OK Hypothetical Question for the Ladies...

[rockabilly]

Ok girls you meet a someone online and you talk all the time, they like all the same things as you , you have talked on the phone and you enjoy their voice , they know all the right buttons to push when you have phone/virtual sex , and you develop feelings for them but have never seen them face to face. When you agree to meet ( not 4 escort work but a true old fashioned date ) They are fat ... not super big but not average , what do you do? This could be your true love/ Soul mate ... Deciscion time...

[Silcc69]

<waits for the lies to pour in>

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

The one that came to see me earlier could not be possibly my soul mate! No way!! I didn't see anything I would be attracted to. lol A guy has to be somewhat in decent shape and 'attractive' in addition to having a good personality that meshes well with mine. ;) Hell I didn't let myself go and so should he!

~Kisses.

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[Alyssa87]

i wouldnt have intimate conversation with someone if i didnt know what they looked like.

webcams are super cheap, when i dont use mine to make money, its a cool way to get to know someone- reading their expressions and everything. its totally cool.

[rockabilly]

i wouldnt have intimate conversation with someone if i didnt know what they looked like.

webcams are super cheap, when i dont use mine to make money, its a cool way to get to know someone- reading their expressions and everything. its totally cool.Maybe like Cyrrano they are tired of only being judged by their outward appearance and not by their mental accumen and artistic meritt. They hope that love would be as blind as justice. Would a lady rather have a man who was fit but treated them like crap ? I just dont get it ...

[Alyssa87]

i wouldnt have intimate conversation with someone if i didnt know what they looked like.

webcams are super cheap, when i dont use mine to make money, its a cool way to get to know someone- reading their expressions and everything. its totally cool.Maybe like Cyrrano they are tired of only being judged by their outward appearance and not by their mental accumen and artistic meritt. They hope that love would be as blind as justice. Would a lady rather have a man who was fit but treated them like crap ? I just dont get it ...

oh no of course not!
i dont put up with any crap!

i need both.

i'm looking for an equal.
i have exceptional intelligence, sensitivity, AND good looks.

my man should have the same.

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

IMO, there's always a perfect balance of qualities. I'd take a teddy bear with baby face and nice personality that treats me like a queen than a guy who's vain with a washboard abs and is full of himself. ;)

I don't think every girl is looking out for a guy that is model-esque. The chances of having a lot of headaches unfortunately out weights however HOT a guy is for me. But that's me.

~Kisses.

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[rockabilly]

I respect your honesty , thank you ...

[RubyTS]

Ok girls you meet a someone online and you talk all the time, they like all the same things as you , you have talked on the phone and you enjoy their voice , they know all the right buttons to push when you have phone/virtual sex , and you develop feelings for them but have never seen them face to face. When you agree to meet ( not 4 escort work but a true old fashioned date ) They are fat ... not super big but not average , what do you do? This could be your true love/ Soul mate ... Deciscion time...

Cool scenario, except that none of this would happen cuz girls always ask for pics within the first 5 sentences.

[RubyTS]

i need both.

i'm looking for an equal.
i have exceptional intelligence, sensitivity, AND good looks.

my man should have the same.

DING DING DING 8)

[TsVanessa69]

Ok girls you meet a someone online and you talk all the time, they like all the same things as you , you have talked on the phone and you enjoy their voice , they know all the right buttons to push when you have phone/virtual sex , and you develop feelings for them but have never seen them face to face. When you agree to meet ( not 4 escort work but a true old fashioned date ) They are fat ... not super big but not average , what do you do? This could be your true love/ Soul mate ... Deciscion time...

Cool scenario, except that none of this would happen cuz girls always ask for pics within the first 5 sentences.
THANK YOU!!!!
And with webcams and shit no way some fat ass is gonna fool me!
Now i will date a thick papi, but after all the shit men put me through, YES I am SUPERFICIAL. At least you gotta look good to ME!

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

i wouldnt have intimate conversation with someone if i didnt know what they looked like.

webcams are super cheap, when i dont use mine to make money, its a cool way to get to know someone- reading their expressions and everything. its totally cool.Maybe like Cyrrano they are tired of only being judged by their outward appearance and not by their mental accumen and artistic meritt. They hope that love would be as blind as justice. Would a lady rather have a man who was fit but treated them like crap ? I just dont get it ...

Well considering the guy showed a FAKE picture from the start, lying is not a good first impression! I have seen plenty of fat guys with decent looking chicks, and i bet they got them because they had the BALLS to speak in person rather then the internet. But who knows if the pic was correct from the start i'd say a better shot!

That's called 'settling' for less (than actual face value you could get/have). Less attractive mate = less headaches (not much other girls constantly competing with you). PLUS they tend to pamper you MORE! ;)

~Kisses.

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[RubyTS]

very tru

every type has its ups and downs

thats y u find
1 guy for dick
1 guy for ego

its impossible to fiind all the qualities i want in 1 person. Hot guys w big dick r assholes, but they serve their purpose in the bedroom. Ugly guys are sweet and make u feel mich more appreciated. Thats y i like ugly guys with big dick lol.

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

very tru

every type has its ups and downs

thats y u find
1 guy for dick
1 guy for ego

its impossible to fiind all the qualities i want in 1 person. Hot guys w big dick r assholes, but they serve their purpose in the bedroom. Ugly guys are sweet and make u feel mich more appreciated. Thats y i like ugly guys with big dick lol.

Yep! When I was in college I have 5 guys as concubines to fill everything I need. One has a big dick, one is rich, one is drop dead gorgeous, one horny and kinkyand one barely legal (shhh). lol ;)

~Kisses.

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[arnie666]

This is one thing I love about T-girls. Not afraid to call a spade a spade when it comes to wanting a goodlooking fit man. Noticed this both on here and off the forums when I've met a few. GG's give all that bollocks about a how a man looks not being a big deal, at least they say that. It's like they are embarassed to admit it. Some even will date a troll because they want to be the pretty one in the relationship. Never got that. What do you do? put a bag over their heads in bed and think of England?

I mean personally Iam very fussy when it comes to who I have sex with. I'm not rude about it, but I could never have sex with a fat girl let alone date one. All my mates are like that, so good on you girls for being real!

[RubyTS]

well u get tired of thinking unrealistically after a while. If u cant beat them, join them. Id rather b the player than b played. Now if i find someone worth my time and exclusivity, i'll totally give them the opportunity to prove to me they deserve it and if we get in a relationship i would be 100% faithful, and leave them before i cheated

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but come on.... here is my list:

Hot body
big dick
tall
cute face
nice teeth
dark hair light skin
thick long eyelashes
self sufficient
sweet
gr8 lover
generous
has a car
adores me
intelligent
affectionate
has goals
has a job
Faithful
honest
expressive

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

well u get tired of thinking unrealistically after a while. If u cant beat them, join them. Id rather b the player than b played. Now if i find someone worth my time and exclusivity, i'll totally give them the opportunity to prove to me they deserve it and if we get in a relationship i would be 100% faithful, and leave them before i cheated

SAME!

I'd rather cheat than be cheated on! I've been cheated on once and that made me really really depressed and hurt. If a nice guy comes into my life with good honest intention and we've gotten along great - I'd give love another chance. But he has to go a battery of test. I ain't a fool to be handing my heart and trust that easy! lol ;)

~Kisses.

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[yosi]

there once was a song with a strange long name:
"you can't get what you want , if you don't know what you want"
it was by Joe Jackson.

interesting line , isn't it? :wink:

[JeniferTS]

Ok girls you meet a someone online and you talk all the time, they like all the same things as you , you have talked on the phone and you enjoy their voice , they know all the right buttons to push when you have phone/virtual sex , and you develop feelings for them but have never seen them face to face. When you agree to meet ( not 4 escort work but a true old fashioned date ) They are fat ... not super big but not average , what do you do? This could be your true love/ Soul mate ... Deciscion time...

2 years ago i would have said, sorry no 2nd date..i'd probably even think of a way to get out of going on the 1st date..make up a lie or something..family emergency lol

but now i don't think the same as before..physical attraction was ALL that was important to me..but based on my experiences within the last two years i've learned that inner beauty is most important..it's nice to be attracted to someone physically but it shouldn't be all you're looking for because you could be missing out on a really great guy..

so i'd get to know fat guy..

[alyssats]

hmmm for me this kind of thing wouldnt work. im so tired of those chat chat chat for years. if ill develop things with someone i need to meet him in person first.

[yosi]

hmmm for me this kind of thing wouldnt work. im so tired of those chat chat chat for years. if ill develop things with someone i need to meet him in person first.

you are right , when you meet in person you know if the chemistry is there or not.

good chemistry is the key to good physiology :wink:

[fred41]

hmmm for me this kind of thing wouldnt work. im so tired of those chat chat chat for years. if ill develop things with someone i need to meet him in person first.

you are right , when you meet in person you know if the chemistry is there or not.

good chemistry is the key to good physiology :wink:

Good point. Lots of people write differently then they speak. A couple I know chatted for months online and thought they had great chemistry....until they actually met and found that their communication skills with each other didn't transcend beyond the keyboard.

[sexyshana]

put him on a strict diet and exercise program until he shapes up.
this way you get the hot boy and he gets in shape and everyone is happy.

[MacShreach]

I could never have sex with a fat girl

Oh, hey now, that's not right. I personally prefer the slender look, but I fucked a few plumpers in my time, and all I say is, don't knock it till you tried it! :wink:

I'd rather a curvy girl than a really skinny one any day anyway....Especially with a nice big bum. And it's true what they say, you know....big girls are tighter.

I had one girl once who quite big, you know, not porcine, but definitely not small--I guess about a UK size 16 or so (but she was tall too) man her ass was out to here....and then she lost a LOT of weight, right down to a 12--and her lovely big tits vanished! Mama!

[rockabilly]

put him on a strict diet and exercise program until he shapes up.
this way you get the hot boy and he gets in shape and everyone is happy.
Ya see , Compromise ... the cornerstone of a great relationship. You can have your cake and eat it too.

[SarahG]

I had one girl once who quite big, you know, not porcine, but definitely not small--I guess about a UK size 16 or so (but she was tall too) man her ass was out to here....and then she lost a LOT of weight, right down to a 12--and her lovely big tits vanished! Mama!

LOL!

Well breasts are the last places to gain fat tissue and among the first to loose it.

[SarahG]

Ok girls you meet a someone online and you talk all the time, they like all the same things as you , you have talked on the phone and you enjoy their voice , they know all the right buttons to push when you have phone/virtual sex , and you develop feelings for them but have never seen them face to face. When you agree to meet ( not 4 escort work but a true old fashioned date ) They are fat ... not super big but not average , what do you do? This could be your true love/ Soul mate ... Deciscion time...

As worded the scenario wouldn't be possible, for me at least. I don't have phonesex with people I'm in a relationship with, I'm certainly not going to have phonesex with someone I've only known from IM.

All the same interests? Completely? I have such an odd collection of interests that I'd be surprised enough if I met someone who had ALL of the same interests on IM, I'd probably want to met them just to met them, it wouldn't have to be a date. But if I felt they were just BSing it (pretending to have the same interests, with it being disingenuous) it would get them on my shitlist pretty quick... even more so if the picture they used was grossly inaccurate (fake pic, a decade outdated etc).

[rockabilly]

And there is the paradox , this person would indeed be your perfect match ... if based on common interests , music tastes and in effect would "complete" you. A soul mate w/ the exeption of his weight. Could you overlook that , if it meant having complete emotional happiness and true love? It seems most girls here cant ... and that is ok , that is their choice. But what a choice , do you pass him and hope a better looking more fit man has those qualities or do you go w/ your heart?

[SarahG]

And there is the paradox , this person would indeed be your perfect match ... if based on common interests , music tastes and in effect would "complete" you. A soul mate w/ the exeption of his weight. Could you overlook that , if it meant having complete emotional happiness and true love? It seems most girls here cant ... and that is ok , that is their choice. But what a choice , do you pass him and hope a better looking more fit man has those qualities or do you go w/ your heart?

I could and have before overlooked weight when I thought that was the only potential issue. You never know what someone will be like in the future, what's to say anyone I am with won't gain 50 lbs over the next year? I've been with guys who gained weight while I was with them, it didn't tell me to get up & leave.

But there's way more to relationships then interests, he could find all the same things interesting and still be an ass or a psychopath. Having stuff in common is a decent mechanism for meeting people with common interests, it's pretty unreliable to use as a mechanism for anything beyond that though.

[rockabilly]

Sweety your making this harder than it need be hmmm ok the guy is not a psycho or an ass , he is perfect in every way a gentleman, loves you and all your quirks , loves his family , introduces you to his family and friends as his girlfriend, holds your hand in public, opens the door for you, He is a great guy simple as that ... but he's fat ... not morbidly obese but not trim. Wow who woulda thought a hypothetical question would get so deep. :)

[SarahG]

Sweety your making this harder than it need be hmmm ok the guy is not a psycho or an ass , he is perfect in every way a gentleman, loves you and all your quirks , loves his family , introduces you to his family and friends as his girlfriend, holds your hand in public, opens the door for you, He is a great guy simple as that ... but he's fat ... not morbidly obese but not trim. Wow who woulda thought a hypothetical question would get so deep. :)

I just answered that; first sentence of my last post: I could and have before overlooked weight when I thought that was the only potential issue.

If that's the only issue, its trivial enough I won't care.

[LilWyte]

a friend of mine is a fatass and pulls all kinds of hot girls he looks like the guy from the Paul Blart Mall Cop movie lol idk how he keeps doin it

[rockabilly]

Sarah i just wanted to make it clearer, not for you but you got me thinkin maybe i could add more to it. To see if others would alter their perceptions. Ok , your answer shows you as a caring lady who can look beyond superficial aspects of appearance. Thank you and thank you too Jen. :)