Young NYC man looking for help

[Anthony2687]

I am a young man from NYC and I have been in to TS 's for about 5 years now. Nobody is aware of my secret lifestlye at all. Everyone knows me as a cool "ladys man" but im no supermodel, so they would never expect me to be into Trannys. Lately I have been getting the urge more and more and it is getting harder and harder for me to hide these attractions.... But im EXTREMELY afraid of coming out because of how judgmental my family is.....as well as some friends. I am however not attracted to men at all , not the slightest bit , strictly trannies but I know this still is frowned upon heavily in my environment.

I am in my mid 20s and would like to get to know those who are comfortable with this lifestyle n possibly help me transition. I wouldnt mind meetin new friends n hangin , trust im a cool fuckin dude .

[nastymanbx]

Your story sounds similar to mine. After awhile ur just stop carin what everybody else thinks and do whatever makes u happy fam. Message me on here if anything. Peace.

[JerseyMike]

Plus its not like you have a serious ts gf that you have to introduce to your family, so I don't think there is really a reason for you to go out telling people. Even if you get a gf that is ts she might not want you blabbing to all your friends about her. Just keep it chill and worry about telling people when you have to.

[dderek123]

Yeah your story is a very familiar one around here. Go out, make new friends who would be open to it and/or help you in making a positive change in your life. It's not so bad really.

You're in NY! There are so many around there it seems. You're lucky!

[Anthony2687]

nastymanbx , its easier said than done. I come from a religous hispanic family that is IGNORANT and OLD SCHOOL. My biggest worry is them disowning me cause I know thats how far they would go

JerseyMike I dont have a ts girl but with todays society word of mouth spreads like fire, I want to be comfortable with it but I think I need to ease into it.... I just ended a 4 year serious relationship with a female that I love(d) and now to stoll into this lifestyle is an eye opener...... I think im more worried that they think I like men , but I dont at all. I only like TS girls , but they would assume im into macho men n what not

[Anthony2687]

Its hard to keep it on the DL if you talk to any TS girls cause every internet site puts your business out there , Twitter , facebook etc.

I just want to be happy but I think me comin out would drastically change everything for me..... what I would like to get out from this thread is to hear from those that did the move n how they handle it. I may seem like a noob or whatever but I do not want to be unhappy in my life and disappoint my family cause honestly thats what I feel is gonna happen once I tell them...

[StlyeMeCunty]

Just do it , and you will feel so much better! You will look back on it and think it was so silly. On another note, you don't have to because its no ones business, and I would feel a bit odd if the guys friends knew I was trans right of the back because you told them you like ts girls. A lot of girls like to have the choice of who they tell.

[jessicamoore]

I always said adults do adult things, you have to live your life for you not your friends or family, they will learn to accept your choice of lifestyle, if not oh well be true to yourself who u are

[jessicamoore]

Only ones you really need the support from is your mom dad and siblings everybody else isnt that important, trust me being out 2011 isnt all that bad, its not like your gay YOUR a guy that likes transwomen not guys. being unhappy have to be the worst, i came out at 18 and been happy i did ever since.

[fred41]

Just do it , and you will feel so much better! You will look back on it and think it was so silly. On another note, you don't have to because its no ones business, and I would feel a bit odd if the guys friends knew I was trans right of the back because you told them you like ts girls. A lot of girls like to have the choice of who they tell.

It depends on what he likes...if he likes girls who will never ,ever pass...and have that third sex look...then, no harm done...but lots of girls like to be considered women ...and regardless of what people on here think, there are a lot of girls who pass...or at least pass a cursory inspection. If you tell everyone you know that TS is your thing...then every date you bring before them will get an extra "once over"...and that is completely unfair to a girl who just wants to be a girlfriend...not a tranny girlfriend....the choice of "discovery", should always be up to her.

...btw i speak from experience...I admitted what I like to some people..and now they always try to "guess", swearing they knew all along...even when they clearly didn't.
...leave it up to the girl...until you actually find a TS willing to date you...there is no point to "coming out".

[Helvis2012]

I am in my mid 20s and would like to get to know those who are comfortable with this lifestyle n possibly help me transition.

What do mean by transition? Are you into T-girls or do want to become a T-girl?

[OmarZ]

nastymanbx , its easier said than done. I come from a religous hispanic family that is IGNORANT and OLD SCHOOL. My biggest worry is them disowning me cause I know thats how far they would go

JerseyMike I dont have a ts girl but with todays society word of mouth spreads like fire, I want to be comfortable with it but I think I need to ease into it.... I just ended a 4 year serious relationship with a female that I love(d) and now to stoll into this lifestyle is an eye opener...... I think im more worried that they think I like men , but I dont at all. I only like TS girls , but they would assume im into macho men n what not

hey, just fuck them, thats all



no one needs to know the rest

[PomonaCA]

Only do it if you are going to be HAWT LIKE WHOA!

If you are not going to be hot then don't do it because it's a sin.

[StlyeMeCunty]

It depends on what he likes...if he likes girls who will never ,ever pass...and have that third sex look...then, no harm done...but lots of girls like to be considered women ...and regardless of what people on here think, there are a lot of girls who pass...or at least pass a cursory inspection. If you tell everyone you know that TS is your thing...then every date you bring before them will get an extra "once over"...and that is completely unfair to a girl who just wants to be a girlfriend...not a tranny girlfriend....the choice of "discovery", should always be up to her.

...btw i speak from experience...I admitted what I like to some people..and now they always try to "guess", swearing they knew all along...even when they clearly didn't.
...leave it up to the girl...until you actually find a TS willing to date you...there is no point to "coming out".

Agreed.

[dderek123]

Its hard to keep it on the DL if you talk to any TS girls cause every internet site puts your business out there , Twitter , facebook etc.

I just want to be happy but I think me comin out would drastically change everything for me..... what I would like to get out from this thread is to hear from those that did the move n how they handle it. I may seem like a noob or whatever but I do not want to be unhappy in my life and disappoint my family cause honestly thats what I feel is gonna happen once I tell them...

This is especially true for young TS.

[JerseyMike]

I don't thing you should worry to much, more than likely it might be a long while till you get a ts gf. Don't worry about it till you do.

[Anthony2687]

Agreed.
I totally agree with both of you. I just thought it would help those I came out to first feel better that I told them ahead of time and not catch them totally off guard when they find out else wise.

[Anthony2687]

I am in my mid 20s and would like to get to know those who are comfortable with this lifestyle n possibly help me transition.

What do mean by transition? Are you into T-girls or do want to become a T-girl?

LMAO no did not mean it that way. I meant the transition of being open of it with others. It is a major lifestyle transition either way , and it will affect more then just myself.

[Anthony2687]

I am confident to say this though......Transgender women are becoming more and more common and people are aware now that they are normal people as well.... I am confident to say that as time goes on its easier for people like myself , as well as other gays and lesbians , to be open about our sexual pre fences.

[dderek123]

Well get out there and do it! You won't regret it. When you grow up to be a big boy you become less dependent on their acceptance and approval.

[dderek123]

http://i.imgur.com/WGOru.jpg

[giovanni_hotel]

Wait. Are we 'gay' now for liking TGs??lol
It's hard to keep up.
(And you will be called out as a fag by someone for being into TGs, it goes with the territory.)

IMO what usually happens when a man explores his interest in trans-women is that he begins to make friends with a new circle of people, people who come from the same place you're at and regard your attraction as NORMAL.

I wouldn't personally bring my family into the mix unless it was VERRRRRY serious and she and I had to be on that level.

NYC is a huge place, I don't know why it would be such a problem to date a girl there and not worry about your anonymity.

Ultimately it's your life and if being with a trans-girl makes you happy, you win.

[Anthony2687]

Wait. Are we 'gay' now for liking TGs??lol
It's hard to keep up.
(And you will be called out as a fag by someone for being into TGs, it goes with the territory.)

IMO what usually happens when a man explores his interest in trans-women is that he begins to make friends with a new circle of people, people who come from the same place you're at and regard your attraction as NORMAL.

I wouldn't personally bring my family into the mix unless it was VERRRRRY serious and she and I had to be on that level.

NYC is a huge place, I don't know why it would be such a problem to date a girl there and not worry about your anonymity.

Ultimately it's your life and if being with a trans-girl makes you happy, you win.

Well said . I wanted to start this thread so I could expand my mind on the topic as well and see different points. Ultimately this will all help me towards my path in life that im happy with. I also am not trying to come off narrow minded by my thoughts n be disrespectful to any aspects of the word "gay"

[Anthony2687]

http://i.imgur.com/WGOru.jpg


Thats a dope pic , I appreciate you sharing that