How long is too long?

[Mz.Brownsugah]

For all the men that date girls, how long would you wait for sex? I like to wait at least five dates before I give it up. However most guys are ghost after they don't get it on the third date. Am I wrong to assume that they were never genuinely interest in me. I'm bi and date both man and women and sex is usually not an issue when dating girls. However, I'm thinking about changing my approach when dealing with men. Is it unreasonable to assuming that any man would wait that long for sex?

[SXFX]

3 dates is the rule. Usually I make dinner.
Longer than 3, she will have to be a very very nice girl.
Between work and school I don't have much free time as such for me 3 dates can be 3 months.

[Nashvegas]

I don't really have a set number of dates. For me it all depends on the chemistry we have. Some girls you can tell it's just gonna take longer with, and for the right girl I have no problem with that.

[iamdrgonzo]

I don't really have a set number of dates. For me it all depends on the chemistry we have. Some girls you can tell it's just gonna take longer with, and for the right girl I have no problem with that.

I'm with Nash, it all depends on the chemistry we have.

[TheEqu]

I'd wait until she's ready if I think she's worth it. There is still a limit though, it's just unfair to the guy to just keep stringing him on. If you are interested in a guy sexually TELL HIM SO and also that you like to wait don't tell him how many dates, because he'll rush to that number to get in your knickers quicker. As long as he knows you ARE interested in bedroom fun but need get-to-know-you-time, he shouldn't have a problem. If he loses interest after that, wasn't worth the effort in the first place.

[Yeah]

Im oldfashioned, and cort the girl, so couple of weeks. there is plenty of making out and groping on dates leading up to the big bang

[SweetBtmGuyNYC]

Definitely depends on the chemistry but, in general, if nothing is happening by the third date I start to wonder if she's really into me or just dating around and seeing who's out there. Of course, that all changes quickly if she just tells me how she feels on the matter.
Case in point, I just had a date with a girl I really like and I know she'll want to wait a while; and I'm completely happy with that. But it's contingent on her being emotional available.

[blckhaze]

long enough
So long as there is that sexual tension in the air. Its a matter of presenting a flirty but respectful image that says to a woman that sex is simply the cherry, not the ice cream.

[Mz.Brownsugah]

Thanks fellas for all your honest responses. Seem like as long as there's chemistry then most guys are willing to wait. I'm probably just not meeting the right dudes.

[Devilboy]

If a guy likes you, he will wait. If a guy just wants sex from you he won't.

[Gambino]

Their is no set time, their shouldn't really be any rules when it comes to things like that, if your "insert person you have a massive crush on" takes you out and is sweet and nice and the perfect gentleman and you wanna give it up, do it, don't have some arbitrary number of dates, go with what feels right to you. In saying that, if he is a gentleman who respects you, he may turn it down, guy I worked with was old fashioned, been seeing his girl for over a year and still hasn't gone their, he is waiting for marriage

[blckhaze]

Thanks fellas for all your honest responses. Seem like as long as there's chemistry then most guys are willing to wait. I'm probably just not meeting the right dudes.

unfortunately its a product of our world
Some men get conditioned into getting sex when they want (paid or not) and some women have no qualms about giving it up quick, others try to use it as a tool to grab or keep a man. Its about balance for both parties. As a man I have plenty female and trans friend i can kick it with no expectations other than laughs and good times. (when i was single) i wanted someone who, while being able to be my friend and we can talk the shit and enjoy a laugh, could spark up that sensual tension from small innuendos, those silent eye to eye looks, etc.
Some people simple expect ts to be easy fucks so yes its harder to find relationships but if you set a solid standard, knowing yes a mans gonna want to sleep with you but that he can do more than just that.

[Dino Velvet]

If a gal is good about using her mouth on me she can hold me off for awhile.

[Quiet Reflections]

If I like her then I will wait until she is ready. it's all relative, time is unreal

[DSpar]

3 dates or a month, which ever is longer. The real question is if you see there is pattern after three dates, why are you waiting till 5. In my opinion nobody waits more than a month there isn't any reason to, it is a "shit or get off the pot" thing.

[bte]

For all the men that date girls, how long would you wait for sex? I like to wait at least five dates before I give it up. However most guys are ghost after they don't get it on the third date. Am I wrong to assume that they were never genuinely interest in me. I'm bi and date both man and women and sex is usually not an issue when dating girls. However, I'm thinking about changing my approach when dealing with men. Is it unreasonable to assuming that any man would wait that long for sex?

There's no waiting for me. I don't really have a set time. Usually I have sex with the girls I date in about a week of meeting them.

[tatsu1]

Seriously, I'm trying to hit within 24 hours. It works out that way 2 out of five times...

[IndyCloset]

Guys can either wait for a nice girl. Or be lucky enough to find a nice girl who likes to fuck.

All that waiting shit tends to be with girls who have low sex drives anyway. So why be mad at a guy who's a known hornball?

These type of women should look for guys in the Viagra crowd. At least you know he wont horny any time soon w/o popping a pill which gives plenty of time to "get to know him"

As for me I'll wait as long as it takes for her to take her clothes off....!

I'm not one for giving a new broad my undivided attention when I've got genetic and ts women on call who know the deal.

[Nicole Dupre]

Guys can either wait for a nice girl. Or be lucky enough to find a nice girl who likes to fuck.

All that waiting shit tends to be with girls who have low sex drives anyway. So why be mad at a guy who's a known hornball?

These type of women should look for guys in the Viagra crowd. At least you know he wont horny any time soon w/o popping a pill which gives plenty of time to "get to know him"

As for me I'll wait as long as it takes for her to take her clothes off....!

I'm not one for giving a new broad my undivided attention when I've got genetic and ts women on call who know the deal.
Wow. How did you get so cool? lol You ought to write a book called "How I Treat Broads".

We'll send the checks to your closet. lol

[jm813]

The guys will have sex within the first hour if given the chance. Make no mistake.

[raybbaby]

I thought this thread was gonna be measured in inches, not dates.

[Nicole Dupre]

I thought this thread was gonna be measured in inches, not dates.
That's exactly what I thought. I was about to say 11" until I read the OP. lol

[IndyCloset]

The guys will have sex within the first hour if given the chance. Make no mistake.

You can be with a person for 6 months and still not be aware of their true colors so what's your point.....?

Waiting has it's merrits but not when it's abused to prove you can keep an otherwise horny person in check. So either there's sexual chemistry with you and the person in question or there's not.

Sex should be addressed like religion. So if you don't care that much for sex or it's just not your thing then don't hook with a someone who feels the opposite.

I purposely dismissed that previous comment since a considerable amount of her income revolves around the choice of people not wanting to wait for sex.

That being said the slick remark was quite amusing but still irrelevant.

It's 2011, it's Summer time and people wanna fuck. So if that's not the case for you then go to the library somewhere. Trust that they don't wanna waste their time no more than you do.

It's pathetic how some people get all bent out of shape over a question that can have more than one type of response. Especially those who are actually in the sex business.

And since this site is covered with tits and dicks I saw no reason why I couldn't give the rated R answer.

[giovanni_hotel]

After three dates I don't want it anymore because I assume you've got emotional hangups about sex or you're a game player.

[Jericho]

The guys will have sex within the first hour if given the chance. Make no mistake.

That's bullshit.
Given the chance, it's within Hello and Nice To Meet You! :shrug

[buckjohnson]

5 dates is too many. Like most Americans too busy too wait that long, and too many willing and waiting booties out there for me to put that much work as 5 dates require.

[Bobby Domino]

I'll wait as long as it takes, if I've got a fuck buddy on the side, LOL!!!

[IndyCloset]

I'll wait as long as it takes, if I've got a fuck buddy on the side, LOL!!!

Odds are that she does to.

Which is why she's making you wait....

So play those game how you see fit I guess but shit if you're both fucking dutch, she should at least be paying for some of those dates.

Just sayin

[tsnajwa]

The majority of this thread makes me really sad for the age that we live in where everybody wants the ms. instant gratification and not the right person..

[Mz.Brownsugah]

[QUOTE=tsnajwa;987757]The majority of this thread makes me really sad for the age that we live in where everybody wants the ms. instant gratification and not the right person..[/QUOT

Not everybody is one track minded, but screening between guys who are dating just for the casual sex and those that are looking for a long term relationship can be sad to me it's mostly frustrating.

[IndyCloset]

The majority of this thread makes me really sad for the age that we live in where everybody wants the ms. instant gratification and not the right person..

In this day and age the two aren't mutually exclusive.

But if some laddies wanna make him wait...then make him wait.

Indy has other plans.

[Jackal]

If she is a nice lady who I really like and am interested in, then until whenever she is ready.

[Nicole Dupre]

In this day and age the two aren't mutually exclusive.

But if some laddies wanna make him wait...then make him wait.

Indy has other plans.

Chase-roe, please. lol

Yes, they are. "Ms Right" and "Ms Right Now" are two different worlds. Finding the "right person" is a process, and you can't predict you found them just because you fucked someone within less than 24 hrs of meeting them.

Some people don't want a LTR, for whatever reason. That's fine. I know I don't right now. It would be nice and all, but I'm realistic. It doesn't fit in with my plans. Some people don't even have a plan. They're like leaves, getting blown around in the wind. But again, whatever floats your boat... until it sinks. lol

Regardless, it is human nature to both want a soulmate AND to want instantly gratifying sex. Life's filled with paradoxes like that, but that's one of the biggest. Another one would be, you either 'stay in and do your homework' so you get a good job OR you go out and party instead. If you can't find balance with that, you'll wind up working in a gas station and drink bottom shelf booze to drown your sorrows.

So please don't try to make the 'playa creedo' out to be something profound. It's not. Most playas are basically sexual "jacks of all trades, but masters of no women". That's the inevitable future of the "game". You wanna chase? Great. But we both know you're gonna be alone at the end of the road, if that's all you're about. And there are plenty of other playas who will pat you on the back, all the way to becoming an old man with his dick in his hand, wondering what love actually was, or if he could've had it, right before he croaks. "That's a hard muthafuckin' fact of life", Homes. lol

[Nicole Dupre]

But I know lots of you playas had your hearts broken at some point, so you live that way. I sympathize to a degree. That's the other side of that coin. There are some ruthless hoes out there.

But you gotta keep your eye on the prize, if you want a prize.

lol

Porter Wagoner - Cold Hard Facts of Life - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KYCPQ9V2eSo)

[Bobby Domino]

I do like having a girl under my arm. The ones I date are because I value their intellect and our topics of conversation. If there's sex after, that's gravy. If there's no sex, the night wasn't wasted. Now if I just wanted some ass, there are those girls as well. I've never really been able to find a balance- a chick that could go to an opera in the evening and then a rave 'til dawn.


Odds are that she does to.

Which is why she's making you wait....

So play those game how you see fit I guess but shit if you're both fucking dutch, she should at least be paying for some of those dates.

Just sayin

[Helvis2012]

Three seems pretty reasonable. I'm thinking that's all I've ever waited.

[Nicole Dupre]

I've never really been able to find a balance- a chick that could go to an opera in the evening and then a rave 'til dawn.
New Orleans is probably not the easiest place to find that girl. NYC is a better bet.