Long term relationship with a former working girl/porn star

[trapmasta]

I am not seeking advice, just expressing my feelings and concerns about a particular issue Many of us males might run into.

So I might a halfway decent chick the other day. Physically; she's perfect. All I could ever dream of, gorgeous face, perfect body.

I think we click on a high level and share the same dreams and aspirations. There are a couple things that give me cold feet tho.

I just don't know How I would introduce her to friends? I mean she's passable and all but she has a major past in porn and posting ads online. How do I trust her past won't resurface? I would rather introduce her as a girl and leave it at that. But would it be wiser to bring forth her transexuality upfront?

[Mayrah]

If you think she is a keeper, then yes.. be upfront to your friends about it, they will find out anyway. Its easier if they know at the first time meeting then when your 5 months into the relation and they insert her name for fun and giggles on google.

Besides, its not that she is going to be a stranger to them if it is longterm :)

[innocentbychoice]

I am not seeking advice, just expressing my feelings and concerns about a particular issue Many of us males might run into.

So I might a halfway decent chick the other day. Physically; she's perfect. All I could ever dream of, gorgeous face, perfect body.

I think we click on a high level and share the same dreams and aspirations. There are a couple things that give me cold feet tho.

I just don't know How I would introduce her to friends? I mean she's passable and all but she has a major past in porn and posting ads online. How do I trust her past won't resurface? I would rather introduce her as a girl and leave it at that. But would it be wiser to bring forth her transexuality upfront?

I think you should ask her first. Some girls don't like to be outed, some don't care, so it's up to her, it's her life you're talking about after all.

And about her past and your friends, who gives a crap? You already know what she did before, that's all that matters. She was honest with you, if your friends find out, they'll probably tell you about it and you'll be like "so what? I already know and I like her" and that will shut them up. And if they find out she's trans, they should like her because she's your girlfriend and she makes you happy; if they don't, they aren't real friends, end of story.

[trapmasta]

Very wise words. Thank you.

[DW2012]

Kelly Shore

[Chris in LA]

That's tough, a situation that at the end of the day only you have to deal with. The question is, can you deal with it? Can you deal with knowing this girl you might start falling for used to be a working girl & probably could easily go back to it. Have you discussed this with her? Is she completely out of the game or not? How did you meet her?

[trapmasta]

She's no longer escorting. That isn't what the issue is. It's more about jer transecuality and how open I should be about it. If she didn't have a past loaded with porn and ad posting I'd probably just not bring it up... But Im gonna talk to her about once I start feeling we've reached a level of exclusivity

[mealticket]

well its not like ur friends and family are going to be looking up transsexual porn. and if they are then they will have to explain how they found her...little doubt of that happening...plus people look different in pics and vids than in person, especially when it comes to porn stuff...

[lisaparadise]

I am not seeking advice, just expressing my feelings and concerns about a particular issue Many of us males might run into.

So I might a halfway decent chick the other day. Physically; she's perfect. All I could ever dream of, gorgeous face, perfect body.

I think we click on a high level and share the same dreams and aspirations. There are a couple things that give me cold feet tho.

I just don't know How I would introduce her to friends? I mean she's passable and all but she has a major past in porn and posting ads online. How do I trust her past won't resurface? I would rather introduce her as a girl and leave it at that. But would it be wiser to bring forth her transexuality upfront?how about telling her to go away and send her to me?

[lisaparadise]

I think you should ask her first. Some girls don't like to be outed, some don't care, so it's up to her, it's her life you're talking about after all.

And about her past and your friends, who gives a crap? You already know what she did before, that's all that matters. She was honest with you, if your friends find out, they'll probably tell you about it and you'll be like "so what? I already know and I like her" and that will shut them up. And if they find out she's trans, they should like her because she's your girlfriend and she makes you happy; if they don't, they aren't real friends, end of story.very well said and for the record no tranny is passable period they will find out so be prepared.

[trapmasta]

how about telling her to go away and send her to me?

She dont swing that way lol

[lisaparadise]

She dont swing that way lolyayaya thats what we all say lol

[blckhaze]

Well my gf's past emerges often
Itd be diff if she hid it from me, but she was damn near recounting specific events. If ur girl is open about it, nothing more is to be said if say a chaser approaches on the street. He rpast is just that and you werent dating her then. So......build a bridge my friend.

[SilentTide]

very well said and for the record no tranny is passable period they will find out so be prepared.
:iagree:
I would imagine that some things could give it away over time

[fordly66]

I wouldn't say a thing. If she is really well known like Gia Darling, I still have doubts that the average person not into the TS scene, would know her. As far as her being a TS, if she is mostly passable, but maybe has something about her that might give her away, I still wouldn't say anything. Let the friends figure it out on their own. If they do figure something out about her, they probably wouldn't say anything to you anyway. Also by not saying anything, you don't even have to mention this subject to her.

[Helvis2012]

It's up to you. Frankly, it's none of anyone's business. Anyone who is worth their salt will treat your friend nicely simply because she's with you. In any case, I wouldn't offer any information. It will only open the door to a lot of bullshit.