@Ladies: Admirers Who Don't Like Dick.

[GrimFusion]

Do you find it odd when guys are obviously interested, but have no intention of providing blowjobs or ever being a bottom?

Would you consider that prude or selfish, or do you find it commendable and prefer those type of guys over men with dick fetishes and closeted homoerotic tendencies?

Do you think guys like that honestly exist, or do you think it's a huge mind-screw reserved to protect reputation and image?

If you ended up 'hitting it off' with a guy and there's enough chemistry to consider a relationship but he tells you he doesn't feel comfortable getting down like that unless things get serious, is that a deal breaker?

Would you rather deal with two or three months of shitty, selfish sex with a guy while he's getting more emotionally involved with you, or end up with guys who's intentions are unclear so long as it guaranteed mutual sexual satisfaction?

I'd really be surprised if anyone came away from this topic with any kind of standard or clear consensus. Answers are obviously going to vary from chick to chick, but I thought it'd be an interesting discussion.

[Token Williams-Black]

Why does it have to be a guy who likes Tgirls HAS to like sucking dick? I for one don't suck dick, nor bottom. It's just not me. If gigolos refuse to believe that, then fuck 'em.

[GrimFusion]

Why does it have to be a guy who likes Tgirls HAS to like sucking dick? I for one don't suck dick, nor bottom. It's just not me. If gigolos refuse to believe that, then fuck 'em.

I didn't say that. It's just not generally acceptable to refuse sexual reciprocation to anybody. I'm sure there are at least a few ladies around here that feel if they're going to suck a dick, the least the guy can do is give back a little. I could certainly understand if a few of them even thought a lack of reciprocation was creepy.

[maddygirl]

Do you find it odd when guys are obviously interested, but have no intention of providing blowjobs or ever being a bottom?

Would you consider that prude or selfish, or do you find it commendable and prefer those type of guys over men with dick fetishes and closeted homoerotic tendencies?

Do you think guys like that honestly exist, or do you think it's a huge mind-screw reserved to protect reputation and image?

If you ended up 'hitting it off' with a guy and there's enough chemistry to consider a relationship but he tells you he doesn't feel comfortable getting down like that unless things get serious, is that a deal breaker?

Would you rather deal with two or three months of shitty, selfish sex with a guy while he's getting more emotionally involved with you, or end up with guys who's intentions are unclear so long as it guaranteed mutual sexual satisfaction?

I'd really be surprised if anyone came away from this topic with any kind of standard or clear consensus. Answers are obviously going to vary from chick to chick, but I thought it'd be an interesting discussion.
I'd actually prefer that he wasn't interested in dick. Personally, for me, its a huge turn off if a guy likes dick on trans girls or anyone really. If I met this guy years ago and my SRS was way off and we really got along well I would hope when I told him I'm trans that he'd be willing to wait until after the op until we had sex and stuff. But that's just me, and I do think it's great how some girls can be comfortable pre-operatively, but I think whatever the case may be... if the guy is just into the dick, I doubt he's "straight" anyway and that's another thing the girl may want to take into account.

[FreddieGomez]

Some trannys don;t like it and those are my kind of chicks,.

the rest can have ya'll dudes that are willing,.

also if ever possible, i would still date a pre-op who wanted srs and i'd also date a post-op.

[GrimFusion]

I'd actually prefer that he wasn't interested in dick. Personally, for me, its a huge turn off if a guy likes dick on trans girls or anyone really. If I met this guy years ago and my SRS was way off and we really got along well I would hope when I told him I'm trans that he'd be willing to wait until after the op until we had sex and stuff. But that's just me, and I do think it's great how some girls can be comfortable pre-operatively, but I think whatever the case may be... if the guy is just into the dick, I doubt he's "straight" anyway and that's another thing the girl may want to take into account.

I'm sure going completely celibate kinda blows, but I'd imagine it's a little easier when you have personal reservations. Good luck finding a dude willing to give up sex because you have personal reservations, though. I'm certain there are guys out there willing to stay celebrate for you, but they're either psychotic or lying. Best you just keep away from dating until SRS me thinks.

[TatianaSummer]

I think those are very few and if I was straight I would totally go for those kind of guys!

[onmyknees]

some trannys don;t like it and those are my kind of chicks,.

The rest can have ya'll dudes that are willing,.

Also if ever possible, i would still date a pre-op who wanted srs and i'd also date a post-op.


lmao...

[maddygirl]

I'm sure going completely celibate kinda blows, but I'd imagine it's a little easier when you have personal reservations. Good luck finding a dude willing to give up sex because you have personal reservations, though. I'm certain there are guys out there willing to stay celebrate for you, but they're either psychotic or lying. Best you just keep away from dating until SRS me thinks.
Lol yeah I agree, I wouldn't even expect a guy to. But yea, that's what I've been doing, just avoiding dating altogether because it's just too much of a confusing situation on top of the no-sex thing. But, I'm getting SRS in a couple months, so this is only a temporary reservation of mine, one which I can wait out for sure. :)

[Token Williams-Black]

I'd actually prefer that he wasn't interested in dick. Personally, for me, its a huge turn off if a guy likes dick on trans girls or anyone really. If I met this guy years ago and my SRS was way off and we really got along well I would hope when I told him I'm trans that he'd be willing to wait until after the op until we had sex and stuff. But that's just me, and I do think it's great how some girls can be comfortable pre-operatively, but I think whatever the case may be... if the guy is just into the dick, I doubt he's "straight" anyway and that's another thing the girl may want to take into account.
My kind of girl. When are you taking the next rocket to Earth so I can meet you? :D

[BellaBellucci]

Top gentlemen only, please. xo

~BB~

[onmyknees]

Top gentlemen only, please. xo

~BB~

Bella...you look special. Like the hair. All this time away from HA has done a body good

[BellaBellucci]

Bella...you look special. Like the hair. All this time away from HA has done a body good

Muchoz grassy azz.

~BB~

[maddygirl]

My kind of girl. When are you taking the next rocket to Earth so I can meet you? :D
Bahaha after I find Marvin the Martian :D

[Chase_Mcthirsty]

I'm sure going completely celibate kinda blows, but I'd imagine it's a little easier when you have personal reservations. Good luck finding a dude willing to give up sex because you have personal reservations, though. I'm certain there are guys out there willing to stay celebrate for you, but they're either psychotic or lying. Best you just keep away from dating until SRS me thinks.

Yeah...or they're usually the guys who have to take those blue pills. Otherwise I don't thinks its even fair to have a guy wait that long.

And all that gay talk is just a scare tactic. You either are a woman or you're not. SRS recycles most of that penis and sack tissue to make the vagina anyway. So it's still present. That said my sexuality will not be questioned by some dizzy chick who hates what she sees in the mirror. Especially when they act like something is wrong with you for being attracted to their ass. (trust that the appeal falters once she opens her mouth to speak)

[Chase_Mcthirsty]

Some trannys don;t like it and those are my kind of chicks,.

the rest can have ya'll dudes that are willing,.

also if ever possible, i would still date a pre-op who wanted srs and i'd also date a post-op.

I think I'll have both, that's the convenience in having options.

[Chase_Mcthirsty]

My kind of girl. When are you taking the next rocket to Earth so I can meet you? :D

Huh.....talk about living in blue ball heaven.

[Dino Velvet]

As far as T-Girls I see escorts so I can order a la carte. Hold the sausage and make your funhole extra greasy, please.

[GrimFusion]

Yeah...or they're usually the guys who have to take those blue pills. Otherwise I don't thinks its even fair to have a guy wait that long.

And all that gay talk is just a scare tactic. You either are a woman or you're not. SRS recycles most of that penis and sack tissue to make the vagina anyway. So it's still present. That said my sexuality will not be questioned by some dizzy chick who hates what she sees in the mirror. Especially when they act like something is wrong with you for being attracted to their ass. (trust that the appeal falters once she opens her mouth to speak)


Jesus, dude. Chill out. Nobody was attacking you, and bringing up the whole 'recycled penis' bit isn't exactly comforting to someone looking forward to SRS. The only person questioning your sexuality is you; and jumping the gun before anybody calls you out personally... well, that has other forum readers assuming things about your insecurities you may not want them to.

[BellaBellucci]

Jesus, dude. Chill out. Nobody was attacking you, and bringing up the whole 'recycled penis' bit isn't exactly comforting to someone looking forward to SRS. The only person questioning your sexuality is you; and jumping the gun before anybody calls you out personally... well, that has other forum readers assuming things about your insecurities you may not want them to.

I'm so glad you post here. :werd:

~BB~

[GrimFusion]

As far as T-Girls I see escorts so I can order a la carte. Hold the sausage and make your funhole extra greasy, please.

That sounds like fun. Too bad I'm all goody-goody monogamous and shit.
*le sigh*

[maddygirl]

Yeah...or they're usually the guys who have to take those blue pills. Otherwise I don't thinks its even fair to have a guy wait that long.

And all that gay talk is just a scare tactic. You either are a woman or you're not. SRS recycles most of that penis and sack tissue to make the vagina anyway. So it's still present. That said my sexuality will not be questioned by some dizzy chick who hates what she sees in the mirror. Especially when they act like something is wrong with you for being attracted to their ass. (trust that the appeal falters once she opens her mouth to speak)


There's nothing wrong with a girl wanting a vagina. You're right.. you're either a woman or not.. and I'm a woman...one who happens to want a vagina and to feel like my body is as much like an other ordinary girl as possible. There's nothing weird about that or having those feelings. You have the right to like what you like (pre-op, post-op, etc.). I don't see anything wrong with it, but realize that some of us want to have sex like ordinary women and want guys who see us that way too.. didn't mean to offend you...

[buttslinger]

I left my Endocrinology degree in my other pants-isn't a penis just a testosteroned up clitoris? Are you down or what???

[GrimFusion]

I'm so glad you post here. :werd:

~BB~
GET ON YIM, WOMAN! After all that mess on FB and your relative absence around here lately, I'm kinda worried about ya. Oh, and ditto. I wouldn't be on HA nearly as much if you weren't around.

[BellaBellucci]

GET ON YIM, WOMAN! After all that mess on FB and your relative absence around here lately, I'm kinda worried about ya. Oh, and ditto. I wouldn't be on HA nearly as much if you weren't around.

All of my accounts are logged in. :?

~BB~

[broncofan]

I'm so glad you post here. :werd:

~BB~
That post was exactly what you wanted to hear and he might have anticipated as much before writing it;)

[BellaBellucci]

That post was exactly what you wanted to hear and he might have anticipated as much before writing it;)

Maybe, but I don't care. On point is on point, for whatever the reason!

~BB~

[Chase_Mcthirsty]

Jesus, dude. Chill out. Nobody was attacking you, and bringing up the whole 'recycled penis' bit isn't exactly comforting to someone looking forward to SRS. The only person questioning your sexuality is you; and jumping the gun before anybody calls you out personally... well, that has other forum readers assuming things about your insecurities you may not want them to.

Wow you're going to sit here and play both sides of the fence after that snide ass comment you just made?

Was it "comforting" for you to remind her how low her chances were in finding a guy who was celibate in the first place only to turn into a fake peace maker when I'm only stating facts? F.Y.I. the formalities of S.R.S. aren't confidential. I'm sure she and everyone else with a search button are aware of how the procedure works for the most part. So please get your facts straight before you play villain turned superhero.

She said (on a TS site mind you) that most guys that would be interested in her dick are gay. So how is that jumping the gun?

I'm glad we had this discussion though.... You'r only as good as the post you write on these forums and switching from being condescending one minute to Captain Charisma the next doesn't speak to well of your character.

I'll make a mental note of that. Continue on with your thread.

[BellaBellucci]

Wow you're going to sit here and play both sides of the fence after that snide ass comment you just made?

Was it "comforting" for you to remind her how low her chances were in finding a guy who was celibate in the first place only to turn into a fake peace maker when I'm only stating facts? F.Y.I. the formalities of S.R.S. aren't confidential. I'm sure she and everyone else with a search button are aware of how the procedure works for the most part. So please get your facts straight before you play villain turned superhero.

She said (on a TS site mind you) that most guys that would be interested in her dick are gay. So how is that jumping the gun?

I'm glad we had this discussion though.... You'r only as good as the post you write on these forums and switching from being condescending one minute to Captain Charisma the next doesn't speak to well of your character.

I'll make a mental note of that. Continue on with your thread.

#trollbait

~BB~

[Chase_Mcthirsty]

There's nothing wrong with a girl wanting a vagina. You're right.. you're either a woman or not.. and I'm a woman...one who happens to want a vagina and to feel like my body is as much like an other ordinary girl as possible. There's nothing weird about that or having those feelings. You have the right to like what you like (pre-op, post-op, etc.). I don't see anything wrong with it, but realize that some of us want to have sex like ordinary women and want guys who see us that way too.. didn't mean to offend you...

I apologize if I offended you. Please disregard my previous post. Unlike the OP at least I know where you stand and despite my initial post I can truly respect that.

So I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors.

[maddygirl]

Wow you're going to sit here and play both sides of the fence after that snide ass comment you just made?

Was it "comforting" for you to remind her how low her chances were in finding a guy who was celibate in the first place only to turn into a fake peace maker when I'm only stating facts? F.Y.I. the formalities of S.R.S. aren't confidential. I'm sure she and everyone else with a search button are aware of how the procedure works for the most part. So please get your facts straight before you play villain turned superhero.

She said (on a TS site mind you) that most guys that would be interested in her dick are gay. So how is that jumping the gun?

I'm glad we had this discussion though.... You'r only as good as the post you write on these forums and switching from being condescending one minute to Captain Charisma the next doesn't speak to well of your character.

I'll make a mental note of that. Continue on with your thread.
That's not what I said. I said guys who are JUST into the dick... "cockhounds" aren't exactly straight in my eyes as it seems like they're just closeted homosexuals... which I have no interest in. I don't think you or any other guy having sex with a pre-op trans girl is gay.. it's just not what I prefer for myself.

[GrimFusion]

I left my Endocrinology degree in my other pants-isn't a penis just a testosteroned up clitoris? Are you down or what???

Kinda. Not really? I'm pretty straight, man. I loves me some anal, though. I don't get any sort of enjoyment out of sucking dick, and getting topped is just painful. If I'm emotionally invested and it's requested, I'd do it to get her off; but if it's just some casual sex deal, fuck that. I'm just not comfortable with it.

[Chase_Mcthirsty]

That's not what I said. I said guys who are JUST into the dick... "cockhounds" aren't exactly straight in my eyes as it seems like they're just closeted homosexuals... which I have no interest in. I don't think you or any other guy having sex with a pre-op trans girl is gay.. it's just not what I prefer for myself.

Then again I apologize. There's a lot of things I misjudged in this thread but I wont subject you with it any further.

[GrimFusion]

Wow you're going to sit here and play both sides of the fence after that snide ass comment you just made?

Was it "comforting" for you to remind her how low her chances were in finding a guy who was celibate in the first place only to turn into a fake peace maker when I'm only stating facts? F.Y.I. the formalities of S.R.S. aren't confidential. I'm sure she and everyone else with a search button are aware of how the procedure works for the most part. So please get your facts straight before you play villain turned superhero.

She said (on a TS site mind you) that most guys that would be interested in her dick are gay. So how is that jumping the gun?

I'm glad we had this discussion though.... You'r only as good as the post you write on these forums and switching from being condescending one minute to Captain Charisma the next doesn't speak to well of your character.

I'll make a mental note of that. Continue on with your thread.

I made a snide-ass comment? I'll admit that I'm blunt as fuck... even bordering on rude at times, but I never meant Maddy any kind of disrespect. I wasn't inferring that she'll never find a relationship; only what she already knew. Relationships probably aren't good news for her until SRS. I'm sure once she's willing, dude's will be lining up.

I don't need you to school me on the formalities of SRS. I'm already aware. I just couldn't help but equate the majority of your post to heckling. Maddy had just said she's looking forward to SRS. If I read your post wrong, my apologies, but it seemed to infer "You'll still have a dick. You'll never be a woman! Ha ha.", and that's fuckin' disrespectful. Way disrespectful. Fact or not, it's certainly not a friendly conversation starter and I don't believe you ever intended it to be.

You apologized to her and she seems to have accepted, so there's no need for me to be any flavor of uppity with you about it anymore. You usually don't make dick-head comments like that, so I'm willing to sweep this under the proverbial rug. Just please try to be a little more context-aware next time.

[LovinThaTSLadiez]

Yeah...or they're usually the guys who have to take those blue pills. Otherwise I don't thinks its even fair to have a guy wait that long.

And all that gay talk is just a scare tactic. You either are a woman or you're not. SRS recycles most of that penis and sack tissue to make the vagina anyway. So it's still present. That said my sexuality will not be questioned by some dizzy chick who hates what she sees in the mirror. Especially when they act like something is wrong with you for being attracted to their ass. (trust that the appeal falters once she opens her mouth to speak)


LOL! Well said. "I hate myself, and you too for liking me. You must be gay." "Wait, but aren't you a woman with or without that something extra?" :hide-1: That conversation is oh so confusing.

[gurkhabeast]

i consider myself str8. i love gg's and i love tgurls. i understand tgurls who don't like men to suck their dick. it's the same as a gg who does not like it when a man goes down on them. i don't understand it but i respect them for it. would i go out w/ a gg who doesn't like to be licked? the answer is no. i love to orally please my partners. i love to suck tgurl dick. it gives me pleasure and i give pleasure. i consider tgurls as WOMEN and nothing else and pleasing my woman is what i like to do. besides, we are All Born Bisexual as Sigmund Freud Thought. and to say to guy he's gay or homesexual because he likes tgurl dick, is just hatefull and mean. to label a man or woman because of that is just [lain wrong. gays, be it male, female or transgender is hard enough as it is in our society.

[GrimFusion]

besides, we are All Born Bisexual as Sigmund Freud Thought. and to say to guy he's gay or homesexual because he likes tgurl dick, is just hatefull and mean. to label a man or woman because of that is just [lain wrong. gays, be it male, female or transgender is hard enough as it is in our society.

Freud was a crackpot who did too much coke. If you've ever done coke, it makes you psycho-analytic and horny. People aren't all born bisexual. Kids usually don't think about sex until they near puberty, so how can a newborn be of any defined sexual orientation?

Otherwise, yeah... you're right, but why take offense to something you know isn't true? I understand defending yourself, but over sexual orientation? So long as you're into transsexuals, there's always going to be some butthole who thinks you're gay. So long as those buttholes aren't standing between you and something you want, why worry?

[Mayrah]

Kinda. Not really? I'm pretty straight, man. I loves me some anal, though. I don't get any sort of enjoyment out of sucking dick, and getting topped is just painful. If I'm emotionally invested and it's requested, I'd do it to get her off; but if it's just some casual sex deal, fuck that. I'm just not comfortable with it.

I like the way your thinking, its so openminded. :tongue:

[Token Williams-Black]

Kinda. Not really? I'm pretty straight, man. I loves me some anal, though. I don't get any sort of enjoyment out of sucking dick, and getting topped is just painful. If I'm emotionally invested and it's requested, I'd do it to get her off; but if it's just some casual sex deal, fuck that. I'm just not comfortable with it.

When you put it that way, I'm in total agreement. I just haven't been around too many girls who require it.

If I had a significant other, yes I would go down on her...IF she wanted me to. I have no problem with that.

[GrimFusion]

I like the way your thinking, its so openminded. :tongue:
Ha... yeah. I see your point. Everyone's got their own preferences and reservations; I obviously have my own. At least I don't knock other people for theirs.

[BrendaTG]

Kinda. Not really? I'm pretty straight, man. I loves me some anal, though. I don't get any sort of enjoyment out of sucking dick, and getting topped is just painful. If I'm emotionally invested and it's requested, I'd do it to get her off; but if it's just some casual sex deal, fuck that. I'm just not comfortable with it.


Hi Grimmy!

Well you are my kind of guy then...
A guy that is top and has no particular interest in my cock is OK with me..
Yet, I dont mind it when they are into TS, and I do not hate myself or my body...Its just a preference... I like to be the girl outside the bedroom and inside the bedroom :).

I dont mind it though when a guy likes to see me get hard or touches me there ocassionaly....as long as he is more interested in my ass, then its fine :)

I love the guys that are Top and into TS.
And I have no interest in bttms coz I wont ever top.
Bisexual men are OK! As long as their sexual behavior is not too gay.

A lot of Tlovers are bisexual but have a gay sexuality when they are with a Tgirl and that simply does not work with me.

[Nicole Dupre]

lmao...
I know you always just run away like a little fairy when someone asks you a direct question. But seriously, why are you so pre-occupied with Freddie's sexuality? Why don't you just ask him if you can suck his dick, let him reject you, and move on with your closeted life? What is it now? Like, 3 years of your smug "lol" and "lmao" reactions to everything Freddie states about his sexuality? God forbid you explain to all of us what exactly YOU like to do sexually. :loser:

[giovanni_hotel]

SHit is too complicated. I can give a hypothetical where possibly I would bottom, but I don't see that happening and I have no impulse to do so.

I'd label myself as a top dominant with oral tendencies, not sure if that's 'hound'ish or not. I try not to impose my sexuality on others, but I still find it odd that guys who are sexually/emotionally attracted to TGs are off-limits on her genitalia.

To men it's like a guy being into a GG with big tits, but refuses to suck her nipples. Or a guy who loves to fuck pussy but thinks going down on a wet pussy disgusting.

Just sounds conflicted to me.

There's so many different sub-categories of trans-attracted men it gets confusing.
If you broach the subject of fucking a Black woman in the ass for instance, from that moment onward she's going think you're DL with other men. So much bullshit.

If anything, being on this board has made me more tolerant of other dude's inclinations since in the civilian world we are all FAGGOTS.lol

[MrsKellyPierce]

Never net one and would never want to

I have no need for selfish lovers

I like cumming - make that love cumming

And most guys don't know how to fuck a ass to make you cum

[Silcc69]

I see something's don't change. I have no issues with sucking dick or eating ass. I luv doing that shit. But yeah getting fucked is not my thing at all. I would not ask a gg to fuck and I wouldn't ask a tg to fuck me.

[brickcitybrother]

I'd actually prefer that he wasn't interested in dick. Personally, for me, its a huge turn off if a guy likes dick on trans girls or anyone really. If I met this guy years ago and my SRS was way off and we really got along well I would hope when I told him I'm trans that he'd be willing to wait until after the op until we had sex and stuff. But that's just me, and I do think it's great how some girls can be comfortable pre-operatively, but I think whatever the case may be... if the guy is just into the dick, I doubt he's "straight" anyway and that's another thing the girl may want to take into account.


Ready up here... I'm not interesting in being a bottom (even once). Nor do I see dick and think to myself (I'd love to have that in my mouth). I like pretty and soft and ... well to be honest curves! Hence my love of slightly larger ladies. But that's another story.

[GrimFusion]

SHit is too complicated. I can give a hypothetical where possibly I would bottom, but I don't see that happening and I have no impulse to do so.

I'd label myself as a top dominant with oral tendencies, not sure if that's 'hound'ish or not. I try not to impose my sexuality on others, but I still find it odd that guys who are sexually/emotionally attracted to TGs are off-limits on her genitalia.

To men it's like a guy being into a GG with big tits, but refuses to suck her nipples. Or a guy who loves to fuck pussy but thinks going down on a wet pussy disgusting.

Just sounds conflicted to me.

There's so many different sub-categories of trans-attracted men it gets confusing.
If you broach the subject of fucking a Black woman in the ass for instance, from that moment onward she's going think you're DL with other men. So much bullshit.

If anything, being on this board has made me more tolerant of other dude's inclinations since in the civilian world we are all FAGGOTS.lol

Well said, and I'd agree that it's is confusing and conflicted. I can't easily explain why I have hangups. It's not like I'm afraid of dick or homophobic in any regard. I don't think prudishness is the issue either. There's certainly no universal explanation that applies to every guy with the same kind of sexual preferences.

It is pretty backward, but I think a part of the problem stems from experiences I've had. I don't like getting head if it doesn't lead anywhere. I've never busted off of a blowjob alone, but I've been with women that want to call it quits afterward like giving me blueballs just did me a favor. If I can't always guarantee I can make a chick bust by beating her balls-deep in the butt-puss, I certainly don't want to give her head, get her hard, and leave her that way. I'd feel really guilty about that. More over, giving head doesn't do anything for me, so if I can avoid complication by avoiding blowjobs and there are tgirls out there that don't want them anyway, guess what camp I'm chillin' in?

Right about now, you're probably thinking something along the lines of "you're really only considering your experiences and opinions, but not hers". You're right, but that's what hangups are. It's not written in stone; it's not like I'd never consider giving a blow job, but things had better be comfortable enough that if I screw everything up, I'm not leaving feeling like a completely useless mother fu**er. The only way I can clearly guarantee that is to be in some kind of a relationship first.

I can tell you what it isn't. I've never been the type to flip out over labels. If giving head makes a dude gay, and I were to decide to give a chick head, I guess I'm gay. I don't really have issue with that. Social and peer opinion isn't a deterrent, but my sexual preferences are. I'm not one of those immature guys who claim to disregard what everybody else thinks of me. People judge. That's just human nature; and ill-judgement can have a profoundly negative effect. I do care what other people think about me, but not when it comes to my sexuality. My business; not theirs.

[archineer]

Jeez, everyone's so hung up. Who gives a fuck!

[FreddieGomez]

I know you always just run away like a little fairy when someone asks you a direct question. But seriously, why are you so pre-occupied with Freddie's sexuality? Why don't you just ask him if you can suck his dick, let him reject you, and move on with your closeted life? What is it now? Like, 3 years of your smug "lol" and "lmao" reactions to everything Freddie states about his sexuality? God forbid you explain to all of us what exactly YOU like to do sexually. :loser:

the dude is a poster stalker

bwahahaha

[robertlouis]

Well said, and I'd agree that it's is confusing and conflicted. I can't easily explain why I have hangups. It's not like I'm afraid of dick or homophobic in any regard. I don't think prudishness is the issue either. There's certainly no universal explanation that applies to every guy with the same kind of sexual preferences.

It is pretty backward, but I think a part of the problem stems from experiences I've had. I don't like getting head if it doesn't lead anywhere. I've never busted off of a blowjob alone, but I've been with women that want to call it quits afterward like giving me blueballs just did me a favor. If I can't always guarantee I can make a chick bust by beating her balls-deep in the butt-puss, I certainly don't want to give her head, get her hard, and leave her that way. I'd feel really guilty about that. More over, giving head doesn't do anything for me, so if I can avoid complication by avoiding blowjobs and there are tgirls out there that don't want them anyway, guess what camp I'm chillin' in?

Right about now, you're probably thinking something along the lines of "you're really only considering your experiences and opinions, but not hers". You're right, but that's what hangups are. It's not written in stone; it's not like I'd never consider giving a blow job, but things had better be comfortable enough that if I screw everything up, I'm not leaving feeling like a completely useless mother fu**er. The only way I can clearly guarantee that is to be in some kind of a relationship first.

I can tell you what it isn't. I've never been the type to flip out over labels. If giving head makes a dude gay, and I were to decide to give a chick head, I guess I'm gay. I don't really have issue with that. Social and peer opinion isn't a deterrent, but my sexual preferences are. I'm not one of those immature guys who claim to disregard what everybody else thinks of me. People judge. That's just human nature; and ill-judgement can have a profoundly negative effect. I do care what other people think about me, but not when it comes to my sexuality. My business; not theirs.

Grim, I don't know what you actually do for a living, but you could do a lot of good as a sex counsellor or therapist. One of those rare souls on HA who always talks common sense.

[GrimFusion]

Grim, I don't know what you actually do for a living, but you could do a lot of good as a sex counsellor or therapist. One of those rare souls on HA who always talks common sense.
I don't know about all that, man. I appreciate the props, but I make some pretty bad decisions from time to time. I can hand out good advice, but I can't seem to advise myself real well. lol.

[broncofan]

I don't know about all that, man. I appreciate the props, but I make some pretty bad decisions from time to time. I can hand out good advice, but I can't seem to advise myself real well. lol.
That sounds like every therapist I've ever had:)

[robertlouis]

I don't know about all that, man. I appreciate the props, but I make some pretty bad decisions from time to time. I can hand out good advice, but I can't seem to advise myself real well. lol.

Hey, don't worry about it. I've been playing and singing for a living for years, but if someone asked me to teach them guitar I wouldn't know where to start - never had a lesson myself.

You're too modest.

[gurkhabeast]

Freud was a crackpot who did too much coke. If you've ever done coke, it makes you psycho-analytic and horny. People aren't all born bisexual. Kids usually don't think about sex until they near puberty, so how can a newborn be of any defined sexual orientation?

Otherwise, yeah... you're right, but why take offense to something you know isn't true? I understand defending yourself, but over sexual orientation? So long as you're into transsexuals, there's always going to be some butthole who thinks you're gay. So long as those buttholes aren't standing between you and something you want, why worry?

your right about Freud. i added that to make a point. the point is very simple, you like what you like, and no one has the right to judge anyone for what they like. to label someone is just plain ignorant. it's sex people, it's about fun and pleasure. making your partner feel good. and not having to think about crap. it's a time to lose yourself in each other's embrace.