TS girlfriend in India

[douchebag]

Of late I have realized that I don't get aroused by women anymore unless they have something extra between their legs, but of course many of you should know what I am talking about. So here's the problem. It's pretty serious and the country I am from, dating a transsexual is considered a social taboo and probably illegal too going by the totalitarian regime they have here. And yes my government totally sucks like everybody else's. Probably that's the reason you don't find too many transsexuals here. So if there are any transsexual girls here, I would be more than happy to ask her out.

It's quite a long shot but it was worth a try.

[rodinuk]

It's either illegal or it isn't? Seems strange since there are pay for play ladies available

http://www.ts-dating.com/transsexual-escorts/India

I wasn't aware that India's government a totalitarian regime though

[Dino Velvet]

If you're looking for a meaningful relationship you might've wandered into the wrong saloon. We're more of a meat market full of cheap drinks and cheaper customers.

I'll pass your name around if you like. Welcome to the forum regardless.:cheers:

[bluesoul]

Of late I have realized that I don't get aroused by women anymore unless they have something extra between their legs, but of course many of you should know what I am talking about.

i think i know exactly what you're talking about.

btw: are you willing to get to know the transsexual girlfriend first, or will you ask them out strictly based on their gender status and having that "something extra between their legs"?

either way, you came to the right place

[douchebag]

It's either illegal or it isn't? Seems strange since there are pay for play ladies available

http://www.ts-dating.com/transsexual-escorts/India

I wasn't aware that India's government a totalitarian regime though
@rodiunk Totalitarian regime? yes in a way of saying. Just a coupla weeks ago a cartoonist was arrested because the government found one of his cartoons in bad taste. Also gay marriages have been decriminalized in few states but it still remains illegal in most.

[douchebag]

If you're looking for a meaningful relationship you might've wandered into the wrong saloon. We're more of a meat market full of cheap drinks and cheaper customers.

I'll pass your name around if you like. Welcome to the forum regardless.:cheers:
Yes meaningful relationship would certainly be nice. Then again I don't know what that means since I have never been in one.

[douchebag]

I won't mind one-night-stands (if that's the phrase they still use these days) but getting to know the girl and taking it to the next level(although i must say i have always found human relationships a bit intangible and with layers with intricate mazes) while you are at it is always a bonus point. Isn't it?

[danthepoetman]

Of late I have realized that I don't get aroused by women anymore unless they have something extra between their legs, but of course many of you should know what I am talking about. So here's the problem. It's pretty serious and the country I am from, dating a transsexual is considered a social taboo and probably illegal too going by the totalitarian regime they have here. And yes my government totally sucks like everybody else's. Probably that's the reason you don't find too many transsexuals here. So if there are any transsexual girls here, I would be more than happy to ask her out.

It's quite a long shot but it was worth a try.
Douchebag, I’m not sure I’m following you. We don’t know enough about you to comment on your situation or to advise you on anything. What are your expectations in posting this? I certainly feel for you and I’m wishing you all the best. But you’re right: in certain circumstances, there are some risks not worth taking. Then again in others, you can’t help pursuing to the end your desire.
This being said, I find it a bit strange: I thought there were many transsexuals or hijras, at least in the North of India. That’s what we are left to believe by “the media”, by some publications, etc. Is it untrue?

[rodinuk]

@rodiunk Totalitarian regime? yes in a way of saying. Just a coupla weeks ago a cartoonist was arrested because the government found one of his cartoons in bad taste. Also gay marriages have been decriminalized in few states but it still remains illegal in most.

Using phrases like '..in a way of saying....' and '...probably illegal....' sound like you're putting a spin on it. The embedded caste system in society is more the culprit I would have thought.

[douchebag]

One of primary reasons for the social discrimination of transsexuals in india is the lack of legal recognition. The laws here which vary from state to state often prevents the transgender from exercising their rights related to marriage, adoption, and inheritance. Even a few years back(I believe it was before 1994) the "hijras" (or the intersex) were not entitled to cast their vote in general elections here. Apart from that, there's a general mindset of our society(which certainly is different from the prevalent casteism if you want to go into semantics) that regards "hijras" as social outcasts is also a reason why this community continues to be ostracized.

[robertlouis]

I used to visit and work in Bangalore several times a year. We had a girl working on software design who was mtf transsexual. Made the most of what she had, passed pretty well and was a really sweet person. And everyone respected her and gave her space because she was a very talented engineer as well as a nice kid..

Mind you, Bangalore is the high-tech centre of India and attitudes there are relatively liberal, possibly because the western influence is so concentrated.

[danthepoetman]

Very interesting. But can you interact with many? Is there many in your surrounding? Here in the West, we are somewhat left to believe that hijras are part of a tradition and as such, find some kind of social acceptance –which is obviously not the case, in your opinion.
But is there no way for you to at least start to relate to some of them? just to meet some and exchange with them, even “under the radar”, if it’s a concern for you to do it publically?
(This is very interesting, Douchebag; it’s nice to talk with you on this subject; you could teach us a lot in here…)

[douchebag]

@danthepoetman: Yes there are hijras in india. And not just in north india. And their status in the society is even worse than that of prostitutes which is already bad as it is. They live in shady slums like millions others who find it hard to make both their ends meet. And for this reason, probably(well some people in this thread might not find themselves at home with this word but please don't take everything I say at face value) they resort to sex trade.
Even befriending one of them is considered to be a taboo and you will be looked down upon if you do so.
As for my expectations from this thread, I just want a transsexual girl to go out with.

[douchebag]

@roberlouis: I live in Bangalore too :)

[robertlouis]

@roberlouis: I live in Bangalore too :)

Well, that's interesting! The girl I worked with was so good that we eventually transferred her into a more senior role here in the UK, where she now runs her own department. She has now happily settled into life in Cambridge, has a steady English boyfriend and is planning to complete her transition next year.

Her experience may be unique, although she assured me that it wasn't - she had a support group of friends who were in similar situations. What was probably significant was that they preferred, if possible, to work for western companies rather than Indian-owned businesses.

Good luck to you.

[douchebag]

@danthepoetman: Also I don't really know any transsexual person. Hijras used to be a part of tradition during the Mughal empire if you call guarding harems as tradition. Now their status hs been reduced to a bunch of people who just dance and sing during marriages and child birth and this only happens in rural areas. In urban areas you will find them begging on train platforms and shady parts of the city.
Yes "under the radar", that's what I am trying to do here.

[douchebag]

@robertlouis Well what can I say? Not everyone is as lucky as she is. Even I know of a friend's friend who is a m2f who had to leave india on account of her family (family members here often get on your nerves) and is right now settled in US

[amberskyi]

lol my friend was trying to get me to go to India on a sorta of spiritual retreat after the suicide of my fist boyfriend kinda drove me mad.

[danthepoetman]

@danthepoetman: Also I don't really know any transsexual person. Hijras used to be a part of tradition during the Mughal empire if you call guarding harems as tradition. Now their status hs been reduced to a bunch of people who just dance and sing during marriages and child birth and this only happens in rural areas. In urban areas you will find them begging on train platforms and shady parts of the city.
Yes "under the radar", that's what I am trying to do here.
Very sad!
And I don’t know what to tell you; we don’t know enough about you. Maybe you could try to make contact and help one or another, I don’t know. Maybe you could present this if asked as a good deed… In any case, I wish you the best.

[robertlouis]

@robertlouis Well what can I say? Not everyone is as lucky as she is. Even I know of a friend's friend who is a m2f who had to leave india on account of her family (family members here often get on your nerves) and is right now settled in US

Her parents disowned her but her sister stayed loyal and has visited her here in Cambridge. She wasn't originally from Bangalore - moved all the way from Kashmir where things are a lot tougher, partly to make a fresh start but also because it was the best place for her to exploit her technical skills.

[danthepoetman]

lol my friend was trying to get me to go to India on a sorta of spiritual retreat after the suicide of my fist boyfriend kinda drove me mad.
Sorry to hear that something like that occurred in your life, Amber. I hope you’re ok now. Must have been tough…

[amberskyi]

Sorry to hear that something like that occurred in your life, Amber. I hope you’re ok now. Must have been tough…

i drank most of that period in time away so im good now lol

[robertlouis]

I hadn't spotted your post so I'm also glad to hear you came through it safely Amber.