When your girlfriend don't accept

[tsadmirer83]

I have been with this girl (GG) for 4 years now, and lived together for about 2.

I have always had an attraction to transsexuals and dressing up as a girl. There was one point when I was about 18, (I am now 25) i thought that I maybe was a transsexual myself, but after some researching, i found out that I was just a CD.

Ever since I was about 10-11 years I liked to dress up in my moms clothes, but in my teenageyears it was lesser and lesser of that stuff. In the years I,ve been with my girlfriend I have dressed up like 2 or 3 times in a total. And now that we live together, the oppurtunity is not even there.

You see, she is not accepting my "shemale-attraction", or neither that i dress up, and who can blame her for that? I guess that no girl would like to se her boyfriend in her clothes, unless she has a fetish for such things. And that i sit in front of the computer and masturbate to T-girls.

This is of course a thing I not do when she is nearby, but in vacations and stuff, we go home to our parents houses and live there like we did before we moved. Then, instead of spending quality-time with my family, I spend a lot of hours in front of the computer, looking on pics of T-girls.

My girlfriend have asked me if i am gay or bisexual, and I am of course not that. I only once had a guy in my sexual fantasy, and that was the time when I was unsure if I wanted to be a girl. And it was not him I fantasised about, it was me, dressed as a girl, getting a dick in my ass(yes I like putting thing in my butt:p). He was just in there to provide the dick:p

Maybe some of you think: Why don't you leave your girl when she is not accepting this?

First of all, we have been together for 4 years, I love my girl, and she loves me. I want to marry her and have children with her, and I don't want a "fetish", if you can call the T-girl-attraction that, to ruin our relationship. I hate that I hurt her, and many times I have told myself, "This is the last time i am going on these sites". But when I am at home in my parents house, it is just so tempting to go in to theroom, lock the door, and start looking on T-girls. I wonder how it would be when we live together in the vacation too, and I never get to go to T-girl pages. Because I definately would not go on this sites when she can "bust me".

I tried to ask this question at a regular debateforum. But there it was just: "Do you like shemales, thats so nasty", and stuff like that.

I can also add that I have never been with a T-girl, so I don't know how it would be like. I dated a hermaphrodite one time, but it, didn't got any longer than kissing with the clothes on. (I was 17, and a virgin)

So guys, have any of you had the same problem, and how do you solved it? And girls, how would you react if your boyfriend sat in front of the PC and masturbated to other girls?

[bulldog]

if you told her what you like and she cant handle it, maybe she is not right for you


Ben

[Gmanfromthechi]

Ive always wondered this myself. Now, Ive been with my girl comin up on 3 years, and we are very sexual and very in love. Shes always makin a joke about how gay I am or my attration to boys (cuz of a friend on myspace, I think shes jealous haha) but anyways, shes seen my friend list Im positive and there are a few tgirls on there, so she has to kno I have an interest in them.

She has only made reference to it once or twice by saying "You like boys that look like girls", an I was like uhhh. We're pretty adventurous, and just bought another strap on to play with last week, and she really gets off on it, tho we haven't tried this one. So Im sure she has an indication I like tgirls, but its not something I would want to bring up to talk with her bout, ro look at porn with her. I think its more of a secret we both prolly kno, but dont say anything about. My advice on this is, do it, but once you are positive she iisn't into it (if she hasn't been clear on that so far) then I would keep it to yerself.

As far as being with a tgirl...if you wanna marry your girl an have kids with her, I would advise to NOT try going all the way. The reason I say this is because I toyed with a few tgirls, but went all the way with one, and i still remember it to this day. The most different, earth shattering hands free anal orgasm, just wow. I still think about it 5 years later and want, no need more. Someday...

[tsadmirer83]

Bulldog: How would you like if your girl sat and masturbated to other guys in front of the PC? No girlfriend or boyfriend would do that.

GmanfromtheChi: I have no plans of going all the way with a T-girl. If i should go out with one, It should be to start a serious relationship, and not to have "an experience". Anyway, I have no plans of cheating on my girlfriend, so she is the only one I go to bed with:)

She hate that I go to these pages, so she is probably not into it:p. As far as to telling her about what sites I am going on, I feel so guilty when I don't tell her, so I have to do it, even if she then get angry at me:(. I cant be in a relationship when I have to hide things. Then its better to take the conflict:/