Life is unfair

[BrendaTG]

You know what
Life is unfair...

But at least I am living my life not pretending to be someone else or something I am not....I have been made very unhappy by other people telling me what to do and how to be... I never got the chance to be myself untill now...

And yes I have become different...
I feel and am a woman but socially I was different...
Socially I am different
And I will stay different till the day I die.

And life is unfair...
I know that when I meet a nice guy he will always have to go
though the social conscequences of beeing with a TS...

And I have accepted that most men have unrealistic expectations of me because I am a TS... like wanting to be a bttm with me... or dressing up...

And the one's that are top and straightish... most of them dont want
others to know that they date and or love me...

It is unfair...
But I have accepted it...

At least I am living my life from my heart
In an honest way..

At least Im alive and myself...

I cant help guys choosing the easy way and the easy life out of fear...
But you will never really be able to love me just as I am...
Coz you will be too afraid to love me...

And it is really your loss... not mine...

[Nicole Dupre]

:violin

[lifeisfiction]

:violin
Thats sort of low Nicole.

[Nicole Dupre]

Get real. People just come here for free cock photos. Since when do you guys give a rat's ass about the struggles of a TS? You guys don't give a shit and you know it. Of all places to seek empathy...

OP, I do feel for you to some degree. But you're in the wrong place. This is the wrong crowd. Don't bother showing your vulnerability here. These guys are the last people who give a shit. The best you'll get is some dork who'll patronize you.

[Nicole Dupre]

But you're right. Life is rarely "fair". I've known that since I was 8 or 9 yrs old. But now what?

[BrendaTG]

But you're right. Life is rarely "fair". I've known that since I was 8 or 9 yrs old. But now what?

now nothing...just live it like you do...

it took me a long time not to be angry anymore about the homophobia/transfobia or angry about being a Ts...or about people always going against me instead of lending a helping hand...and longer to accept that most guys that want to be intimate with me are afraid to admit it...like im some lepar...being TS sometimes feels like a criminal record...but a medieval one where they would cut off hands and ears to show the world what you had done...

i think its easier to be gay...coz thats two against the rest of the world..

As a TS you can feel very solo when you with a guy...its you against the rest of the world and he somewhat hiding from it all...

I sometimes wonder if my heart will ever really melt for a guy i like under these conditions...i dont think so.

[lifeisfiction]

Get real. People just come here for free cock photos. Since when do you guys give a rat's ass about the struggles of a TS? You guys don't give a shit and you know it. Of all places to seek empathy...

OP, I do feel for you to some degree. But you're in the wrong place. This is the wrong crowd. Don't bother showing your vulnerability here. These guys are the last people who give a shit. The best you'll get is some dork who'll patronize you.

Just because this a porn forum doesn't mean people can't relate or care for others. Plus you the person who had the violin after she made the statement with no explaination.

[onmyknees]

You know what
Life is unfair...

But at least I am living my life not pretending to be someone else or something I am not....I have been made very unhappy by other people telling me what to do and how to be... I never got the chance to be myself untill now...

And yes I have become different...
I feel and am a woman but socially I was different...
Socially I am different
And I will stay different till the day I die.

And life is unfair...
I know that when I meet a nice guy he will always have to go
though the social conscequences of beeing with a TS...

And I have accepted that most men have unrealistic expectations of me because I am a TS... like wanting to be a bttm with me... or dressing up...

And the one's that are top and straightish... most of them dont want
others to know that they date and or love me...

It is unfair...
But I have accepted it...

At least I am living my life from my heart
In an honest way..

At least Im alive and myself...

I cant help guys choosing the easy way and the easy life out of fear...
But you will never really be able to love me just as I am...
Coz you will be too afraid to love me...

And it is really your loss... not mine...


I'm not minimizing what you're saying in the least....so don't get me wrong....but unfair is an 18 year old kid who for whatever his reasons goes to Afghanistan as a pimple faced kid and 6 months later comes back minus 2 legs and an arm, or a 10 year old kid walking to school in a poor neighborhood who gets caught in a hail of gang gunfire. There's a lot of unfairness out there....I'm glad you seem to have come to terms with yours.

[Wendy Summers]

Get real. People just come here for free cock photos. Since when do you guys give a rat's ass about the struggles of a TS? You guys don't give a shit and you know it. Of all places to seek empathy...

OP, I do feel for you to some degree. But you're in the wrong place. This is the wrong crowd. Don't bother showing your vulnerability here. These guys are the last people who give a shit. The best you'll get is some dork who'll patronize you.

YMMV - Nicole I've found more than a few guys here are actually very genuine... you get back what you put out.

Hrmmm... maybe that's why I get so many cock pics sent to me... :wiggle:

[Rivz]

Get real. People just come here for free cock photos. Since when do you guys give a rat's ass about the struggles of a TS? You guys don't give a shit and you know it. Of all places to seek empathy...

OP, I do feel for you to some degree. But you're in the wrong place. This is the wrong crowd. Don't bother showing your vulnerability here. These guys are the last people who give a shit. The best you'll get is some dork who'll patronize you.


Jaded much? To paraphrase the Comedian Katt Williams. If you're getting a low quality of men, maybe you should check the quality of yourself.
Katt Williams - Ain't Shit Niggaz - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uHw-mOwtlPA)

[Nicole Dupre]

YMMV - Nicole I've found more than a few guys here are actually very genuine... you get back what you put out.

Hrmmm... maybe that's why I get so many cock pics sent to me... :wiggle:
Wendy, I know you want to be well-liked here and to promote a new site. And you seem like a genuinely nice person, so I wish you all the best. But I've had enough cock pictures sent to me to last me a life time. Thousands. Personally I prefer cocks in my bed, in my hands, in my mouth and in my ass. But that's not love or trust. And that's not what the OP wants or needs. That's not what I place importance on either. I can have all the NSA sex I want. Maybe she can as well.

Most guys here are dysfunctional and are not dating material imo. They're sexually confused. They're emotionally numb. The OP is setting herself up for disappointment in a place like this. These guys are mostly spineless closet cases. I wish it wasn't the case, but it really is. They're here for free porn.

[Nicole Dupre]

Jaded much? To paraphrase the Comedian Katt Williams. If you're getting a low quality of men, maybe you should check the quality of yourself.
Katt Williams - Ain't Shit Niggaz - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uHw-mOwtlPA)
I'm sure you find this to be brilliant and witty. Too bad that I won't ever watch it or give a shit. :(

[loveboof]

I really like the original post. I feel like there is something kinda beautiful there - maybe an honesty? (not sure)

And the structure of the comment makes me think it's almost poetry...

[Nicole Dupre]

now nothing...just live it like you do...

it took me a long time not to be angry anymore about the homophobia/transfobia or angry about being a Ts...or about people always going against me instead of lending a helping hand...and longer to accept that most guys that want to be intimate with me are afraid to admit it...like im some lepar...being TS sometimes feels like a criminal record...but a medieval one where they would cut off hands and ears to show the world what you had done...

i think its easier to be gay...coz thats two against the rest of the world..

As a TS you can feel very solo when you with a guy...its you against the rest of the world and he somewhat hiding from it all...

I sometimes wonder if my heart will ever really melt for a guy i like under these conditions...i dont think so.
You need therapy, sister. Not a porn forum. And I'm not saying that to hurt your feelings. I'm saying it to hopefully point you in a better direction.

[Nicole Dupre]

And the structure of the comment makes me think it's almost poetry...
I assumed that it was intended to be.

[loveboof]

I assumed that it was intended to be.

Well if it is, then my 'almost poetry' comment could inadvertently be more offensive than your little violin! lol

Oh well :/

___
It is full of unfinished sentiments and fragmented thoughts. There's an inherent acceptance within the whole tone, but at the same time the mantra-esque structure suggests a lack of confidence in that acceptance! Like it's a very fragile thing - maybe doesn't exist at all? Is this actually more of an affirmation or yearning for acceptance?

[Nicole Dupre]

I shouldn't even bother with this place. I'm as mistaken in my thinking that there's more to it as the OP obviously is.

I'll let you all get back to whatever it is that you do here.

[maaarc]

fair and unfair are concepts of the conscious human mind. they part of humanity's struggle to impose order and meaning on to the "seemly" chaotic material world in which we live.
You may have noticed that your conscious mind is dominated by the ego and chatters incessantly going around and around in circles. If I only had this person or car or house or this much money or some situation I would be happy if only if only if only:) you will never find peace chasing too hard after the things of the material world.

I suggest you simply attempt to live in the present moment. don't hold on too tightly to the things of the material world - money, other people - their expectations or opinions, even ice cream!!!. when you are hungry - eat, when you are tired - sleep. be like water which finds the the way of least resistance and holds on to nothing - it simply flows.

From Alan Watts:


"When you get free from certain fixed concepts of the way the world is, you find it is far more subtle, and far more miraculous, than you thought it was."


I sincerely wish you peace my friend.

[loveboof]

I shouldn't even bother with this place. I'm as mistaken in my thinking that there's more to it as the OP obviously is.

I'll let you all get back to whatever it is that you do here.

This place is meaningless. Why you have any expectations I don't know...

But don't beat yourself up - we all make mistakes :)

[Nautica]

Damn! I live for Nicole! Haha!

[BrendaTG]

I'm not minimizing what you're saying in the least....so don't get me wrong....but unfair is an 18 year old kid who for whatever his reasons goes to Afghanistan as a pimple faced kid and 6 months later comes back minus 2 legs and an arm, or a 10 year old kid walking to school in a poor neighborhood who gets caught in a hail of gang gunfire. There's a lot of unfairness out there....I'm glad you seem to have come to terms with yours.


I did not mean to offend you and of course I have known life is very unfair for a very long time... I dont think I ever have thought is was fair.

But a lot of people do believe that they somehow deserve what is coming to them... They dont know they are lucky. I know my luck. But that was not what I expressed in my post.

Its the huge probablity that I will never have a normal relationship in my life because of the social complications of being a TS. And that is fine and well... I never expected even to end up in the arms of a handsome man... so I am not at all dissapointed...

But when love comes in the picture... when you feel as if you would do anything to be with the other person and then notice that he can't tell you the same thing because of "sociaty" or what others think... it wont really be equal... like two gays or two straight people... This is what complicates being a TS.

And I have come to terms with that now.

[BrendaTG]

Well if it is, then my 'almost poetry' comment could inadvertently be more offensive than your little violin! lol

Oh well :/

___
It is full of unfinished sentiments and fragmented thoughts. There's an inherent acceptance within the whole tone, but at the same time the mantra-esque structure suggests a lack of confidence in that acceptance! Like it's a very fragile thing - maybe doesn't exist at all? Is this actually more of an affirmation or yearning for acceptance?

Haha Loveboof!!!

It was not meant as poetry at all, but your interpretation of it is correct.
These were just my thoughts lol.

I have no talent for language and poetry.

[BrendaTG]

fair and unfair are concepts of the conscious human mind. they part of humanity's struggle to impose order and meaning on to the "seemly" chaotic material world in which we live.
You may have noticed that your conscious mind is dominated by the ego and chatters incessantly going around and around in circles. If I only had this person or car or house or this much money or some situation I would be happy if only if only if only:) you will never find peace chasing too hard after the things of the material world.

I suggest you simply attempt to live in the present moment. don't hold on too tightly to the things of the material world - money, other people - their expectations or opinions, even ice cream!!!. when you are hungry - eat, when you are tired - sleep. be like water which finds the the way of least resistance and holds on to nothing - it simply flows.

From Alan Watts:


"When you get free from certain fixed concepts of the way the world is, you find it is far more subtle, and far more miraculous, than you thought it was."


I sincerely wish you peace my friend.

Thanks for your help and good intentions. :)
Still love isnt really from the material world... :) So it confuses me sometimes anyone would care what others think when it comes to love...
But that's a shallow thing to say...I can understand its difficult for men... and I have to accept that.

Its not like I can do anything to really change that.

[BrendaTG]

I'm sure you find this to be brilliant and witty. Too bad that I won't ever watch it or give a shit. :(


:D
haha

[Jericho]

...And then you die! :shrug

[BrendaTG]

...And then you die! :shrug


Thats the one thing that's fair about life ;)

[BrendaTG]

You need therapy, sister. Not a porn forum. And I'm not saying that to hurt your feelings. I'm saying it to hopefully point you in a better direction.

Thanks, I guess, perhaps.... I wonder if I do need therapy on this subject. Probably. :lol:

[BigBlackMan]

Nicole name one ts on here that care about men. Theres none! The only thing ts care about is the money. Cut the bullshit

[Nicole Dupre]

Nicole name one ts on here that care about men. Theres none! The only thing ts care about is the money. Cut the bullshit
I date men all the time, and not as an escort, moron. In the past I've been in LTRs with men who I've loved and treated like kings. So shove your bitter faggotry up you anonymous ass. You couldn't think your way out of a paper bag on this topic. You're the last person who will understand what's been discussed here. You'll never be satisfied with transsexuals, littleguy, and my guess is you'll NEVER have sex with one either. In fact, tell us all when you last dated or ever had sex with a TS. Better yet, tell us in vivid detail when you've even met a TS.

You're the quintessential closet pervert who doesn't have a pot to piss in. You hate the world, you hate white people, and you'll never amount anything more than a resentful manual labor clown with a vocational school certificate in dollar store frame. Now get back to your big career as a garbage man and STFU, simpleton.

[Nicole Dupre]

I rest my case, moron.

http://www.hungangels.com/vboard/showpost.php?p=1159205&postcount=31

[Jericho]

Enough soul searching already...Someone whack 'em out for the lads! :whistle:

[MrsKellyPierce]

Life is what you make it...there is always something to look on the brighter side about.

If you focus on negativity that will be the outcome

[loveboof]

I have no talent for language and poetry.
Maybe you're better than you think? I liked what you wrote :)


Life is what you make it...there is always something to look on the brighter side about.

If you focus on negativity that will be the outcome
Yes and no. Those starving African kids didn't make their life what it is, and positive thinking isn't exactly going to do much if HIV got all your positivity in utero. lol

But I know what you're saying...

[BrendaTG]

Life is what you make it...there is always something to look on the brighter side about.

If you focus on negativity that will be the outcome

of course thats not true...
im not being negative also...but i dont want to stick my head in the sand and deny everything...

[BigBlackMan]

I date men all the time, and not as an escort, moron. In the past I've been in LTRs with men who I've loved and treated like kings. So shove your bitter faggotry up you anonymous ass. You couldn't think your way out of a paper bag on this topic. You're the last person who will understand what's been discussed here. You'll never be satisfied with transsexuals, littleguy, and my guess is you'll NEVER have sex with one either. In fact, tell us all when you last dated or ever had sex with a TS. Better yet, tell us in vivid detail when you've even met a TS.

You're the quintessential closet pervert who doesn't have a pot to piss in. You hate the world, you hate white people, and you'll never amount anything more than a resentful manual labor clown with a vocational school certificate in dollar store frame. Now get back to your big career as a garbage man and STFU, simpleton.

Quick go run to the mods to get me banned. Fucking pussy

[rydermorrison]

Quick go run to the mods to get me banned. Fucking pussy

^trash.

[Nicole Dupre]

Quick go run to the mods to get me banned. Fucking pussy
Awwww. What happened? Did I hit a few sore spots? lol Pooooor pooooooor, littleguy. Tisk tisk... lol

[eccentricBlue]

Please excuse me for only reading the original post, but screw everybody else. Don't let anyone get you down, & embrace our difference!

[Tyler___Durden]

You know what
Life is unfair...
But at least I am living my life not pretending to be someone else or something I am not....I have been made very unhappy by other people telling me what to do and how to be... I never got the chance to be myself untill now...
And yes I have become different...
I feel and am a woman but socially I was different...
Socially I am different
And I will stay different till the day I die.
And life is unfair...
I know that when I meet a nice guy he will always have to go
though the social conscequences of beeing with a TS...
And I have accepted that most men have unrealistic expectations of me because I am a TS... like wanting to be a bttm with me... or dressing up...
And the one's that are top and straightish... most of them dont want
others to know that they date and or love me...
It is unfair...
But I have accepted it...
At least I am living my life from my heart
In an honest way..
At least Im alive and myself...
I cant help guys choosing the easy way and the easy life out of fear...
But you will never really be able to love me just as I am...
Coz you will be too afraid to love me...
And it is really your loss... not mine...
And this is news?
Either you researched transition type stuff, prior to transition,
and then went ahead, fully aware of potential downsides
or
you didn't research transition type stuff, prior to transition,
(called a "Lack of Due-Dilgence" in corporate-speak)
and blindly went ahead.

Either de-transition if it is so awful
or work through stuff. (It gets better/normal)

Plus try to focus on the positives: You get Tits!
Just how cool is that?