Advice please.....

[archineer]

I want some honest advice please...

Why are trans women so difficult to get? Now i'm a good looking guy, i'm confident, outgoing, i've got good 'game', i'm reasonably well off, I don't give a shit what anyone thinks about my sexuality and looking for a LTR. Yet when I go out (usually wayout) I either get no attention, or when I do I approach the girl and she backs off before i've even said anything or throws shit tests at me (buy me a drink ect....) I don't have these problems with genetic girls and can usually pull 9's and 10's. Also what are u girls attracted to primarily: alpha maleness? money? power? looks? humor?

[alyssats]

any pics?

[tommymageeshemales2]

any pics?

Nice! Straight to the point!

[archineer]

I did post a couple on the personals thread but they were huge... ill try and find some of a smaller size.

[archineer]

Thats me on my profile. I look kind of serious in this one but its the best I can find at the moment.

[droog]

in this country, you gotta make the money first. then when you get the money, you get the power. then when you get the power, then you get the women.

[GroobySteven]

I've wrote about this a bunch of times, I'll see if I can find it again.

Use yahoo, friendfinder, fling, etc. Loads of transwomen out there wanting to meet a good guy.

[LuciaMiel]

I know some TS girls are shy around (espcially handsome) guys, cause they're self-conscious or expect trouble. :oops:

[GroobySteven]

Here it is - originally written on http://www.tgirltalk.com for a guy who couldn't get a date with ANY girl, it's context is the same for dating a tgirl (ie; any girl).

Love is ...

The internet is an incredible place to find a relationship because if you go to the right places everyone is in the same boat. In todays society of fragmented workplaces and posturing when you go to clubs (oh for the days of companies that hired 1000's and organised dances where the girls, would always accept a dance).

Yahoo personals, Friendfinder, etc. Don't go for the big expensive ones like advertised on TV but the ones above would be a good start.

1. Your not looking for a best friend (although he/she may become) your looking for a date. They have to be close to you.

2. Post your photos. No posturing, no posing with other people, no posing with children (whose ever they may be). Just clean, nice smiling photos.

3. Write a good paragraph on who you are. What you like to do, what your life aspirations are, if you have any strong political or religious beliefs (if your moderate then skip any talk on either). What your hobbies are whether they are ski-diving or sitting watching soap operas. Be honest!!!

4. What am I looking for? You don't fucking know because you haven't met her yet!!! The amount of guys who say they are looking for an 27-28 yr old-blonde-slim-under5ft.... They're idiots. Leave it fairly open as many people whom you may be attracted to either may not judge themselves to fit in the criteria of "pretty" (when others think they are) or you haven't given yourself the opportunity to get to know them!

5. Cliche ... but the right personality that works with you ... makes that person oh, so more attractive.

6. No more than 3 messages back and forth before you either give them your number (guys) or ask them for their number (girls) - sorry but sometimes safety and decorum does have a gender difference. If they don't have a photo ... then don't let it deter you from asking them out. They just may be shy or unconfident - or not wanting the peer pressure of being spotted on a dating site.

7. First meeting should be lunchtime, or right after work. It should be scheduled for no more than an hour. Coffee, ice cream, juice. And thats how you should ask them out ... "Shall we get together for a coffee, this week and have a chat?". If she is not over confident about going in public yet then ask her to suggest a meeting place.

8. Ask HER/HIM questions. Yes, you are selling yourself but don't offer ridiculous stuff that is uncalled for. If you ask them a question then it shows your interested in them and it's not all about you. NO talk about exes, lovelives or the question "So why are you on a dating site?" Don't go expecting it to be an interview, just let the conversation grow organically and see where it leads.

Don't start any sexual questions ... as soon as you ask "How big is your cock then?" FAIL !!!

9. Don't make plans immediately at the first meet as it might be putting pressure on the other. Go home, reflect and if it's someone you'd like to know more about ... EMAIL THEM that night, with a;
"Thanks, it was lovely to meet you and I'm happy to see that we have the same interest in .... here's a link to that book we were talking about ... I'd love to get together with you again, later this week/next week, so I look forward to hearing from you."

If it's someone that you were uninterested in - and they contact you, just send a polite reply, "I enjoyed meeting you but I don't feel we have too much in common so I don't wish to waste your time perusing this".

10. If you get no reply, email once more 2-3 days later, just asking if they got your email and if they're not interested, could they just let you know.

11. Don't be deterred. There is another girl/guy waiting for you.

12. Don't play games. There are no rules like the movies say ... having to wait X days to call, having to get to 2nd base on the 3rd date. Go with what you think.


All of this seems obvious but most people fuck it up.


I guarantee, if you do what I said above. You'll eventually meet someone - and if in the meantime you go on a few dates that may go from horrible to meeting some incredible people ... then that is part of the experience of life.

[blckhaze]

You lack game, maybe not verbage or charisma, but originality or a good game plan


Often times is not what you got, or what you look like, but what you talk, and can back up later. Usually going out to find your wife isnt the best plan, as most girls (ts or gg) go out to hang with their friends, get as many free drinks as possible, then go home, and going for nothing but ts, is a slippery game if your not on your p's q's and r's.
Best bet, just enjoy the scene, join a personal site, but dont put too much pressure on yourself or the girl. Biggest error i see on both sides is the person says theyre looking for a LTR, and will kill the date simply because the other person isnt looking fo rthe same just yet. Sure a chaser/golddigger isnt ideal, but friendships are the best groundwork fo rany good longterm relationship IMO.

[AmyDaly]

If you want a LTR from a normal transwoman, don't go to a club. Those clubs are meat markets and people generally aren't looking for LTRs there...
Its as simple as that. Go to a community event or something like that. Where are you located?

[LTR_Seeker]

if you live in place like i do there no community meeting places

[archineer]

If you want a LTR from a normal transwoman, don't go to a club. Those clubs are meat markets and people generally aren't looking for LTRs there...
Its as simple as that. Go to a community event or something like that. Where are you located?

Brighton and London, U.K.

[giovanni_hotel]

I was gonna say if you're looking to find a TG for a LTR, a club is the last place you should expect to find her.

Try to find gay and transgendered sponsored events, charity fundraisers, awards banquets, that are less focused on sex and more on the people who are the TG community, and I'm sure you'll meet ladies interested in pursuing relationships and not interested so much in what you can provide materially for them.

Also, it wouldn't hurt to make friends with a Tgirl who may not be interested in you personally, but may be able to steer you in the direction, sort of like a matchmaker, of a Tgirl who seeks the same things that you want.

Another place to meet TGs is transgendered balls and beauty pageants, IMO. Not on stage, but in the audience and post pageant functions.

Really, if you want to meet attractive, viable TGs for a LTR, arvhineer, you might need to consider relocating stateside or moving to Brasil.

[Nashvegas]

reading through this, i think a lot of it is pretty good advice.

[worldbro]

archineer

enjoy your hand...

[JeniferTS]

lol wayout club? you'll find girls like jelissa jaconi who are not looking for no LTR or sweet talk..they'll just use your ass..a club is the worst place to go looking for love.

[alyssats]

from your avatar pic looks like a husband material

yes I seconded most girls opinion here if you like LTR why go to a club? by the way is Way out club mostly working girls or also a place just to hang out with TS? by the way I also met lots of guys who said most TS girls in Way out club are snobbish and cold. For real?

you should try TS clubs in Asia most TS girls will go after you jeje

[RubyTS]

not to be rude but u look like a typical client type. The girls are usually attracted to physically flawless hot body assholes lol

[archineer]

I've already tried dating sites, most of the girls on those are the same girls I see in wayout and their ads aren't for escort services. Dating sites are dreadful and are even worse than clubs.

Ruby - client type? I've never paid for sex, at least not directly. Actualy the guys I see them go with are pretty damn ugly, in fact i'm not alone- theres an italian guy whos always there, hes far better looking than me yet he never gets anywhere.

[archineer]

from your avatar pic looks like a husband material

yes I seconded most girls opinion here if you like LTR why go to a club? by the way is Way out club mostly working girls or also a place just to hang out with TS? by the way I also met lots of guys who said most TS girls in Way out club are snobbish and cold. For real?

you should try TS clubs in Asia most TS girls will go after you jeje

Husband material hey?:D Alot of the girls there are on the game, but there are very few trans girls i've met who aren't working girls. I'm ok with it. They don't go there to pick up clients they're mostly out on the pull. Are they snobbish and cold? Alot are, particularly the good looking ones but they get used alot so I can understand why.

[Felicia Katt]

I want some honest advice please...

Why are trans women so difficult to get? Now i'm a good looking guy, i'm confident, outgoing, i've got good 'game', i'm reasonably well off, I don't give a shit what anyone thinks about my sexuality and looking for a LTR. Yet when I go out (usually wayout) I either get no attention, or when I do I approach the girl and she backs off before i've even said anything or throws shit tests at me (buy me a drink ect....) I don't have these problems with genetic girls and can usually pull 9's and 10's. Also what are u girls attracted to primarily: alpha maleness? money? power? looks? humor?

Buy the damn drink LOL if you don't break the ice, expect things to stay chilly

FK

[Ali71]

not to be rude :) but......

how do you know they find you good looking? (its a bit presumptious to class yourself as good looking) maybe the girls you approach dont find you good looking

by the looks of your pic you do look like a punter, again no offense just an opinion

also as stated dont look for LTR in a club... doh! :roll:

these girls cant tell you why your not getting any success really every individual differs, gg, male or lb :!:

I do appreciate your question, having never tried to go to a place such as this i couldnt tell you, and if you want an ltr with an trans im guessing its gonna be very hard to find but good luck to you and i hope you find that special girl

[SarahG]

sorry man but ts only care about money. thats the difference between gg and ts.

LOL.

If only you could have met some of the GGs I knew growing up, I suspect your opinion would be quite different.