Monogamous relationship question

[jjhill]

I would use myself as the example. Say you was in a monogamous relationship for four years. You never cheated and your partner never cheated. And she is on birth control, but you still wanna wear a condom just because she can forget to take the pill. She thinks you wanna wear the condom because you might be cheating, or think she's cheating. what would you do?

[2009AD]

Tell her exactly what you wrote. "I wear a condom, because you sometimes forget to take your birth control pill." Then talk about the situation. End of story.

[jjhill]

Tell her exactly what you wrote. "I wear a condom, because you sometimes forget to take your birth control pill." Then talk about the situation. End of story.

Thanks AD, now should I do that, or do as your quote says lol :wink:

[phobun]

I would use myself as the example. Say you was in a monogamous relationship for four years. You never cheated and your partner never cheated. And she is on birth control, but you still wanna wear a condom just because she can forget to take the pill. She thinks you wanna wear the condom because you might be cheating, or think she's cheating. what would you do?
Unless she has conceded to missing the pill, simply explaining that she might forget can be tricky... "what, you don't trust me to take the pill?"

And no, I don't. I have known more than one guy whose girlfriends have used pregnancy to trap them into marriage. Besides, the pill's ability to prevent pregnancy is never advertised at 100% even if they take it exactly as prescribed.

[Odelay]

The pill is not a 100% effective birth control method. Period.

The best way to avoid pregnancy is by using multiple birth control methods.

If she doesn't know these things, she really aughta listen a little more carefully to her doctor when she goes in for a visit. If she hasn't had any discussion with her doc about birth control issues since she was 16, she probably should get a refresher course.

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

Tell her exactly what you wrote. "I wear a condom, because you sometimes forget to take your birth control pill." Then talk about the situation. End of story.

there is no better reply to this thread

[jjhill]

thanks fellas!

[Ben]

Dan Savage: Why Monogamy Is Ridiculous...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w8SOQEitsJI

[nysprod]

I would use myself as the example. Say you was in a monogamous relationship for four years. You never cheated and your partner never cheated. And she is on birth control, but you still wanna wear a condom just because she can forget to take the pill. She thinks you wanna wear the condom because you might be cheating, or think she's cheating. what would you do?

Dude, she a girl, you ain't gonna win in this area, go bb.


Tell her exactly what you wrote. "I wear a condom, because you sometimes forget to take your birth control pill." Then talk about the situation. End of story.

That sounds good but the problem is that when you use logic on a woman she'll either:

1. start to cry.

2. throw something at you.

3. 1 and 2.

[RallyCola]

tell her you think she takes the pill because she is cheating on you and see how she likes it when the shoe is on the other foot

[Instrumental]

Dan Savage: Why Monogamy Is Ridiculous...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w8SOQEitsJI

I'm not sure what's more stupid about this post, the fact that it's being posted as advice in a thread that's like five years old, or the fact that it has absolutely nothing to do with what the topic creator was asking about.

[BeardedOne]

She already distrusts you. Start shopping for a new GF.

[nysprod]

tell her you think she takes the pill because she is cheating on you and see how she likes it when the shoe is on the other foot

Lol...about as much as he'll like it when that shoe hits his head and her puss freezes over...

[fred41]

The dude stopped posting in 2011.
Considering where the posts were, I'm thinking this relationship was probably over. :)

[CORVETTEDUDE]

Tell her exactly what you wrote. "I wear a condom, because you sometimes forget to take your birth control pill." Then talk about the situation. End of story.

This is the correct response and the most reasonable approach.

[nysprod]

This is the correct response and the most reasonable approach.

Again, using reason and/or logic on a woman will only cause her to cry or throw something at you...or both.

It's Mar and Venus, women are emotional beings...much better response is to talk in terms of feelings, how something affects you emotionally.

[RallyCola]

The dude stopped posting in 2011.
Considering where the posts were, I'm thinking this relationship was probably over. :)

holy thread necro batman!

i didn't even check the date of the OP when i replied.

[wearboots4me]

The pill is not a 100% effective birth control method. Period.

The best way to avoid pregnancy is by using multiple birth control methods.

If she doesn't know these things, she really aughta listen a little more carefully to her doctor when she goes in for a visit. If she hasn't had any discussion with her doc about birth control issues since she was 16, she probably should get a refresher course.

Excellent advice. If you don't want to have a baby with her, wear a condom. If she doesn't like it, find another girl.

[Ben]

I'm not sure what's more stupid about this post, the fact that it's being posted as advice in a thread that's like five years old, or the fact that it has absolutely nothing to do with what the topic creator was asking about.

Oh, I didn't want to start another thread about how sexually monogamy isn't, well, who we are as a species. (For 95 percent of our time on this Earth, well, human beings were not monogamous. What changed that? Well, agriculture.)
Reading a book called Sex at Dawn that has liberalized my views, as it were. I'm fairly conservative when it comes to relationships, marriage etc. But monogamy isn't realistic.
I mean, if we were truly monogamous, as it were, we'd only masturbate to the same porn star. But none of us do.
So I simply added it to a "monogamy" thread, as it were.

[Winkle]

Oh, I didn't want to start another thread about how sexually monogamy isn't, well, who we are as a species. (For 95 percent of our time on this Earth, well, human beings were not monogamous. What changed that? Well, agriculture.)
Reading a book called Sex at Dawn that has liberalized my views, as it were. I'm fairly conservative when it comes to relationships, marriage etc. But monogamy isn't realistic.
I mean, if we were truly monogamous, as it were, we'd only masturbate to the same porn star. But none of us do.
So I simply added it to a "monogamy" thread, as it were.

To follow up on a similar comment in that video. Society has changed massively as well as life expectancy. Men spreading their seed is no longer necessary to ensure the survival of their genes. I see monogamy as a natural progression because of that.

[RallyCola]

monogamy is the only way to ensure that a man can have matching clean socks.

...yeah, i said it

[fred41]

monogamy is the only way to ensure that a man can have matching clean socks.

...yeah, i said it

No, a loving relationship is...one comprised of compromise.

Don't forget ....if it were truly up to monogamy...then your socks wouldn't match...would they?