Ponyboy
07-16-2009, 02:43 PM
I think a lot of members, at one time or another, think about becoming a TS. Some go ahead and some don’t. For those still considering, I thought I would talk about some of the things I considered. Each person’s situation will be different depending on their own circumstances, and maybe some of the girls who made the transition would like to add their comments at the end. I was surprised by how many facets of my life would change. The following is just some of them:
Have you noticed how much attention GG’s put on their appearance? – female physical preparation has become a science, so if you are going to become a TS, you need to become familiar with that science or else you are going to be a shabby looking girl. It is not just a case of putting on make-up. You have to get make up that matches your skin tone. You have a lot to learn, and you may look stupid and make mistakes until you come across the make-up combination that works for you. I suggest you experiment before you decide to make the transition. When you have found something that works for you, you will know if you can pass as the woman or look like a man in drag.
You will probably have to pluck your eye-brows, and this can be done in different ways – do you have someone to show you?
The same goes for clothes. As a woman you will want to wear different shades and this will affect the femininity of your appearance. You will need to learn what style and shape of clothes matches your body shape.
The best TS’s are always slim but if you lose weight, you could lose body fat that softens your face. On the other hand, if you put on weight to look more feminine, it could go to the wrong places and you end up looking like a fat girl.
In my case, I am a feminine looking man, but that doesn’t mean I would become a feminine looking woman after transition. I could end up looking half and half; a masculine looking woman.
You may also want to consider the effect it has on your existing relationships. How will your friends, family and work-place respond? Would it affect how you do your job? Would you want to get a new one? If so – what?
If it is too difficult for you and involves too many changes in your life-style, you might want to consider other options. That normally involves a dual life-style; acting as others expect during the day and in the evening exploring your femininity. I think it is best to explore and experiment as much as possible before you make the leap. That way you know you are doing the right thing.
I think another issue is age. I think teenagers have so much confusion in their lives, that a transition like this could make it worse. On the other hand, I think it is easier to make a change when you’re younger as your relationships are not so well established. You have greater opportunity to shape your future without saying goodbye to so much past. I thought I might be too old and some of my good friends may feel uncomfortable with me as a woman. Of course, we like to think that if they are good friends they won’t care. That might be true with some of them. Some of the more conservative friends will still accept me, they just won’t feel so comfortable, and this could affect the relationship. How much do you have to risk?
I made the personal choice not to transition and it was a balance of issues that I considered. There were a large number of issues I considered and deep down inside I can’t help but feel my sexuality is more feminine than masculine. One issue that I had to deal with that others might not is the issue of physical strength. If you are going to become a TS you want slim shoulders. Last year I had a sexual experience that involved some force being used against me and this had two affects. It made me feel less of a man and more inclined to make the transition, but it also made me feel vulnerable and I wanted to build up my strength, so I went to the gym and started to work on my strength – this meant I should not become a TS or else I would look silly.
If you decide to make the transition, part of me would be jealous. I am thankful that so many have made the transition or else we wouldn’t have so many lovely ladies on this website. Your choice will be very individual, and I hope you make the wisest decision for you.
Have you noticed how much attention GG’s put on their appearance? – female physical preparation has become a science, so if you are going to become a TS, you need to become familiar with that science or else you are going to be a shabby looking girl. It is not just a case of putting on make-up. You have to get make up that matches your skin tone. You have a lot to learn, and you may look stupid and make mistakes until you come across the make-up combination that works for you. I suggest you experiment before you decide to make the transition. When you have found something that works for you, you will know if you can pass as the woman or look like a man in drag.
You will probably have to pluck your eye-brows, and this can be done in different ways – do you have someone to show you?
The same goes for clothes. As a woman you will want to wear different shades and this will affect the femininity of your appearance. You will need to learn what style and shape of clothes matches your body shape.
The best TS’s are always slim but if you lose weight, you could lose body fat that softens your face. On the other hand, if you put on weight to look more feminine, it could go to the wrong places and you end up looking like a fat girl.
In my case, I am a feminine looking man, but that doesn’t mean I would become a feminine looking woman after transition. I could end up looking half and half; a masculine looking woman.
You may also want to consider the effect it has on your existing relationships. How will your friends, family and work-place respond? Would it affect how you do your job? Would you want to get a new one? If so – what?
If it is too difficult for you and involves too many changes in your life-style, you might want to consider other options. That normally involves a dual life-style; acting as others expect during the day and in the evening exploring your femininity. I think it is best to explore and experiment as much as possible before you make the leap. That way you know you are doing the right thing.
I think another issue is age. I think teenagers have so much confusion in their lives, that a transition like this could make it worse. On the other hand, I think it is easier to make a change when you’re younger as your relationships are not so well established. You have greater opportunity to shape your future without saying goodbye to so much past. I thought I might be too old and some of my good friends may feel uncomfortable with me as a woman. Of course, we like to think that if they are good friends they won’t care. That might be true with some of them. Some of the more conservative friends will still accept me, they just won’t feel so comfortable, and this could affect the relationship. How much do you have to risk?
I made the personal choice not to transition and it was a balance of issues that I considered. There were a large number of issues I considered and deep down inside I can’t help but feel my sexuality is more feminine than masculine. One issue that I had to deal with that others might not is the issue of physical strength. If you are going to become a TS you want slim shoulders. Last year I had a sexual experience that involved some force being used against me and this had two affects. It made me feel less of a man and more inclined to make the transition, but it also made me feel vulnerable and I wanted to build up my strength, so I went to the gym and started to work on my strength – this meant I should not become a TS or else I would look silly.
If you decide to make the transition, part of me would be jealous. I am thankful that so many have made the transition or else we wouldn’t have so many lovely ladies on this website. Your choice will be very individual, and I hope you make the wisest decision for you.