your girl friends finds out you slept with a ts

[miketaylor911]

has anyone out there been busted by there partner? girlfriend? she found out that you slept with a ts and was disgusted and left you? was there any way back? how would you explain things to her?

[giovanni_hotel]

Doubtful.

Most people think guys who are intimate with trans-women are fags. Was it a past experience or were you cheating with a TS??

As a 'straight' man, the first time you're called a FAGGOT because of your relationships with trans-chicks, it can literally knock you out. After a few times though it doesn't get to you as much.

However there are GGs who don't flip over it.
Or you can eliminate the hassle and just date a TS steady.;)

[LibertyHarkness]

yep alas so .. most women will think of guys as gayboys for shagging with a Transsexual .

some women are cool with it and more open minded .. but i would imagine if you asked 100,000 women this , less then 10,000 would be fine with it..

[mattt1989]

i told my ex girlfriend id sleeped with them she thought it was pritty weird

[Mike11]

has anyone out there been busted by there partner? girlfriend? she found out that you slept with a ts and was disgusted and left you? was there any way back? how would you explain things to her?

It has more to do with your own inhibitions than those of your partner.

Sexual pleasure does not have to fall into a particular type of practice. Those are normally defined by religion.

I would not consider a man bi or gay unless he is actually attracted to men. If its is clear to you that you are not attracted to men then you should not worry but if you have any doubts then perhaps you should come to terms with that.

[Prospero]

Mike11 - think you missed the point f the OP... he wasn't worried about if he is gay or not. He was curious to find out what the reaction of a GG girlfriend might be/had been to the confession of having had sex or a relationship with a TS.

Not had the experience myself.

[LibertyHarkness]

my ex gf split up with me after 11years , due to me starting transition .

[Prospero]

Find it really hard to imagine you as a boy liberty

[LibertyHarkness]

haha .. i will not ruin your image and post a male picture of me haha .. though i have posted one in the past lol

[Prospero]

No please don't.... for ever since I've been aware of you, you have been a gorgeous girl (woman) not some boyish wannabe (+ I'm not gonna go looking for that other pic) I'm sure your fanbase here - those who look and those who've been privileged to touch would prefer your present reality to the past

[LibertyHarkness]

haha i think i deleted as it goes anyway ...

[Donkey]

my ex gf split up with me after 11years , due to me starting transition .
How could she ever give up your cock? What was she thinking?

[LibertyHarkness]

she wanted a man not a girl it turned out haha ...to be honest it was a doomed relationship anyway as i was 15years younger than her anyway .. so i wanted to get out of it at somepoint regardless lol

[Donkey]

Lib, do you fuck more GG's now than you did before you transitioned? ;)

[LibertyHarkness]

haha not really .. as i was big into swinging , i have slept with around 700 females in the last 14 years ... probably slept with about 300 men or so

to be honest hte main reason i shoot with females alot is simply most are my friends .. and i dont have pay to them lol also i am trying to target the straight market more for UK .....

Also there is no good male performers in the UK basically ..other than the odd one ..

In my personal life i dont have sex really ...i think i would like a boyfriend though ..

[Mike11]

Mike11 - think you missed the point f the OP... he wasn't worried about if he is gay or not. He was curious to find out what the reaction of a GG girlfriend might be/had been to the confession of having had sex or a relationship with a TS.

Not had the experience myself.

You are right and that is because I meant to quote Giovani but it somehow went wrong.

I have never admitted to anything of the sort but but was found out with conclusive evidence in the form of emails and arranging a meeting. Of course my partner was very upset but it was not because she thought I was gay. She would have felt the same about another woman. She knew I was sexually very active and adventurous when we met so I can't apologies for how I am. I have always made it clear that I find feminine TS sexually very attractive.

It is very upsetting for a woman regardless but if she loves you enough and knows she is the priority for you then she will live and let live.

[amberskyi]

You are right and that is because I meant to quote Giovani but it somehow went wrong.

I have never admitted to anything of the sort but but was found out with conclusive evidence in the form of emails and arranging a meeting. Of course my partner was very upset but it was not because she thought I was gay. She would have felt the same about another woman. She knew I was sexually very active and adventurous when we met so I can't apologies for how I am. I have always made it clear that I find feminine TS sexually very attractive.

It is very upsetting for a woman regardless but if she loves you enough and knows she is the priority for you then she will live and let live.

i high sex drive isnt an excuse for cheating if you guys didnt agree to an open relationship before hand.
ive had guys tell me that if i wanted a relationship with them that i need to be okay with them not only being attracted to both gg and ts but that i also need to be okay with them satisfying their desire for a gg from time to time.i always reply with i have a big thing for huge dick so i hope your okay with me satisfying that urge from time to time as well lol

[Westheangelino]

Busted? The truth will set you free, gentlemen. My best friends know about my penchant for tgirls, thus do most of my potential girlfriends fairly immediately.

"So....I hear Wes like trannies....?"

"He does."

"Well......"

"There is no well. He does."

[soul4real]

Happened about a year ago with an Ex girlfriend that we go on and off again. She went thru my phone and found some stuff.. I'm still not sure if it was pics or email or whatever. We weren't in a relationship so it wasn't cheating. She kept it to herself she said for about a month. she was upset, felt as though i was gay. Then she said she started watching TS porn and liked it. She was already bisexual and liked women, she found it hot. She also after watching ts porn and reading more about transwoman came to the conclusion a gay male wouldn't want a Transwoman, because they like masculinity. BUT again she made all these conclusions herself. it wasn't untill an argument she threw it in my face "how many of your friends know you fuck trannys huh?" i said " 3 I guess it makes 4 now" lol She stormed out we didnt talk. Then she came over and just jumped on my comp and started watching ts porn.. we talked and got over it. we still are cool on again off again, and she wants a ts threesome. It hasn't happened yet. but yea

[MdR Dave]

I told a woman I used to live with- and sleep with, an ex girlfriend. She knows all my secrets, and has been a good friend and advisor for years now. It was a relationship trouble conversation and she needed all the facts to give me an informed opinion.

Swore her to privacy, as usual. The strain was too much for her, though- she told a mutual friend of ours.

On Facebook. On a three way conversation thread that she forgot I was part of. The mutual friend pointed out that I could see her posts, and my ex asked me to forgive her the breach of trust. I did, but I've given her no secrets since.

The woman she told is awfully cool about it, though, and has been supportive.

[brickcitybrother]

has anyone out there been busted by there partner? girlfriend? she found out that you slept with a ts and was disgusted and left you? was there any way back? how would you explain things to her?

Well... 99% of women are going to question your masculinity, sexuality and probably your sanity. So I would not count on getting the average woman back.

As other posters have indicated, there are women out there that wouldn't have a problem with it (but they are usually very sexually liberated - and most men aren't mentally liberated enough to have a real relationship with them).

Thus, you're left with:
1. Quickly understanding that if you want someone to accept your 'baggage' that you're going to have to accept theirs (which maybe equal or greater than yours);
2. Maintaining a relationship-damaging secret in your relationship that will probably be exposed sooner or later;
3. Hoping to find a pretty penelope pitstop girl who'll accept all of your baggage without having any of her own; or
4. Telling everyone the truth and letting the chips fall where they may.

Sorry you're in this situation ... it'll pass. I know, I've been there and decided to answer the questions of what I've done when asked by someone I care about.

[eccentricBlue]

I think it is less about the past, and more about the dishonesty. Couple the sneakyness with some new information about a person you thought you knew and you can somewhat understand what she is going through. It's a tough situation to be in for both people.

[BeardedOne]

If I had a girlfriend/SO they'd already know this basic fact about me. The only people I deal with that don't know are the kind of people I just don't share personal stuff with anyway. If I had an SO that didn't already know and found out before I told them, they'd most likely get all inquisitive and wonder when I was going to introduce them to some of my TG friends. The social circles I drift in are pretty open-minded and amiable and that's where I'd be most likely to meet an SO in the first place. In fact, it's the same social circles where I'd already met a number of TG people long before I ever discovered the likes of HA and its inherent community.

[Mike11]

i high sex drive isnt an excuse for cheating if you guys didnt agree to an open relationship before hand.
ive had guys tell me that if i wanted a relationship with them that i need to be okay with them not only being attracted to both gg and ts but that i also need to be okay with them satisfying their desire for a gg from time to time.i always reply with i have a big thing for huge dick so i hope your okay with me satisfying that urge from time to time as well lol

I never make any excuses. I just do what feels right and don't feel the need to explain myself to anyone.

[amberskyi]

I never make any excuses. I just do what feels right and don't feel the need to explain myself to anyone.

yea....thats called being an asshole.good luck with that

[rockabilly]

My wife knows about my ex gf being trans the keyword being ex.
She knows I'm faithful to her.

[Mike11]

yea....thats called being an asshole.good luck with that

I am sure you know all about that.

It turns my stomach when idiots like you are always ready to sit on judgement on others. It is very easy to make yourself sound high and mighty in public. God knows what kind of prat you are in real life.

[onThaLow954]

has anyone out there been busted by there partner? girlfriend? she found out that you slept with a ts and was disgusted and left you? was there any way back? how would you explain things to her?

My darkest fear. I've been caught tricking twice with TGs, both times nothing about TG came up when I was confronted but once she actually called the girl. Luckily the girl was fully stealth, had a man she lived with - worked at some office job and you could not tell for shit. Only good thing about being a girls second string dick - she aint gonna try to get you knocked off to have you for herself :) - so the girl just hung up on her.

[giovanni_hotel]

I am sure you know all about that.

It turns my stomach when idiots like you are always ready to sit on judgement on others. It is very easy to make yourself sound high and mighty in public. God knows what kind of prat you are in real life.

How can you be in an exclusive relationship and tell your woman, 'Imma do me. I could give a damn how that makes you feel,'???lol

You can date random women and have that attitude, but I don't see how that works in a LTR.

[BluegrassCat]

My wife knows about my ex gf being trans the keyword being ex.
She knows I'm faithful to her.

You're married now? Damn, it's been a busy couple a years for you.

[Ben]

has anyone out there been busted by there partner? girlfriend? she found out that you slept with a ts and was disgusted and left you? was there any way back? how would you explain things to her?

No. But I told a woman I was close with -- awhile ago -- that I like TG women.
She said that I was gay....
I said, No.
She said, You're in denial.

[AlwaysAda]

dont cheat.. you wont have to worry about it =)

[amberskyi]

How can you be in an exclusive relationship and tell your woman, 'Imma do me. I could give a damn how that makes you feel,'???lol

You can date random women and have that attitude, but I don't see how that works in a LTR.

Right, but i'm wrong for calling him an asshole

[Ryz]

No. But I told a woman I was close with -- awhile ago -- that I like TG women.
She said that I was gay....
I said, No.
She said, You're in denial.

OH MAN! You must be me. Are you me?

[smoothboi]

I haven't slept with a t-girl yet, but I've told 2 gg play partners that I'm interested in dating and having sex with t-girls and they didn't have an issues with it or called me gay.

[Lovecox]

My last GF broke up with me just because I told her I was looking at TS porn and occasionally flirted with one online. I never cheated on her but she couldn't handle it. It broke my heart.

[FreddieGomez]

Most women won't accept this unless she is bi and likes ts herself

Otherwise they will call u a fag even if you aren't the type of dudes who loves dick like some of the dudes on this forum.

[onThaLow954]

Going to make that mistake a second time?


My last GF broke up with me just because I told her I was looking at TS porn and occasionally flirted with one online. I never cheated on her but she couldn't handle it. It broke my heart.

[Mike11]

How can you be in an exclusive relationship and tell your woman, 'Imma do me. I could give a damn how that makes you feel,'???lol

You can date random women and have that attitude, but I don't see how that works in a LTR.

I really do not see on what basis you guys come up with this none sense as to what others can and cannot do. How I conduct myself in a relation ship is none of your business really. There is more to a long term relationship than sexual exclusivity but then again perhaps you have never experienced a relationship. Just keep it shut.

[tsadriana]

:)"your girl friends finds out you slept with a ts"
She grab his balls and says u wont goona do this again are u ?
hahahah:)

[Tyler___Durden]

i high sex drive isnt an excuse for cheating if you guys didnt agree to an open relationship before hand.
ive had guys tell me that if i wanted a relationship with them that i need to be okay with them not only being attracted to both gg and ts but that i also need to be okay with them satisfying their desire for a gg from time to time.i always reply with i have a big thing for huge dick so i hope your okay with me satisfying that urge from time to time as well lol
Totally, what you say Amber.
100%.
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[Tyler___Durden]

has anyone out there been busted by there partner? girlfriend? she found out that you slept with a ts and was disgusted and left you? was there any way back? how would you explain things to her?

What's your story on this and is it anything to do with the Rolex she bought you, which is now missing?

What happened to Martina?