Guys...how did you "out" yourself?

[RallyCola]

it's simple. for those of you who's significant other, family or friends know that you like transwomen, how did you tell them?

[Willie Escalade]

I haven't...and amazingly no one has asked about that picture of Yasmin Lee and me...or how I seem to always get the answers correct on those Maury shows...

I'll cross that bridge when I get there. I want my family/friends to see them as ladies first.

[GrimFusion]

I moved out of my parent's place at age 19 and left my computer behind so they had something to use. I thought I had deleted most of my personal files, but they happened upon a porn stash I had forgotten about. In retrospect, I probably should have formatted that thing, but whatever. I don't know what they saw, but I can only guess it was a good mix of lesbian, GG porn, and some TS stuff. When they approached me about it, right out of they gate they just assumed I was gay, so that was a really awkward conversation. At that point in my life, I didn't really think I was bisexual so I defended my heterosexuality. I'm pretty sure they both still think I'm gay, but I couldn't care any less.

I've told all of my exes at one point or another. Most of the time I've gotten a resounding "eww" in reply, but I've never been dumped. All the girls I've been with in relationships know I'm a very staunchly monogamous man so running off and cheating on them with a transchick isn't a worry. The woman I've been dating for the last four years has a fetish for transsexuals. She doesn't understand how to conduct herself around 'em, though. There's been many times we've talked about it and she'll use the incorrect pronouns, inadvertently insult, or just ask really stupid questions. Same stuff any guy is prone to before being introduced to the community.

[joeninety]

Had some mates that went to Thailand and one of them sneaked off slept with a translady but got caught out as she was friends with pro who was having fun with another mate, anyway when they came back they were all going on about it and telling me about it and I said personally don't see the issue and from there was the start of everyone knowing about my tastes have since dated a few Trans ladies and have always been up front about it with friends and family, personally I do not care what others think, Trans are people like the rest of us and should not have to face all the bs out there from the ignorant.

[amberskyi]

Had some mates that went to Thailand and one of them sneaked off slept with a translady but got caught out as she was friends with pro who was having fun with another mate, anyway when they came back they were all going on about it and telling me about it and I said personally don't see the issue and from there was the start of everyone knowing about my tastes have since dated a few Trans ladies and have always been up front about it with friends and family, personally I do not care what others think, Trans are people like the rest of us and should not have to face all the bs out there from the ignorant.

aww..i like you.you remind me of my boyfriend.there should be way more guys like yall.

[Chaos]

My dad found some of my pictures....Eventually he approached me about it asking if I was gay. I told him no,and that they're girls,he was confused but as I explained it to him and showed him info on it, he came to see things in a different light. He always told me to treat people the way they want to be treated...I have never wavered from that. It is probably the only good thing he ever taught me..

[bluesoul]

He always told me to treat people the way they want to be treated...

hrm... but apart from a role-playing situation, who wants to be treated badly?

[joeninety]

aww..i like you.you remind me of my boyfriend.there should be way more guys like yall.

;) cheers Amber, after that little post I think I like you too :tongue::kiss:

[ed_jaxon]

I have never outed myself as I have never been in.

Those closest to me know who I am, dedicated to pushing the envelope and never living half way. You cannot sort of jump out of the plane.

My best friend knows, my brother knows and although my uncle (who is my boss, father confesser and best friend) does not know, he does know I run a freaky underground club that caters to crazy shit. I saw my first porno at his crib on 3/4 inch (Behind the Green Door) and I have seen he has a couple of trans flicks in his collection.

When my brother's girl found out she freaked a little and asked did he know, he just shrugged and said "Ed be into a lot of freaky shit, that's really nothing".

Confidence is attractive brothers.

[joeninety]

My dad found some of my pictures....Eventually he approached me about it asking if I was gay. I told him no,and that they're girls,he was confused but as I explained it to him and showed him info on it, he came to see things in a different light. He always told me to treat people the way they want to be treated...I have never wavered from that. It is probably the only good thing he ever taught me..

That was a very good lesson that he taught you and that you taught him too:iagree:

[BeardedOne]

Most of my friends and associates either know, have guessed, or don't really care. Some people at work have probably figured it out, but they're not a crowd I share a lot of info with anyway.

Not sure I'd be in a position to 'out' myself, as it were. Unless I was swept up in an election, then I'd announce it in hopes of getting time off for good behaviour.

[MHarrigan82]

They don't know. I have been dating a wonderful transwoman for over 4 months now and just told my parents the person that i am dating is a woman. If my girl feels like tellling them she is trans than I will cross that bridge.

[danthepoetman]

Good for you both, MHarrigan! You have to stand up for her and for yourself. I admire your attitude.

[robertlouis]

My first involvement with the trans world came when I stood by a college friend who was transitioning M2F when most people dropped her. We shared a flat for a while, and although there was never anything sexual between us, I've since had relationships with both tgirls and genetic females - I see them as exactly the same, and that's also how they see themselves. My family have always been pretty liberal, so it's never been an issue.

[danthepoetman]

That was very noble of you. And I feel exactly the same, Robert Louis. We think and we ARE through our whole body; our brain is just the center of our nervous system. T-women have women’s brain (according to several concurring studies, now) and with HRT, women’s hormones: they are women. They feel, think and act exactly like any woman and a little extra in the genital region becomes a pure anatomical detail. And for them, it’s simply adjusting their metabolism and their physique to their inner feeling of self. I find we should respect that to the absolute end of its logic. They are women.
Once Prospero brilliantly remarked that we, on HA, form a community and should defend each others. Unfortunately, we overlook or forget this sense of community and keep on arguing over the silliest stuff. But I thought his point was just remarkable.

[robertlouis]

That was very noble of you. And I feel exactly the same, Robert Louis. We think and we ARE through our whole body; our brain is just the center of our nervous system. T-women have women’s brain (according to several concurring studies, now) and with HRT, women’s hormones: they are women. They feel, think and act exactly like any woman and a little extra in the genital region becomes a pure anatomical detail. And for them, it’s simply adjusting their metabolism and their physique to their inner feeling of self. I find we should respect that to the absolute end of its logic. They are women.
Once Prospero brilliantly remarked that we, on HA, form a community and should defend each others. Unfortunately, we overlook or forget this sense of community and keep on arguing over the silliest stuff. But I thought his point was just remarkable.

Thanks Dan, although I think I've been fortunate the way the cards were dealt. Claire was and is one of my very closest friends and she helped me to see the world in a different and very tolerant way. It wasn't a major step after that. Giving her away at her civil partnership celebration this year was one of the proudest days of my life.

[BigDF]

My wife saw me watching the stuff online, was a bit disturbed by it until I reassured her that we weren't going to be sharing clothes or anything like that. So long as I remain physically faithful, she's pretty much ok with things. I've told my two closest friends and my brother and they're fine with it. I don't intend to tell my Dad; he's got enough problems right now and since there's not much chance he'll ever see me with a Tgirl, there's really no need.

[danthepoetman]

I think it’s a good example that shows, BigDF, once again, that with people of good faith, it can be explained and understood. It’s a good thing for us, and almost a mission, as member of such a site and as fans (and friends of t-women), to open up and explain as much as we can, although I’m conscious it’s not always possible for everyone. I’m sure there’s hope. I know that when I first became aware of what transsexuality is, at the beginning of the 80s, there was far less openness for it, much less understanding and practically no information on the subject. Things have changed tremendously since then. There will be more progress, I'm convinced of that.

[Baileyluv]

i met a special lil lady and let people figure whatever they want to, i have told only those that come right out and ask me. But I really dont consider PAN gay ? its its own relm, really kinda in the grey on all sides. The wife didnt like it much at first, but time has taught her much, hell she even has been out to Hamburger Mary's with me and a tgurl, hell they made out more than I did, hehehe. Dont let peoples opinions dictate how you live.

[SmithXXX]

I have a quite a unique family ALL WOMEN. My Father has passed away. So there is my Mother, FIVE sisters (one is transgendered (post-op), and another is lesbian). On top of that I have two nieces, a great niece, my sisters girlfriend and their daughter. and of course NONE of them are married. Leaving me as the only male in the family. So coming out to my family was not difficult at all. It was on a Friday night, and my Mom was was visiting LA and I talked my (lesbian) sister into bringing my mom to Peanuts (Club 7969). So they get there we are in the backroom by the pool table. At this time my mom has already figured it all out....lol, but it gets better. After my mom has had a drink or two, but hasn't gotten up to roam around yet. Up walks Yasmin Lee wearing a very short bright red PVC dress, thigh high red leather dominatrix boots and carrying a riding crop. She didn't see my mom, but came up behind me and whacked me in the butt with the riding crop....lol. Well needless to say she scared the crap out of me. So I then proceed to introduce Yasmin to my Mom. Yasmin staying in character to the way she was dresses smacked the riding crop on the table and said "Stand up bitch, and give me a hug!" I really didn't see any reason to further explain anything else to her. After that she has met just about all my friends; Buddy Wood, Bob, Ben, Celeste Blackula, Morgan, etc.... Since then whenever she visits LA she goes out with me one night and hangs out with me and all the local TS community. You gotta give her props for still going out and partying strong, after all she is 76.

[yodajazz]

Told my s/o before we took that next step in the relationship. We were able to watch some ts porn after that. She was happy knowing that I would be turned on.

[mrtrebus]

I haven't. I am scared to.

[danthepoetman]

I have a quite a unique family ALL WOMEN. My Father has passed away. So there is my Mother, FIVE sisters (one is transgendered (post-op), and another is lesbian). On top of that I have two nieces, a great niece, my sisters girlfriend and their daughter. and of course NONE of them are married. Leaving me as the only male in the family. So coming out to my family was not difficult at all. It was on a Friday night, and my Mom was was visiting LA and I talked my (lesbian) sister into bringing my mom to Peanuts (Club 7969). So they get there we are in the backroom by the pool table. At this time my mom has already figured it all out....lol, but it gets better. After my mom has had a drink or two, but hasn't gotten up to roam around yet. Up walks Yasmin Lee wearing a very short bright red PVC dress, thigh high red leather dominatrix boots and carrying a riding crop. She didn't see my mom, but came up behind me and whacked me in the butt with the riding crop....lol. Well needless to say she scared the crap out of me. So I then proceed to introduce Yasmin to my Mom. Yasmin staying in character to the way she was dresses smacked the riding crop on the table and said "Stand up bitch, and give me a hug!" I really didn't see any reason to further explain anything else to her. After that she has met just about all my friends; Buddy Wood, Bob, Ben, Celeste Blackula, Morgan, etc.... Since then whenever she visits LA she goes out with me one night and hangs out with me and all the local TS community. You gotta give her props for still going out and partying strong, after all she is 76.
Really nice, Yogi! :)

[Westheangelino]

I simply told a few of my close friends about some of my adventures in the world of hooking up with transsexuals. They, being the cool and open minded people I knew them to be either didn't care or reveled in hearing my entertaining stories. I work in a restaurant, and as anyone who has also worked in that environment knows....it breeds gossip. However, I have never tried to hide what I like. I like gg's, tgirls, and occassionally giant scary black men. Anyone who asks me a direct question gets a direct answer. The funniest thing was awhile back when I broke up with my last girlfriend (who also works with me). She knew of my sexual appetites and starting telling people who didn't know me all that well. One of my best friends was questioned about it. "So....Wes likes trannies?" My friend told me he was like, "Yes." The inquisitor was like, "Um...well...." My friend said, "No....there is no 'well'....he does".


Love my friends!!!!!!!

[innocentbychoice]

I have a quite a unique family ALL WOMEN. My Father has passed away. So there is my Mother, FIVE sisters (one is transgendered (post-op), and another is lesbian). On top of that I have two nieces, a great niece, my sisters girlfriend and their daughter. and of course NONE of them are married. Leaving me as the only male in the family. So coming out to my family was not difficult at all. It was on a Friday night, and my Mom was was visiting LA and I talked my (lesbian) sister into bringing my mom to Peanuts (Club 7969). So they get there we are in the backroom by the pool table. At this time my mom has already figured it all out....lol, but it gets better. After my mom has had a drink or two, but hasn't gotten up to roam around yet. Up walks Yasmin Lee wearing a very short bright red PVC dress, thigh high red leather dominatrix boots and carrying a riding crop. She didn't see my mom, but came up behind me and whacked me in the butt with the riding crop....lol. Well needless to say she scared the crap out of me. So I then proceed to introduce Yasmin to my Mom. Yasmin staying in character to the way she was dresses smacked the riding crop on the table and said "Stand up bitch, and give me a hug!" I really didn't see any reason to further explain anything else to her. After that she has met just about all my friends; Buddy Wood, Bob, Ben, Celeste Blackula, Morgan, etc.... Since then whenever she visits LA she goes out with me one night and hangs out with me and all the local TS community. You gotta give her props for still going out and partying strong, after all she is 76.

That's just awesome.