How to date a t-girl?

[Donderlander]

I'm rather new here and I'm here to meet a t-girl or femboy. I'm a 26 year old guy from Amsterdam.

After having had enough of girls, I'm looking to meet with somebody who is blessed with something extra.
I'm not looking for quick sex or escort, but rather for a t-girl or femboy to date, hang out with and maybe love in longtime relationship.

I hope some of the members here can help me with some questions.

Where can I find t-girls or femboys? How do you guys find t-girls to date? Is there an online community for dating?

Feel free to send me a private message or share your experiences and perhaps tips.

[rodinuk]

Where can I find t-girls or femboys? How do you guys find t-girls to date? Is there an online community for dating?

You could try:

http://www.ts-dating.com

although it's more geared to escorts.

This site is worth a look there are some Dutch girls on there
http://www.tvchix.com

This site has a lively forum all about A'dam (and other Dutch cities) it's well worth reading on there and repeating the question there:
http://www.ignatzmice.com/

I think you are looking at clubs and bar scene really - reading posts on here it doesn''t like much Butterfly Cafe is mentioned and The Lellebel (lellebel.nl) 'primarily a hangout for crossdressers'. I'd guess the gay bars/clubs might double up for trans events like in London where some clubs host t-girl events one night a week.

Good luck! I miss Amsterdam so much not been there for a couple of years :(

[Donderlander]

Thanks Rodinuk for your reply! It's really helpful.

Did you have any luck in Amsterdam dating t-girls or femboys? How did you do these things?

[rodinuk]

I wasn't there to do that ;)

[benfromchicago]

Are there any free ts dating sites? Seems like all you need to upgrade membership

[FreddieGomez]

Just look don't touch

that's the motto i live by

it's not worth it otherwise

[saifan]

Friending an escort is one way to go.

[Jamie French]

Advertising yourself as looking for fem-boy or t-girls makes it sound like we're a commodity or some kind of goal to attain. We stay as far away from those kind of people as possible. HUGE turn off. We date people who move in our circles like everyone else does. The kind of people we date are already hanging out with people we know, naturally live the lifestyle.
If you're on the outside looking in and the only connection you have with people like us is the desire to put your dick in one... you're exactly the wrong kind of person. Just get a hooker or a membership to a porn site and leave it at that.

[onmyknees]

As you'll see...........with some people, you're damed if you do in here, and damned if you don't. You can like and admire TS and buy the products....but not too much lest you'll be a chaser. I'm certainly not a T gurl or fem boi, but you didn't sound borish or condesending or disrespectful to me....so don't take any of this too seriously. Be yourself and if that's good enough to attract a TS for a friendship/date....good for you.

[Donderlander]

I was kind of wary to do that. Does upgrading really help? Did you have any luck with that?

[Donderlander]

You mean to say that it's impossible to find a t-girl to date, without paying for it?

[Donderlander]

Haha true! But I want to find a girl to date and love. Not just casual sex.

[Donderlander]

No, I'm not advertising just to find a t-girl for casual sex. I used to date women the way you describe, from within my circles or girls I meet in bars, discotheques, university etc. However, I have no t-girls in my inner circle. Sadly in my surroundings there is no bar where you can go to meet t-girls. There are clubs for straight people, bars for gay people, but not for the type of girl I'm interesting in. You just don't go around asking to your friends, do you know somebody? That's why I'm asking.

In my opinion also t-girls are looking for love and affection. I'm looking for such a girl.

[Donderlander]

This is what I mean. I'm not looking for casual sex, as I could've hired a prostitute.
I'm kind of new to this and I'm used to date 'normal' girls. I found them within my circles, in bars, in the university, everywhere. But where do you find t-girls? How do you get to know one? I've been looking around and didn't find anyone, so that's why I posted that question.

[LibertyHarkness]

many ts are in straight clubs/ bars ... thats the type of bars i frequent ... just i wouldnt bother stating i am a TS to anyone unless directly asked .

generally at the Tgirl themed places your only going to find sex workers , escorts on their time off just chilling with mates getting pissed etc .. maybe the odd TS perhaps that is looking for somone .. but generally the nature of Tgirl places is Seedy undertones rather than a normal casual bar like all bar one etc ..

[Jackal]

I'd follow the advice of the poster who said meet through social circles, that is a great way of knowing a woman to date(and if you click). Just treat a transwoman like the lovely lady she is and you should be fine.

[Ryz]

You mean to say that it's impossible to find a t-girl to date, without paying for it?

:loser:

[TempestTS]

How to date a T-girl

Step 1 - ask her out
(if she says yes)
Step 2 - Show up on time
Step 3 - Go someplace - Congratulations you are now on a date
Optional
Step 3.5 - dont be an AssHat - this improves your chances for a second date

Its not rocket science

[Wendy Summers]

many ts are in straight clubs/ bars ... thats the type of bars i frequent ... just i wouldnt bother stating i am a TS to anyone unless directly asked .

generally at the Tgirl themed places your only going to find sex workers , escorts on their time off just chilling with mates getting pissed etc .. maybe the odd TS perhaps that is looking for somone .. but generally the nature of Tgirl places is Seedy undertones rather than a normal casual bar like all bar one etc ..

Largely I agree with the caveat of queer bars (the kind of places that cater to anyone in the LGBT community). Here in the NYC area most the non-professionals I know chill at places like that.

[LibertyHarkness]

see i hate going to gay/ts/ bars .. i would rather drink my own piss generally lol ...i just get hassled to much in them .. and i end up getting emo rage and wanting to hurt someone lol

[tsdvdman]

Advertising yourself as looking for fem-boy or t-girls makes it sound like we're a commodity or some kind of goal to attain. We stay as far away from those kind of people as possible. HUGE turn off. We date people who move in our circles like everyone else does. The kind of people we date are already hanging out with people we know, naturally live the lifestyle.
If you're on the outside looking in and the only connection you have with people like us is the desire to put your dick in one... you're exactly the wrong kind of person. Just get a hooker or a membership to a porn site and leave it at that.
As you can see..you can't ask for some general advice without the anger and disdain coming out. It seems (most) of them have been fucked (literally and figuratively) by THOSE PEOPLE so bad that they can't even begin to relate to anyone outside of their normal circles. As was stated above. Those circles are extremely small..hence why you should probably just stay away.
There are some beautiful ts out there though leading normal lives..you just have to be patient and seek them out.

[robbyfish]

Simple anser = the same way you would go about dating anyone else!

[TempestTS]

I like this answer -
Simple anser = the same way you would go about dating anyone else!

[Footlover]

The OP does raise a point though, where I live, there is one LGBT night, but the only frequenters are Lesbians, Gays and Crossdressers, I should know, I do the security for it every Thursday! There appears to be no real T-Girls around, I use TV-chix, but unless I'm
Looking for an escort, all that I can find locally are CD's. Which isn't what I'm looking for.

It's a hard one, I imagine that as previously stated, there are a lot of people out there just looking for a fuck'em dump'em. Which ultimately impacts on the genuine lovers out there.

FootLover

[Scuderia77]

I'm rather new here and I'm here to meet a t-girl or femboy. I'm a 26 year old guy from Amsterdam.

After having had enough of girls, I'm looking to meet with somebody who is blessed with something extra.
I'm not looking for quick sex or escort, but rather for a t-girl or femboy to date, hang out with and maybe love in longtime relationship.

I hope some of the members here can help me with some questions.

Where can I find t-girls or femboys? How do you guys find t-girls to date? Is there an online community for dating?

Feel free to send me a private message or share your experiences and perhaps tips.

In Holland we have the luck that there is an online sexchat for shemales, femboys etc. www.tgirl.nl. A lot of girls with something extra there!

[TempestTS]

The OP does raise a point though, where I live, there is one LGBT night, but the only frequenters are Lesbians, Gays and Crossdressers, I should know, I do the security for it every Thursday! There appears to be no real T-Girls around, I use TV-chix, but unless I'm
Looking for an escort, all that I can find locally are CD's. Which isn't what I'm looking for.

It's a hard one, I imagine that as previously stated, there are a lot of people out there just looking for a fuck'em dump'em. Which ultimately impacts on the genuine lovers out there.

FootLover


Point made by Libby and Wendy - Most TS dont go around advertising that they are Trans - going to a T-Girl nightclub (or event) does exactly that which is why many TS avoid such places - I hang at metal - punk and biker clubs when I do go out because its what I like to do - I do not think "hey I want to go out, now as a TS where can I go?" I dont think about being trans at all unless somebody else brings it up generally.

Also Most girls dont go around announcing their "T" even if they arnt stealth - I mean when was the last time you walked up to someone and said " Hi, my name is "John" and I was born male"

That girl at the bar right now that you are thinking about asking out may or may not be TS - (sure you could ask but how rude... I dont ask guys if they have a dick) the only way your going to find out for sure is if she says yes and ends up going home with you and you get lucky...

[nina_lisa]

After having had enough of girls

So you are tired of pussies and realized what you love is cock?



Where can I find t-girls or femboys?

You know there is an ocean of difference between both?


How do you guys find t-girls to date?


How do you win the lottery? you might get lucky and find one, or even never be able to find any trans girl to even have a drink with, it is 100% luck.

The question might have also been: how do i date someone from a Thai-Ethiopian mixed ethnic background as i love thai-Ethiopian fusion cuisine? The fact the % of people that are ts in a the general population is not that high.