just curious if im the only one

[rmdx]

Hey, this questions is for the guys and girls who, for whatever reasons, are reading this. My posts are not many, but i have much experience/knowledge, and don't say much unless i have something to say. Im at a point in my life where I am so comfortable with myself, my affection for ts/tgs, and now im actively looking to meet "that right girl" . But is that realistic? Since I was a teenager, growing up in queens and partying in Manhattan I've had my plenty share of one nighters, possible serious relationships, and at least two that were "'wifey" material. For whatever reasons, nothing really serious ever panned out. i get this hope that a kindred spirit is out here, wherever she is (and that much I'm sure, SHE is out there). Maybe we compliment each other where one is strong where the other is soft and in between a solid, healthy, prosperous relationship awaits. Sort of like a prince looking for his princess/queen. Pero es tan deficile! I get hit up alot as a trick, mainly due to my attention to hygeine and my white (although I'm spanish) complextion. Or maybe Im obvious and give the perception as a "mark', i dont know.

But the jist of this rant is to ask- If you are a little lost (who isn't) and wish to find a girl out of the purest of intentions, not some fetish, not some short term convenience thnig, is it really a hopeless endeavor? To understand and be understood are such priceless things, maybe i'm a little jaded (one too many times hit up for$$$$, when even if I had it it's not the connection I m looking for) can really confuse your radar. When i have, i give 110%. Besides the peeps that come on this site to see nudey pics, does any one understand where im coming from? Either way, im heading out chin up, heart on my sleeve, knowing that people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. wish me luck, and I return that wish to you.

[AmericanDream]

Holy crap that was confusing, was the second part supposed to sum things up? LOL it was just as hard to read.

I'm sorry, anyway, I think that what you want is unrealistic and I don't think you'll find who you're exactly looking for. If you lived in Brazil or somewhere there's a lot of TS friends, I'd say maybe you'd have better luck.

[rmdx]

Holy crap that was confusing, was the second part supposed to sum things up? LOL it was just as hard to read.

I'm sorry, anyway, I think that what you want is unrealistic and I don't think you'll find who you're exactly looking for. If you lived in Brazil or somewhere there's a lot of TS friends, I'd say maybe you'd have better luck.

Thanks for your insight, but I live in NY, where's there's a diverse, phenomal groups of girls and I agree, these hopes are unrealistic, but they are,nontheless, possible. Best of luck to you

[yodajazz]

Although meeting the right person can be difficult here's my advice: Instead of going out to 'hook up', going out to find some ts girls that you might be able to hang out as friends. Make your desires known, and hold out for someone that could be long term potential. Altlhough they were not ts, I have had two relationships that were introduced to me by other women, who wanted their friends to meet someone nice.

I think there are lots of women out there wanting to meet the right man. I think the key is to not sleep with so many women that know each other. That's when you become seen as a passed around commodity. So in short hold back from sex, even though it may be available until you can see a bigger picture. Hang out, have fun instead.

[rockabilly]

I too am in pursuit of a loving ltr . It's an uphill battle here and sometimes i feel as if i'm pushing a big rock up a steep hill ... only to have it roll back down when i'm on top. My point is ... I believe that there is a match out there for everyone, someone who just fits. Best of luck ... to both of us.

[bte]

Try some dating sites that specialize in romance with transsexuals. There is a free site dating site for transsexuals and the guys that love them called http://www.transpassions.com. There are other websites that offer dating services but it comes at a monthly cost.

[Alyssa87]

It seems a lot of tgirls are very jaded when it comes to men. Yet still seek a connection of sorts.

A lot of ‘new girls’ get their hearts stomped out when they first start transitioning. Something about living as a girl puts delusions of grandeur in our heads, and we think I HAVE ARRIVED- and expect to be loved as women in happy, straight relationships. We fall for guys pretty hard- too fast too often, and it usually blows up in our naive faces.

The lessons we take from this vary greatly.

I know many girls who have a ‘fuck it’ attitude. And aren’t really open to relationships because of so many bad experiences.
Men become either trick or trade. If he’s hot, the sex is free. If he’s not- he’s paying.

Then there are weirdoes like me who enjoy their own company just fine. I opt to take myself out of all that BS. I’ll go on dates and will play the back and wait for a man to do something bad to me or reveal something unsavory about himself (hopefully before the sex), in which case I can self-righteously bail and return to AlyssaLand where it’s safe.


I think both are sicknesses.
Maybe when this new health-care bill passes, we can all see psychotherapists without breaking the bank :shrug
(Then you'll stand a better chance of finding what you need)

[alyssats]

I want to have boyfriend too or even husband where could i find them :lol:

[nsyto]

Queens!!!

[rameses2]

I want to have boyfriend too or even husband where could i find them :lol:Come to beautiful Hawaii, I'll marry you :wink: !

[Navi]

nothing is hopeless. o_0 just hard

[rockabilly]

It's because of jerks using and abusing these ladies that makes it hard for us nice guys to start relationships w/ them. They keep waiting for the other shoe to drop or close off their hearts completely. :(

[Navi]

I too am in pursuit of a loving ltr . It's an uphill battle here and sometimes i feel as if i'm pushing a big rock up a steep hill ... only to have it roll back down when i'm on top. My point is ... I believe that there is a match out there for everyone, someone who just fits. Best of luck ... to both of us. thus the hard part. i hate jerks, and useing someone is wrong in my book. trust me i am right there with ya. o_0

[Nicole Dupre]

I think finding a soul-mate is a matter of chemistry and synchronicity; being in the right place at the right time. Many times guys are approaching the girls who are 'working' one thing or another, wheteher they realize it or not. But if 99% of the time, that's how we even appeared on your radar in the first place, how much potential do you honestly think you'd have? There are guys who bang their heads against that wall repeatedly. If you want to fall in love with an escort, it stands to reason that she just may be high maintenance financially. Otherwise, you are in the same position as every other guy; looking for that 'special someone' with 'something extra'. lol

[rockabilly]

Thanks for the insight Ms. Nicole. :)

[Navi]

i am look'n to fall in love. i just dont go looking for it, sad really that i dont look. i work in movies and there is a lot of people that want to use you to move them selfs a long and dont care who they step on to do it.

[Ryz]

that's life.

[Nicole Dupre]

It's because of jerks using and abusing these ladies that makes it hard for us nice guys to start relationships w/ them. They keep waiting for the other shoe to drop or close off their hearts completely. :(I think you're underestimating how little we let the jerks ruin the next guy's chances. But then again, I'm not sure if this happened to you or it's just a theory you have.

But if you are on here this much you are not in circulation to meet women. That's going to work against you in the long run imo. Also, I wouldn't beat the 'I'm nice a guy who just wants to fall in love' thing into the ground. Personally I'm only receptive to a REAL guy who has no preconceived notions about love.

[Navi]

mmm... i just dont care is the thing, about love right now any way. i work to much. i do want to fall on love yet i care not. if it happens it happens.

[rockabilly]

I do all my post from mobile Ms. Nicole. I'm not trapped behind a monitor ... but you are right , i should be in the mix . But there is no mix to get into around here and w/ work and grams ... i just dont have time to socialize. At least i can post and talk to you lovely ladies.

And i dont think my notions of love are preconceived. Love is different for everyone i'll give you that.

[Navi]

i post from my cell.

[rmdx]

Queens!!!


Ha! I agree, all single, eligible, hot (and that term applies to inner and/or outer hotness) should come to Queens! Good guys like me are looking for you :wink:

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

Alyssa87 has the best answer! I find everything you said to be true. Great doing girlie!! ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

[Alyssa87]

Alyssa87 has the best answer! I find everything you said to be true. Great doing girlie!! ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

thanks miss.

i know there are many excpetions. most people fall somewhere inbetween my examples, some- not at all.

i guess i should have added that in.