Losing my erection when penetrated ...

[Gillian]

I have no problems maintaining an erection during foreplay, but the moment I'm penetrated, whether by cock or dildo, I lose my stiffy ... :(

I know I'm not alone and that a lot of guys lose their erection when penetrated, but what I want to know is if this is a response that I can learn to overcome. Maintaining my hard on would be cool if I could learn to do it ... :jerkoff

Is it just a mind thing, or is there something physiological going on?

[LibertyHarkness]

just mind .. i am the same

[sheer1]

Yeah,I'd like to know too!

[Kevin Dong]

try taking some Cabaser 0.5mg eod you will be fucking pillows in two weeks

[Richctdude]

viagra or cialis will solve that!!

[william.howl]

Are you being penetrated by something too big for your ass? Is it painful? The only time I recall that I couldn't keep an erection was years ago when I was with a girl who was very hung and was being somewhat rough with my ass. It wasn't really painful, but it was uncomfortable, and I didn't enjoy the physical aspect of it. The psychological aspect was great; i.e., being fucked by somebody with such a large penis.

[Gillian]

Are you being penetrated by something too big for your ass? Is it painful?
No pain or discomfort and I'm most definitely still aroused. It's just as if there's a switch that gets tripped.

A bit of Googling suggests it is something that I can learn to overcome. Just wondered if anyone had any tips or suggestions. Probably just more practice, I guess ... :wiggle:

[theone1982]

Isn't the title of this thread a Bon Jovi song?!:)

[nicebrn]

With me it's totally dependent on who I'm with, and I stay harder if I'm very turned on if I'm being done just the right way. So I'd say it's 70% mindset, 30% technique.

[Merkurie]

Not be be a jerk, but
What do you need an erection for if you are getting penetrated?

[loren]

just mind .. i am the sameme too

[Dino Velvet]

Isn't the title of this thread a Bon Jovi song?!:)

Yeah, I think I heard that song too.

http://myaccidentalmuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/02/jon_bon_jovi-1.jpg
"Fucked in the ass, and now you're soft.
You give penetration a ba'ad name..."

[Chaotic]

Yeah, I think I heard that song too.

http://myaccidentalmuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/02/jon_bon_jovi-1.jpg
"Fucked in the ass, and now you're soft.
You give penetration a ba'ad name..."

Well played!:dead::dead:

[theone1982]

Yeah, I think I heard that song too.

http://myaccidentalmuse.files.wordpress.com/2011/02/jon_bon_jovi-1.jpg
"Fucked in the ass, and now you're soft.
You give penetration a ba'ad name..."

It was that one? I thought it was "Oh, I'm halfway hard! Ohhhh, oh, but when you fuck me I go sofffftttt! Take my hand, and I'll get hard again, I swear!":)

[LisaKampen]

Hi,

it depends how horny I am.
Sometimes it stays during the fuck, sometimes it goes. But thats not really important for me at that moment, because I like this "inside me".:)

Like some guys told before, a Cialis or Viagra could help.


Lisa

[sunairco]

True, it may be a state of mind, but has anyone given the thought perhaps why? For most men, sustaining an erection is accompanied by visual and aural stimulation. If a chick moans, talks dirty, or for that matter any physical feedback, it enhances that stimulation. Having sex in the dark with a chick that's self conscious about her body image and laying there like a piece of meat and you know she's just enduring every minute to get it over with in a recipe for a flacid member. Unless you just tune her out and get it on thinking about the last playboy playmate foldout that you seen or some other surrogate mindfuck, you're fucking a hole by proxy, you're able to keep it hard. So too in this situation. Prior to being penetrated you're thinking about all kinds of erotic thoughts. That shifts once you're penetrated as you're mind first is preoccupied with the initial penetration and then you're mind is focused on the pleasure or pain whichever you're experiencing. You're mind becomes hyperfocused on what's going on down there and how you feel, not the erotic image or sexual stimulation of the brain. The male mind is different, you need that psychosexual stimulation for the tumenscence to occur. How many TS or gay videos that you've seen have the bottom staring up at the ceiling or suspiciously somewhere else? They're most likely watching a video or watching someone else mind fluffing them during the shoot to stay hard keeping their mind of the penetrative event and on something visually stimulating.

[Elysian]

Losing one's erection whilst being penetrated is firstly a natural response mechanism for males. Anything of width entering past the sphincter muscles will cause this, due in part to the brain receiving 'need to defecate' signals. Blood flow is switched from the genitals to the muscles in the colon. This can be overcome as a 'learned' response during sex, something you habituate yourself to over time.

It helps to be aroused, very aroused, focus your mind on the 'eroticism' of the sex, you need to learn to persuade your brain to remain in arousal state.

As the poster stated earlier, taking a quarter or half a tab of Dostinex (Cabergoline) every 4 days will certainly help to open up the blood vessels and get and keep that blood flowing to the erogenous zones. Before taking any drug, do the research first on side and inhibitory effects.

[sunairco]

I'd believe that any nurse would take issue with this from practical experience adminstering an enema to a male. Same with a hydrotherapist adminsitering a colonic irrigation. Both have wittnessed too many accidental erections inserting a nozzle or specula.



Losing one's erection whilst being penetrated is firstly a natural response mechanism for males. Anything of width entering past the sphincter muscles will cause this, due in part to the brain receiving 'need to defecate' signals. Blood flow is switched from the genitals to the muscles in the colon. This can be overcome as a 'learned' response during sex, something you habituate yourself to over time.

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[Elysian]

I'd believe that any nurse would take issue with this from practical experience...

I agree, but would they take issue? The question is about maintaining an erection once penetrated (by penis or dildo)? I should think they will be exceptions. Nevertheless, a penis and dildo carry more width than an enema or colonic irrigation equipment. Natural mechanisms will most certainly play a part in deflating an erection...as you are no doubt aware, the anus is an natural outlet, not an inlet. :iagree:

[Jake4]

I always stay hard when I get a cock in me.

[TheGuard]

I have a solution, stop putting things in your ass.

[fred41]

I'd believe that any nurse would take issue with this from practical experience adminstering an enema to a male. Same with a hydrotherapist adminsitering a colonic irrigation. Both have wittnessed too many accidental erections inserting a nozzle or specula.


I believe those erections occur for the same reasons you hear about erections occurring during prostate exams...stimulation to the prostate gland.

...anal sex won't always achieve this because the gland has to be hit (or massaged ) "just right"...though just right is probably a little different for everyone.

...since we're talking science..lol

[Wendy Summers]

Add me to the list of no erection while being fucked... I do drip like crazy then tho.

[CORVETTEDUDE]

Add me to the list of no erection while being fucked... I do drip like crazy then tho.


I wanna see!!! I wanna see!!!:banana::banana::banana::banana::party:

[trish]

Needless to say, I love getting fucked up the ass. Slow, fast, deep, shallow, grinding or pounding...I LOVE IT. It always makes me hard, but not HARD; i.e. it's not the same sort of HARDness I get from being sucked and stroked. Or even the same sort of HARD I can get even from severe horniness. It's a different sort of arousal: thick and throbbing but not turgid and twitching. Feeling an excited cock plunging repeatedly back and forth along my prostate, and occasionally ramming directly into it just sends me into paroxisms of delirium and causes me to ooze profusely and sometimes squirt. Just sayin'

[CORVETTEDUDE]

Needless to say, I love getting fucked up the ass. Slow, fast, deep, shallow, grinding or pounding...I LOVE IT. It always makes me hard, but not HARD; i.e. it's not the same sort of HARDness I get from being sucked and stroked. Or even the same sort of HARD I can get even from severe horniness. It's a different sort of arousal: thick and throbbing but not turgid and twitching. Feeling an excited cock plunging repeatedly back and forth along my prostate, and occasionally ramming directly into it just sends me into paroxisms of delirium and causes me to ooze profusely and sometimes squirt. Just sayin'

It would be my pleasure....:Bowdown::praying::whistle:

[Merkurie]

Add me to the list of no erection while being fucked... I do drip like crazy then tho.

MMMM!

I think that is so hot.

[fred41]

Needless to say, I love getting fucked up the ass. Slow, fast, deep, shallow, grinding or pounding...I LOVE IT. It always makes me hard, but not HARD; i.e. it's not the same sort of HARDness I get from being sucked and stroked. Or even the same sort of HARD I can get even from severe horniness. It's a different sort of arousal: thick and throbbing but not turgid and twitching. Feeling an excited cock plunging repeatedly back and forth along my prostate, and occasionally ramming directly into it just sends me into paroxisms of delirium and causes me to ooze profusely and sometimes squirt. Just sayin'


uhm.....I think I need to get a cold beverage now....lol

[sunairco]

Since we are talking science, a typical barrium N or EZM tip or colon tube that's part of the hose of a disposable enema package is inserted well past the prostate. Only stimulation it might get is inderect movememt of the hose or stem after insertion which would be significantly less then if you were penetrated by a penis or dildo which have a much greater girth. Rectal exams and insertable devices are not withdrawn and entered repeatedly passing over the prostate. Only a digital prostate exam will palipatate and to some degree massage the gland. In any case, a dildo or penis will stimulate the gland considerably more due to girth and movement. The gland itself is not that far past the rectal sphincter. A secondary possibility of stimulation is rubbing against the base of the penile bulb internally. That would take a longer penis or dildo in the order of around 7 inches to strike that spot and not any instrumentation or digital exam generally will reach it unless they are doing a high colonic which really isn't done much anymore except for very special situations such as impaction. I'm not even sure if that stimulation will cause an erection.

Just talking science.


I believe those erections occur for the same reasons you hear about erections occurring during prostate exams...stimulation to the prostate gland.

...anal sex won't always achieve this because the gland has to be hit (or massaged ) "just right"...though just right is probably a little different for everyone.

...since we're talking science..lol

[fred41]

Since we are talking science, a typical barrium N or EZM tip or colon tube that's part of the hose of a disposable enema package is inserted well past the prostate. Only stimulation it might get is inderect movememt of the hose or stem after insertion which would be significantly less then if you were penetrated by a penis or dildo which have a much greater girth. Rectal exams and insertable devices are not withdrawn and entered repeatedly passing over the prostate. Only a digital prostate exam will palipatate and to some degree massage the gland. In any case, a dildo or penis will stimulate the gland considerably more due to girth and movement. The gland itself is not that far past the rectal sphincter. A secondary possibility of stimulation is rubbing against the base of the penile bulb internally. That would take a longer penis or dildo in the order of around 7 inches to strike that spot and not any instrumentation or digital exam generally will reach it unless they are doing a high colonic which really isn't done much anymore except for very special situations such as impaction. I'm not even sure if that stimulation will cause an erection.

Just talking science.

:Bowdown:...okay...lol.