What it's like to be a t-girl

[Rinzler]

Hey, new user here, first time poster>

I've applied to do a course in anthropology, and since I'm attracted to transwomen, I'm interested in studying subcultures, specifically the transgender community, particularly those involved in the adult industry, pornography and escorting.

What I would like to write about is self-perception, how t-girls in these businesses feel about themselves.

There is far too much focus on how admirers feel about themselves, (how many million "Am I gay?" threads are there) and so few about the girls. I would like to find out about the girls here.

Anyone who would like to tell me about their own experiences, please, write away. Or if you'd like to share privately, send me a pm. Anything you tell me will be kept completely private. I am just doing this as background research for my thesis...think of it like an actor playing a fireman who works as a fireman so that his portrayal isn't bullshit.

I don't want anything I write to be bullshit, I want to write about how t-girls really feel about themselves.

So anyways, pm or contribute if you'd like to tell us guys what it's like, the ups and the downs.

[Human-After-All]

I think maybe it would make more sense if you posted in a transgender forum, LGBT or something. This forum is specifically aimed at admirers as far as I can tell.

I know there are shemales who post here, but they usually post to advertise videos and photoshoots and stuff.

Dia duit by the way!

[Wendy Summers]

I think maybe it would make more sense if you posted in a transgender forum, LGBT or something. This forum is specifically aimed at admirers as far as I can tell.

I know there are shemales who post here, but they usually post to advertise videos and photoshoots and stuff.

Dia duit by the way!

I was going to say he'd probably get a better response if he offered to pay for the girl's time... but I already seem like an insanely money grubbing bitch, so... :wiggle:

[Rivz]

How does it feel to live your life based in the physical. Always trying to match whats inside your head, to whats outside of it. Always judging yourself, never sure quite where you belong. Needing money to fuel your desire to be who you want to be so you turn to things like escorting, or porn. Never able to trust who you love, does your lover love you because of you, or because of what you are.

I would imagine it's not that great of life, but to some they overcome, and sometimes even thrive and to those I salute you. But for every success story here, there are hundreds of girls who probably don't have that great of life. It's those girls stories that need to be told.

[Jamie French]

Wow... just blatantly assuming a whole buttload of stuff right off the bat. Got it all figured out do ya?

Dude, we're just people. Gender issues take up a more of our time than they might other people but nowhere near as much as you're making it out to be. All of those negative/melodramatic connotations just reads like you are projecting, (or secretly wishing?) Either way, you have it all wrong. Armchair psychology is way out of vogue and you aren't very good at it anyhow.

I spend the majority of my time making sure bills are paid, dishes are washed and seeing to it that the cat has enough food to keep him at bay, (he knows where I sleep.)
I can assure you that I know enough of "us" to safely say that these are the kinds of activities and routines that most of us go through on a day to day basis.

How does it feel to live your life imagining the personal experiences of people who you've never met?

Sheesh.


How does it feel to live your life based in the physical. Always trying to match whats inside your head, to whats outside of it. Always judging yourself, never sure quite where you belong. Needing money to fuel your desire to be who you want to be so you turn to things like escorting, or porn. Never able to trust who you love, does your lover love you because of you, or because of what you are.

I would imagine it's not that great of life, but to some they overcome, and sometimes even thrive and to those I salute you. But for every success story here, there are hundreds of girls who probably don't have that great of life. It's those girls stories that need to be told.

[TatianaSummer]

I love it! Zero dramas in my life, total control and keep getting better!
Proud to be a TS.

[Prospero]

Rinzler - there are thousands of postings on this forum alone which discuss aspects of being transgendered. Suggest you red them and then address some rather more specific questions to the more articulate and thoughtful contributors here.

[Rinzler]

I was going to say he'd probably get a better response if he offered to pay for the girl's time... but I already seem like an insanely money grubbing bitch, so... :wiggle:

Well, I'd never offer to pay for any sort of interview for several reasons, one: I have no disposable income whatsoever and two: I don't think I should have to pay anyone for conversation, three: if I was buying information, the information would then become unreliable really, people might feel obliged to tell me what I want to hear and whatnot. Finally: I genuinely wasnt to get to know some transwomen without the pressures of attempting to bed them and I don't think any friendship can start off with money changing hands, it taints the whole friendship.


Wow... just blatantly assuming a whole buttload of stuff right off the bat. Got it all figured out do ya?

Dude, we're just people. Gender issues take up a more of our time than they might other people but nowhere near as much as you're making it out to be. All of those negative/melodramatic connotations just reads like you are projecting, (or secretly wishing?) Either way, you have it all wrong. Armchair psychology is way out of vogue and you aren't very good at it anyhow.

I spend the majority of my time making sure bills are paid, dishes are washed and seeing to it that the cat has enough food to keep him at bay, (he knows where I sleep.)
I can assure you that I know enough of "us" to safely say that these are the kinds of activities and routines that most of us go through on a day to day basis.

How does it feel to live your life imagining the personal experiences of people who you've never met?

Sheesh.

Well, if you read my post you'll see that that's exactly what I'm trying not to do. The whole point of this is so I can get to know real TS people and not have to rely on the interpretations of admirers etc. I havent made a single assumption about transwomen in my previous post.

But obviously, there is something different. Given the much higher rates of suicide and drug abuse, (although admittedly, I don't have any hard statistics backing this up, everybody here seems to freely admit this), there obviously are a lot of pressures that trans people have to face.

Maybe I'm wrong and will be proved wrong, but I think that being a trans person in porn or in prostitution is a whole different kettle of fish to being a gg in the same situation, but that's why I want to get to know some, so that I can find out from people instead of from some dusty tome in a university library.

[Prospero]

Well - Rinzler you got one lucid response there. A heightened sense of aggression.

[freedom]

Rinzler,

Jamie was ripping on Rivz. See she quoted his comment.

Prospero is probably right, immerse yourself and let trust grow organically. Then you'll no doubt come across real insight rather than asking for it by fiat.

Good luck with your studies though, I think its a worthy goal. The more we try to understand eachother, the happier the world will be.

[Mayrah]

Life as a tgirl is all about money, without it you cant transition. So you got the choice to turn to escorting to get to your goals faster. Or you try in society with a regular job. The difference is that with escorting you are liked for what you are and with a regular job you probably get discriminated for it.

Either way, your succes is mostly determined by how passable you are anyway.

[Jamie French]

Go back and read who I was responding to man.


Well, I'd never offer to pay for any sort of interview for several reasons, one: I have no disposable income whatsoever and two: I don't think I should have to pay anyone for conversation, three: if I was buying information, the information would then become unreliable really, people might feel obliged to tell me what I want to hear and whatnot. Finally: I genuinely wasnt to get to know some transwomen without the pressures of attempting to bed them and I don't think any friendship can start off with money changing hands, it taints the whole friendship.



Well, if you read my post you'll see that that's exactly what I'm trying not to do. The whole point of this is so I can get to know real TS people and not have to rely on the interpretations of admirers etc. I havent made a single assumption about transwomen in my previous post.

But obviously, there is something different. Given the much higher rates of suicide and drug abuse, (although admittedly, I don't have any hard statistics backing this up, everybody here seems to freely admit this), there obviously are a lot of pressures that trans people have to face.

Maybe I'm wrong and will be proved wrong, but I think that being a trans person in porn or in prostitution is a whole different kettle of fish to being a gg in the same situation, but that's why I want to get to know some, so that I can find out from people instead of from some dusty tome in a university library.

[Rinzler]

Go back and read who I was responding to man.

Oh, in that case I'm totally sorry! Still haven't gotten used to this forum, everything is upside down, newest posts on top, descending in order of oldness....I'm totally lost here. Sorry again though!

[dc_guy_75]

The OP is applying for anthropology school and he's already doing research on he "thesis" which has something to do with how transwomen view themselves.

He doesn't even provide a hypothesis.

Sounds like a very odd topic for anthropology, he sounds like a Ray Blanchard to me.

Good luck with your bullshit topic for a thesis in Anthropology.

So what is your insightful hypothesis?

[Rinzler]

Haha, no. I don't have a hypothesis yet. But I know I want to write a thesis on the trans community. I haven't formulated a research question or a thesis topic yet because I have to take a semester of methodology and theory classes before I even begin my thesis. I don't even submit the question to a potential supervisor until January sometime AFAIK. THAT is why I don't have a title or hypothesis yet. Besides, plenty of ethnographic studies don't begin with any sort of assumptions. IMO, a preset assumption will prejudice any subsequent research.

In any case, as I said at the beginning, what I want is to get to know genuine transpeople FIRST. I want to build my background knowledge before I go in all guns (or pens) blazing with some hypothesis based on a community I have no proper knowledge of.


The OP is applying for anthropology school and he's already doing research on he "thesis" which has something to do with how transwomen view themselves.

He doesn't even provide a hypothesis.

Sounds like a very odd topic for anthropology, he sounds like a Ray Blanchard to me.

Good luck with your bullshit topic for a thesis in Anthropology.

So what is your insightful hypothesis?

[nina_lisa]

t-girl life is amazing. when i was a guy i realized non one will help the door open for me, so i transitioned, and suddenly people held door open for me.

Other than that, when eating out at restaurant, the waiter add an extra scoop of vanilla ice cream to my pancake once he know i am trans.

Seriously speaking i'l recommend this book if you want to understand us more Amazon.com: Almost Perfect (9780385736657): Brian Katcher: Books@@AMEPARAM@@http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41Oax06QzjL.@@AMEPARAM@@41Oax06QzjL (http://www.amazon.com/Almost-Perfect-Brian-Katcher/dp/0385736657/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&qid=1338574731&sr=8-7)

[nina_lisa]

But obviously, there is something different. Given the much higher rates of suicide and drug abuse, (although admittedly, I don't have any hard statistics backing this up, everybody here seems to freely admit this), there obviously are a lot of pressures that trans people have to face.


there was a study made called 'injustice at every turn' http://www.thetaskforce.org/reports_and_research/ntds that put the suicide attempt rate at 41% (of course the 41% does not include those that succeeded at their attempt)

[MdR Dave]

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