Would I be a good canidate for a transsexual relationship?

[cakeaholic]

I am new to the whole shemale thing, why I find them attractive is they have the sexiness of a woman, but the horny-ness of a guy. I dont know if that sounds weird or not. When looking at them in a sexual way I view them as woman. If I was ever to be any kind of relationship with one I wouldnt be interested in sucking cock, or getting banged in the butt. Do you think that would make the sexual side of a relationship one sided, hence making me not a good candidate for one?

[chefmike]

You forgot to ask "am I gay?"

[David J.]

Let's not be dismissive. I think that is a good question because its not the same as the old "am I gay" thing. The answer ultimately depends on the girl you get with. Some "girls" are women in all ways except what's between their legs; they are total bottoms and don't even acknowledge their penis and don't want you to acknowledge it either. For them SRS is a definite, its just a matter of finance. You may even find escorts who are a "top" for pay but in their relationships wouldn't think about it.

My first tgirl was asian and totally passable (implants, hormones, body sculpturing, the works). We met in a "straight" club and were just about to start f*cking when she let me know. I was hard as hell from the BJ and just decided wtf and went for it. Her penis was so small and limp it didn't matter (at least that's how I rationalized it). I always got oral and anal from her and never even touched her dick, and she was fine with that.

There are also girls that enjoy being "best of both worlds." They enjoy the feminine look but love their cocks too. They like to suck and be sucked, fuck and be fucked. There are alot of horror stories out there about SRS and the loss of sex drive or sensation. As a result, some girls choose to stay the way they are.

The last tgirl I was with was a little more comfortable with her penis and she was fully functional in spite of the hormones. She didn't plan on the final SRS for the above reasons. As a result when we had sex, she would be so excited the pre-cum would be just dripping from it. While receiving anal just ain't my thing, I would hand-job her and on occasion some oral because I wanted to give her pleasure too.

Bottom line is you have to determine what you are willing to do (have done) sexually just like with a GG and find someone who fits that. The closer you are emotionally, the more you might be willing to try.

[David J.]

Follow-up
The hard part is finding a normal tgirl, who is a good candidate for a relationship. If you can get past the fact that she may be (or has been)an escort, you still have other issues that she will be dealing with due to her situation. I can't imagine the psychological turmoil of being "born in the wrong body" and facing society in the wrong body for most of your life. Mix in the hormones and is it any wonder that some are very emotionally unstable and not exactly good "candidates to be involved with?

[hondarobot]

What's the definition of a "normal girl" (or "normal" TS girl)?

A guy should never ask a question like this. It's not fair, rational, or even really sane for that matter, but if a guy want's a girl, he has to chase her and ultimately demonstrate he's the guy for her..

Girls dig that, and us guys still have to accept the very likely reality that whatever we do will be eventually rejected, and then accept that and move on.

But you have to try, and not be a jerk if things don't work out. At the end of the day, it's the girls who hand out the awards to the winners.

Good grief, five more weeks before I can even make my next move on my end. It's going to be a long March/April. . .

[David J.]

If I understand Hondarobot's post, I agree. My point in my first post is that you have to know yourself and what you're comfortable with and find the girl (tgirl or otherwise) that fits that. The chase is always there whether its a tgirl or GG, but at least you should have some idea of what to chase and what to leave alone.

I don't do the escort thing. That's not a criticism of those who do, its just a personal choice for me. As a result, an escort would not be a "good candidate" for me in a relationship.

[hondarobot]

There's nothing wrong with escorts, but I see your point. I've had sex with an escort once, because she was my room mate and it wasn't about money, and it wasn't really very good sex. It was also a threeway, and it just didn't seem right at the time, but she was a really sweet girl.

Oh, and you'll never really have any idea of what to chase and what to leave alone. That's the game.

The girls are the prizes, and they are not easily obtained.

[chefmike]

What's the definition of a "normal girl" (or "normal" TS girl)?

A guy should never ask a question like this. It's not fair, rational, or even really sane for that matter, but if a guy want's a girl, he has to chase her and ultimately demonstrate he's the guy for her..

Girls dig that, and us guys still have to accept the very likely reality that whatever we do will be eventually rejected, and then accept that and move on.

But you have to try, and not be a jerk if things don't work out. At the end of the day, it's the girls who hand out the awards to the winners.

Good grief, five more weeks before I can even make my next move on my end. It's going to be a long March/April. . .

Horseshit! honda, the majority of girls of any kind (GG or TS) want what they can't get, and aren't looking for passive guys who kiss their ass....how many guys in here have been out in public with a girl, then encountered a girl who had previously given them a cool attitude? 9 out of 10 times the cool attitude changes in that scenario, and they're all over you... :roll:

[Quinn]

Horseshit! honda, the majority of girls of any kind (GG or TS) want what they can't get, and aren't looking for passive guys who kiss their ass....

I was going to write a similar response, but was too lazy. Stereotyping aside, two maxims have served me very well over the years:

1) A woman wants what she can't have;
2) A woman wants what another woman has.

That said, why be part of the crowd and throw your self-respect to the wind chasing some woman like a puppy dog? Better to be a man and keep your self-respect. By the way, Honda, this isn’t directed at you, but rather reflects a general statement on common male behavior.

-Quinn

[hondarobot]

Yeah, you guys are probably right. I just keep tilting at the damn windmills.

I want the knight in shining armor scenario, but there are really no princesses to save. . .

Sad, but true.

[RangeHova]

I am new to the whole shemale thing, why I find them attractive is they have the sexiness of a woman, but the horny-ness of a guy. I dont know if that sounds weird or not. When looking at them in a sexual way I view them as woman. If I was ever to be any kind of relationship with one I wouldnt be interested in sucking cock, or getting banged in the butt. Do you think that would make the sexual side of a relationship one sided, hence making me not a good candidate for one?

There are plenty of girls that would love to be with a guy who ain't all dick crazy. But don't assume that a T girl is going to be as horny as a guy. Some are, some aren't. They can be very sexual but it can be different than our kind of horniness. A lot of times these are women with the same emotional needs as women (that goes hand in hand with sex).

There are differences but it depends on the girl.

[reelgurl]

[quote="Quinn"]
1) A woman wants what she can't have;
2) A woman wants what another woman has.

That's very true but it pertains to anything else except for relationships. When it comes to relationships, a woman wants nothing but what she has. She wants ALL OF HIM and suffocates him. While men do the opposite: men wants what he can't have, men wants what other men have - the girl next door, the hottie walking down the street, the porn star in steamy actions, the waitress just serving him lunch, the girl winking at him in the bar... A woman falls easily into slavery of conquest after the intial battles. Men are forever warriors, they move on and find a new target. This is of course stereotyping.