I'm dating a Tgirl .... It's not so easy as I thouhgt !

[Martin C.]

Hi, I met a tgirl 3 months ago and we started a relationship. The question is that we are in love, last night she had a comemoration for her 20th anniversary. I met her family that are ok with her option for being Transex, but not everybody thinks this way. Some tell her that they are prepared to take care when she get an AIDS or something else. They disaprove our relationship and don't wanna see me.

Something that I dislike is when we are together everybody look at us like we were freaks and I feel they think I'm more freaky to date a Transex girl. Ah, my family and friends will absolutely disaprove me for having this relationship, and certainly lots of them will ignore me.

So, we are in love and for the same time I'm happy I'm sad ,,,, but I will follow my heart !!!

I tell you my friends, that's better having a REAL and NORMAL relationship with a Transex girl than using them (and been used) in all kinds of prostituition.

[deee757]

Hi, I met a tgirl 3 months ago and we started a relationship. The question is that we are in love, last night she had a comemoration for her 20th anniversary. I met her family that are ok with her option for being Transex, but not everybody thinks this way. Some tell her that they are prepared to take care when she get an AIDS or something else. They disaprove our relationship and don't wanna see me.

Something that I dislike is when we are together everybody look at us like we were freaks and I feel they think I'm more freaky to date a Transex girl. Ah, my family and friends will absolutely disaprove me for having this relationship, and certainly lots of them will ignore me.

So, we are in love and for the same time I'm happy I'm sad ,,,, but I will follow my heart !!!

I tell you my friends, that's better having a REAL and NORMAL relationship with a Transex girl than using them (and been used) in all kinds of prostituition.


This is the rough draft, hes going to re post this later after it has been edited and put in a proper literary format that can be followed by various readers.

[the3ra]

i can read it just fine, no need to be a jerk.





.....jerk.

[MarkD]

Follow your heart and screw those who don't approve. If you are in love then who cares what anyone else thinks.

I have a friend who is paralyzed from the waist down and has probs with judgemental people as well, so it's not just reserved for trans relationships as well.

In a world filled with unhappiness if youu have found someone to love then hold onto it and fuck whatever anyone else has to say.

[gaiseric]

I sincerely hope that everything works out for you dude. After reading your post there is one thing that I would suggest to you. Get yourself a new set of friends because if the current ones are going to ignore you because of your choice of lady, they don't deserve to be counted as friends.
From what I read on this forum, I must have been one of the lucky ones. When I was dating TS girls, my close friends were ok with it and they are still there and not one has been judgemental.
Again, every success, my friend. 8)

[JHANIAH L0VE]

i mean is she not passable? post a pic of her. when they stare, stare back!

[gaiseric]

Don't you just hate duplicate posts - Jeez :roll: 8)

[MrsKellyPierce]

Its never as easy as you think.

It takes loyalness, bravery of one self to fight against the feeling of being discriminated against or hated on, takes compassion and patience, takes confidence and the willingness not to care what others think...plus all the regular stuff that comes with dating. You have to be man enough for her to pick her up when she is feeling down and she has to be woman enough to understand what you are going through too. If you got those down then it will work, but untill you let society go and just stand by her it will never work. I don't hate on guys that wont date a ts or only want a fling, because I know its a burdeon I carry I don't expect him to make the choice of carrying mine its totally up to him. Yes it hurts when the pressure breaks them, but at the end of the day I carry it with me everyday, they have the choice not to, I don't :)

[alyssats]

sorry to hear that hope all goes well soon. yes how could you say that most people stare at you and your partner is because shes not passable? any pics? there might be other reasons like shes very sexy and stunning in public.

[JonnyT]

been there, done that. good luck

[Alyssa87]

maybe this is because i'm damaged (or blessed- depends how u look @ it) but..

if you can muster up the guts to cut unsupportive people out of your life, you'll be happier for it.

even if that leaves you with a few.


to me, it felt good. like cleaning the house, or doing a disk cleanup.

[jaycanuck]

maybe this is because i'm damaged (or blessed- depends how u look @ it) but..

it you can muster up the guts to cut unsupportive people out of your life, you'll be happier for it.

even if that leaves you with a few.


to me, it felt good. like cleaning the house, or doing a disk cleanup.

+1

[JonnyT]

maybe this is because i'm damaged (or blessed- depends how u look @ it) but..

if you can muster up the guts to cut unsupportive people out of your life, you'll be happier for it.

even if that leaves you with a few.


to me, it felt good. like cleaning the house, or doing a disk cleanup.

easier for some than others im sure but thats what it takes and things still mght not work out.

[Alyssa87]

maybe this is because i'm damaged (or blessed- depends how u look @ it) but..

if you can muster up the guts to cut unsupportive people out of your life, you'll be happier for it.

even if that leaves you with a few.


to me, it felt good. like cleaning the house, or doing a disk cleanup.

easier for some than others im sure but thats what it takes and things still mght not work out.

whether it works out or not, the attraction to tgirls remains i assume.
better that you be open and know who really loves YOU- and not just parts of you.

[jaycanuck]

I'm not going to lie....I've been into tgirls for about 20 years now...and when I was younger I'd purge (throw out my videos) because I was worried about what others would think.

About 10 years ago I realized that this interest wasn't going away anytime soon...nor did I want it to. I also realized that this is my life and I have only 1 of them....so I began enjoying it in whatever way I wanted.

As well, the fear that you have in others finding out....may not be the same across the board. I was afraid but found that my friends or family didn't care. And as Alyssa said....to those who do care...fuck em. They aren't living your life.

[SarahG]

maybe this is because i'm damaged (or blessed- depends how u look @ it) but..

if you can muster up the guts to cut unsupportive people out of your life, you'll be happier for it.

even if that leaves you with a few.


to me, it felt good. like cleaning the house, or doing a disk cleanup.

Absolutely!

Unless you have a thing for drama, hostility, and self punishment there's no real reason for anyone to stay around people who are mean or belligerent.

[DaLonelyGuyNJ]

Dude.....some advisories:

1) Ditch the so-called friends.
2) Many people go through life never finding someone they love and care for, if you find that person, GO FOR IT!
3) Tell your family you are the same person you have always been.

[Martin C.]

Hi friends, I really appreciate all the advices you gave me. Now I'm here with my Tgirlfriend reading the posts you guys wrote and there're some that really worked for me. Our relationship got more serious today 'cause we made an HIV tests and we are ok (but comdons forever) and talking a lot about our lifes. The advices worked for me mostly 'cause she has a open mind ,,, but like Kelly Shore said my girlfriend is understanding that I'm going through. I'm working each day to fuck the unsupportive people. Thanks guys!!!

[dc_guy_75]

If you're reading the thread with your gf, it means you're both communicative with eachother, I think..

I've been there, and will probably experience (what you're going through) again...

You're not alone, I hope you have the strength and mindset to deal with it all.

[fred41]

Best of luck to the both of you in whatever future paths you choose.

[RubyTS]

The thing is depending on your line of work you cant DITCH all your friends. Imagine if you were in the entertainment industry and all your so called friends are your network to the top, your always gonna have them around whether you like it or not, when i say network Directors, Casting Directors, Agents, Acquaintance.

This Analysis can fall into other lines of work but im using one that fits the situation.

there is a big difference between friends and acquaintances. I know people who have TONS of acquaintances and absolutely no real friends, because they choose to surround themselves with people who a re fun to be around, but know damn well they cant be trusted with a secret.

In my opinion, a man is only a man, when he stands up for himself and lives his own life! If you live your life worrying about what other people think, u will miss out on so much, and wind up 50 yrs old before u finally decide to grow up and start doing what YOU want! What makes YOU happy. Fuck everyone else. No matter what u do or who u are there will ALWAYS be someone out there who disagree's with it. And thats ok. Your friends dont have to like what u do, but a true friend will respect u for keeping it real! Just remember it's YOUR life and dont let anyone else tell u how u should live it POINT BLANK. THERE IS NO EXCUSE! You are not here to please anyone other than yourself.

[mrtron]

yeah my brasilero homey, hang in there botha! and alyssa you do disk cleanup? once you go mac you never go back.

[RubyTS]

so what
u lose one group of fans
you gain another

they're pussys

[RubyTS]

if everybbody interested in trannys would come out and say it we would probably be surprised to find out we are not the minority. So many people are into it, but no one will admit it. Society is a motherfucker! All these guys on the low are actually what make up society, making it harder for us to live happier lives

[jjhill]

if everybbody interested in trannys would come out and say it we would probably be surprised to find out we are not the minority. So many people are into it, but no one will admit it. Society is a motherfucker! All these guys on the low are actually what make up society, making it harder for us to live happier lives


I agree with you Rubes. Like if a guy looked at you, or any other female on this forum fully clothed at a mall or some other public place, (and didn't know you was packing) they would think yall gorgeous. (Unless they have bad taste in women) and if they happen to find out that you're packing, they'll probably start fronting like they're not interested. But they'll still be interested I bet.

[DL_NL]

if everybbody interested in trannys would come out and say it we would probably be surprised to find out we are not the minority. So many people are into it, but no one will admit it. Society is a motherfucker! All these guys on the low are actually what make up society, making it harder for us to live happier lives
There's religion, there's peer pressure (or at least perceived), plain old shame of deviating from the 'norm'...

I'd betcha there are few people who WOULDN'T be interested in something besides a vanilla M-F relationship, if they'd be truly honest.

[RubyTS]

u can choose ur own religion, and as far as
deviating from the norm? lol! Peer pressure BLAAA what are we 16? If ur a grown man, living on ur own, taking care of yourself, there is absolutely NO EXCUSE! If u like what u like then go for it, fuck everyone else. Why should u live your life to impress other people? I understand people not wanting to be judged but the truth is everyone is a critic. Fuck them, its your one life to live not theirs, and life is very short! I say do whatever it is that makes u happy and fuck everyone else (so long as whatever makes u happy isnt molesting little children, or killing people, or putting anyone in harm's way)

Everyday i tell myself:

ITS MY BODY!
ITS MY LIFE!

[DL_NL]

When you live in NY that might be true, but I see this everywhere around me... it's easier when you're one anonymous guy in a big city, but when you're in a smaller community people tend to notice what you do and judge you. That's enough of a hurdle for many.

[Alyssa87]

Ruby,

I find it easier to focus less on guys who choose to be closeted.
Look @ it as their loss-
When you sift thru all the potentials, just add them in with druggies, cheaters, and fetishists.

:shrug

[RubyTS]

they can move if its that serious. theres absolutely NO REASON y u should live your life for anyone other than yourself.

[RubyTS]

Ruby,

I find it easier to focus less on guys who choose to be closeted.
Look @ it as their loss-
When you sift thru all the potentials, just add them in with druggies, cheaters, and fetishists.

:shrug

discretion to me is only a privelege for paying clients

[whatislove]

Ruby,

I find it easier to focus less on guys who choose to be closeted.
Look @ it as their loss-
When you sift thru all the potentials, just add them in with druggies, cheaters, and fetishists.

:shrug

No love to the pervs, womanizers and emotionally stunted? Population zero, babydoll!

[Alyssa87]

nah, i got some good apples in my basket :wink:

[jessicamoore]

ITS VERY HARD FOR GUYS TO GET IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH TS AND IT DOESNT MATTER IF SHE PASSABLE OR NOT PEOPLE GONNA STARE REGARDLESS IF SHE DROP DEAD GORGOEOUS OR IF SHE NOTICABLE 2009 PEOPLE KNOW WHAT TS LOOK AND ACT LIKE ITS SOMETHING ABOUT TRANSWMOEN WE STAND OUT IN A CROWD GOOD OR BAD PEOPLE OF TODAY R NIOSEY AS HELL I SAY LOVE HER AND FUCK EVERYBODY ELSE EVEN UR FAMILY CAUSE UR GROWN NOONE PAYS UR BILLS THATS MY OPINION

[RubyTS]

im seeing a guy now and there is nothing like knowing that he's his own man. Its just such a huuuge TURNOFF for me if a guy wants a relationship w a ts to be strickly behind closed doors. i can understand the whole family and friends thing, but there are guys out there who dont even wanna walk outside with a ts., but will treat them like a queen in the bedroom. And that stems from their own insecurities with the issue. i knew this one guy who was a male escort himself, and we were such cool friends. He would hang out with me and all my girls and he was a nice dude. A few times we went out he would walk ahead or behind like 1/2 a block with a hoodie on lol. Everytime i hear about or see a guy who's on the low, thats the image that pops in my head and its so digusting to see a person who cares that much of what other people think, especially strangers he'll prolly never see again

[LTR_Seeker]

you only live oncky guy to found woman just stick with her

[RubyTS]

i can understand how being open can complicate things, and to each is own, really. Some people just cant take the heat. For the guys tha enjoy only the physical aspects of being w a ts, i can understand the need for discretion. but as far as someone interested in pursuing a relationship with a ts, being on the low just wont cut it. i mean im not saying it's necessary to announce it to everyone, cuz its nobody's business really. But if u are ashamed of what people will think about you, then it's obviously something that you need to come to terms with, WITHIN YOURSELF. I can understand that its so much easier to just pretend like ur just another average joe and live your life peacefully, but lets be real, things in the past have never just changed by themselves. Martin luthor king had a dream... Rosa parks took a seat... etc If you wont take the time to educate people then they wont learn! The main issue here is that people cant even understand their passion for ts women themselves, let alone try to explain it to someone else... and thats y most people just keep it on the low.

[LTR_Seeker]

but maqny wont5 be educated & or even listen & it people from all ways of thinking about the issues were talking i say just love the women & be happy

[RubyTS]

the people that portray the most anger and ignorance towards things are those that wanna hide behind a facade and fool everyone else into thinking "There's no way this dude gets down" and those are the people that make it so much more difficult. People who share the love are typically the main ones spreading the hate.

[LTR_Seeker]

yep

[rickinoc]

I know what you mean. What matters is the love happiness between two people and if people don't like that, then it's probably because of their own jealousy that they don't have love and happiness in their lives!!!!

Whether you date a Ts, GG or whatever, as long as your happy that's all that matters and if people have a problem with that, just tell them to fuck off!!!!!!

[MacShreach]

i can understand how being open can complicate things, and to each is own, really. Some people just cant take the heat. For the guys tha enjoy only the physical aspects of being w a ts, i can understand the need for discretion. but as far as someone interested in pursuing a relationship with a ts, being on the low just wont cut it. i mean im not saying it's necessary to announce it to everyone, cuz its nobody's business really. But if u are ashamed of what people will think about you, then it's obviously something that you need to come to terms with, WITHIN YOURSELF. I can understand that its so much easier to just pretend like ur just another average joe and live your life peacefully, but lets be real, things in the past have never just changed by themselves. Martin luthor king had a dream... Rosa parks took a seat... etc If you wont take the time to educate people then they wont learn! The main issue here is that people cant even understand their passion for ts women themselves, let alone try to explain it to someone else... and thats y most people just keep it on the low.


:claps :claps :claps


Ruby, I can't tell you how much I agree with--and am moved by-- that post.

[loveburst]

Follow your heart and screw those who don't approve.
In a world filled with unhappiness if youu have found someone to love then hold onto it and fuck whatever anyone else has to say.

Yes, really so.

[loveburst]

Its never as easy as you think.

It takes loyalness, bravery of one self to fight against the feeling of being discriminated against or hated on, takes compassion and patience, takes confidence and the willingness not to care what others think...

That is really well said.. That is also something I personally wish to learn, and have a huge respect for you tgirls.

There is something both beautiful, and beautifully brave beauty in the eyes of many tgirls.. and that seems to be missing from so many others in this world..

Much strenght for the original poster. May your love shine through!

[DL_NL]

I'd have no problem taking a t-girlfriend out in public... in fact, much the opposite. If you're a bit of a coward however, have had a strict religious upbringing or less tolerant friends, it would take much more to break free from and to accept yourself for your preferences. If you know you'll have such problems you'd better not even start a relationship with a t-girl. It would be pretty insulting if you don't dare take her out.