Am I the only guy out there that likes transsexuals?

[timebomb]

For starters the title of my post is not to be taken literally.

I didn't have these feelings before, but lately I have had this feeling that outside this forum (in the real world) I don't know of anyone that likes transsexuals.

Hungangels is comfort to me because in my daily life if the topic of transsexuals ever comes up with anyone I know it always seems as if everyone is repulsed at the thought of being sexually turned on by a trans women. Then I come on here and it seems as if its the most normal thing in the world.

I guess in my everyday life I am sick and tired of feeling like the only person who admires and appreciates the beauty of trans women. I don't want to feel alone in my appreciation, I would like to sit back with the boys one day and be like "Yo that chick is fine". And even though she has a dick it didn't change the fact that all the dudes are loving it as if she was any GG.

I keep the fact that I am attracted to transsexuals a secret, and that probably is part of the problem. But does anyone out there feel the same way? Am I the only one that feels like this out there?

[trapmasta]

WELCOME TO THE WORLD!

[yodajazz]

I know what you mean.

Thats why media attention such as talk shows are so important. First there is just exposure that these people exist. Secondly they can promote acceptance. On Oprah's show, she had on ts people and asked them question about their life. I remember the talk shows of the ninties that had ts themes.

To bring up the subject as something you saw on Oprah's show for example would be a good approach to defend ts lifestyles (if you had seen the show). The other thing is just to promote accpetance in general for people who are not hurting one another. If you stick up for people in general, then your feeling of acceptance for the ts lifestyle won't seem so unusual to people that know you.

[justatransgirl]

Good comments Yoda.

No honey - you aren't the only guy. There's a lot of men who like TS girls. And I'm not talking about those who just want TS sex. But guys who admire and try to understand t-girls and who are or want to be real friends. Some are on this site.

So relax honey, it takes time to build relationships and find people. For starters there aren't a whole lot of us (trans girls OR admireres) out there. But hang in there baby and your day will come!

Giggle,
TS Jamie :-)

[Hostile]

I have a Ts wife she is not an escort and we are monogymous, TS relationships do exsist!

[lust4ts]

Personally I don't see the big deal, TS's are women just like any other. So some of them might have a cock, so what?

Should one thing on a body really escalate to all this worry? If society is hung up on it, then that is their problem, I am not.

GG, TS (pre op or post op) it is all the same to me. :)

[the commander]

IMO, if you aren't comfortable around the friends you have, find new friends. The HA board is a good place to start. Ask around and see who is in your area, or start hanging out at the local LBGT Community center.

As far as co-workers and others go...while you don't have to hide, I don't see how your love life, or who you are attracted to is any of their business.

The Commander
DIA

[Jericho]

I guess in my everyday life I am sick and tired of feeling like the only person who admires and appreciates the beauty of trans women. I don't want to feel alone in my appreciation, I would like to sit back with the boys one day and be like "Yo that chick is fine". And even though she has a dick it didn't change the fact that all the dudes are loving it as if she was any GG.

I keep the fact that I am attracted to transsexuals a secret, and that probably is part of the problem. But does anyone out there feel the same way? Am I the only one that feels like this out there?


How much face are you prepared to lose?

The only way it's going to change is if you're open about your attractions. And if you are open about it, most people around you are going to think you're either a fag or a freak.

Most people.
At least you find out who your friends are.

[Nowhere]

Look, I think a HELL of a lot more guys are attracted to tgirls than will admit. Sorry, but the female form is the female form, regardless of how it got there, and heteronormative guys like it.

It's like how a viral video was around ages ago which showed edited clips of the porn we're quite familiar with, but showing angles where her bits weren't visible, until the end they did with a big flashing 'you're gay' on the screen.

The joke wouldn't work if the guys weren't attracted to her, now would it? :wink:

[bookaboom]

I'm with you guys... I have to keep this life secret... I get consumed thinking of TS Girls... Thanks to hungangels we have a place to talk... I get superhorny around TS.

It has been over 16 months since i've been with one.

I'm starving! I NEED to be with one soon!
Not healthy to suppress...

[hombredetia]

For me personally, I just stumbled into this thing.
Because I like porn (and a lot of people do, judging by the massive
amount of porn available, including amateur stuff), I've encountered
shemales by accident. Then things just evolved.
By now, I only pay attention to big black babes, preferably with a plus...
It is just an acquired taste, I think.
But I just love tgirls.

Thanks to HA and a fantastic 2008 for everyone !!!

H

[CORVETTEDUDE]

There's alot of us "just sittin' on the Group 'W' bench". Education and communication equal emancipation!

[irvin66]

No, you are not!! :P

[62des]

I don't think there are many people at all that didn't accidently stumble onto shemale porn. It happened to me when I was surfing a GG porn site and thumbs showed the girls and I just happened to click on that one and there was a sexy tranny's photo set and I was hooked from then on.

[BBaggins06]

There's alot of us "just sittin' on the Group 'W' bench". Education and communication equal emancipation!

Is that the one next to the Preparation H Bench? :shock: Mahalo

Matt

[mbf]

A lot men find TS attractive, at least from a sex-driven point of view - which isn´t bad per se, that limited interest can easily spill over to a desire to gain deeper knowledge of the phenomenon of transsexualism.

I am talking from personal experience. In my first year at college, already ten years ago (fuck, I am geting old...) I wasn´t interested in TS in particular yet, but I do remember an evening when my roommate, me and a mutual friend rented a TS porn vid. And none of us three were "fags", bisexual or gay. (NOTE: as a working definition I will say men into TS are "straight", but with a twist :lol: , this has nothing to do with feeling superior to gay, bisexuals or whatever, and I am not willing to adress those points yet again, there are countless threads about that....)

And that is also the reason I have to at least grin when I read just once again a T-chick on this board bragging about "That she dates only men that haven´t dated another tranny be4" - indicating this guy is "straight"-straight.

Ladies, sorry to burst ur bubble, but if you meet such a guy and he will hit it off with you, he is at least "curious" and KNOWS about TS ( at least via porn, the web etc) and is most likely attracted to transsexuals, maybe due to the aspect of "exoticism" or whatever reason. But I know, some of you T-chicks need that phantasy of "fooling a straight guy" so you can sleep better (same as thinking a guy into Trans is a "chaser" per se....)

And - this could be a misled notion due to idiosyncrasy - I noticed more TS-visibility in general over the last few years, be it on talkshows, shows like "big brother" (in europe a tranny seems to be mandatory for those kind of shows), or documentaries, general media coverage.

On the other hand, if you live in a metropolitan area - those places tend to be more liberal - and surround yourself with liberal/libertarian people, you will develop a distorted view of what is beeing accepted, and you will think TS-issues are not that much of a problem.

It´s a whole different thing outside of those circles tho.

[timebomb]

I know I am some what to blame about my situation. I cannot expect people to come to me expressing their love for T girls when I don't have enough balls to do it myself.

I don't think I am ready though to let the world know I like T girls. I definitely believe the people that know me would think I had jumped over the deep end.

I just wish I could make some T girl friends just to let them know that I appreciate their beauty.

Before Hungangels I was doing some serious questioning about myself. I have tried to be sneaky about seeing if any of my friends like T girls. I was disappointed that none of them seemed like they did.

[whatsupwithat]

I know I am some what to blame about my situation. I cannot expect people to come to me expressing their love for T girls when I don't have enough balls to do it myself.

I don't think I am ready though to let the world know I like T girls. I definitely believe the people that know me would think I had jumped over the deep end.

I just wish I could make some T girl friends just to let them know that I appreciate their beauty.

Before Hungangels I was doing some serious questioning about myself. I have tried to be sneaky about seeing if any of my friends like T girls. I was disappointed that none of them seemed like they did.

your words really touched me. there are many guys like you and i and others on this forum, but so many of them, like you, are so afraid...of what?

i have an analogy.

when i quit drugs and alcohol many years ago, i was so afraid that i would lose my friends, that i would never be able to write again, that no one would ever hire me, that all my creative juices would go *poof* and disappear. i thought my life would become boring and the people in it the same. but i knew that if i wasn't truthful with myself, if i didn't admit to myself that i was an alcoholic and an addict, that i was powerless over it...i was destined to suffer and, without me even knowing, make those around me suffer. much like you're suffering now.

well, i quit, and all my fears were for naught. i did lose my friends from that time, but you know what? they never really were friends anyways. my life is much, much richer and fuller now. it's filled with beautiful people that i trust and love and who don't judge me, who accept me for who i am.

i guess what i'm saying, and what i'm seeing in your words, is that you're suffering and that you don't need to. if anyone judges you for who you are, are they really your friends? and who's to say they will. the fears you have now are your own...they have nothing to do with what you're feeling. nothing. if anything, if your friends do judge you, then they are the ones who controlled by their fear, not you.

there's nothing wrong with you. there's nothing wrong with me. there's nothing wrong with any of us. and one day society will figure that out.

let me ask you one more question. each of the trans women on this forum made a decision and had the courage to be truthful to themselves no matter what the consequences. how do you think it looks to them to see the men who supposedly love them not share in that courage to be truthful to themselves?

[timebomb]

Whatsupwithat:

Thank you for your post. You have a good point and I appreciate your sincerity.

I have thought about being attracted to T girl's over the past years. There are many questions that I tried to ask myself (don't want to go into the "Am I gay" thing).

Has anyone out there had a friend admit to you that they like T girls? And it was cool because it was like you got something off your chest that you wanted to say?

[whatsupwithat]

Whatsupwithat:

Thank you for your post. You have a good point and I appreciate your sincerity.

I have thought about being attracted to T girl's over the past years. There are many questions that I tried to ask myself (don't want to go into the "Am I gay" thing).

Has anyone out there had a friend admit to you that they like T girls? And it was cool because it was like you got something off your chest that you wanted to say?

it's heartbreaking to you suffering over something like this. needlessly. you have nothing to fear. and when you're truthful to yourself and share that with those around you, you will feel a lot better. have you thought about seeing a therapist? a good one? they can help you walk through the inner you, uncover your fears, and take the steps to face them.

one more thing...we are sometimes so wrapped up in our own selves that we forget that everyone else is as well. you have this one life. be true to yourself and who you are. no one else can do that except you.

[whatsupwithat]

i just came across this great quote from coco chanel:


"How many cares one loses when one decides not to be something but to be someone."


happy new year. :)

[timebomb]

I have been away from Hungangels for a while, but I think that I have come to terms with some things.

I think until I have some Tgirl friends I am really never going to get to see how I feel about myself in a situation. That is probably not going to happen anytime soon considering I live in Phx Arizona, and there doesnt seem to be a large community out here. Plus I am not ready to do the whole escort thing, I think I rather get to know someone as friends hang out and get to know them as a person. But anyways I think I am rambling on!

The point is that I really would like to take my internet world to the real world and see if I would feel the same.

[yodajazz]

I have been away from Hungangels for a while, but I think that I have come to terms with some things.

I think until I have some Tgirl friends I am really never going to get to see how I feel about myself in a situation. That is probably not going to happen anytime soon considering I live in Phx Arizona, and there doesnt seem to be a large community out here. Plus I am not ready to do the whole escort thing, I think I rather get to know someone as friends hang out and get to know them as a person. But anyways I think I am rambling on!

The point is that I really would like to take my internet world to the real world and see if I would feel the same.

You live in a large city, there are plenty of girls there you just have to know where to hang out. The places to go are the gay bars that have drag shows. You can always call them to find out if they have shows. Some gay bars do not like trans people, so you can save time by calling. I used to find listings in free magazines at adult book stores, but these days, our main paper even lists them in the Friday entertainment section.

Some people here have a problem with going to ‘gay’ bars, that someone might see them, but I say that it is mostly in their minds. If someone were to really ask you, you could make your own excuse, like you were invited by some friends at work. Anyway there is some legitimately good entertainment at some of the shows. Usually the MC will have some funny things to say. Mainstream media has started to recognize the wit of gay people and you see several on prime time sit coms. So go to a drag show, and let the performers know that you appreciate their performance directly to them. They have usually put a lot of energy and effort to do it. Most accept tips for their performances. I was always a little shy about giving it to them in the middle of their performance and gave it to them afterward. Tips show that they can earn money without having to do sexwork.

Pageants are usually great also because the top beauties are usually their and their friends come to support them. More than once, I ended up going home with one of the pageant winners after the pageant. But anyway, outsiders do not realize the what it takes to compete, with just their gowns often being in the hundreds of dollars, nto mention the other categrories.

If you don’t go out and meet people you will regret it later. We often get to these situations in life where we are stuck and wish we would have used the opportunities that were available to us earlier. The amazing is that if you meet someone you can’t lose either way. Because even if the experience is bad, then you will know that it was not something you really wanted then you can go on with your life confident that you have made the right choices.

I would appreciate if you let us know how things work out for you.

[trannylover12]

no your not the only guy

[anonymoussonny]

You are not alone (on this site, at least)...

This is a 'Courageous Conversation'

[blacktgirls]

i know exactly how you feel i too have kept my love of tgirls secret and this forum is also the only place where i can go to feel a part of a group of admirers . before 2000, i didn't even no that there even were tgirls i thought there were only men who cross dressed. after renting some trans porn and reading reviews i found out that with the use of hormones that the girls could make a transformation. i went by myself to my first pride parade because i wanted to see the girls in person and one of the floats handed out flyers for a continental pageant. at the time, i didn't even know about the pageants. i went, again by myself, to this pageant and have since been to more pageants and two parades. unfortunately i have no one to go with because i don't know anyone in my life who would understand such an attraction. my family wouldn't even accept me if i was gay so you girls should not be any more offended by me keeping this attraction secret. i do feel if i made some friends with tgirls in real life that i could get past my fear of not being accepted .