My Son Is Dating A Young TS Woman

[nysprod]

They're both 20 and go to college here in NYC, which is where they met.

What happened was that he told me he was dating someone that he wanted me to meet, which was a bit unusual because he doesn't introduce me to every girl he dates. So I offered to take them to dinner and that's how I met her.

Turns out she's been very open with her family and they've apparently been very accepting. She's had hormone therapy and she has breasts also. She's also stunningly attractive, I have to say.

In the course of our conversation, she made it understood that she would much prefer to date someone whose family was as accepting as hers, which I guess is one reason why he wanted us to get together. I expressed that it wasn't a problem for me and even though his mother and I are divorced, I would guess she wouldn't object on the face of it. For both of us it would be about what type of person she is.

What I'm most happy about is that we've always had a very close relationship and I'm glad he had the confidence to tell me.

This all just happened like 2 days ago and I haven't had the chance to speak with him further about it. I don't know if he's told any of his friends or really anything else.

It all seems very typical though; he asked to borrow my car to take her out and for a donation of $50...

[nysprod]

He can count himself lucky.

We'll see...the world can be a cold cruel place sometimes...

[GroobySteven]

Nah - not feeling this.

You join this forum a month ago and post over 200 posts in that time.

And now your "son" announces he's dating a TS.
Calling a big BULLSHIT on this.
Do you think this will get you points with the girls on being "cool Dad" or is it something more trivial?

[nysprod]

Well, I'm not gonna start posting real names and pics...if you think I've posted too much, hey, it's your forum...and if you think its not true, delete it, I guess...

[GroobySteven]

Well, I'm not gonna start posting real names and pics...if you think I've posted too much, hey, it's your forum...and if you think its not true, delete it, I guess...

Better to let you make more of a clown out of yourself.

[nysprod]

Why the hostility?

[ew86riv]

im envisioning your son bringing her to meet you, and you realizing she's some girl you met off backpage for $100. that would be pretty awkward right there.

[GroobySteven]

Why the hostility?


No hostility - just seen it all before and you know it's as big bullshit as I do.

[nysprod]

Referring to someone as a clown indicates hostility...do you have anything constructive to offer on this topic?

[be2378]

Lucky, trying to find one myself.

[nysprod]

im envisioning your son bringing her to meet you, and you realizing she's some girl you met off backpage for $100. that would be pretty awkward right there.

Lol...I've been scouring BP...haven't seen her there but then again, most of the pics (at least the good looking ones) are fake anyway...I did ask if there were any more at home just like her...kidding...

[amberskyi]

Lol...I've been scouring BP...haven't seen her there but then again, most of the pics (at least the good looking ones) are fake anyway!

out of curiosity if she was an escort what would you do?

[nysprod]

out of curiosity if she was an escort what would you do?

If she was escorting I'd try to find out if she was being victimized in any way...

[amberskyi]

If she was escorting I'd try to find out if she was being victimized in any way...

im not sure if your story is real or not but if it is i applaud you in being so supportive of your son.
i dont suggest you ask her if shes escorting because thats a bit rude and kinda stereotypical to assume so.if she is however it will eventually come out,it always does.in the case that she is an escort i know your gut reaction is to protect your son (and thats the right reaction) but also try to be understanding to her as well and take the time to know her story and where her head is at.
since shes a student at NYU id bet that its in the right place.

[nysprod]

Lol...actually, I ask every decent woman I meet if she's escorting...

[christianxxx]

i agree with Seanchi 100 percent. this dude is a huge troll, but i like it. very funny stuff. you have a future in creative writing as a fiction writer. lol

[nysprod]

i agree with Seanchi 100 percent. this dude is a huge troll, but i like it. very funny stuff. you have a future in creative writing as a fiction writer. lol

What do you do at the mall?

[broncofan]

It's obviously not impossible that a father and son could share the same interest, but it is implausible that out of nowhere your son brings home a tgirl one month after you join a transsexual site expressing same interest.

Your response to Seanchai also sounded inauthentic. If this were true I doubt your first response when challenged would be to say delete the post if you think it's false. Not that you had to sound outraged in order to sell this story, but a little bit of detail to defend this coincidence would have been the usual course.

You might be telling the truth, but you certainly don't sound like it.

[nysprod]

It's obviously not impossible that a father and son could share the same interest, but it is implausible that out of nowhere your son brings home a tgirl one month after you join a transsexual site expressing same interest.

Your response to Seanchai also sounded inauthentic. If this were true I doubt your first response when challenged would be to say delete the post if you think it's false. Not that you had to sound outraged in order to sell this story, but a little bit of detail to defend this coincidence would have been the usual course.

You might be telling the truth, but you certainly don't sound like it.

I may have joined the site a month ago, but I've been into TSGirls for quite some time...didn't know the site even existed...as for the number of posts I've made, I like the site so I figured it would be fun to communicate a bit...FYI, I don't discuss what I do with my son...

[nysprod]

Actually, I've decided I will tell the truth...it isn't my son, it's the son of a close friend of mine...he's actually freaking out big time...so he's been talking to me about it although he has no idea what I do...so I guess the whole thing is somewhat ironic...I'm kind of torn between telling him to relax about it or acting just as freaked out as he is...it's a weird situation for me...

[Jericho]

Is the Sportswoman's Double on the cards?

[broncofan]

I may have joined the site a month ago, but I've been into TSGirls for quite some time...didn't know the site even existed...as for the number of posts I've made, I like the site so I figured it would be fun to communicate a bit...FYI, I don't discuss what I do with my son...
This is one thing I sort of wanted to ask. So, he developed the interest independently. I suppose it's probably neither all that rare nor all that common. I'm not omniscient or even particularly perceptive when it comes to figuring out whether someone is truthful or not. I was only expressing a bit of skepticism as I do anytime I see a coincidence. If you're being honest, then good for your son;).

[nysprod]

This is one thing I sort of wanted to ask. So, he developed the interest independently. I suppose it's probably neither all that rare nor all that common. I'm not omniscient or even particularly perceptive when it comes to figuring out whether someone is truthful or not. I was only expressing a bit of skepticism as I do anytime I see a coincidence. If you're being honest, then good for your son;).

See post #21

[broncofan]

Actually, I've decided I will tell the truth...it isn't my son, it's the son of a close friend of mine...he's actually freaking out big time...so he's been talking to me about it although he has no idea what I do...so I guess the whole thing is somewhat ironic...I'm kind of torn between telling him to relax about it or acting just as freaked out as he is...it's a weird situation for me...
Ah, but this is a very different story and then doesn't really explain your reason for starting the thread which seemed like a way to demonstrate your tolerance. I mean in this version you haven't even told your friend that he should act like you would have in the hypothetical world you constructed in your first post.

If this is the real story, then what is the purpose of this thread? Not to be hard on you, but you don't even seem to be sussing out a strategy for talking to your friend if we take it you're telling the truth this time.

[nysprod]

Ah, but this is a very different story and then doesn't really explain your reason for starting the thread which seemed like a way to demonstrate your tolerance. I mean in this version you haven't even told your friend that he should act like you would have in the hypothetical world you constructed in your first post.

If this is the real story, then what is the purpose of this thread? Not to be hard on you, but you don't even seem to be sussing out a strategy for talking to your friend if we take it you're telling the truth this time.

I'm really between a rock and a hard place here...if it was my son I'd be completely supportive...this guy is really going crazy as if his son had like killed somebody...actually, the thread probably is a waste of time because of course everyone here is going to say I should tell my friend to be supportive of his son, which definitely is my first instinct...not that it's bad advice, it's just a little tricky when it really comes down to it...

[betts]

Actually, I've decided I will tell the truth...



http://images.andyouknowthis.net/tumblr_m7kfufL9E21rs3zxi.jpg

[nysprod]

I can appreciate the sentiment, but I'm having a prob here and could use a few good ideas...

[broncofan]

I can appreciate the sentiment, but I'm having a prob here and could use a few good ideas...
Idea 1. New IP address
Idea 2. New username
Idea 3. New internet persona
Idea 4. New persona doesn't lie so much

[nysprod]

Idea 1. New IP address
Idea 2. New username
Idea 3. New internet persona
Idea 4. New persona doesn't lie so much

Lol...you're not helping...

[Jericho]

So, it's not your son, it's the son of a friend.
You don't have the stones to tell your friend to be supportive of his son, so you're after ideas from here?

The truth will set you free! :shrug

[nysprod]

So, it's not your son, it's the son of a friend.
You don't have the stones to tell your friend to be supportive of his son, so you're after ideas from here?

The truth will set you free! :shrug

It's not a question of having the stones...it's not that simple...I were to just tell him that, he'd freak out and wouldn't listen, he'd probably drop me as a friend and his son would be in the same predicament...I'm looking for a way to kind of ease him into this...if such a thing exists...

[broncofan]

It's not a question of having the stones...it's not that simple...I were to just tell him that, he'd freak out and wouldn't listen and he's probably drop me as a friend and his son would be in the same predicament...I'm looking for a way to kind of ease him into this...if such a thing exists...
Tell him you yourself moonlight as a tgirl. You are very early in your transition and if he wants to try it out to see if he likes it as much as his son you'd be willing to help. Then wink at him.

No, actually I'm just getting the feeling that this new story is a way of distracting from the fact that you got caught out on your first lie. Notice how when you first revealed that you weren't telling the truth you weren't soliciting advice at all. Notice also how your first post in the thread doesn't attempt to get advice from anyone about this situation. It was more about presenting yourself in a certain way.

If you are lying again, I think you should admit it. A second lie would indeed be devastating to your rep but it was an attempt to cover the first lie. The truth will set you free. :)

[nysprod]

Tell him you yourself moonlight as a tgirl. You are very early in your transition and if he wants to try it out to see if he likes it as much as his son you'd be willing to help. Then wink at him.

I don't want to run the risk of getting the guy all turned on...

[Merkurie]

This BS is taking up valuable space on the internet.

[nysprod]

This BS is taking up valuable space on the internet.

It isn't easy to figure this problem out, is it?

[BellaBellucci]

Cool story, brah. Cynicism FTW. Mama is proud. :geek:

~BB~

[nysprod]

Cool story, brah. Cynicism FTW. Mama is proud. :geek:

~BB~

Enlighten me..."FTW"?

[danthepoetman]

Nysprod, I think you must have gathered enough material so far on the board to be able to explain to your friend what transsexuality is about. If it isn’t enough for him, it’s almost desperate. T-women are women. They make huge and constant efforts to adjust their body to their inner feeling of identity. If you have to explain, start there: t-women are women, and his son is therefore not “gay”, which is probably the element that can be the most shocking to some. Sexual indentity is more complex than genotype or sex organs. Gather data on this board and some more on the net; google it and you’ll find a lot of infos. Be delicate and diplomatic in the way you bring that info to him; go gradually...
:2cent

[nysprod]

Nysprod, I think you must have gathered enough material so far on the board to be able to explain to your friend what transsexuality is about. If it isn’t enough for him, it’s almost desperate. T-women are women. They make huge and constant efforts to adjust their body to their inner feeling of identity. If you have to explain, start there: t-women are women, and his son is therefore not “gay”, which is probably the element that can be the most shocking to some. Sexual indentity is more complex than genotype or sex organs. Gather data on this board and some more on the net; google it and you’ll find a lot of infos. Be delicate and diplomatic in the way you bring that info to him; go gradually...
:2cent

You're right...that's the only way to handle it...

[BellaBellucci]

Enlighten me..."FTW"?

You know: 'fuck the world.' :whistle:

Actually, it means 'for the win.'

~BB~

[danthepoetman]

Really, Bella, it means “For the win”? It’s a sports term, or a war slogan…?

[BellaBellucci]

Really, Bella, it means “For the win”? It’s a sports term, or a war slogan…?

It's a geekism, actually.

~BB~

[GroobySteven]

Actually, I've decided I will tell the truth...it isn't my son, it's the son of a close friend of mine...he's actually freaking out big time...so he's been talking to me about it although he has no idea what I do...so I guess the whole thing is somewhat ironic...I'm kind of torn between telling him to relax about it or acting just as freaked out as he is...it's a weird situation for me...


So you lied. As I originally stated.

This is bullshit also.
Carry on.

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/9/9e/Keep-calm-and-carry-on.jpg

[bluesoul]

It all seems very typical though; he asked to borrow my car to take her out and for a donation of $50...

he paid his girlfriend to take her out?

EDIT: just saw this was a lie. well, here we go... (again)

[fordly66]

So have you even met this young lady, or was that a lie also? Maybe you haven't met her and your friend hasn't met her. For all you know she is a transvestite and his son really is gay. Not that there is anything wrong with that. If! She really is transitioning, and you say she already has breasts, she most likely will be hormonal and they will split up eventually. Plus they are only 20, how many relationships last at that age?

[bluesoul]

it's just a little tricky when it really comes down to it...

it shouldn't be. tell him about hungangels forums. we're all about reality

[Chaos]

I'm really between a rock and a hard place here...if it was my son I'd be completely supportive...this guy is really going crazy as if his son had like killed somebody...actually, the thread probably is a waste of time because of course everyone here is going to say I should tell my friend to be supportive of his son, which definitely is my first instinct...not that it's bad advice, it's just a little tricky when it really comes down to it...

Yeah tricky....Like telling the truth seems to be tricky for you?
Here's an idea....explain it all to him and if he doesn't get it tell him YOUR story,if you are so truly concerned...Maybe if he sees that it isn't just his son he'll let some of it sink in....Because if he drops you as a friend he really isn't your friend IS he?
Of course given your oh so admirable stance that the girls here aren't girls,maybe this is just another lame ass attempt to stir up some more trouble,because even MY bullshit sensors are reading off the chart,and I haven't been here for long....Choosing to stay friends with someone out of the desire to not put yourself at risk, to help someone who needs it? Way to be a shallow prick.. You can ALWAYS make new friends....but that kid could lose more.... Go ahead, choose your "safety" over helping someone in true need....If you aren't going to be helpful to people that need you, you aren't supportive of anyone but yourself. We have a Pittsburghese word for people like that....We call them Jagoffs....In other words, Selfish Assholes.

[nina_lisa]

This is one thing I sort of wanted to ask. So, he developed the interest independently. I suppose it's probably neither all that rare .

It might not have any thing to do with developing an interest, he might had seen a cute girl, the girl turned out to be trans and he is like: i don't care, i still love her.

I would be more skeptic about her family been accepting, but hey such families do exist.

[nysprod]

Yeah tricky....Like telling the truth seems to be tricky for you?

I'm not dealing with any of this negative shit


Of course given your oh so admirable stance that the girls here aren't girls,maybe this is just another lame ass attempt to stir up some more trouble

You never read thru the Question For The Ladies thread...if you had you'd know what it was all about...and my only "stance" is that one's own gender identity belongs to them and them only.

[nysprod]

This is bullshit also.Carry on.

It doesn't do me any good to bullshit...it's not like I'm making any money off it...although now that I think about it there probably are some good ideas for a movie here...what do you think?

[GroobySteven]

It doesn't do me any good to bullshit...it's not like I'm making any money off it...although now that I think about it there probably are some good ideas for a movie here...what do you think?

Been done - if it doesn't do you any good - then why bullshit in the first post - insisting it was your son. You know, your full of shit - and so does everyone else.

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[Chaos]

I'm not dealing with any of this negative shit



You never read thru the Question For The Ladies thread...if you had you'd know what it was all about...and my only "stance" is that one's own gender identity belongs to them and them only.

I DID read it or have you forgotten what I said in it already? You CLEARLY stated that you did not think they were women. But we aren't going to rehash it here. As for negative shit? What do you expect when you lie to the whole community? So you don't deal with negativity when it's not your own...So you're saying you're a coward? That explains a lot.

[StlyeMeCunty]

Congrats to both of them :)!

[nysprod]

I DID read it or have you forgotten what I said in it already? You CLEARLY stated that you did not think they were women

Well, I learned a few things from that thread, as I've repeated numerous times...I don't see anything wrong with that...you live and you learn...but since you've obviously missed it, IMHO one's gender identity is something that's totally up to them...and there's a lot more to it than anatomy...

[MdR Dave]

Congrats to both of them :)!

His son and his friend's son (or is it his son's friend)?

Or the father and the figment?

I'm confused.

[Chaos]

but since you've obviously missed it, IMHO one's gender identity is something that's totally up to them...and there's a lot more to it than anatomy...

I support a persons right to be what they should be,regardless of what anyone else says. If you are a woman, I treat you as one,regardless of the body you're born in. I know what it is like to be treated as something you are not. Not to the degree they have experienced,not with the prejudices they face,but I do know. You see, I was born of deceit. My mother tricked my father by saying she was on the pill. She got pregnant and he took her to have an abortion...twice. The first time she chickened out, the second was too late. She KNEW my father would marry her,and take her away from her family. She used me to get what she wanted. I was a means to an end for her,and a mistake to my father. My mother gave me up without even a fight when they got divorced,because I wasn't needed after she got out of her situation...She GAVE me to the man who viewed me as his failure,and I suffered for it. I spent 20 years being worth less than a human being. I was a housepet,a slave,and a punching bag. When I met my mother for the first time since I was three do you know what the first thing she told me was? I should be grateful to her....If it wasn't for her I'd be dead....Yeah,she didn't say hello....or even that she loved me....she told me how I was supposed to be an abortion and that only SHE saved me from that. I told her what I went through because of her "saving"me,she didn't even flinch, she knew. My father was abusive to her too,yet she LET him have me,to save herself. It took well over 30 years to change what my parents thought of me,so no, you did NOT change your opinion overnight, but it IS a start. Im done with this thread, you made me talk about things no one needed to know and I had no desire to ever speak of again. If you are TRULY changing your opinion,good. If it's another lie.....well...I pity you....

[Schimmel]

Pretty heavy, man. The shrapnel is exploding everywhere now.

[London Guy]

Surely this was meant to be posted in 'Shemale Stories' .........