Cheating vs Having an Affair?

[evilernie]

Ok, let's us assume that guys would cheat because of sex. How about an affair? Would he regularly see another girl (gg or tg including escorts) because the sex with the other woman is that good compared to his wife?

[BLKGSXR]

having an affair is cheating...All in all if you do that you dont deserve what ya got imo.

[evilernie]

having an affair is cheating..

You're too quick. The question is would cheating lead to an ongoing affair.

[Jericho]

You're too quick. The question is would cheating lead to an ongoing affair.

Define the difference. :shrug

[Nicole Dupre]

An affair is a relationship. Cheating could simply be a one night stand.

[Jericho]

Ah, cheating, or cheating often.

[rockabilly]

But are you monogomous w/ your cheating?

[evilernie]

Ok, personally, I view cheating as two individuals having casual (maybe regular) sex.

An affair means I call her on a regular basis, buy flowers for her birthday, and such.

Now for guys, this could be sincere or not. But we know women are emotional. Would you go through this effort because sex with her is spectacular. Or would you only do this if you actually care about her.

[giovanni_hotel]

You're slicing that onion MIGHTY thin, evil!!
Cheating is 'just sex' and an affair is a 'harlequin romance'??
Honestly I never saw a difference between the two.
If I'm giving up that much emotionally to another woman, unless I have a huge financial obligation and/or kids involved - and even if I did, I would immediately dump the old girl and stick with the new one.

[Nicole Dupre]

... But we know women are emotional....... and if you buy them stuff on their birthday, how it will make them think it's perfectly acceptable. Right. And we all know men are emotionless pigs who think with their dicks. Of course.

Glad we cleared that up.

So where were we again? Oh, yeah. Cheating, and spin control.

[bte]

Men cheat because thats in their nature. A guy could have his dream woman, but after a few months or years, he will cheat on her.

[rockabilly]

IDK about that bte.

[mansamusa]

Men cheat because thats in their nature. A guy could have his dream woman, but after a few months or years, he will cheat on her.

Yup...........

[giovanni_hotel]

Men are weak, sexually speaking, and need to stay in relative close proximity to their women, ( the first one they see in the morning, coming home to them at night), or they are at risk of straying...like a domesticated dog will do for the first stranger who pats his head and gives him a treat to eat.

All men don't cheat, but it doesn't take a whole lot of effort to make a man betray his commitment in a LTR either, especially if he feels his sexual needs aren't being met.

IMO, if a woman masters the art of giving a slopping bj and swallowing cum EVERY SINGLE FUCCIN DAY(!), the average guy will keep his ass home.

[bte]

IDK about that bte.

There are some exceptions, but the majority of guys will eventually cheat at least once in their lifetime.

[fred41]

There are some exceptions, but the majority of guys will eventually cheat at least once in their lifetime.

so do a lot of women..maybe not as many as men....but a lot.

..because all these cheating guys aren't cheating with the same woman.

[bte]

Men are weak, sexually speaking, and need to stay in relative close proximity to their women, ( the first one they see in the morning, coming home to them at night), or they are at risk of straying...like a domesticated dog will do for the first stranger who pats his head and gives him a treat to eat.

All men don't cheat, but it doesn't take a whole lot of effort to make a man betray his commitment in a LTR either, especially if he feels his sexual needs aren't being met.

IMO, if a woman masters the art of giving a slopping bj and swallowing cum EVERY SINGLE FUCCIN DAY(!), the average guy will keep his ass home.

I don't know man. Sometimes people just get bored with the person that they are with.

[yodajazz]

You're slicing that onion MIGHTY thin, evil!!
Cheating is 'just sex' and an affair is a 'harlequin romance'??
Honestly I never saw a difference between the two.
If I'm giving up that much emotionally to another woman, unless I have a huge financial obligation and/or kids involved - and even if I did, I would immediately dump the old girl and stick with the new one.

I think you are being highly unrealistic about dumping a woman, who you are married to, and especially one with whom you have had kids. For example, I heard today that Michael Jackson's doctor, a surgeon, with two offices, had trouble with child support. And what about being forced to sell a home, to which you have invested tens of thousands of dollars? Lawyers fees alone, cost in the thousands of dollars. In my state, they even suspend driver's licenses, because of back child support, not to mention jail time.

Affairs, in my book are not about sex, as much as they are about getting attention. Many women in ltr's start to care more about the material comforts given to them, than the the person to helps to provide them. Imagine a man coming home from a frustrating day at work, but his wife stays on the phone for an hour and a half, talking to a girlfriend. after a few times, he's not going to come straight home afte a frustrating day.

[sunairco]

I don't buy into the all guys will cheat given the opportunity thing. I never did. My life experience with friends and co-workers I have to admit, proves that line of thinking rather incorrect.

Guy's will cheat just for a fling and it really means nothing to them. Women will cheat for emotional connection if they feel neglected. Women will usually take a guy back if he has a fling, but not if she feels he was in love with another or had a emotional connection. Opposite for a guy. Somehow a fling is a betrayal, but a relationship a challenge to win her back. Not sure I agree with this, but that's the take a marriage counsellor would have.

[DL_NL]

I don't cheat. Whenever I decide the relationship's not working, I end it. Or I end it because my GF doesn't live by such norms.

[bte]

Now im 33 yeard old have 2 kids with two different mothers... Had then 13 years ago... Been in a relationship with a girl that was bi for 7 years.. She knew i had sex before with a ts... We broke up couse. She wanted to settel down but i was still working on my career.... Im single... Tried to be in relationship but i realize after all these years that i wasnt build for relationships...

.. I love females and ts... Just last year i realize that i've been fucking myself since i was 18 and thats along time to wonder if im gay or straight.. But the fact of the matter is not sexually attracted to gay men.. I never did like men or fem guys or whatever lies in that category... Transexual turn me on because i love the feminine quality and that fact that some of your sexy girls have nice size cocks that i love to suck and get fucked by.... Yes i love cock just as much as my ts girls do... You like it from straight or bi guys... I like it from ts girls.....

Now... My life; my world....
My mother have anxiety and depression problems do i need to freak her out more about things i dont need her to freak out about... No

im single do i have a girl friend that needs to know that about me no.. ( and if i did have a girlfriend she would have to be very sexual open-minded person)... It wouldn't be fair to date some one who isnt sexual as i am... So instead of lieing or having to cheat... I rather find equal interest...

Basically if i dated a ts i would make sure we had an understanding about my life as much as i would respect hers... My kids family and those friends that i had for over 5 years dont need to know... As much as they have there on private life...

Now am i bi? That depends who's asking.. Do i consider myself bi? Yeah more like bi-polar..lol jk.....i dont know... But like i said... I love pussy and i love big or normal size cock on a sexy ts girl if i cant fuck or get fucked by one... I'll just buy myself a big fucking dildo and continue on fucking my self.... And have my prostate orgasm and anal orgasm for hours.. As i've been doing for over 15 years...

Me liking ts girls and females is no different then a girl who would cheat on you with another male... And who knows if he doesnt like the same thing as me or he might be gay or femboy lover on the low.....

So is it ok; for me be who i am...and keep my sexuality to myself.. And if i feel like sharing it i would if i dont i wont... Is that wrong?

What you talking about? The original topic was cheating vs having an affair, not whether you are gay or straight.

[DL_NL]

He posted the same story in two threads. Attention-hungry, I'd say.

[almoststraight]

Guys who cheat are bitches. If they would man up and just be honest with themselves and the people that love them (and whom they supposedly love), they might be surprised what happens.

There's no excuse for breaking your word, especially with the person you share your life with. If you want to fuck someone else, own it, and don't be a coward about it.

Too afraid to tell your wife? Too embarrassed to say that you like TS girls? You haven't owned who you are yet so you weasel around trying to keep up fronts with people to protect your ego or your lifestyle or whatever. That's why you're a bitch and coward. Own yourself.

[youshouldtrythislol]

cheating, in my opinion, is never right, nor is having an affair. if you dont love the person you are with completely, and feel the need to be with someone else, then leave the person you are not happy with, dont leave them thinking everything is ok when you are sleeping around.

[bte]

BASICALLY IT FITS IN BOTH CATEGORY "MR. D-L".... GUYS CHEAT AND CANT BE REAL ABOUT THEMSELVES... LIKE YOUR SELF D..... L

ME I WOULDN'T BE IN A RELATIONSHIP UNLESS THE GG HAD A STRAP-ON OR IF SHE WAS OPEN SEXUALLY WITH MY AGENDA..... UNTIL THEN IM SINGLE... SO IF YOU "DL'S" ARE CHEATING BEHIND YOUR WIFE OR GG'S... STOP THAT SHIT ITS NO DIFFERENT FROM

"Me liking ts girls and females is no different then a girl who would cheat on you with another male... And who knows if he doesnt like the same thing as me or he might be gay or femboy lover on the low....."

IF YOU LINT LICKERS WERE SMART YOU CAN SEE THAT MY POSTING IS VERSATILE JUST AS IM A TOP AND BOTTOM FOR TS....
NUM NUTS

Your post really has nothing to do with cheating or having an affair. Your post was just clarifying what you like sexually.

[evilernie]

Ok, let's us assume that guys would cheat because of sex. How about an affair? Would he regularly see another girl (gg or tg including escorts) because the sex with the other woman is that good compared to his wife?

I'm bored, so I'm bumping up old polls in case you missed it.

[Dkg]

It's unnatural for a Male to be with only one woman. We are going against our nature, against our very DNA that has been hardwired into our brains. It's only because of the society and the implications that "cheating" has (you are a bad, immoral person) that we force ourselves to NOT do it

Anyone ever see that episode of South Park with the Tiger Woods Affair? People like to act like they don't know why men cheat but it's nothing new at all. It's been happening since the dawn of time, since before Man could even speak. Deep down, all men want as much sex from as many women as possible. Period. The ones who don't are either lying or terribly suppressing their animal instincts (for whatever reasons)

As far as having another relationship, i.e. affair, well obviously he is unsatisfied with his current relationship. Maybe he doesn't see her the way he used to. They have nothing to talk about anymore or never did and he is just realizing it, the sex is non existent/boring, there is no more excitement/pizazz whe he sees her or thinks about her. Basically the flame has died, but he doesn't know how to or can't end the relationship so he moves on, without officially moving on.