Marriage, anyone?

[Gmanfromthechi]

Guys: Would you or do you HONESTLY have plans for marriage with a tgirl? An I mean this out of love, not just cause shes hot or has that lil somethin extra.


Girls: Do you have any plans for marriage or settling down with one guy for the rest of your life? Is it somethin you want? Why or why not?



As for me, I would definately be open to it. I honestly don't kno about marriage with a gg for me, as I do not want children, and am way too attracted to tgirls. This is not just a sexual fetish either, I find myself in love with features such as the "look" that tgirls have, like thier faces and how their bodies are. (Taller, slightly more muscular then ggs, certain voices, etc)


Discuss!

[RMan1]

Honestly? Ok, NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I think 99% of the non ass kissing guys on here agree with me.

[wankmaster]

Never

[BeardedOne]

I have no desire to make car payments for two divorce lawyers, so no.

[BrassVillanueva]

As long as I truly love her for who she is and she truly loves me for who I am, I see no reason not to. Would it be difficult for my family and friends to accept? Some of them, yes, but if the woman and I truly love each other, 1) my family and friends will see that and, eventually, have to accept it, and 2) it wouldn't matter to me if they did or not. I do not need my family and friends' approval to love someone. If I did, I'd have lived a very different life than I do, and that's not a good thing.

On another note, can we quit with the divorce excuse? It means nothing. If two people are truly in love and are committed to each other and their relationship, they can make it work. Believe me, I know just from having been a child caught up in a divorce and watching my parents re-marry into wonderful relationships that, despite having very hard struggles, they've made work. Saying you're not going to get married because the possibility for divorce is constant is basically admitting that you're not able to commit to a relationship. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with that... I completely understand. Marriage isn't for everyone. But let's call it what it is, not blame it on statistics and financial reasons, alright? Alright.

[TransformedBG]

I wouldnt mind it as long as im truly in love.. Thats the key to any good marriage. But the hard part would be getting someone to fall for me in the first place.

[Charlie31]

I am open minded enough to marry a tgirl if that opportunity presents itself. If that tgirl I meet was indeed my soulmate after developing a stable relationship with her, you do not want to shut yourself out by missing that opportunity of cheating yourself out of happiness with her.
I feel that everyone needs to be loved, to be in a relationship that is built on trust, honesty, open communication, just simply, be yourself & things will work out. If marriage is discussed, I will be welcome to possiblity of it.
All you have to do to any tgirl & genetic woman, is to treat them with respect. I personally think a tgirl will return the love & respect to you better in return than a genetic woman would. The tgirl understands what a man wants a little better & this makes the relationship & marriage work out if both of them puts in the effort. That is my opinion, but for the tgirl overcoming many obstacles in their life to get where they are now, you have to be compassionate & understanding to them 100%. In some ways, I can relate to them because I was called many racial names when growing up. So I think this makes me understand them as to why I will give the tgirl a chance, the same chance I would to a genetic woman.
All I ever wanted in my life is to find a beautiful woman to share my life with me. Unfortunately, I have not come across anyone like that yet.
As for my family & friends acceptance of myself ever marrying a tgirl, I don't care. Deep down, your family & friends (the good ones) will be there for you. They want you happy & acceptance of the marriage is a good start to make it work out.

[Jericho]

I have no desire to make car payments for two divorce lawyers, so no.

Wot he said! :lol:

[Isa_Decadent]

Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and living togheter for over 2 ½ years.
But marriage, No, i think the whole idea of it is ridicules.

[scroller]

Guys: Would you or do you HONESTLY have plans for marriage with a tgirl? An I mean this out of love, not just cause shes hot or has that lil somethin extra.


Why, yes! I definitely want to marry someone who's NOT hot and DOESN'T have that little something extra. "Love" only, please! Sign me up!

[man4tgirl4love]

want living with.. :) :) :)

marriage maybe :oops: :oops:

first need love.. :oops: :oops:

[jennifer_dresser]

I've always thought that as long as I meet the right George Clooney, and we feel the same way, then yes. I could consider settling down forever with my George Clooney.

A girl can't afford to let divorce worry her, as otherwise they may never find happiness with the George Clooney thats right for them....

Seriously though, its a good question. I do know t-girls that have got married, but I don't think its for me. I've always preferred my independence, its very much part of who I am.

I mean, never say never, but I've never felt close enough to a guy to begin to think like that.

[jmecross2]

Marriage is a prison.

[Detroit]

I've always wanted to marry a t-girl. Most were to busy trying to ajust to the lifestyle to settle down.
that is so sad, but I love t-girls, they are the only relationships i want!

[pittpanther2010]

If I didn't want to have my own kids some day then I'd have no problem with it.

[Larry_Toronto]

I DID marry my transgendered girlfriend. When we met, she was non op. When we married, she was post op.

Our marriage broke down last year for reasons not related to gender issues.

Marriage with a transgendered person is very possible, if you are able to fall in love with a person, rather than a body part.

[Trogdor]

I dont wanna get married, period. I have spent 14 years trying to get chicks, took 5 years just to get a date, and I do not wanna 'settle down' from a life that seems beyond settled already :P

I wanna live, and I am sorry, I don't wanna be one of those guys who had one or two chicks before getting married, no thanks.

Besides, marriage is a bit overated.....to me, having a wife, 2.3 kids, white picket fence, 30 year mortage and an SUV.....not for me. :P

[Supai]

Yeah, I would like it very much. Not independent and never got bored or hostile in any of my past relationships. Most likely not till I'm well in my 30s though.

[linkthechain]

honestly i would love the idea of maaiage to a lady boy, i agree with the guy, it's not some fetishy thing it's about the love of this certian genre of person.

[Gmanfromthechi]

Some interesting responses here. I see where u guys are comin from with the whole divorce thing. Exactly what makes me super hesitant about marrying a gg, let alone a tg. However, I think Id be much more willing and inclinded to marry a tgirl then I would a gg.

[Yoda Rules!]

The key to happiness and any healthy relationship is honesty and trust. I think as long as you have a strong foundation with someone, anything is possible.

I believe that falling in love or marrying a TS woman is possible.

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

Honestly? Ok, NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I think 99% of the non ass kissing guys on here agree with me.

Again, who would want to marry a senior that escorts?!? NO ONE! Get over yourself Gramps! :lol:

~HTG

[tgirlzoe]

100%. I want to get married, move out to the county and raise kids. Then again, I'm in a different part of the country than most of y'all and not in "the scene".

I kissed this guy I like two weeks ago, but then he said, "I don't know if I can marry you, I don't know what the Church would think of you." I said, "You mean, because I'm not Catholic?" "Well, that and the whole becoming a girl thing" "Oh, right, that."

I told him not to worry about that far in the future but he didn't know if he wanted a relationship that he didn't feel could lead to marriage. This is the second guy I've been involved with (though things are still trying to work out with this guy) who is marriage-focused like that. Both this guy and the other one had been engaged before and left by their fiancees.

With the exception of a couple FTMs, I always date guys who are entirely straight and who don't have a history of dating TS (not that I've met any who have) and sometimes don't know at the beginning (if I was post-op, I'd procrastinate more...).

I got engaged when I was 19 to an FTM boy but things didn't work out. We wanted very different things in life. That's definitely something you have to look at, not just whether you love this person and are attracted to them but whether you can actually build the life you both want together.

I know I'll meet the man of my dreams at some point and it will be wonderful. Too many people are cynical of marriage these days. It just takes a lot of work but I'm sure it's worth it.

[MacShreach]

Honestly, no. But that is because I have done it once (with a birth woman.) I would be very hard to persuade to do it again. Sorry, I never got that stuff about getting married over and over. I'm not religious and I really don't see the point in a civil union, unless there were specific advantages for either partner. Your word to each other should be enough, so I probably would not actually marry again.

At the same time, that line "I won't marry because there is so much divorce," is just a load of old balls, frankly. Might as well never drive because there are so many crashes. You have to do it once to know what it means.

If I was at liberty to and wanted to, I would have no difficulty in a permanent relationship with either a trans woman or a birth woman. I have to admit that I am incorrigibly shallow and could not enter into a relationship with someone whose physical beauty, style, poise and manner didn't knock me over, but as long as those elements are in place, then the rest is negotiable. I would probably be more inclined to be with a trans girl whose intention it was to go for GRS but if she wasn't it would not be a deal-breaker with the right girl, believe me.

I think there are issues with younger men that might make life very difficult in marriage with a trans woman, not least the fact that men (although they may deny it) are as big on having family as women (and for good reasons) which I think might be the kind of thing that leads to the "irrevocable breakdown" that divorce lawyers love so well. Throw in peer pressure and a whole bunch of other stuff and it gets tricky.

Most (certainly not all but most) of the successful marriages involving trans women that I have heard about-- and there are plenty--involve slightly older men who are more emotionally stable and who have already had families.

Finally remember that this forum is basically populated by gay or bi men (either in denial or otherwise) and a woman, be she trans or birth, will eventually have to ask if she wants to be married to a gay or bi man.

What most men here seem not to realise is that there is a significant population of trans women who do not escort, who do not visit sites like this, whose aim is to get GRS and then reappear as new women with no ties to the past and the male personas they once had to use.

The few post-op girls here are definitely under-appreciated, not just because of who they are but because most post-op women would run a mile, leaving the place short of the insight they give. Understand this--MOST (again, by no means all but most) trans women avoid men who are overtly interested in trans women like the plague.

Even if they do escort during their transition, most of those who have GRS simply fade from view and adopt new lives. About the last thing a girl like that wants to hear is "Hey, I remember you! Didn't you used to have an 8-inch dick?"

So in a weird way, being interested in marrying a trans woman is one of the biggest barriers to marrying a trans woman.....

[lilly_exohexoh]

i'm much more open to the idea of marriage now. it's definitely a nice option. i have a transgender friend who's getting married this year so i'm living semi-vicariously through her.

[MrsKellyPierce]

Gman I really hate the way the way you asked this question. Your total question revolves around the fact of what we have and dont have below our belts.

And secondly most transwomen and men can't get past bootycalls. Because A) the transsexual doesn't speak up and ask for her respect as a person. B) The man is discreet or a closet case and so worried about people finding out or ashamed! C) The transsexual can't give up escorting/porn D) The transsexual is so jaded by other men that she treats men like shit and the man in question doesn't want to take the time to know you and just see you as a fuck toy and move on. E) The man is so educated by porn of what a transwoman is thats all he sees! F) It takes a rare man to date you much less marry you and take up the burdon of being discriminated against. E) To get a guy first to actually see you as a person, you gotta stop sleeping with them the first hour you meet them! Good lord lol




Good day sir.

[Moon]

Myself and my past TS partner planned to marry, unfortunately we lived too ar apart and things never worked out. we had known each other for many years. I can honestly say she was more of a woman than many women I have known.

[ed_jaxon]

Kelly come chat for a second in the old Gorilla room.

[Jolt711ml]

Well legally its impossible, personally its between you and that person.

[MacShreach]

Well legally its impossible,

No, that's not correct. It depends where you are. Same sex unions, whether officially called marriages or something else, have legal status in many jurisdictions.

[Goldenguinea]

If it were possible for tgirls to get pregnant I would. My 2 fantasies combined in to one perfect girl

[Gmanfromthechi]

Gman I really hate the way the way you asked this question. Your total question revolves around the fact of what we have and dont have below our belts.

And secondly most transwomen and men can't get past bootycalls. Because A) the transsexual doesn't speak up and ask for her respect as a person. B) The man is discreet or a closet case and so worried about people finding out or ashamed! C) The transsexual can't give up escorting/porn D) The transsexual is so jaded by other men that she treats men like shit and the man in question doesn't want to take the time to know you and just see you as a fuck toy and move on. E) The man is so educated by porn of what a transwoman is thats all he sees! F) It takes a rare man to date you much less marry you and take up the burdon of being discriminated against. E) To get a guy first to actually see you as a person, you gotta stop sleeping with them the first hour you meet them! Good lord lol




Good day sir.



Kelly,

I fail to see what was wrong with how I posed the question. What do you hate so much? I made it a point to say its NOT about the somethin extra tgirls have, but rather out of love. You have all very good points on all that, but I specifically tried to ask this question without making it a penis issue. Tgirls look different, act different, are more glam, more girly then most girls. These are the reasons I would prefer to date/marry a tigirl, not for a booty call, her "shecock", or because I dont wanna get to know her or treat her right. So if you took offense, I apologize, but I dont see what was wrong with my question.

[justatransgirl]

Well legally its impossible, personally its between you and that person.

Not in California or Massachusetts, or Canada, or Spain or a few other places.

And since this old thread has been revived... here's for Trog... LOL :-)


I dont wanna get married, period. I have spent 14 years trying to get chicks, took 5 years just to get a date

Five YEARS to get a date? Honey all ya gotta do is tuck a couple of hundreds in your hat and walk into any trans bar, I guarantee you will get a date! :-)


I wanna live, an I am sorry, I don't wanna be one of those guys who had one or two chicks before getting married, no thanks.

You SLUT!

j/k

Giggle,
TS Jamie :-)

[Fox]

I'd be open to it with the right girl There's only one problem. I want biological kids, and obviously that throws a monkey wrench into the situation. So, I'm left with these options:

1. Get married, have kids, divorce (just like everyone else *sigh*)
2. Find a surrogate mother
3. Consider adoption
4. Consider no kids at all
5. Don't bother getting married at all

Hmm.

[qeuqheeg222]

i love all tha talk of having kids and settling down here.....but when y'all get there for a few years and not gettin any from yer wife who gaind a bunch of weight after the 2.5kids and you got some weight too after that...so now you decide you want to be a bottom.......or them sneeky ones in the french maid outfits hidden in the garage...please investigate yourselves before spawning.................

[Fox]

Speaking from experience?

[qeuqheeg222]

no i'm single and dont have any baby-mamadrama..i see what i see....i know what i have seen....

[Alyssa87]

i cant wait to post my wedding pics for u guys 8)

[MacShreach]

i..so now you decide you want to be a bottom..

The process of emasculation, as they say.

[macfan]

As for me, I would definately be open to it. I honestly don't kno about marriage with a gg for me, as I do not want children, and am way too attracted to tgirls. This is not just a sexual fetish either, I find myself in love with features such as the "look" that tgirls have, like thier faces and how their bodies are. (Taller, slightly more muscular then ggs, certain voices, etc)


Discuss!

That is the first thing that draws me in when I look at Transgendered ladies, the look that they have, I love femininity. Something about seeing the face and the movements all are an appeal to me.

I would definitely marry a TG lady if I feel a connection to her and vice versa of course. I know its not a fetish because the last thing that peeks my interest is the penis size she may or may not have. :) Doesn't matter to me either way. Its all about the femininity, actions, and their true womanly desires in their mind and heart that is attractive to me and stimulates me both mentally and physically. :)

[bellamy]

i cant wait to post my wedding pics for u guys 8)

Alyssa, I havn't even popped the question yet ;)

[hondarobot]

It's probably inevitable. I do reserve the right to fuck stripper girls, though. On the side, of course.

:wink:

[InHouston]

Honestly? Ok, NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I think 99% of the non ass kissing guys on here agree with me.

For some men that's okay, but I fall in the 99% here. Ultimately as a male, I am mostly attracted to women.