Do you know anyone who has died from AIDS?

[AllanahStarrNYC]

Since it is world AIDS day- I have been thinking a lot and remembering my friends who have died from AIDS. I have known several men and transsexuals who have passed from AIDS through the years-most recently my friend Janette Alexander who died a few weeks ago after a long batte with the disease.

I want to know if any of you have been touched by AIDS personally-wether if be the passing of a friend, family member, lover, or someone you knew of.

How has AIDS affected you directly or indirectly?

[GroobySteven]

Worked as a care assistant/auxillary nurse when I was 24 in London and specifically with people who'd been sent home for in-home care as they were in final stages. Over a year I had 3 people I spent 12 hours a day, 5 or 6 days a week with and naturally became quite close.

Alice was an African immigrant who'd been in the country 6 yrs or so, caught AIDS from her husband who'd died many years previous. She was probably my age now (35) but looked 50.

Leslie I spent the most time with - a stuck-up, snobby artdealer but we soon had a close relationship as I was the only carer who refused to take his shit and dealt with his tyranny straight on. He also loved the fact that he could introduce me as having the only straight (!?!) care assitant in London (joke). He taught me a lot about art, history and London - and as such, I think I aquired some of my tastes for fine wine and good restaurants from him.


Also of course, a number of models I've worked with over the years but I'd prefer not to name, names. Unfortuantely, from what I understand - there will be a good few more added to that list over the coming years.

seanchai

[yourdaddy]

My son died of AIDS in 1991. The last 4 hours of his life were spent reciting the 23rd psalm. He asked me to take him to get tested, and all he was worried about, was a young lady that he had been seeing (he was bisexual). His last 2 years were spent in Arizona, where the state had a wonderful program for Aids victims. He was a great guy, and I really miss him.

[AllanahStarrNYC]

I'm deeply sorry about the passing of your son- my condolenses.

[BeardedOne]

Two friends/lovers that I know of, several more by degree (Friends of friends), a couple of individuals living with HIV/AIDS.

I think this is a secondary reason that I've become a bit of a hermit. :cry:

[yourdaddy]

Thank you Allanah, I know you mean it.

[flabbybody]

can't begin to imagine the pain of a parent watching his kid die.

It's very sad that AIDS is still viewed by a sizable percentage of our population as a "behavioral" disease and is somehow different than strokes or heart attacks. If the typical AIDS sufferer fell into a more influential category of our society, we may have had a complete cure by now.

[Copenhagen]

Man, sorry to hear that.

[mbf]

can't begin to imagine the pain of a parent watching his kid die.

It's very sad that AIDS is still viewed by a sizable percentage of our population as a "behavioral" disease and is somehow different than strokes or heart attacks. If the typical AIDS sufferer fell into a more influential category of our society, we may have had a complete cure by now.

as if strokes and heart attacks were NO "behavioral" diseases. smoking, bad diet and no sports.....

anyways my heart goes out to all the aids victims and their families

[wbilly]

can't begin to imagine the pain of a parent watching his kid die.

It's very sad that AIDS is still viewed by a sizable percentage of our population as a "behavioral" disease and is somehow different than strokes or heart attacks. If the typical AIDS sufferer fell into a more influential category of our society, we may have had a complete cure by now.

Actually, that's not the problem at all. AIDS is just plain hard to cure - although relatively easy to prevent.

US research expenditures on three major fatal diseases in 2003 were:

Lung cancer: research $ per death $1,739 (Total $279.5mm / Deaths 157,000)

Breast cancer: research $ per death $13,650 (Total $548.7mm / Deaths 40,200)

AIDS: research $ per death $14,428 (Total $269.4mm / Deaths 18,017)

Just so we don't hijack the thread: I have had several friends die of AIDS - including a girl who was very, very dear to me. It hurts a lot to see a beautiful person wither and die and not be able to do a damn thing to stop it.

[Quinn]

My "Uncle Tony." He wasn't actually my uncle, but that's what he was called. To me, he was more family than my parents ever were.

-Quinn

[brickcitybrother]

Sorry to hear about your son. Yes, I have too. It is so simply to prevent and so hard for people to comprehend that it is so simply to prevent.

[Copenhagen]

Sorry to hear that brick. Hang in there man.

[WendyWilliams]

Many influential ladies of the "drag" community who were amazing entertainers that I admired are gone: Coco, Tandi Andrews, etcc

The only guy I have ever been in love with is positive and he is only 26 years old, LONG story about him.

I have several and mean several tgirl friends who are positive, one who has been positive going on 18 years and she is doing well.

A few gay male friends who just recently (within the month) have been diagnosed.


Thats why I donate money monthly to an AIDS Clinic which provides free medicine, check-ups and counseling to MANY people.

[castabyss]

Sadly, I know two people who have died from AIDS. One was my best friend in elementary school. He died at only 18 in 1989 which was kind of a big deal back then. I still have his obituary.

[Kramer]

After reading this iam super glad I dont see escorts! Damn, ya gotta put it all in perspective.

[WendyWilliams]

Kramer that was just pure ignorance.


AIDS is rapid in all races, sex, and careers,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,what does being an escort have to do with remembering the people we have lost??

[Ecstatic]

I have not known anyone closely who has died of AIDS, only a few acquaintances. But that doesn't lessen the sorrow.

[Kramer]

Wendy you mentioned that you knew/know alot of transexuals that have and have died of Aids. I dont have to be a rocket scientist to understand your post. Fact is if you go with a trans escort (or any) you are risking your life. Dont deny it. I recall you said a while back that you knew people that still escort even though they know they are HIV+.

[WendyWilliams]

First of all read the post,,

I said I had friends in the "drag" community die of aids............and I had tgirl friends who were positive.

NOT ONCE did I say any of them were or had been an escort.

thank for turning a topic into something it wasnt even geared towards.

ANytime you have sex you are at risk, whether paying for it or not.

[chefmike]

I was told a few years ago that two guy's in our high school class had died of AIDS. One I knew pretty well, his name was Ricky, the other I don't recall. A guy I worked with in the late 80's (a helluva grill man) also died of AIDS.

[AllanahStarrNYC]

Kramer- you are at risk when you have sex with ANYONE......

Saying that having sex with an escort is risking your life is simplyr ridiculous. Do you drive a car? If u are driving without a seat belt on and get in an accident you can die right? So hence, if you drive a car you will die- ABSOLUTELY NOT.

I am still astounded that in this day and age- people still think like this.
I bet most escorts I know are much more safe than the kids who go out every weekend and pick up different people.

If you have sex- you are a risk for an STD- period.................................

You dont want to be at risk- don't have sex with anyone..................................

[Kramer]

Arianna you stupid nosy cunt! I used to see escorts, but its been 3 years since I have. When my wife got pregnant I stopped. Ive also been tested myself for an insurance policy and I know im clean so I choose not to risk it anymore!

Its not youre buisness to call anyone racist or anyother names. No go sit on a cucumber you fugly bitch!! :x

[Kramer]

As for calling Danielle, My intentions were non-penetrable!!!

[Kramer]

Allanah we are all entitled to an opinion, and I respect yours.

[lahabra1976]

I actually read a statistic saying that 11% of men from gay bathhouses have AIDS...very scary, of course, not much relation to this forum

Of course, the safest way to not have AIDS is to not have sex because protected sex does help protect you, but not absolute 100%. In fact, it says only can say protects in vaginal sex. Anal sex condoms can rip and stuff.

I always say a realistic safe way is once you find the woman of your dreams, stay with her and don't have sex outside...just not worth the risk

I know of a friend who had sex outside his marriage, got AIDS, gave it to his wife, his wife be weaker died, and he is currently living with AIDS. Giving it to a loved one is just simply wrong!!!

[Deepdarkfucker]

My brother and Father

[lmw222001]

My Friend Tommy, Who Used To Run This Great Bar/Rest/Club In Boston That My Friends And I Worked At. Great, Super Guy. Passed Away
About 1990. RIP My Friend.

[Kramer]

Arianna, who the fuck are you to judge anyone. Im not the guy walking around in a fucking dress with a buttplug stuffed up my ass, like yourself!

I never started calling you names, you provoked it. So I believe you would be the fool here.

You were the one sitting in front of the computer calling me a racist when you know nothing about me. Dont you think if I were I would really care.

How dare you say those things about me. It just shows you are brainless.

[Felicia Katt]

I don't know anyone who has died of aids, I have been very blessed as far as that goes. My heart goes out to all those who have suffered losses here. It would be nice, if in this one thread, we could show each other and the memory of their loved ones a little respect here

FK