When to (finally) bareback?

[dc_guy_75]

If you feel its natural for most monogamous couples to have unprotected sex, I was wondering at what point what people here feels its reasonable to take the next step?

For me, I've never had unprotected anal but the temptation has always been there.

Of course, taking an HIV test together would make the most sense, but I've heard (conservative) views that 3 tests are necessary. Thats seems a little extreme.

Obviously, it would all depend on how much trust there is in a relationship (and sexual histories), but I was wondering how did other people dealt with this...

So, what are your rules about barebacking? (I'm especially interested in the tgirl perspective).

[JANIRA]

Honestly I am very very fearful of that ( unprotected) , Its so hard to trust someone now a days you think you know someone and BAM! they fuck you up... i have wittnessed many ruined lives because of ' TRUST" .. With that said im not saying that anyone can't trust anyone, "ME' personally i have a huge trust issue.....with ANYONE!
I guess that is one of my flaws, until proven wrong.

[dc_guy_75]

Joe the Plumber would want me to bump this one time.

[Alyssa87]

ive yet to experience the raw stuff, but i dont think its such a big deal.

better safe than sorry.
look at most of the guys on this site! theyre married and pay2play with tranny escorts.
then go back to their ignorant wives and fuck them raw.

really sad!

[ossumpeiEIEIO]

My last two partners and I had tests done together.
We enjoyed bareback wildly. I deep stroke, (11.5"), my tgirlfriend regularly, and she loves it when I leave her a huge load.
No problems here.

[Floyd R]

Alysssa, I'm not married or in a relationship. Also I've never had a pay2play date with an escort. I'm not sure if I ever will.


ive yet to experience the raw stuff, but i dont think its such a big deal.

better safe than sorry.
look at most of the guys on this site! theyre married and pay2play with tranny escorts.
then go back to their ignorant wives and fuck them raw.

really sad!

[BlkJewels]

Honestly I am very very fearful of that ( unprotected) , Its so hard to trust someone now a days you think you know someone and BAM! they fuck you up... i have wittnessed many ruined lives because of ' TRUST" .. With that said im not saying that anyone can't trust anyone, "ME' personally i have a huge trust issue.....with ANYONE!
I guess that is one of my flaws, until proven wrong.

Damn, I'm the same way Ma. I don't think of it as a flaw. More like a built-in, mental, Doberman Pinscher.

[eze]

ive yet to experience the raw stuff, but i dont think its such a big deal.

better safe than sorry.
look at most of the guys on this site! theyre married and pay2play with tranny escorts.
then go back to their ignorant wives and fuck them raw.

really sad!


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[DimitriWolfe]

Let me first say that Hepatitis kills more people worldwide per year than HIV. Yet NOBODY in the industry (or out of the industry) requires testing for it or even talks about it. Why is that?

Regarding bareback porn...

My guess is because the reality of it all is, nobody in the industry really gives a shit about you. It makes everyone look professional to test for HIV but truth be told, you're all on your own out there. They all care about making money and if that means making you all think you are safe by having you check your blood at AIM Healthcare, so be it. You feel safe but you are not. But hey, money talks right?

I've shot a few bareback DVDs in Thailand this year. We did Hepatitis A, B and C testing, Elisa HIV test and a PCR-DNA test on all the models beforehand. This is much more than anyone in LA ever tests for yet we stopped all bareback production afer just a couple of movies because of the amount of Hepatitis + and HIV+ test results that were coming back. We even sent one of the Brazilian male performers home after he brought a fake Hepatitis test to us from Brazil and then tested + for Hepatitis B in Thailand. This means he has been working bareback in Brazil before and after his Thai trip spreading Hep B to everyone he works with. Does anyone care? Not really.

I personally hate rubbers and can't get off to porn that has them but I think being on the receiving end of a bareback scene is just asking for trouble. Your little HIV test is only accurate so much. Don't be fooled by the LA Porn Machine's slick talk that the industry is safe if you test with AIM or others like them, you are not safe. Not even close.

With all of that said, do what you want, do what you need. We are all adults and know the reality (I hope we all do) of what we do. Just understand there are other things than HIV that you need to worry about.

[Justawannabe]

Didn't think the question was porn related. Specifically, a monogamous couple was sited.

While I tend to agree with Janira that a bit of paranoia should be the norm, at least for me after I've been committed for six months or so I tend to drop the condom requirement. I prefer that my partner get tested when we first become committed but I don't make an issue of it unless I have a specific concern.

In that I'm probably not being very protective of my self, a bit like not getting a prenup if I was to get married. But, a lot like that, it probably means I have a happier home life, as I don't start off saying anything that could be interpreted as 'hi honey, I know you were a slut in the old days... just want to make sure you not a stupid diseased slut.'

Lots of stuff might kill me in this life, at some point you start making an educated quess and rolling the dice. Hope it comes up okay.

Now that I have an ex in the adult provider side of things, maybe my paranoia will increase... I've got her stories to remind me that most folks aren't loyal like me.

Sean

[DimitriWolfe]

Didn't think the question was porn related. Specifically, a monogamous couple was sited.

While I tend to agree with Janira that a bit of paranoia should be the norm, at least for me after I've been committed for six months or so I tend to drop the condom requirement. I prefer that my partner get tested when we first become committed but I don't make an issue of it unless I have a specific concern.

In that I'm probably not being very protective of my self, a bit like not getting a prenup if I was to get married. But, a lot like that, it probably means I have a happier home life, as I don't start off saying anything that could be interpreted as 'hi honey, I know you were a slut in the old days... just want to make sure you not a stupid diseased slut.'

Lots of stuff might kill me in this life, at some point you start making an educated quess and rolling the dice. Hope it comes up okay.

Now that I have an ex in the adult provider side of things, maybe my paranoia will increase... I've got her stories to remind me that most folks aren't loyal like me.

Sean

Heh. I went off on a little tangent.

I think I was wanting to say in general that there are other things to worry about other than HIV, which is usually the only thing brought up when discussing barebacking.

It's high risk I think with a partner because you don't know if they are faithful or not. But on the flip side, who wants a boyfriend or girlfriend you can't cum inside of? Tough call. You REALLY need to trust that person and even then...

[blckhaze]

too risky nowadays. the negative doesnt outweigh any greater feeling you may get, if any.
just wrap it up.

[Ts CinthyaNY]

Now days, no matter how hot your sex partner or how much love you have for ... Just wrap it up, I rather not to take any chances.
I mean I love my man and we trust each other but that's not enough to go for it, I seen some cases and do not want to be like it.
"The name of the game , It's protection , so use condoms"

[dc_guy_75]

Cinthya did a search on the word "bareback"...haha.

Good advice though. For me, it would be 6 months and a test. It would be a bonding experience, I imagine.

[Solitary Brother]

ive yet to experience the raw stuff, but i dont think its such a big deal.

better safe than sorry.
look at most of the guys on this site! theyre married and pay2play with tranny escorts.
then go back to their ignorant wives and fuck them raw.

really sad!

I cant argue with you.