My first adventure with a tgirl.....reality bites!!!

[Dinand]

After being a big fan of tgirl movies for some years now, I decided to have my first tgirl adventure in Amsterdam at the red light district last Friday. I got a lot of tips from Peter in the Dutch topic so that helped me a lot.

I saw a pretty nice looking girl in the Bloedstraat. Her name was Alyssa or Alicia or something and she was half Columbian and half from Aruba. She said she was bottom only which was perfect since I wanted to be top only. As I walked in I noticed she spoke very good Dutch, this almost never happened to me with all the girls I visisted in the RLD both in Amsterdam as in The Hague. Anyway, she made me pretty comfortable by her very nice and friendly attitude. I told her this was my first time with so we talked a lot of the whole thing. We talked a lot like 15 minutes and after that I paid her and it was time for the actually sex.

I already had an erection so I had no problem penetrating her but after like 1 minute I got this weird mental block. Like while I was having sex with her I got this voice in my head saying I don't belong here or something. After that I lost wood and it didn't came back no matter what she or I did. It just wasn't gonna happen. I only wanted to do 1 thing and 1 thing only and that was get dressed and leave as soon as soon possible.

So now I'm thinking what happened and there are 3 options in my head.

1. I was very nervous the first time so that's why it didn't go the way I wanted.

2. I only like tgirls virtually but when it comes to actually have sex with them I can't do it, I get this mental block of actually having sex with someone with a penis.

3. Eventhough the girl was very nice and good looking perhaps she wasn't my type after all? Perhaps it could work with another tgirl better.

At this point I'm not sure I'm gonna try it again. I doubt I will. Maybe I should accept that fact that having sex with a tgirl for me is only like this big fantasy but in real life I can't do anything with it! Maybe I should stick with what I know and what I have done so far in my life!

Thank you for listening.

Ferdinand.

[GroobySteven]

Having sex in the red light district of Amsterdam is a bit weird anyway. Your doing it behind a door, in a small room, where people are walking past.
The sex is very sterile and un-spontaneous - if you want the girl to change position, you have to pay more (during sex you have to go to your wallet give her an extra note and then she moves).

It's not the best way to experience it.

There is an escort agency in Amsterdam (can't remember it's name) which specialises in tgirls which may be better - or go to that Ladyboy Cafe (again forgot the name!).

Good luck
seanchai

[polarstar]

The same has happened to me, in other settings. 1 time, all goes well. Next time, lose wood. Doesn't happen with more friendly dates, just with pay-to-play.

All 3 of your explanations above make sense, either by themselves or in combo. I wouldn't get too stressed about it - and there is nothing wrong with a virtual obsession with t-girls.

[Willie Escalade]

Happened to me my first time as well...and I was in a quiet setting. With me it was being nervous. The second time (with the same girl) went a lot better.

[bellamy]

You know it happened to me kinda the same way. I think the big thing for me was that I was paying for it. It was the first time with a tgirl but other times with tgirls that I did not pay went great. So I doubt it was the whole tgirl thing but more being turn of by paying for it.

[saifan]

Sorry to hear about your experience. I experienced my 1st time a little over a week ago and was concerned prior that I might have performance issues. Been into T-girls for most of my adult life so there was no doubt that I wanted to explore that side of my sexuality. Things turned out well and I let myself go and enjoyed it.

I'd go with your gut here. If your mind was saying something is wrong what is to prevent it from happening again? Maybe it is just a fantasy. Either way you can say you did it and not regret trying.

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

First timer's jitters..It's nothing. You will come back for the whole enchilada eventually! lol

~Kisses.

HTG

[Nikka]

or go to that Ladyboy Cafe (again forgot the name!).



San Francisco bar :wink:

the girl was 100% columbian, half from Aruba? come on... , I met about 3 columbian girls at that San Francisco bar :wink:

[kaientai]

i also think it may have been nerves dinand.
And Seanchai might be on to something with the setting i also think you might have to give it a second chance thanks for posting though
see ya

[PeterK]

I don't agree with Seanchai completely, yes some of the girls act the way he describes and some of the rooms are like that.
I had a couple of bad experiences also, saw this beautiful Spanish girl just very very gorgeous but the sex was awful.
I always say read the reviews on hookers.nl
The top lady's are Paula, Paloma (not for the beginner) Dominique, Millie and Melissa.
For Paula men are lining up for that room because she is very good so probaly forget about her.
You have to talk to the girl before you pay, most of the girls agree 50 euro's and for that you can suck them, they suck you, they fuck you or you fuck them. Some of them are very passionate if they like you, for example Melissa loves to kiss. Last time i was with her and we kissed i felt her cock become rockhard, very exciting that was.
A lot of the South American girls love blond Dutch guys so if you are blond you will be lucky.
Also check out Lellebel on thursdaynight, they have salsanight and some off the tgirls who visit the bar get horny at the end and want sex.
Happened to me a couple of times, some of the Asian girls are very hot.

[Dinand]

the girl was 100% columbian, half from Aruba? come on... , I met about 3 columbian girls at that San Francisco bar
I'm pretty sure she was part from Aruba because they talk dutch also in Aruba and this girl could talk dutch with no problem. She couldn't have if she was 100% Columbian.

At this point I'm really not sure if I want to try again with a tgirl. Maybe it's fantastic just as a fantasy, I don't know.

[kaientai]

Just think about it dinand i think it is worthwile to chase a fantasy if it's atainable (like me going to see Katie kokks when i have the money to fly to the states and all haha) i mean if your second go around could be Patricia Bysmark would it not be worth a go . For me personaly i have not encoutered your problems with ts girls but is happened when i was with a gg when it was to buisneslike for my tastes

[GroobySteven]

or go to that Ladyboy Cafe (again forgot the name!).



San Francisco bar :wink:

the girl was 100% columbian, half from Aruba? come on... , I met about 3 columbian girls at that San Francisco bar :wink:

Nope - I think it's Butterfly or Papillon or something.

[Dinand]

i mean if your second go around could be Patricia Bysmark would it not be worth a go .
Well....you have to be pretty much dead in order to turn down a goddess like Patricia Bysmark ;-)

[kaientai]

haha lol seanchia you mean lellebel?

[macfan]

After being a big fan of tgirl movies for some years now, I decided to have my first tgirl adventure in Amsterdam at the red light district last Friday. I got a lot of tips from Peter in the Dutch topic so that helped me a lot.

I saw a pretty nice looking girl in the Bloedstraat. Her name was Alyssa or Alicia or something and she was half Columbian and half from Aruba. She said she was bottom only which was perfect since I wanted to be top only. As I walked in I noticed she spoke very good Dutch, this almost never happened to me with all the girls I visisted in the RLD both in Amsterdam as in The Hague. Anyway, she made me pretty comfortable by her very nice and friendly attitude. I told her this was my first time with so we talked a lot of the whole thing. We talked a lot like 15 minutes and after that I paid her and it was time for the actually sex.

I already had an erection so I had no problem penetrating her but after like 1 minute I got this weird mental block. Like while I was having sex with her I got this voice in my head saying I don't belong here or something. After that I lost wood and it didn't came back no matter what she or I did. It just wasn't gonna happen. I only wanted to do 1 thing and 1 thing only and that was get dressed and leave as soon as soon possible.

So now I'm thinking what happened and there are 3 options in my head.

1. I was very nervous the first time so that's why it didn't go the way I wanted.

2. I only like tgirls virtually but when it comes to actually have sex with them I can't do it, I get this mental block of actually having sex with someone with a penis.

3. Eventhough the girl was very nice and good looking perhaps she wasn't my type after all? Perhaps it could work with another tgirl better.

At this point I'm not sure I'm gonna try it again. I doubt I will. Maybe I should accept that fact that having sex with a tgirl for me is only like this big fantasy but in real life I can't do anything with it! Maybe I should stick with what I know and what I have done so far in my life!

Thank you for listening.

Ferdinand.

I imagine it could very well be the whole setting that just didn't vibe for you, kind of formal and sterile. I bet you might have had a different outcome if it was say a hotel or some other setting where you were much more relaxed. I don't know how the setup is in the Red Light Disrict but I probably could not bust a nut there either.

I must say from you description of half Colombian and Aruban the girl sounded pretty cute, so if that didn't do it, try a local club as someone mentioned and meet a girl in a much more informal setting.

Also don't get too hung up on the pay for play thing, remember it is all legal in Amsterdam, ala Brazil, as an American with all the puritanical strings I tend to see it as somehow illegal based on laws here. No laws are being broken in those places and it is a profession where the girls tend to enjoy the guys unless the dudes are downright hideous and smelly. Sex is part of life, life is part of sex. Don't overthink it. Let go and have fun in a more informal setting with one of the girls.

[Dinand]

It wasn't the setting or the fact that I was paying for it. I have been doing it for 17 years now and never had a problem, not to mention I don't know any other way ;-)

[macfan]

It wasn't the setting or the fact that I was paying for it. I have been doing it for 17 years now and never had a problem, not to mention I don't know any other way ;-)

Well we do have one thing in common I love Patricia Bysmark, sounds like we need to make a run down to Brazil. :)

I say give it another shot you never know and if it doesn't work again then maybe its just a fantasy for you indeed.

[gaiseric]

Dinand, I've read most of the posts in this thread and I have a theory about what happened to you. You spent too much time thinking about what you were going to do. It always amazes me to see the number of guys on HA that say 'I want to visit a T-girl but I'm too scared etc'. Geez.
The first time I saw a TS, I made the decision, selected the girl from Eros, had a chat with her by e-mail and then rang and made the appointment. When I arrived she knew it was first time and made sure that I enjoyed it. The point I'm making is that once I had made the decision, I didn't spend any time worrying about it, if it was right or wrong or if my friends would approve. While I was on my way to the girl, I just thought 'go with the flow and enjoy it'.
The last thing you want to be doing is worrying whether you should be doing it in the first place. All that will happen is that you will psyche yourself out and end up with a bad experience for your trouble.
Personally, I think you should find a TS you like, get to know her a bit before you visit and then, don't think about it, just go with the flow and enjoy it
Thinking too much about thinga is not always the way to go. 8)