Clients to Friends/Lovers? (Ladies, please weigh in)

[StraightThoughChaser]

[Note: I tried searching for previous discussions of this topic, but I didn't really know what to search for. Please point me to previous discussions if there were any.]

For the escorts of the forum: If a man meets you by way of purchasing your services, does this rule out the possibility of his becoming your acquaintance, friend, or lover? Have any of you ever gained a friend or lover in this way?

Obviously, please try to compensate for biases such as your image of the type of man who purchases your services. Instead, imagine that a man who meets many or all of your criteria for friends or lovers happens to hire you. What then? Also, even if this state of affairs doesn't rule out the possibility, "Has a strong negative effect on the likelihood of" is also significant.

Should this be a poll?

[peggygee]

StraightThoughChaser, nice riff on the Thelonious Monk classic - Straight No Chaser (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixahuLVBNM4)

But boy are you gonna catch heck with that moniker. :lol:

[BeardedOne]

Right outta the gate, the guy picks a cool moniker, a classic av (Zer-buts de Ard-a-wark!), and poses an interesting question. :D

I'm gonna do up some popcorn for this one, as I think the answers could be enlightening.

[StraightThoughChaser]

Is this what enlightenment feels like? I can't tell.

[StraightThoughChaser]

EDIT: Changed to "Escort #1". Other comments by this girl will be attributed as such. Other private responses will be attributed to "Escort #2", "Escort #3", and so on.

From a private message:



I have had so many guys use a lame line like "I'd rather use the $[number] to take you on a nice date and treat you right." I don't know where the other girls stand on this, but here's where I do: The ad that gave you my contact information is not an ad for a boyfriend. It's an ad for a business. If you are not serious about making an appointment with me so that I can get to know you, then this will never work. If you contact a girl from her escort service ad, be sure you are contacting her for the services! If you would seriously like to date said girl, keep it to yourself until after the session. Alternatively, show up at the scheduled time, pay her the going rate (or more, if you want to start off on the right foot), and use the time you have to talk to the girl, get to know her, and allow her to get to know you with no sex. If she pushes for the chit-chat to stop and the sex to start, that means that she has no interest in dating you; get the sex while you still can. If she's even toying with the idea of you as a mate off the clock, she will want to get to know you, as well as want you to know more about her life outside of her job/hobby.

If you come to my place with the intention of not paying, you've just made yourself look like any run-of-the-mill chaser looking to get a freebie because he thinks he's too good or some other pathetic reason. You've switched my mood from good to bad, and I no longer want to have anything to do with you

Anyway, keep in mind when wanting to date a transsexual girl who escorts that she isn't going to stop escorting until she is ready. I've personally made several friends in my short time escorting, including a couple of guys for whom I would definitely consider giving up the world of escorting. However, they didn't want that once the option was presented and they went back to being just regular clients. C'est la vie!


My comments:

I don't mean: If there was a girl who I'd be willing to pay $[number] to sleep with, but I'd rather spend $[number] taking her out on a nice date, is it possible to talk her into the latter? Rather, I mean: If there was a girl I'd be willing to hire, but I'd rather date, would hiring her hurt my chances of dating her?

I also didn't mean "Will acting like a conniving little slimeball piss you off? I honestly don't know." But I can imagine why this question would bring that to her mind.

[StraightThoughChaser]

A followup:



Asking out a girl that you just paid for by the hour isn't going to hurt your chances; it's going to greatly improve them. Girls see this as a sign of good faith, a good investment for something greater on your part, a sign that you understand what she does for a living and believe she can separate it from her personal life. So no, it doesn't exclude you from getting a real date. It makes you stand out as a better man than you probably are :wink:


My comments:

Word.