Can you turn a trick into a treat?

[SexxxyJade]

I have heard many guys say that there is no turning a hoe into a housewife, and that once a girl is in the business she will always do it in sum way, shape or fashion.
So my question is , Can you make a client, husband material? Can u turn a guy who comes to pay you 300/hr into your husband/boyfriend if the vibe is right? And for those of you who say yes, whose to say that when he is comfortable with you that he wont go behind your back and hire other girls for sexual pleasures. Or even drop you after he has you where he wants you, money still in pocket, and go out and find another girl.

If this cliche' is true for us girls then I say that it goes for guys who see escorts as well. Once always!
I have been a known escort for sumtime and feel that when and if I was ready to settle, that I could and I wouldn't let my past discretions get in the way of that. So to all of the guys who lable girls as once hoes always, I say look within yourself and you will definately find that one real answer.

Kisses

[BeardedOne]

Good query Ms. Jade. :)

I have some answers (From a personal perspective) on the edge of my brain, but I'm going to lurk for a bit before I post them. :popcorn

[idiot savant]

That's a good question.Alot of people believe in the pretty woman syndrome but don't realize the complexities of the matter.It's like dating a stripper.You can be with girl(escort)and be like trust you but that little voice keep fucking with you until you read distrust in everything she do. Bottom line is that you have to be in the sex industry(not meaning buying videos or visiting escorts) in order to deal with a partner that in it as well.

[Dkg]

good question...I could never see myself paying someone just for sex. If I'm really into someone (wifey material) then I'd have to get to know her a lot more personally, and for a lot more than just a couple of hours...and paying for that would be way too expensive for me.

Anyways, I think you could turn a trick into a husband, but then again why would you want to? Sure I guess if the vibe is right....

edit: also, I think a lot of issues and drama would come up if the guy was the type that's obsseive, controlling or insecure.

[castabyss]

I know a couple of girls that have seriously dated former "tricks" with some success. However, the men were almost exclusively LOADED with cash and essentially supported the girls so they didn't have to work as escorts anymore.

CA

[Ecstatic]

On either side, I say possible but very highly unlikely.

[Hugh Jarrod]

I have heard many guys say that there is no turning a hoe into a housewife, and that once a girl is in the business she will always do it in sum way, shape or fashion.
So my question is , Can you make a client, husband material? Can u turn a guy who comes to pay you 300/hr into your husband/boyfriend if the vibe is right? And for those of you who say yes, whose to say that when he is comfortable with you that he wont go behind your back and hire other girls for sexual pleasures. Or even drop you after he has you where he wants you, money still in pocket, and go out and find another girl.

If this cliche' is true for us girls then I say that it goes for guys who see escorts as well. Once always!
I have been a known escort for sumtime and feel that when and if I was ready to settle, that I could and I wouldn't let my past discretions get in the way of that. So to all of the guys who lable girls as once hoes always, I say look within yourself and you will definately find that one real answer.

Kisses

The cliche is false on both accounts. Love is where you find it.

[cheribaum]

I've had guys come pay me then the next time around they thought becaue we had some connection that the 2nd meeting would be free. I dont really think it was that they connected w/ me but because im a whore and that Im just as happy not getting paid by them because they have told me sweet nothings. Im sorry but if a guy likes you, hes gonna spend money on you. In one form or another. Guys who try to be your boyfriends after meeting you from an escort ad really are just trying to say they "fucked" you for free.

Ive also had many guys contact me because they think they are so fine and because we are whores anyway that we'll be more than willing to hook up for fun of it. Again, its only to say they did u for free because everytime I deny them my goodies for free their rebuttal is always, "I just spent the evening with (enter high profile name here) NOONE WHO POSTS ON THIS BOARD!!!! and she didnt charge me. Im cute, I dont have to pay. I took her out dancing we had drinks then went and had sex" I wonder if she hadnt had sex w/ him after "free of charge" would he still be bragging about her? These are the guys who use EROS or other publications as a "singles network or a chat line" and not once did I ever meet a guy w/ that type of approach, some were so cute I almost gave in, but like they always tell me, they were just with so and so and so why am I going to continue to masterbate their ego's? I also dont think a sincere guy would use escort ads as a way to meet an "honest" g/f!!!!! The way I now a guy is sincere is if he doesnt know who I am from the internet. Aside from my website and others, EROS is only other place Im listed with exact contact info. Sad but true, chatrooms and other forums where they have personals set up is best way to meet someone. lol lol lol lol. Unless he has my fee when contacting me from an ad, I dont bother

I've met a few a guys who were good prospects for ltr's but Im always afraid I will be held back by them and resent the relationship. So I try not to be involved in that kinda thing. Most working girls long to be in a serious relationship but from experience we know the only ones to provide for us is ourselves and so we continue working. I did always wonder If I'd still be kept on the sidelines in these relationships because of my gender and his straight lifestyle.

There's no way to tell so my advice would be, go with what you know, dont let your gaurds down too fast and IF YOU CANT SELL IT, YOU MIGHT AS WELL KEEP SITTING ON IT!!!!!!!


www.cheri-baum.com

[BeardedOne]

Can you make a client, husband material? Can u turn a guy who comes to pay you 300/hr into your husband/boyfriend if the vibe is right?

From my own perspective, assuming the "vibe was right", anything's possible in the relationship arena.

Yet, in the 'big picture' point of view, it would depend a lot on why the guy is a client in the first place. Is he there just to 'pop a nut'? Is he entertaining a TS curiosity? Is he test-driving 'wifey material'? The 'vibe' might =feel= right in almost any situation, but it might not =be= right.

My reasons for seeing escorts (To date I have only been with two, over the course of a half dozen 'dates') come out of a genuine interest in T-gurls from a sexual perspective as well as a need/desire for companionship that is darkened by trust issues from a string of past relationships-gone-bad. The latter having little or nothing to do with the stereotypical/socially expected 'cheating' card than it does with just basic day-to-day interaction wherein the partner du jour either turned totally psycho or said/did things that drove me completely off the deep end (Not that this is that far of a drive for me).

So, I 'rent' an intimate friend, have a nice evening of chatting and telling/listening to stories, and get the added bonus of discovering the 'sweet mysteries of life', as it were. It's a short trip, with perhaps only a small overnite bag of past emotional grief to keep things real, but not the massive steamer trunk of mental and emotional garbage that inevitably gets hauled on board the serious relationship. While I enjoy the company of the ladies I've met, and have some hope that we might now or later be 'friends' (As best one can be in an escort/client relationship), the business transaction aspect of the relationship provides a safety net/escape route for when/if one or both of us turns into a raving lunatic.

My life being full of the smouldering ruins of too many bad turns, you can be assured that I =really= like the idea of safety nets.

'Course, if I meet the gurl with the firehose (You know that this is a double entendre. :twisted: ) big enough to quench the flames of potential disaster, with whom the 'vibe is right', and who can help push the baggage overboard, well...

There are always possibilities.

[Ecstatic]

You raise some good points, Cheribaum. Regrading friendship, I consider myself lucky enough to have become friends with a few girls that I originally met as escorts (well, actually one of them I met at a party as a friend of another girl I knew), but one thing I have never expected or looked for in any way was a "freebie" because we're friends. Being friends means we talk on the phone, go out to dinner, go shopping, or anything else that friends do. That's separate, you know? If I want to "hook up" with one of my friends, I call and arrange a session like anyone else, and I bring my donation just like anyone else. I look at it this way: one of my best friends is a master carpenter. I don't expect him to remodel my house for free! He doesn't expect me to design his web site for free, either.

I understand why you say "The way I now a guy is sincere is if he doesnt know who I am from the internet," but I can't quite agree with it. I was thinking about this earlier today. If a girl advertises her services on Eros, and I see her ad and am attracted to her (note: entirely physical at this point), then I call her: there's no other likely way I would meet this person. So is that wrong? Would it be better to never contact someone whose ad you see because you'd like to maybe meet them casually some day? I don't think so. Like I said, there's one girl I first met as a friend of another girl's (at one of Allanah's parties, in fact), and it was great to meet her this way. But the other girl (who is very dear to me) I first met because I called her ad.

It all gets very confusing. Fortunately, I'm married (with the world's most understanding wife), so I'm not looking for an LTR, but I do value making friends and consider my friends a very important part of my life.

OK, that's my 2 and a half (hundred) cents....

[RangeHova]

I have never done the pay for play thing but I can say that I've had some pretty casual hook up with girls that almost seemed similar to those. For instance I used to meet girls on chat lines and in some cases it was a plain and simple sexual hook up w/ little to no conversation.

I had a few hook ups that became close, very close. None of them long term but it definately showed me that it is possible to change the flow of a relationship.

My two long term relationships w/ TS women definately started out as nothing but sex partners. The first ended up leaving a very long term relationship and the second one and i ended up having issues because for the first year, neither one of us would be open about having real feelings for one another (I guess out of fear of rejection).

I used to swear that i could never get serious w/ a girl who sold it. But I think anything is possible. But if i could stay in the relationship and committed to a active working girl is hard to imagine. But hell anything is possible. Who would have ever thought that I'd suck a dick? The idea used to repulse me until I fell in love with a girl that had one.

I've learned to never say never.

[WendyWilliams]

Great topic Miss Jade

[Felicia Katt]

the expression is trick or treat. Its a disjunctive. either/or. I think its answers the question just by asking.

FK

[BADAZZBODY]

possibilities are endless i try to not to get emotional attached but i do have alot of previous tricks that are close friends now but i dont have sex wit them no more they like family now

[slinky]

Over the past 30 years, I have dated many working girls. There are very few however, that I dated after seeing them on a paid basis. It's either trick or treat, and you can date a trick, but probably not your trick.