramble to make the hotel room...the turned off phone..."yea, ill be right back with the condom"..."cant you make it to $220.....if we go to a room ill suck your dick real good..."once you are in the game..whether escort or john/trick/...its the game....lets face it....you payin for sex, you paying for sex and all that goes with it....regular rules of give and take, respect, responsibility, friendship....just go by the boards....even sometimes johns want to get friendly with aN escort, the tgirl always knows the score, its about the green.....its always about the green, even when they playing the "we friends daddy" game...there are some escorts who have figured out, that actually being straight up and giving good "service" translates into repeat customers....and theRE are some girls who tempermentally can deal with the whole scene, and who are by and large good and good at heart...but the money tangle corrupts, and eats at decent people....like a fucking cancer.....and self hate creeps in like a 5 oclock shadow, and pretty soon decent people are doing undecent things....ha....just flashed on this t girl who i got "friendly" with....always talking about this was her lasst month bla bla.....id go to her crib with my "donation"..hahahah, and she would take it and throw it into this enormous fishbowl with other donations.....man, there was a lot of dough in there....now how can anybody, with limited options turn down that current of money that flows from fools like me.....:"alright you little bitch, now open wide".......peace.....

[GroobySteven]

ITS ILLEGAL AND YOUR GOING TO MEET SHADY PEOPLE ALONG THE WAY, A LOT OF SHADY PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY OTHER GIRLS,SO DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM, THEY ARE ALL LIARS AND ALWAYS REMEBER THAT MISERY LOVES COMPANY....Parts of this post were very insightful, but this part is just fucked up. Sorry, Mega.

Frankly, it's one of the most pertinent posts Mega has made. I'd replace "THEY ARE ALL LIARS" with "THEY'RE ALMOST ALL LIARS" but other than that, it's spot on.
seanchai

[BeardedOne]

Sorry to hear of your misfortune, Princessa, but as Mega said, it could have been worse than the annoyance it was.

I'm afraid I'm not much for advice on the client himself, the gurls would be better at that (But it sounds like you're OK there), but I might have an insight into your ride.

You said that you use this car service regularly and like the service, yes? Talk to them about setting up an account or keeping a card on file for billing, that way you'll never be stuck without transport. It's odd that they couldn't take your card after hours, that's just bad business on their part. It also sounds like things went OK after you worked things out with the driver. If you got along well enough, consider requesting that driver whenever you call. Speaking as both driver and client I know how the drivers thrive on regular clientele and how I appreciate having someone at the wheel that has an idea of what I'm about and where I'm going.

What are sedan rates nowadaze? I am so out of the loop. When I started my first service the rate for a standard limousine was only $10 an hour (And the chaufeur got half of that). :shock: The salary hasn't changed much since then, so the drivers depend on a percentage of the car rate in gratuities.

[PrincessaGianna]

I think most people who have decided to give their opinion on my situation have been off base with my situation. I take a handful of clients, ar well off and we go on nice dinner dates... If there is chemistry I might get initimate, but not always and they know that before hand. They know I am a true escort and sex is not being offered always. They also pay a higher rate than the girls around here. I usually make 1g to go out on a dinner date and spend the night entertaining, and hanging out with them. With the age group I go out with, usually in order for them to have chemisty it requires medication. I find the clients who just want to have a nice time with a nice girl.

Go ahead and judge further and make suggestions if you must.

[flabbybody]

let me understand this:
they pay you 1g to have dinner and sex is not always a guarantee? I would say they need very strong medication.

[Ecstatic]

Gianna, you're quite right, that is the true meaning of escort. These days, escort has become a more polite synonym for prostitute.

[Dole]

Thats crazy :x

[Dole]

gowsh I'm all stressed out today :x traffic was fawked up

[GroobySteven]

ITS ILLEGAL AND YOUR GOING TO MEET SHADY PEOPLE ALONG THE WAY, A LOT OF SHADY PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY OTHER GIRLS,SO DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM, THEY ARE ALL LIARS AND ALWAYS REMEBER THAT MISERY LOVES COMPANY....Parts of this post were very insightful, but this part is just fucked up. Sorry, Mega.

Frankly, it's one of the most pertinent posts Mega has made. I'd replace "THEY ARE ALL LIARS" with "THEY'RE ALMOST ALL LIARS" but other than that, it's spot on.
seanchaiAgreed. There's alot of truth to what he says. And, yes, many TS's are back-stabbing bitches - escort or not - but certainly not all. Regardless, TS's need a little more solidarity imho, and that statement dosen't help us.


I wouldn't say the problem was as unique to TS's and it is to those who are TS's and prostitute. I agree some solidarity would be helpful but highly unlikely it would ever work ... everyone would want to be centre of attention all of the time ;-)
seanchai

[Vicki Richter]

THE ESCORT GAME IS NOT GARUNTEED THAT YOU WILL MAKE TONS OF MONEY , OTHER GIRLS MAKE IT SOUND EASIER THEN IT IS.......ITS ILLEGAL AND YOUR GOING TO MEET SHADY PEOPLE ALONG THE WAY, A LOT OF SHADY PEOPLE, ESPECIALLY OTHER GIRLS,SO DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM, THEY ARE ALL LIARS AND ALWAYS REMEBER THAT MISERY LOVES COMPANY.......

Mega... you are always right... TS's are their own worst enemy. The fact that I think like you do is why I'll never fit in with the TS girls. They (generalizing) tend to like girls who will bow down to them and that they can manipulate. That is why you see girls working in low budget movies for $500-$800 when the going rate is really much higher. I feel like there is this soul consuming thing that happens when you stay too close to the lifestyle aspects of shemale adult. Girls start out young and naive like Gianna, and 10 years later, when sex has lost any form of intimacy (and maybe fun) and they are still escorting, they start getting hard and bitter complaining about men not wanting them for relationships. Men don't want a whore for a wife. The ones who say otherwise are some form of lifestylers who accept it because they recognize it as a necessary evil in the business.

The truth is that when TS aren't escorts, and not in the adult industry in general they tend to live happier, more fulfilling lives. They tend to find men, get married, and face normal married challenges. Sex remains fun. Sex remains intimate, not just some soul draining activity that you do because you have to put food on the table. When I say this, I am talking about the non-porn TS majority, like Greg's girlfriend, not the shemale minority. I can also extend this to the porn GG girls. I have quite a bit of insider info into this space due to my friendships within the industry on the director side, and the performer side. Relationships seldom succeed. Many of the girls take drugs before scenes to dull them to what they are doing.

It isn't glamorous. It's work and if you don't save your money, and work towards making yourself better, you won't find hapiness. I wish more girls would see that their worth is more than sex objects. I mean escorting is great for quickly making money to transition, but anyone here who says it's a great career is being a bit deceptive.

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[ARMANIXXX]

Tag for read tommorrow.

[voy4her]

words of wisdom from the richter.

[doasuwill]

Incall only Princess, this will never happen again.

[yx]

Incall only Princess, this will never happen again.

Dude, this thread is over two years old. It's a little late for giving advice :wink:

(the poster before you bumped it for some reason...)

[TS DANIELLE FOXXX]

NO OUT CALLS - PERIOD!

[TsVanessa69]

95% of clients who call are on BS. Outcalls are never accepted by me until I verify with the front desk of the hotel, thats smart business. verify the clients last name and room number, hang up, call the front desk and call the room the alleged client says he is in. That way you avoid paying a driver for a non-exsisting client who is and asshole fucking with you on the phone. If you would have been more careful in your screening process, you would have avoided the whole mess. The driver is not at fault, he or she provided the service she or he was contracted to perform, and should be paid.