What would you do?

[postopadmirer]

First let me be clear that this is a hypothetical because I'm in a committed relationship with a SO. Also the girl I'm talkingabout at the store is much younger than me. That said here goes.

There is a lady who works at a store I frequent who were I available I would ask out. I like her sense of humor and her smile. she also has that something about her that says I might be transgender. Can't put my finger on it just a vib.


Here the questions.
Would you ask someone out on a date if you thought they might be transgender? Ladies, how would you feel if a guy asked you out and you found out one of the reasons was because he found Tgirls intriguing? Third question, if a decent person is willing and interested in having a real deep relationship with a transgender girl, is it wastful to not seek out a Tgirl to love?

[postopadmirer]

My answers by the way are,
1. Yes


2. Hope she feels ok knowing I find her sexy in her own unique way. But that it is not just for that reason. How many girls hide who they are for fear of attracting the wrong kind of guy?


3. I don't know. Finding someone to really love can be very hard. Are tgirls surrounded by guys who want to love them for who they are regardless of their anatomy or is it a rare quality in a potential date?

[hefzfavebunii]

If you're in a relationship with someone else why would you bother asking this girl out?

[Willie Escalade]

Ignore the "T" part...treat her like every lady you're interested in. That's how I'd do it...

[Prospero]

I'd certainly ask her out because i found her looks and personality - i.e. humour etc - appealing. The fact she was maybe a tgirl would be irrelevent. The looks and personality come first.

[Dino Velvet]

Ignore the "T" part...treat her like every lady you're interested in. That's how I'd do it...

I agree with that. I don't know how to treat a transsexual but I do know how to treat a lady.

[postopadmirer]

Good points all.

[Yvonne183]

If I worked in a store, I'd probably kill myself so that would end any chance of a relationship.


Anyways, I don't hide my being trans, well, I don't wear a sign on me saying that I am trans but I don't blend in, can't really.

So any potential date/relationship would know who I am, there would be no probs of the other person dating me cause they knew I was trans.

Except for the usual stuff one seeks in a partner, sense of humor and all that crap, the only other thing I look for is that the person has to be open. I can't not hide from his friends and family. We go anywhere/anytime and not just clubs at night or life only in the bedroom.

He's got to be free, open minded and most likely a fellow punk/goth type(rude boys don't exist anymore).

I don't know if my answer was correct up above.
1-I don't mind if the guy wants me cause i am trans.
2-I don't mind a long term thing either.
3-I also want the guy to be rich, well, I am allowed one vice.

[bte]

To ask anyone on a date simply because they are transgender is pretty stupid if you ask me. I could care less if a girl is a TS or not. What matters most is when I am around this girl: do I get butterflies in my stomach, do I blush at times when I know its fucking stupid to blush, do I get tongue tied around the girl. If those happens, either I am blubbering idiot or I really like this girl. Regardlesss if she is a trans or not.

[Caff_Racer]

Ignore the "T" part...treat her like every lady you're interested in. That's how I'd do it...



Well said that man! Any further advice is superfluous.

[SammiValentine]

Ladies, how would you feel if a guy asked you out and you found out one of the reasons was because he found Tgirls intriguing?

Sounds like a client talking... thats what i would think. Maybe say its your first time as well...!! lol xx

[Mayrah]

Im a tgirl myself so it might be easier for me to answer, but if i fell "head over heels in love" with someone i'd just go for it whatever the gender is, aslong as its mutual. Yes even if it would be a stripper/escort/pornstar >.<

Only exception would be if it was some shady drugdealer or crimelord lol

[postopadmirer]

Thanks all, especially Yvonne, Sammi, And Mayrah
I have appreciated the comments. I think removing the T from the relationship is good advice. It almost seems stupid to not have thought about it myself.


I know that if I were not in a committed relationship it would be different, but I am so it's not.


I'm sure some will doubt my sincerity about the next statement but it is true. I'm not looking. If i did not think this lady was so interesting she would just be another friendly store clerk. I think you can admire someone's beauty and still be faithful. But it did make me wonder how the ladies here feel.


At the core of my question was as a girl, how would you feel, knowing a guy was interested in you and that one of the reasons was because you were different? That being different was not a problem. That he did not care how you were different and was not looking for anything particular, but wanted to be apart of what you were going through. It was not about the sex but the soul. As much as I hear and want to remove the T from the discussion it is a part of the issue.


I guess another way of asking is this. For a serious relationship to be possible, do you need to find someone who learns about your transition after they have gotten to know you, or are you comfortable with the fact that one of the things that attracts a guy to you is that you are in transition?

[Caff_Racer]

Ladies, how would you feel if a guy asked you out and you found out one of the reasons was because he found Tgirls intriguing?

Sounds like a client talking... thats what i would think. Maybe say its your first time as well...!! lol xx


I'm not sure it's necessarily "client talk". I mean, one of the things I like about transsexual women is that I find that they have a certain attitude or demeanor about them that I appreciate and find lacking in many genetic women; I find that I can get on better with a transsexual woman and feel more at ease - less "daunted" - with one. That said, there's one young woman on here who has me helplessly tongue-tied like a bashful teenager! :oops::oops:

[LibertyHarkness]

who is that caff?

[RallyCola]

Ignore the "T" part...treat her like every lady you're interested in. That's how I'd do it...

+1. that is the only way to ever develop a real relationship. if you are asking her out primarily because she is a tgirl, that's not the best.

[LibertyHarkness]

the title of this thread makes me think of this ...

Team America - What would you do - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=17FBIoOJOhg)

[SammiValentine]

hahah what would you dooooooooeoooooooooooooo....

[SammiValentine]

I'm not sure it's necessarily "client talk". I mean, one of the things I like about transsexual women is that I find that they have a certain attitude or demeanor about them that I appreciate and find lacking in many genetic women; I find that I can get on better with a transsexual woman and feel more at ease - less "daunted" - with one. That said, there's one young woman on here who has me helplessly tongue-tied like a bashful teenager! :oops::oops:

the way it was written was client talk, one can express themselves better as you just have :)

[Caff_Racer]

who is that caff?


Angelina :oops::oops::oops:

[Caff_Racer]

the way it was written was client talk, one can express themselves better as you just have :)



And there I was, convinced that I wasn't making any sense at all! :lol::lol:

[Nicole Dupre]

Translation: "I suddenly want to fuck with whatever trust my SO has in me, now that I'm having a midlife crisis and I've discovered TS porn. I'm actually crazy and reckless enough to want to embarrass a girl who works in a store, and probably really needs a job and doesn't want to deal with creepy old weirdos, and ask her if she was born male. Maybe I'll really make the whole thing into a train wreck by telling her what it was about her that made me think she was a TS. These are the things that go through my head when I drink hard lemonade; not anything especially productive; not doing something nice for my SO, who's mistakenly invested their time and emotions into a treacherous pervert who's daydreaming about a girl in some store being born with a dick."

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[postopadmirer]

Translation: "I suddenly want to fuck with whatever trust my SO has in me, now that I'm having a midlife crisis and I've discovered TS porn. I'm actually crazy and reckless enough to want to embarrass a girl who works in a store, and probably really needs a job and doesn't want to deal with creepy old weirdos, and ask her if she was born male. Maybe I'll really make the whole thing into a train wreck by telling her what it was about her that made me think she was a TS. These are the things that go through my head when I drink hard lemonade; not anything especially productive; not doing something nice for my SO, who's mistakenly invested their time and emotions into a treacherous pervert who's daydreaming about a girl in some store being born with a dick."

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Sometimes people mean what they say. I mean it when I say I'm in a committed relationship. I'm not looking for a fling, I have no plans or intention to betray anyone.


You've got me wrong.


My user name really means something. I admire you girls. I'm jealous and empathetic. Life can not be easy but you have the nerve to take the transition step.


I'm sorry your life is so hard that you see everything so cinically. Now i know I'm a real member here because I've finally gotten my Dupre attack.

[jerseyboy72]

Ignore the "T" part...treat her like every lady you're interested in. That's how I'd do it...:iagree:

[BeardedOne]

Yea I know this is a porn site and not tsroadmap, but you know what, this place has the most honest discussions about gender of any place.

Now THAT'S one scary-ass truth. :Bowdown:

What with all the bilge and bile we wade through in this place, it does have a certain drunkard's honesty to it.


I'm sorry your life is so hard that you see everything so cinically. Now i know I'm a real member here because I've finally gotten my Dupre attack.

She'll tear you up, she will. :)

To the topic:

Interesting questions and I don't see any ill intent in them. I've had similar soul-searching in such encounters (Not suspicions of T-ness so much as dyke-ness, which is another talent/fetish of mine).

I'm not the most socially 'ept' person on the planet and, short of basic niceties such as saying please and thank you, and not farting in crowded elevators (If I can help it), I stumble through life always wondering if I am saying or doing the correct thing in any given social interaction. So, yah, I've had moments where I wondered if the person I was approaching was going to view me as either a charming klutz or a creepy stalker.

I've never denied that I have somewhat fetishized (Is that a real word?) trans people and tend to gravitate towards them with some sensual intent, but that is (In my twisted mind) no different an attraction than someone being drawn to large-breasted women, blondes or redheads, etc. Or, from the ladies' point of view, an attraction to men with ginormous wangs and/or wallets.

As mentioned above, I have had a tendency to gravitate towards and have relationships with lesbians. I didn't necessarily seek them out, but found myself in a series of relationships wherein my lovers were either card-carrying dykes or women-identified bisexuals. At one point, they were seeking me on the realization that they might be able to meet more wimmin in my company. I was something of a dating source for many of the wimmin I knew. It was at once thrilling and frustrating. :???:

There are ladies that post and lurk here and at the other forums that have met me, both socially and commercially, and we've had drinks, dinner, and sometimes done things I'd never have told my mother about. I've boozed, floozed, and Jacuzzed them, and most certainly amused and confused them. At the end of the day, I hope that I haven't offended or angered them because of how or why we met, or who or 'what' they are.

So long as you connect with your partner in ways that they appreciate and share, be it humor, music, a multitude of mutual interests, etc., you should be fine. If the only reason you connect is your own, narrow fetish, then you're better off dimeing up and hitting up a rental. They really don't care if the only reason you want to be with them is because they wear Spiderman Underoos.

[buckjohnson]

There is a TG that works at a breakfast spot I go to all the time. She is friendly, very smart, going to law school, and very cute. When I take my friends there they always comment she seems interested in me. This place is self serve so no pimping for tips, she is nice and all, but I will not be asking her out.

[hefzfavebunii]

Translation: "I suddenly want to fuck with whatever trust my SO has in me, now that I'm having a midlife crisis and I've discovered TS porn. I'm actually crazy and reckless enough to want to embarrass a girl who works in a store, and probably really needs a job and doesn't want to deal with creepy old weirdos, and ask her if she was born male. Maybe I'll really make the whole thing into a train wreck by telling her what it was about her that made me think she was a TS. These are the things that go through my head when I drink hard lemonade; not anything especially productive; not doing something nice for my SO, who's mistakenly invested their time and emotions into a treacherous pervert who's daydreaming about a girl in some store being born with a dick."

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Hahahahahahahahahha :Bowdown:

[TRANSEXUAL TOP BELICE]

Lol lol

[postopadmirer]

Now THAT'S one scary-ass truth. :Bowdown:

What with all the bilge and bile we wade through in this place, it does have a certain drunkard's honesty to it.



She'll tear you up, she will. :)

To the topic:

Interesting questions and I don't see any ill intent in them. I've had similar soul-searching in such encounters (Not suspicions of T-ness so much as dyke-ness, which is another talent/fetish of mine).

I'm not the most socially 'ept' person on the planet and, short of basic niceties such as saying please and thank you, and not farting in crowded elevators (If I can help it), I stumble through life always wondering if I am saying or doing the correct thing in any given social interaction. So, yah, I've had moments where I wondered if the person I was approaching was going to view me as either a charming klutz or a creepy stalker.

I've never denied that I have somewhat fetishized (Is that a real word?) trans people and tend to gravitate towards them with some sensual intent, but that is (In my twisted mind) no different an attraction than someone being drawn to large-breasted women, blondes or redheads, etc. Or, from the ladies' point of view, an attraction to men with ginormous wangs and/or wallets.

As mentioned above, I have had a tendency to gravitate towards and have relationships with lesbians. I didn't necessarily seek them out, but found myself in a series of relationships wherein my lovers were either card-carrying dykes or women-identified bisexuals. At one point, they were seeking me on the realization that they might be able to meet more wimmin in my company. I was something of a dating source for many of the wimmin I knew. It was at once thrilling and frustrating. :???:

There are ladies that post and lurk here and at the other forums that have met me, both socially and commercially, and we've had drinks, dinner, and sometimes done things I'd never have told my mother about. I've boozed, floozed, and Jacuzzed them, and most certainly amused and confused them. At the end of the day, I hope that I haven't offended or angered them because of how or why we met, or who or 'what' they are.

So long as you connect with your partner in ways that they appreciate and share, be it humor, music, a multitude of mutual interests, etc., you should be fine. If the only reason you connect is your own, narrow fetish, then you're better off dimeing up and hitting up a rental. They really don't care if the only reason you want to be with them is because they wear Spiderman Underoos.

Thanks so much for your thoughtful comments.

[buttslinger]

The more I try to get serious about trying to talk about sex, the more I'm convinced that fools rush in where wise men fear to tread. Me? I'm a certfied fool.

[Wendy Summers]

Ignore the "T" part...treat her like every lady you're interested in. That's how I'd do it...

Spot on... the guys who have gotten anywhere with me do just that.

[maaarc]

First let me be clear that this is a hypothetical because I'm in a committed relationship with a SO. Also the girl I'm talkingabout at the store is much younger than me. That said here goes.

There is a lady who works at a store I frequent who were I available I would ask out. I like her sense of humor and her smile. she also has that something about her that says I might be transgender. Can't put my finger on it just a vib.


Here the questions.
Would you ask someone out on a date if you thought they might be transgender? Ladies, how would you feel if a guy asked you out and you found out one of the reasons was because he found Tgirls intriguing? Third question, if a decent person is willing and interested in having a real deep relationship with a transgender girl, is it wastful to not seek out a Tgirl to love?

deep relationship? blah blah blah.... I suggest you dump your girlfriend and become butterfly man:) butterfly man is free to taste the sweet nectar of many beautiful blossoms while monogamous man is like ugly caterpillar :( caterpillar man barely survives from eating the mostly bitter leaves of one plant which soon become old and withered - ugly caterpillar man never become beautiful butterfly:( never know sweet freedom and fulfill true destiny to sex as many beautiful blossoms as possible.

[Teydyn]

deep relationship? blah blah blah...
Either you are young or recently dumped...

[maaarc]

Either you are young or recently dumped...

LOL actually neither my friend - but I have vision right now that you are not butterfly man - most unfortunate :(

[resolute]

Translation: "I suddenly want to fuck with whatever trust my SO has in me, now that I'm having a midlife crisis and I've discovered TS porn. I'm actually crazy and reckless enough to want to embarrass a girl who works in a store, and probably really needs a job and doesn't want to deal with creepy old weirdos, and ask her if she was born male. Maybe I'll really make the whole thing into a train wreck by telling her what it was about her that made me think she was a TS. These are the things that go through my head when I drink hard lemonade; not anything especially productive; not doing something nice for my SO, who's mistakenly invested their time and emotions into a treacherous pervert who's daydreaming about a girl in some store being born with a dick."

Thread fail.

haha I love those ppl who cut to the chase with the brutal honesty. I love it even more when that brutal honesty may alienate their client base yet the person has the conviction to say it anyway...

Of course, as one who knows there is no such thing as hypothetical... I thought that same thing when I read the first post in this thread. someone just beat me to the brutal honesty.

Whats worse about this "hypothetical" is that certainly isnt and someone would actually consider making an approach towards this young person.

I have to ask what sort of person would approach a young person they don't know and ask such a question or make such a comment? Many woman, young old gg or ts have body issues or other issues that can be very traumatic for them... imagine if this one girl was self conscious perhaps thinking her face looked a little masculine, and someone makes such an insensitive comment...

word of advice to the OP.. you should all pause to engage in a little introspection... seriously who or why would someone say hey I think I am going to pursue a TS for a real relationship? Someone who doesn't want to pay for an escort to get their thrills... just pay a pro and leave the innocent shop girls alone...

[Nicole Dupre]

Sometimes people mean what they say. I mean it when I say I'm in a committed relationship. I'm not looking for a fling, I have no plans or intention to betray anyone.


You've got me wrong.


My user name really means something. I admire you girls. I'm jealous and empathetic. Life can not be easy but you have the nerve to take the transition step.


I'm sorry your life is so hard that you see everything so cinically. Now i know I'm a real member here because I've finally gotten my Dupre attack.

My life is NORMAL, you jackass. It's honestly not that hard. If anything, it's pretty damn easy. lol

But then, I'm not the one having the desperate daydreams, where I embarrass my spouse, some innocent girl working somewhere, and MYSELF. Maybe you wanna rethink what you consider to be "hard" other than your dick. I mean, you can't even spell "cinical" when you call someone cynical. I'd say it's you who must have the hard, empty life.

And don't try to make yourself seem like the victim of a "Nicole Dupre attack". How dare you say such a thing when you're contemplating playing with peoples' lives and emotions? And you're "jealous and empathetic" of our lives? What's that supposed to mean? You wish you were a tranny?

[rockabilly]

If you're in a relationship with someone else why would you bother asking this girl out?

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[postopadmirer]

Having issues posting So I'll make this brief.
I asked a hypothetical question.


The key point was:
How do TG folks feel starting a relationship with folks that suspect they are TG? Is having a relationship with a TG interested person a plus or a minus?


My sincerity in this being a hypothetical question is a different issue I think.