Never to be normal........

[kellyshore.net]

Sometimes it makes me incredibly sad. What some say make you 'special' I can never agree with that. It would be so nice to go to a club and not have a secret to hide. No trials of the guy finding out.................to be introduced to his friends with out having to hide a secret.......etc........

my own post for the month.....

[El Nino]

No such thing as normal, so don't even try! You are what you are

[El Nino]

*double post*

[scroller]

What some say make you 'special' I can never agree with that.

Saddest story in the history of the world.

[baileyandkc]

people forget the downside, the negative consequences that have to be dealt with everyday...some see only the money making opportunities, escorting, vids, websites, etc...

Too bad the world is full of labels and narrowminds

[Tika]

So why hide? Why even think about it? Thinking that you have a "secret" is bullshit. Honestly, Kelly, you're keeping yourself down with that mentality. So what if people realize you're transgender? If it matters that much to them, either educate them or tell them to fuck right off for being bigots.

[kellyshore.net]

^^^^ Mine is more about you meet a great guy. And he is only great cause he doesn't know. That "secret" holds you back sometimes from great oppurtunities.

[ed_jaxon]

You broke up with your boyfriend?

[kellyshore.net]

^^^^^ no lol I am talking in general when you go to a bar. You meet a great guy and things could really happen for you, but because of the secret he doesn't know it holds you back and most of the time ruins it. I am not speaking business I am speaking personal. I am not speaking sexual pleasure I am speaking relationships.

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

Kelly I don't appreciate you using the "......" after your thread titles......

I'm going to trademark that shit right now!!!!!!!!!!

;)

[kellyshore.net]

Kelly I don't appreciate you using the "......" after your thread titles......

I'm going to trademark that shit right now!!!!!!!!!!

;)lol :lol:

[yosi]

And he is only great cause he doesn't know.

if he does know , he's not so great? :roll:

if you meet a guy , you like him , he's great , go for it , you might be surprised :wink:

[muhmuh]

^^^^ Mine is more about you meet a great guy. And he is only great cause he doesn't know. That "secret" holds you back sometimes from great oppurtunities.

how does he qualify as 'great' if you have to keep it a secret?

[baileyandkc]

Or you tell all and find out he wasn't so great...

Either way, you'll know for sure and never have to wonder

[Irisheyes]

it doesnt matter if she tells him or doesnt tell him. Or weather he accpets it or not it doesnt even matter if he is worth it or not. the fact that everyone of those scenarios IS a possible scenario is what makes meeting a guy in a club or bar different for kelly.

chin up champ (playful punch against kelly's lovely jawline)

x

[fred41]

I understand what you mean..but if it helps at all (and it probably doesn't)..look at how much better you might have it then the next person. You're attractive...but how many people out there aren't quite as successful in transitioning - maybe because they started out very late..or simply they're not very attractive to begin with and there isn't much to work with. Some of their wishes might even be simpler , such as :"I wish I could meet a nice guy , maybe in a club.......................any kinda club."....and I'm leaving out all the GG's that you look better than..some who are also too unattractive to pick out the man of their dreams. Sure ..some will find someone for themselves (no matter how homely they may be)..but you can be sure it isn't the man they were dreaming about in their fantasies. Then there are all the people with incurable STDs..who have to worry about dropping THAT bombshell at some time in their relationship and hope the other party doesn't go running. I'll leave out people with deformities for now (lol)...I think I made my point.

I know , I know , I know....when people hurt inside this stuff doesn't help...maybe not at all. But sometimes we don't know when we really have it not so bad despite adversity...especially when compared to soooo many others...some of them even reading these posts.

Anyway hope you feel at least a little better.

[DaLonelyGuyNJ]

Kelly...a great guy will accept you and love you for "YOU" and nothing else. I think that is what we all are looking for, someone to accept us for ourselves and not what we appear to be or what others want us to be.

[redtiger]

Kelly, what kind of guys hang around in bars in the first place. Certainly not the kinda guy you're probably looking for.

But, I suppose you could always get him really shit faced and then break it too him. And then if he has a bad reaction to it, you can deny it and tell him he was so drunk he was imagining things.

[Ts CinthyaNY]

So why hide? Why even think about it? Thinking that you have a "secret" is bullshit. Honestly, Kelly, you're keeping yourself down with that mentality. So what if people realize you're transgender? If it matters that much to them, either educate them or tell them to fuck right off for being bigots.


Ye, yes... cheers on that .!!! :D

[Ts CinthyaNY]

^^^^ Mine is more about you meet a great guy. And he is only great cause he doesn't know. That "secret" holds you back sometimes from great oppurtunities.

No Kelly , you might be a little wrong about that. I am sorry but whoever guy do not see more than your genitalia and not the person you are and worry for what people might say, well his lost. Now, if you do not tell before hands or when you find the right cozy moment they obviously that "great guy" could turn into a dickhead, besides those type of men you won't necessarily find them in bar (may some exceptions) .

Remember that good lasting relationships are based in Honesty, Communication and Trust .

There are plenty guys who would love to worship you and make you the happiest girl on earth, guess you just have to give them a chance and to love yourself more than what you can love them. So yes I believe there is someone waiting to meet you, let that guy to find you ! :)

[alyssats]

I must confest this also happens to me, you go clubbing or eat in a restaurant or shopping and met a guy, dated him and go around together. You fall in love with this sweety cuty guy but he doesnt know your a TS, like your so scared and hoping that you have a pussy to show him once you make love with him. And thinking what would be his reaction once he saw your hard throbbing cock between your legs jeje, will he suck it jeje?

This happens to me a lot of times luckily most guys Ive met in clubs,malls are very nice ones even when they find out that im a TS they still shag my pussy ass like theyve never shag before. But sometimes guys will really get shocked once they found out your a boy and act like a weirdo who never know what a TS is jeje

[Ts CinthyaNY]

And thinking what would be his reaction once he saw your hard throbbing cock between your legs jeje, will he suck it jeje?

This happens to me a lot of times luckily most guys Ive met in clubs,malls are very nice ones even when they find out that im a TS they still shag my pussy ass like theyve never shag before.

Badass girl!!! Horny guys do not mind you as long as they bang your brains out and sucking you off, then the classic line " this is my first time but you are so hot!!" " I can't believe you are a guy" BS and BS... But we girls love that !!! LMAO. :twisted:

[Kitana]

Sometimes it makes me incredibly sad. What some say make you 'special' I can never agree with that. It would be so nice to go to a club and not have a secret to hide. No trials of the guy finding out.................to be introduced to his friends with out having to hide a secret.......etc........

my own post for the month.....
you may need to find out what you really want. if be like any other girl is what you want the most you can go for srs and live like that. but since you said "never to be normal" you are not considering sex change. thats gotta be becouse you still like what you are, like to feel 'special' and so on. so its like a swing and goes around from be special to be normal. its all got its own upsides and downstairs.
i can't figure out this stuff myself (like most of the girls i guess) but i hope i will and you too. good luck honey

[baileyandkc]

Of course, then you get into that whole other issue about when you come clean about what you have south of the Mason Dixon line...do you tell right away, as soon as you know the other person is special, or do wait, hoping to get the relationship far enough along that it matters less than it might have at the start...
Honesty is best though..I would think truthful, right up front, ASAP, would be the way to go..

[astridgirl]

I agree with Kelly on this point it can be really frustrating.

I will be pursued around straight clubs by guys and hit on on a daily basis by guys that see me as a GG which is what I have always wanted but I know after years of dating situations there are very few that when you do tell them no matter how attractive, witty, intelligent, etc that they find you that it wont matter if your getting your surgery in the near future they cant see past it.

Being considered erotic and gorgeous as a woman in real life but realizing if you find a guy attractive and he is into you at a club you cant just take him home and enjoy each others company like any other GG could take advantage of is really frustrating. I know two Tgurls from NYC years back when I lived in Manhattan that wound up beat within an inch of their lives because they believed that the guys they took home wouldnt care because the rest of what they were "was more fem than 90% of the GG's out there".

It has nothing to do really with the idea of not admitting what you are or accepting it but being transsexual the need and want of myself and many others is the belief we are women. The sad realization is that no matter how good you look, how well you pass, how great everything else is about you, how many years you have lived and thrived as a woman the grand majority of people out there if they find out will see you only as a "girl who really is just a guy in a pretty shell".

Just thought I would post because I know from dating in L.A., Manhattan, Las Vegas, and almost every night at the clubs I have worked at that when you have accomplished so much more looks and personality wise becoming the girl you thought you would never be able to be there is a sense of meloncholy when you realize that it will never really make you a "true woman". I realize to many Tgurls they are happy being "the best of both worlds and special because they are a girl with something more". I think whatever makes you happy but the situation that I have been in and Kelly talks about causes distress in many gurls.

But you still smile and flirt and hope that the guy that you do find still wants to be with you after shagging the life out of you and he just didnt fulfill a fantasy he never would admit to his last GG lover.

Cheers
Astrid

[bte]

^^^^ Mine is more about you meet a great guy. And he is only great cause he doesn't know. That "secret" holds you back sometimes from great oppurtunities.

Why not find a guy who does not care about your "secret" or "secrets"?

[kellyshore.net]

I agree with Kelly on this point it can be really frustrating.

I will be pursued around straight clubs by guys and hit on on a daily basis by guys that see me as a GG which is what I have always wanted but I know after years of dating situations there are very few that when you do tell them no matter how attractive, witty, intelligent, etc that they find you that it wont matter if your getting your surgery in the near future they cant see past it.

Being considered erotic and gorgeous as a woman in real life but realizing if you find a guy attractive and he is into you at a club you cant just take him home and enjoy each others company like any other GG could take advantage of is really frustrating. I know two Tgurls from NYC years back when I lived in Manhattan that wound up beat within an inch of their lives because they believed that the guys they took home wouldnt care because the rest of what they were "was more fem than 90% of the GG's out there".

It has nothing to do really with the idea of not admitting what you are or accepting it but being transsexual the need and want of myself and many others is the belief we are women. The sad realization is that no matter how good you look, how well you pass, how great everything else is about you, how many years you have lived and thrived as a woman the grand majority of people out there if they find out will see you only as a "girl who really is just a guy in a pretty shell".

Just thought I would post because I know from dating in L.A., Manhattan, Las Vegas, and almost every night at the clubs I have worked at that when you have accomplished so much more looks and personality wise becoming the girl you thought you would never be able to be there is a sense of meloncholy when you realize that it will never really make you a "true woman". I realize to many Tgurls they are happy being "the best of both worlds and special because they are a girl with something more". I think whatever makes you happy but the situation that I have been in and Kelly talks about causes distress in many gurls.

But you still smile and flirt and hope that the guy that you do find still wants to be with you after shagging the life out of you and he just didnt fulfill a fantasy he never would admit to his last GG lover.

Cheers
AstridWell said girl! And did you get my email back?

[Helvis2012]

Everyone has secrets.

[samstl99]

My 2 cents.. for what it is worth. My view is that if you find someone you are attracted to and you enjoy their company and this person is the most beautiful woman you have seen, inside and out... WHY should it matter what she does or doesnt have between her legs? We you attracted to her Vagina? Did her Vagina talk to you?.. Did you see her vagina from across the room and decide... God I cant take my eyes off of her Vagina?... NOOO. You are attracted to the person.

Ashe may testify to this... I care about ASHe because of WHO she is.. not because she is some fantasy. it isnt about sex (ok.. I am not denying... we would shag till the wee hours)... I care about her as a person, just like anyone else should care about a close friend that is a woman.

Would I tell my ex GG GF or Lover about Ashe.. you are damn right I would.

I am sure it gets frustrating for the girls because they are always afraid of the reaction... but when it pays off and you find someone... the reward should be emmense...

[kellyshore.net]

^^^^ Mine is more about you meet a great guy. And he is only great cause he doesn't know. That "secret" holds you back sometimes from great oppurtunities.

Why not find a guy who does not care about your "secret" or "secrets"?because you can't trust half the tranny chasers online or at bars.

[bte]

^^^^ Mine is more about you meet a great guy. And he is only great cause he doesn't know. That "secret" holds you back sometimes from great oppurtunities.

Why not find a guy who does not care about your "secret" or "secrets"?because you can't trust half the tranny chasers online or at bars.

Well that means that there are half of the "tranny chasers" that you can trust. Everyone has secrets, some are small and some are big secrets. I think that if you found someone who loves you very much then it shouldn't matter about your secret. Of course that's my idea of love, I don't know how often it happens though.

[muhmuh]

in some ways its also an advantage to have a sure fire way of telling whether or not the person youre dealing with is an idiot or not within seconds into the conversation (if youd like to be that forward)


My view is that if you find someone you are attracted to and you enjoy their company and this person is the most beautiful woman you have seen, inside and out... WHY should it matter what she does or doesnt have between her legs?

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