Is she cheating - or am I just nuts...

[steviedresses]

I'm a 50 year old closet CD. (Have been since puberty) Married 2nd wife 8 years ago. Some would consider my facination with shemales and internet porn cheating... But I've never actually touched anybody else since we got engaged 10 years ago.

Anyway, my wife has given me reason to suspect she is cheating. Last week she said she had a meeting at work at 1 pm. (She works nights) It is a 20 minute drive so she left at 12:30. Before she left she made a point of telling me one of her co-workers was going with her to the meeting. She got a couple of text messages before she left and closed up her cell phone real quick without answering them. I call her at 3:35 and she is on her way home. I'm near home so we meet and have really good sex. She sucked my dick HARD!

She tells me the meeting was a bust so they went to a show. The movie was another 15 minutes away from her work so it is 35 minutes from the house. That's when I go huh? You left at 12:30, went to work, had a meeting , left, went to the show, and was on the way home in 3 hours? It is an hour round trip to the show, show was 1:45. This doesn't add up. So I checked the times: Show started at 1:15. It seems a stretch that she went to work, met with her boss, then decided to go to the show with another night shifter, not the orginal friend.

What does add up is she never went to work and just met someone at the show. Now why would she lie? Cause she is meeting someone she doesn't want me to know about. I asked her how the show was (The Last Exorism), she said she had her eyes close thru most of it.

I've caught her lying on many occasions. She can be a pathological liar. She doesn't do it to me too much cause she know I will catch her. She told a cop friend of our she passed a kidney stone when she went to the ER. I was with her, she never passed a stone. He is a fucking cop and started grilling me... I covered for her.

I think there is a 50% chance she has been seeing this guy on the side for years now. I've met him, I knows she likes him, and she admitted she stays in touch with him. Yet he is not in her address list on her phone. So I'm thinking she has hid him under a name I don't recognize and deletes all his messages. There has been other things, like finding a receipt from McDonalds with a list beside it... His name was on it. I say 'Went to McDonalds last night huh? She says she got so and so something but left him off. Another time she said she took half a night off work and went ghost hunting with him and his girlfriend. Only I saw the pictures, girlfriend was there, but they are not really a couple. And my dear wife was not dressed for work, she had on her cum fuck me clothes.

If anybody actually read this, thanks. I'm just venting. If I really want to know I just need to hire a private dick and have him tail her next time she says she is going to the movies with her friends.

[goku]

cheating..........hate to be the first to answer. When things don't add up.......

[PomonaCA]

She is cheating and you are nuts.

[youshouldtrythislol]

you say she is a pathological liar and you have caught her lying numerous times, i gotta ask, why do you keep putting up with it? personally, after the first lie, i would have kicked her to the curb. thats just me though.

[goku]

People will push you as far as you let them. If you don't handle the situation, she will eventually handle it for you. Stand up for yourself, and put your foot down. Just a thought.

[steviedresses]

Thanks guys. I knew I could count on the HA clientlle to set me straight. Guess I will catch her now and decide what to do.

[notdrunk]

People will push you as far as you let them. If you don't handle the situation, she will eventually handle it for you. Stand up for yourself, and put your foot down. Just a thought.

Or, turn into another Mel Gibson.

[steviedresses]

The problem is ... I love crossdressing and am continually dreaming about having sex with men. I catch myself looking at nice cocks at the gym.

I keep my chest shaved, just shaved my arm pits. My ass and scrotum I try to keep smooth, (but it is a pain in the ass!). And I trim my pubs. She knows damn good and well that I am cross-dressing. Or at least she should. I have been with men maybe 6 times in my life. (Though None since we got together.) Some of the experiences were OK. Some weren't.

We have a good sex life and she is a good fuck. But she won't let me go down on her anymore and I really miss that. We manage to fuck two to three times a week. We have 5 kids between us, she works nights, I work days, so fucking two to three times a week is good.

Anyway, if she is fucking someone else. I am almost inclined to let her, and start my own fucking around. I'm 50, nice ass. average cock. 6 feet, 190 pounds. Should post some picks so everyone can check me out. I'm not getting any younger, maybe now is the time.

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[scubaman]

she is cheating and you are nuts.
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+1

[giovanni_hotel]

Instincts in a relationship are rarely off.

How would you feel about having an 'open' relationship, in that whatever she does, she doesn't bring it back home??

Just a suggestion since you're almost ten years into this thing!!!

[steviedresses]

Honestly. I would love it. I would love to realize my potential, have her help me dress, and both of us do her boyfriend. I would love to see her sucking another cock and getting fucked. God I am a prevert.... Shit.

[bte]

If you think she is cheating on her, then confront her. Its no use posting it to a porn forum when you already know the answer. Or else indulge in your fantasy of having sex with a man.

[giovanni_hotel]

If you both LOVE each other, ( you have to kinda know this before you even bring it up), I'd put it all on the table.
There are LOTs of couples who stay together out of a deeper, emotional connection, and the physical aspect of their relationship remains 'fluid'.

[Faldur]

Your out dancing around in a dress and your complaining about her trying to find a man? Seems you need to take a look in the mirror. Take off the dress Sally and man up and satisfy your wife.

If you want to be in relations with men, and dress as a girl you should give your wife her freedom and pursue your desires.

[dderek123]

We have a good sex life ...... We manage to fuck two to three times a week. We have 5 kids between us, she works nights, I work days, so fucking two to three times a week is good.

Anyway, if she is fucking someone else. I am almost inclined to let her, and start my own fucking around.

Your situation doesn't sound that bad at all. Similar couples in your situation probably don't have it so good especially with the sex life. And, she is cool with you being a cross dresser and that whole thing. Sounds excellent.

I'm a believer that nothing lasts forever. IMHO good relationships are the ones that can deal with change constructively. Perhaps, the relationship could be in some stage of transition where it could form into something with a new set of rules of play. Maybe she would be into swinging or having an open relationship? Try to discuss it with her. Think about it if she gets to go out and play you can to and you can both fulfill your desires.

If you approach the topic tactfully it could open up some great possibilities. But if she starts lying about it and denying everything (which is possible judging from how you describe her trouble with being honest) then I am not sure what you could do next.

[bat1]

have you asked yourself ''Why''

are you two having sex? if not she will go else where to get it..

your a CD maybe that's a turn off for her and she wants a real man...

you' could be more the problem then her....

[Nicole Dupre]

No offense but I'd cheat on you too, and even tell you about it, if I knew you were dreaming of getting your ass plowed by some buff dudes at your gym anyway. At that point, what's the difference?

I think you need to start doing what's in your heart. Obviously your wife is not satisfying you and vise versa. If the marriage works out beyond that, fine. If not, you both obviously made a mistake. 'Live and learn' I s'pose.

[giovanni_hotel]

They have kids and financial considerations to consider, that's why I said if it were possible to continue their marriage 'openly', that has to be a step up from divorce, or secretly cheating on each other.
I mean they still fucc each other, in my mind there's something to work with between the two of them.

[dderek123]

They have kids and financial considerations to consider, that's why I said if it were possible to continue their marriage 'openly', that has to be a step up from divorce, or secretly cheating on each other.
I mean they still fucc each other, in my mind there's something to work with between the two of them.

I agree. They seem to have a lot going for each other to give up now. Five kids, wicked sex life, understanding. They shouldn't give up so easy. I don't like how he describes her as such a liar though.

[dderek123]

Your situation doesn't sound that bad at all. Similar couples in your situation probably don't have it so good especially with the sex life. And, she is cool with you being a cross dresser (I shouldn't get drunk and post at the same time, i missed the part in the OP that said he is in the closet).

You gotta get out of the closet at least with her or you are going to further alienate her. If you really wanna try to work things out you got to let her into your life. Worst case scenario is that she doesn't accept it and that's not so bad so then you can both move on. But if you're worried about people finding out you like getting pounded in the ass you ought to stop doing that. C'mon man you're 50 for crying out loud. You don't have to explain yourself to anybody.

edited it because i screwed up the first time

[Helvis2012]

Doesn't sound good. You better hope she doesn't bring home some filthy disease.

[phobun]

you say she is a pathological liar and you have caught her lying numerous times, i gotta ask, why do you keep putting up with it?


Because he is a submissive bottom and wannabe pussy.

His wife doesn't respect him. Real women don't respect or get turned on by effeminate men or guys that take dick up their mouths and asses.

So she goes and gets her satisfaction elsewhere.

[shemale-411]

Because he is a submissive bottom and wannabe pussy.

His wife doesn't respect him. Real women don't respect or get turned on by effeminate men or guys that take dick up their mouths and asses.

So she goes and gets her satisfaction elsewhere.

Phobun doesnt respect anyone that isnt a postop, so take anything he says with a grain of salt. I'm posting the Youtube video of the The Graham Norton Show episode in which Katie Price ( about as real woman as one could ask for) talks about her cross dressing boyfriend and enjoying time with him.
http://www.shemale-411.com


YouTube - The Graham Norton Show 6x3 - Katie Price Jo Brand and Jackie Collins Part 2 (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9eM-YgR7IL8)

[Trans-Promo]

This is what happens with relationships that are based on anything but honesty.

[alyssaluxor]

This is what happens with relationships that are based on anything but honesty.

+1 ;)

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[PomonaCA]

This is what happens with relationships that are based on anything but honesty.


Or a love of crossdressing.

[LAGent4ts]

Lot's of things to consider here, but depending on the State, a marriage of 10 years is the magic number for lifetime spousal support, but that may be moot if the incomes are about the same. If your gonna cut the tie, what is to be gained by waiting? Good luck