little problem

[whizz_kid]

im 18 and i still live at home with both parents and the over day they found my stash of shemale porn they havent said nothing yet but they definatly found it has this happend to any one else what happend with you, what shall i say to my parents

[Bottombanger]

goshh man ..... just tell them "there is something i like about these girls more ". thats kind of serious of a situation

[whizz_kid]

yer but will they understand i dont think my dad will

[BlackAdder]

Alls i can say is own up to it and dont hide...Dont act ashamed or put out.....If you do any of those things youll NEVER reverse the trend...Its a big shock to your parents im sure, but you will compound it if you let them push on you like theres something wrong with you. Stand firm man, but hold on to your ass, cause things may never be the same again.


BA

[d]

lie, deny and lie some more. blame a friend or something...its one thing to live on your own where you can make your own rules and be your own man but at 18 it could just make things at your house miserable and unbearable

[whizz_kid]

i dont know what to say i dont think they will understand how i feel, what are they goin to think when i tell them that i want to become a shemale

[kennbo]

I agree, get out the golden shovel and start shoveling some bullshit. That is, if they bring it up first. Have a good cover story ready that they will buy if confronted, like a buddy gave the porn to you as a joke, or you sent away for porn via the mail and they fucked up and sent you the wrong order and you were too embarassed to return it, something they will buy. Remember, denial ain't just a river in Egypt. If they are freaked out they will try to deny that their precious boy looks at that stuff, you just have to play on that, and their own psyches will help you do just that. Of course, you know your parents better than anyone on this board, so you have to determine what's best for you and them. Ideally, the truth would be best, but pragmatism is probably your best bet, given your circumstances. An idea, if you want to avoid deception and deal with this more truthfully. Rent the movie Kinsey, and offer to let your parents watch it. The movie touches on the subject of sexual identity as less black and white and more a sliding scale. The movie may be a way to open up the subject of sexuality to a more objective, less emotionally charged range of topics.

[junior]

Whizz Kid,
You say you know they found it but haven't said anything yet. Maybe they won't say anything. They might be freaked out to the point where they don't know what to say, so are saying nothing. It might not be the "best" way to handle it but if they say nothing you say nothing. It will be uncomfortable but it might be whats best for you if you don't have the type of relationship with them where you discuss these things. I don't have the answers but that is what I would do. No matter what I hope it turns out the way you want it to. Good Luck !!!!

Junior

[brickcitybrother]

i dont know what to say i dont think they will understand how i feel, what are they goin to think when i tell them that i want to become a shemale

Well if you want to become a shemale (I hope you mean transsexual) then you need to pick a day that you're either going to let your family know or stop all contact with them (because once you put on that dress and make-up - there will be some REAL questions being asked). That being said - perhaps this is an opportune time to tell them how you feel (transsexual) and that you hope they will love you and support you - no matter what.

You know your parents best - you think real hard and make the best decision for you. Even if its telling them that your class assignment was about sexuality and you got stuck with gender issues. lol

[yourdaddy]

It's time for you and your Dad to have a hard-to-hard talk. Just tell him you're bored with the girls around town, and you're amazed how exotic these ladies are. "Besides Dad, I'm afraid of getting GG's pregnant. Aren't I smart?" One look at Vicki and Allana, and he'll probably be driving you around strolling soon. Good luck

[kennbo]

I didn't see your last post about wanting to become a shemale, I thought you were a tranny lover, not a wannabee. I think you should find a legitimate transgender support group. Ask a trusted school counsilor, or your physician to point you in the right direction. I might also suggest that they found your shemale porn because you secretly wanted them to, so you could reveal what you've been keeping hidden, namely your true sexual identity. You should probably enlist a trusted family member who you believe would be accepting of your identity issues, and have that person support you in coming out to your parents, when the time is right, after you get counsilling and are prepared to fully establish your own life.i.e.,paying bills,etc.. Good luck, I'm sure it will all work out, eventually. Understand that you can't change your parents overnight, if one or the other is really going to freak because you're transgender, then it may take a long time for them to come around. Involving professionals who have experience with transgender issues should be your first thing to do, don't try this by yourself.

[Shandus]

Please get a support system of some sort before you have the heart-to-heart with either parent. A counselor, trusted family member, somebody who can help you. Parents can be volatile, especially when they discover that everything they assumed about the precious child isn't necessarily the truth. I find it interesting that you say you want to be a shemale, not a woman. You don't say that you feel like a woman trapped in a man's body. Ask yourself one very pertinent question, and make sure you can answer it:

"Why do I want to be a shemale?"

If you can answer that, then make certain you start doing research on what will be involved in the process. I can't say from personal experience, but I'm fairly certain there will be a fair amount of pain involved. The women on these boards can help a great deal if you ask and listen to what they have to say. For Every Allanah, Vicki, Joanna, Gia, and Wendy out there, there are many more that aren't known.

Also, talk to your closest friends. They are going to freak out as much as (if not more than) your parents. Real friends will probably freak out, but eventually, they will support you and help you by providing someone to talk to.

Good luck, Whizzkid.

[nyctrannytopper]

LOL EVERYONE I KNOW HAS PULLED OUT A TRANNY PORN OUT OF MY PILE BUT I LOVE ALL PORN AS LONG AS ITS NOT GAY MEN..SO IT NEVER FAZED ANYONE MATTER OF FACT MOST GUYS ASK ME TO POP ONE ON SO THEY COULD CHECK IT OUT CAUSE THEY HAVE NEVER SAW ONE EXCEPT FOR LITTLE SHORT CLIPS ON THE NET..I EVEN HAVE A MIDGET PORN A GRIL WITH A DOG AND SOME OLD LADIES SOMEWHERE LOL

[Kramer]

Right now they probably think youre gay, which you probably arent, like most of us here. If they mention anything say you were just checking out the videos, you think they are funny in a way. Youre Dad will be looking for any reason to believe youre not gay, he'll accept it.
Then go out and get yourself a girlfriend, and put their minds at ease while you figure out if youre into chicks at all. Dont giveup on pussy unless youve had a fair share of it. :D

[ezed]

Play it cool, relax, you are not a freak, or gay, or anything but you. You are 18 and don't know this yet, but you are what you are and it's nothing to be embaressed about. If you are confronted, look them in the eye (very important) and say so? I'don't know yet but what does it matter. I will face the ramifications of my decisions and live with them. I'm 18, of age, sorry mom and dad, I love you but I'm going do what I'm going to do. I don't know what that is but that's what happens when kids grow up. I hope you'll love me regardless of what I do as long as it does not physical hurt anyone.

You're 18, an adult, these are the things you have to deal with. They don't go away. Don't be afraid. Look it straight in the eyes or it will always be there in the background.

[djlindy5763]

DENY DENY DENY and then when they ask any questions, you can always deny ever answering that way

[Vicki Richter]

You're in a kind of pickle. Sorry I like that phrase.

Unless they approach you, don't say anything. With parents, their own denial is your best weapon. It is easier for them to ignore the situation than confront it, especially since it isn't something illegal.

Also it could be that one of them found it and out of embarassment hasn't discussed it with the other one.

Take some advice and don't risk the "you love me no matter what" thought process. While it works with some parents, it can really strain relationships with others. It may be premature to tell them you want to be a shemale yourself.

[nyctrannytopper]

O YES THINK THIS THROUGH I DID NOT REALIZE ON MY LAST POST THAT YOU WANT TO BECOME A SHEMALE..ITS TRICKY BUT IF THATS WHAT IS IN YOUR HEART YOU HAVE TO DO IT AND THE YOUNGER YOU START THE BETTER YOU WILL END UP LOOKING IN THE END!

[ARMANIXXX]

d said,
lie, deny and lie some more. blame a friend or something...



kennbo said,

I agree, get out the golden shovel and start shoveling some bullshit. That is, if they bring it up first. Have a good cover story ready that they will buy if confronted, like a buddy gave the porn to you as a joke, or you sent away for porn via the mail and they fucked up and sent you the wrong order and..........denial ain't just a river in Egypt.



yourdaddy said,

Just tell him you're bored........"Besides Dad, I'm afraid of getting GG's pregnant...........One look at Vicki and Allana, and he'll probably be driving you around strolling soon.




nyctrannytopper said,

.......I EVEN HAVE A MIDGET PORN A GRIL WITH A DOG AND SOME OLD LADIES SOMEWHERE LOL




Kramer said,

Youre Dad will be looking for any reason to believe youre not gay, he'll accept it.
Then go out and get yourself a girlfriend, and put their minds at ease while you figure out if youre into chicks at all. Dont giveup on pussy unless youve had a fair share of it.




djlindy5763 said,

DENY DENY DENY and then when they ask any questions, you can always deny ever answering that way


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[ezed]

Unless they approach you, don't say anything. With parents, their own denial is your best weapon. It is easier for them to ignore the situation than confront it, especially since it isn't something illegal.

Also it could be that one of them found it and out of embarassment hasn't discussed it with the other one.

Take some advice and don't risk the "you love me no matter what" thought process. While it works with some parents, it can really strain relationships with others. It may be premature to tell them you want to be a shemale yourself.

I agree with what Vicki says, but be prepared if you are confronted, decide how you want to play it in advance. What ever happens, DO NOT GET DESPONDANT! DO NOT! Relax your eighteen, you don't know shit about human nature yet, although you believe you do. YOU DON'T! I'm serious for a change. The old adage, "Time heals all wounds" is truer than shit. I know, I'm 51. Any initial blow up will fade over time. And these days with TIME accelerating at lightspeed due to access to the media, the wounds heal amazingly fast.

Fuck, 9 or 10 years ago, 99.9% of the American population didn't know what a transexual was. Now I bet 50% or more do. And any guy, any guy who is first exposed to t-girls, says in their head "Holy, fuck what is this! That is fucking gorgeous!" Though to their peers, they would never admit this.

Ironic, isn't it. With all the exposure Gay's have got on TV beginning with Will & Grace, Rosie, Ellen Degenerese etc etc. through Queer Eye For the Straight Guy to cable adding the LOGO channel, now gay is widely accepted. But T-girls are largely still closeted. Thus Taboo to the Red States, but secretly adored by those red blooded males sitting up late at nite in the glow of their computer screens. Come the morning, they mentally beat them self for sucumbing to anything with a cock. And self inflict their penence by going out and bashing gays and t-girls.

But I digress, in five years the stigma of being a t-girl will entirely disappear on the coasts and be fading in the heartland.

SO DO NOT LET THIS EAT YOU UP! NOTHING IS BLACK OR WHITE, THE PRIMARY COLOR IS GREY AND ALL COLORS BEGIN AT GREY.

[speck]

It would be kinda funny if your dad was swipping your mags so he could wank to them :)

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

O YES THINK THIS THROUGH I DID NOT REALIZE ON MY LAST POST THAT YOU WANT TO BECOME A SHEMALE..ITS TRICKY BUT IF THATS WHAT IS IN YOUR HEART YOU HAVE TO DO IT AND THE YOUNGER YOU START THE BETTER YOU WILL END UP LOOKING IN THE END!

This is by far, the best advice Ive read on this thread. and there was another one before this one came up.

If youre eventually deciding to go become a shemale/transexual Its best to start early as opposed to when youre 25 or 30. Remember, at some point in your life you will have to break the news to your parents. Do it while youre young, theyre young and wont get a heart attack. LOL. If it make sense..think that if you gotten it off your chest and your family knows about it. The faster they will learn to deal with it and eventually get over it and ACCEPT you for who you are. They might not like what they might hear but hey atleast its HONEST!

Hope that helps you out quite a bit.

~Kisses.

HTG

[whizz_kid]

it just got worse my 12 year old brother found my stsh the other day when he was bein a prick goin through my stuff and he cant understand y i am into it

[Harrys Boy]

Your not very good at hiding things are you?

[whizz_kid]

well it does get hidden but if i have been watching it somtimes i just hide it in the closest place

[Slither]

Show your dad a picture of Vicki Richter and he'll understand.

[kennbo]

I'm beginning to think this forum's collective leg is being pulled. If not, then I suggest you refer to my previous post where I eluded to the possibility that your subconcious caused you to leave your porn out because you wanted to releave the internal tension that exists because of your inability to tell anyone of your true identity. Please talk to someone you can trust who will keep your confidence. Your doctor, or a school counselor should be able to point you in the right direction as far as getting specific gender counseling. Don't rely solely on this board for advice.

[ezed]

well it does get hidden but if i have been watching it somtimes i just hide it in the closest place

Either you're full of shit, or dumber than dirt. Hide it in the closest place? After you think you've been bagged? Fuck, just get dressed up, prance around the room saying "I want to be a girl!" or go seek professional help if you feel such a need to be confronted on your feelings. Christ, everyone on this thread gave you their best advise on what they think. But we are not qualified. Go private with the t-girls on the board and discuss this professionals are hit or miss anyway.

Submitted jointly by,
Dr. Phil
and The Fruit Cake Lady

[whizz_kid]

i have sent pm to allanah and wendy williams several times for advice but they have not replied im not dumb for whoever said that i apreciate the advice its a shame not every one had positive advice for me

[ezed]

i have sent pm to allanah and wendy williams several times for advice but they have not replied im not dumb for whoever said that i apreciate the advice its a shame not every one had positive advice for me

As the minister said to the new sheriff in Blazing Saddles, "Well son, you're on your own....."

[rc206]

LISTEN,FUCK WHAT MOST OF THESE PEOPLE SAID! U NNED TO NOT LEAVE YOUR PARENTS HANGING. TALK TO THEM AND TELL THEM IT GOT ON THEIR BY MISTAKE,BLAME IT ON A FRIEND WHAT EVER! ONCE YOU MOVE OUT OF THE HOUSE AND GET OLDER AND IF YOU STILL LIKE THIS KINDA OF LIFESTYLE THEN U TALK TO THEM.IF YOU TELL THEM NOW IT WILL ONLY FUCK YOUR HOME LIFE UP.FUCK W/THEIR MINDS/HEARTS.LIVE LIFE A LITTLE FIRST! GOOD LUCK!

[whizz_kid]

i go college in Southend i live in england

[McRen]

I had a government contract to help roll out a new batch of computers, and set them up in courthouses for judges and stuff like that. I guess I was stupid and was looking at some porn online, went to the bathroom, and when I came back, my boss saw what was on my screen. He had a talk with me sayign 'is this going to be a problem', and I completely didnt think so. It wasnt til later that I realized it wasnt just porn on my screen, it was shemale porn lol. I wonder what he thought of me after that haha

[kennbo]

Maybe I should be shot for bringing this up, but Whiz_ Kid, how have things been going for you since your "little problem"? Have you found a counselor who can be of assistance?