Pick your parter - Promiscuous vs Prostitute

[tstv_lover]

Many threads ask guys if they would commit to a relationship with an escort or prostitute. I know many of the guys and girls here are familiar with this situation.

It got m thinking about the whole sex vs emotional commitment question.

Given the choice, would you find it easier to commit to a relationship where:

A. your TS partner was promiscuous and likely to have several casual sexual partners through choice during your relationship, or

B. your TS partner was an escort or prostitute and likely to have MANY sexual enounters during your relationship

[Lick UR Lovely]

I'd just keep her chained to the bed all day and night! :D :D (kidding)

[indeed]

neither.

[hondarobot]

I honestly wouldn't mind a girl I was in a relationship with having flings, on occasion, outside our relationship. It would cut down on her being crabby because I'd rather just get some sleep sometimes. I would never want to meet the "fling guys", or I'd break something over their heads.

I would not date a girl who was actively escorting.

[bellamy]

If it was open and recipracated I would chose the girl with a fling or two or more. But what's good for the goose would have to be good for the gander, ya know

[Dinand]

I thought we all wanted a virgin ;-)

[nicoleneuman24]

hay por favor.

[mikejones]

I don't think I could accept either option. I wouldn't be so concerned with what she did in the past, but if she was with me all of that would have to stop.

[Nooksack]

I wouldn't be able to handle either. I'm a monogamous kinda guy and sure we could experiment here and there as a couple, but you can forget having my woman gettin' boned or vice versa by every Tom, Dick and Harry whether paid or by choice. I wouldn't want her to expect me to do that, so I don't expect her to do that to me either.

[daleach]

I'd go with A.

As long as its understood that we both have the option to fool around and that its just casual sex, then cool.

Now, if I were to find out she was doing it behind my back that would be a different matter. That would be fucked up.

Thats the situation my wife and I have now and it works out well. She does not mind me spending time with TSs and she is free to hook up for one night stands as she pleases.

[hondarobot]

I'd view my girl having a "guy on the side" like shopping. I don't want to hear about, don't want to be involved in it, but if it's going to happen anyways then let me know and be safe about it. I wouldn't want to know any further details. The situation would work both ways, of course.

[TheLongChodeAhead]

What self respecting person would want either? There are other people out there besides sluts and whores....

[TsVanessa69]

This is how i see it, both are sleeping with the same amount of people. One was just smart enhough to get paid.

[hondarobot]

With escorting there's an emotional intimacy level with the clients (at least from the clients pov) that I would clearly be uncomfortable with. There's also the fact that I believe a man should be the provider in a relationship. I know, that sounds goofy, but that's a personal belief of mine.

On the other hand, if a girl had a male friend (who I never saw or heard about) I wouldn't mind if they hung out on occasion. Sex? Sure, as long as it's kept quiet about. If I came home and she was getting fucked in our bed, there'd soon be a broken baseball bat and a "former fuck buddy" to dispose of. Another positive is that the "guy on the side" could hang out with her and do things I wouldn't want to do, like para sailing or water skiing or whatever.

I think more relationships like that would cut down on the divorce rate considerably.

[ptyseminole]

I would definelty go for a pro...

[62des]

Neither. Although if she's having sex with anyone else I think its only fair that I get to have sex with other girls too. But in either case you can't officially call it a "commited relationship". So neither.

[hondarobot]

It's clear that modern relationships are complicated and further inspection of the dynamics are required. Good thread.

I'm not putting my baseball bat away just yet, though, ya know.

:?

[62des]

What self respecting person would want either? There are other people out there besides sluts and whores....

Best possible answer to this thread. :claps

[TomSelis]

What's up with these threads with bad and worse choices?

It's kinda like being asked "You want to get shot in the foot or hand?" Hi, I don't want either.

Ultimately, they are pretty similar. One is fucking for money and one is fucking to fill some kind of void. If I got in a situation like that, I'd be actively seeking a way out. I choose not to choose!

[trish]

The variations of sexual practices among humans are multitudinous. There are happy Mormon sister wives. There are voyeur husbands whose wives happily comply to have sex with other men. There are satisfied swingers. There are happily married couples who only ever do the missionary position. There are satisfied couples who never copulate. There are men who are happily married to escorts and there are self-respecting women who knowingly marry philanderers. There happy henpecked husbands and happy submissive housewives. There are happily married husbands who occasionally buy the services of a hooker. Just think of the people you know and you can probably give examples. There are lots of unhappy people in relationships too. The field is just too big to to be confined by absolutes. There are over 6 billion people in the world. In regards to whether or not a given pair can make a go of it, very little can be said with certainty. One should hardly ever say "never."

[tstv_lover]

If a girl was playing the field then I wouldn't enter into a committed relationship.

While I can intellectually understand that an escort is not entering into an emotional commitment with a client and uses him for income, as he uses her to satisfy a need, I'd find it difficult to accept this arrangement.

I would have said never but, as Trish rightly says, never say never.

It's a hard road finding the perfect girl.

[bulldog]

been in an open relationship, i had no problem sharing, jealousy was never an issue (with me). i dont mind open relationships at all and actually support them if you think you can make them and dont have an issue with jealousy. tons of people like a little variety ;)

[InHouston]

neither.

Ditto. Such a girl is not relationship material.

[trish]

Okay, I’ll elaborate.

The variations of sexual practices among humans are multitudinous. There are happy Mormon sister wives. There are voyeur husbands whose wives happily comply to have sex with other men. There are satisfied swingers. There are happily married couples who only ever do the missionary position. There are satisfied couples who never copulate. There are men who are happily married to escorts and there are self-respecting women who knowingly marry philanderers. There happy henpecked husbands and happy submissive housewives. There are happily married husbands who occasionally buy the services of a hooker. Just think of the people you know and you can probably give examples. There are lots of unhappy people in relationships too. The field is just too big to to be confined by absolutes. There are over 6 billion people in the world.

Let’s do a little math. Lop the 6 billion in half to 3 billion just to make sure we exclude children from consideration. Half of that (1.5 billion) are men. The other half consists of women. What percent of all women are prostitutes or promiscuous? Let’s be conservatively small and say only 0.1% (we’re all sure it’s much larger than that because that’s only 1.5 million). So how many possible male female pairs can we make in which the woman is either a promiscuous or a prostitute? Easy…1.5 billion times 1.5 million which yields 2.25 times 10 to the 15th power! There are 2.25 quadrillion possible pairs consisting of a man and a promiscuous woman or a man and a prostitute. Remember, this is a very conservative estimate. So what are the odds that absolutely none of these pairs could live together with self and mutual respect, happily ever after? Pretty fuckin’ small is the answer.

Once again: in regards to whether or not a given pair can make a go of it, very little can be said with certainty. One should hardly ever say "never."

Any one who says with absolute certainty that “Such a girl is not relationship material” is just projecting their own inability to accept “such a girl” onto the woman herself. There’s nothing wrong with saying YOU don’t want to consider an open relationship. But to claim women who insist on open relationships are lower life forms is immoral.

[juicyfunball]

prostitute is better, it provides income and also is less intimate