Questions for the Girls ........ Honest Answers appreciated

[Kirsty Scott TG]

These are incredibly serious questions for the girls who are either going through or have transitioned. I'd be grateful for some honest answers ....

When did you decide was the moment you had to transition?

Did something in particular happen as a catalyst to say now is the time?

Did you have plenty support to make the decision fairly easy?

Did you go through a breakdown?

Did you just have to do it , make a hard decision with a lot to lose? and did you end up losing what you feared you would? Has anyone regretted it?

When did you start seeing your doctor about it?

How long did you fight against the desire/need to transition?

Do those who do porn/work in the sex industry do so out of choice or because they feel there is no option?

Do thos who do work as such as a pre-op fear losing perhaps the last option for making money if they transition fully?

Does anyone find these questions offensive? or out os place?

Kirsty
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[justatransgirl]

I'm sorry - I have removed my post thanks to NightRider and Hondarobot and their infantile hijack of what was a pretty good thread.

I tried opening my heart to the members of this site to answer Kristy's question honestly.

Other girls have too and you dudes trash it.

GROW UP.

Sheesh,
TS Jamie

[tsntx]

These are incredibly serious questions for the girls who are either going through or have transitioned. I'd be grateful for some honest answers ....

When did you decide was the moment you had to transition?

when i couldnt take being someone i wasnt.... i was depressed and pretty much confined to a bedroom bc i never wanted to leave the house bc i felt , at the time, i wasnt attractive... my bf of 4 yrs made me talk to him so he could get me the help i needed... it was june '03



Did something in particular happen as a catalyst to say now is the time?

mostly it was my bf being afraid for my life


Did you have plenty support to make the decision fairly easy?

yes once i told him he helped me tell my family and now were all closer then ever


Did you go through a breakdown?

pretty much.... i had everything in the world at my disposal: love, money, nice things, good looks etc etc but i wasnt happy so i left ALL of that behind to find myself


Did you just have to do it

yes


make a hard decision with a lot to lose?

i had everything to loose: my fiancee, money, family, friends, love, life of luxury that i was very accustomed to... but my loosing my life was worth more so i risked it...


and did you end up losing what you feared you would?

sorta... my fiancee and i eventually seperated and we still talk but weve both moved on... there will always be a connection on both our sides but itll never be what it was... i didnt loose any friends, if i had then they were never my friends, i am more loved or feel more loved more now then ever, the level of luxury i had is greatly different from what it was, money wise, but my life as a whole is so much better now that it was worth giving up on the materialistic things



Has anyone regretted it?

i think the only person to ever even think they did was me. and that was only bc my relationship was falling apart and it seemed like my world was crashing just when it finally seemed right... my ex talked to me and told me he would never regret my transition bc he knew how unhappy i was before and for him to regret something that made me so happpy wouldnt make sence as my happiness came first for him.



When did you start seeing your doctor about it?

i told my fiancee in june '03 that same night we saw a documentary on DHC about a 50+yr old man transitioning and when the dr. was done she looked like a 30+yr old soccer mom... i said whoever that is i want to be my dr. we learned the dr. happened to be in houston and he booked the appt. w/ him the next day



How long did you fight against the desire/need to transition?

21yrs


Do those who do porn/work in the sex industry do so out of choice or because they feel there is no option?

tough question w/ many facets of answers... every girls journey is different, my transition was easy but after i lost everything my life was hard... if i didnt have the support system i had/ have... i would have made more "mistakes" in my path... im very lucky to have the system i do...

as for other girls... if they feel they have no other choice they are probably right for feeling so... but i think its more lack of education and skills then it is about jobs not hiring.... i have had MANY day jobs that may not pay as lucrative as escorting would... but to say you cant find ANY job would be false... in my opinion.... like i said every girls journey is different and some arent as fortunate as others... who are we to judge what is right and wrong for someone elses life?


Do those who do work as such as a pre-op fear losing perhaps the last option for making money if they transition fully?

this doesnt apply to me so im not going to try and assume i know an answer for a question that has many answers to each girl...

i would say most that stay pre-op are doing so bc they want to...


Does anyone find these questions offensive? or out of place?


i didnt.... made me feel good to share and look fwd to reading EVERY girls answers -j


Kirsty
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[Caleigh]

When did you decide was the moment you had to transition?

My 25th birthday I decided that time was going by and I needed to
get started with the transition process.


Did something in particular happen as a catalyst to say now is the time?

Just that birthday, nothing in my life really.


Did you have plenty support to make the decision fairly easy?

I was very lucky in that I had already cultivated a circle of open minded
friends and at work I had been pushing the gender envelope a bit already
(not that it stopped me from being fired). As well, I have been blessed
with wonderful liberal open minded parents who both told me that they
didn't necessarily understand my decision, but if it was going to make me
happy they would support it and me.


Did you go through a breakdown?

No, not at all.


Did you just have to do it , make a hard decision with a lot to lose? and did you end up losing what you feared you would? Has anyone regretted it?

Before I came out to friends and family I definitely prepared myself for
the worst. I imagined everyone in my life abandoning me and what I
would do if that happened, luckily it didn't.


When did you start seeing your doctor about it?

The week after I made the decision I made an appointment for an
assessment at the Clarke Institute which at the the time was the only
venue for gettting health coverage for the transition process.


How long did you fight against the desire/need to transition?

I knew since I was very young, 5 or 6 that I didn't want to be a boy but
I grew up in an all male family so it was difficult for me to express my
feminine side openly when I was growing up. I remember one of my
favourite games growing up was "Mad Scientist" where I would be
"strapped down" as well as a girl friend of mine and our minds would be
switched which allowed me to be female if only for the duration of the
game.


Do those who do porn/work in the sex industry do so out of choice or because they feel there is no option?

I almost worked doing online cam shows just after I transitioned and was
unceremoniously fired from my job of many years but at the last minute
I balked and the person who ran the site took pity on me and hired me
to run the office instead. That was only for a few months until I got work
as Art Specialist for a childrens summer camp.

[justatransgirl]

oops duplicate post sorry - so spank me already! Pleeze....

[tsmandy]

oops duplicate post sorry - so spank me already! Pleeze....

grab your ankles

[tsmandy]

These are incredibly serious questions for the girls who are either going through or have transitioned. I'd be grateful for some honest answers ....

When did you decide was the moment you had to transition?

I was 20 years old




Did something in particular happen as a catalyst to say now is the time?


I left a bad relationship and moved across the country, getting away from where I grew up and being around complete strangers gave me the space to figure stuff out.



Did you have plenty support to make the decision fairly easy?

No, unfortunately. The people around me were not really prepared, and my family was very upset, still are to this day.


Did you go through a breakdown?
not really, although my life was quite shook up. I lost my job, I lost my family, I lost my friends, made new friends, found life outside of work and family, discovered the joy of community.




Did you just have to do it , make a hard decision with a lot to lose? and did you end up losing what you feared you would? Has anyone regretted it?


There were many stages in my own "coming out" process, first to myself, then my friends, then my co-workers, and then my family.

It was easy to admit it to myself, it made sense, it was more difficult with my friends, much more difficult with work and family.

I was haunted by nightmares, night after night about my family, and finally decided that it was better to have no family than have no sleep. So I finally came out to my boss and lost my job, came back west to come out to my family, and lost them as well. I don't regret it, I just regret being born in the family i was.




When did you start seeing your doctor about it?

As soon as I realized it,.




How long did you fight against the desire/need to transition?

I didn't fight it. I was glad to finally understand why I felt so strange.




Do those who do porn/work in the sex industry do so out of choice or because they feel there is no option?

I do so out of choice, can't really speak for anybody else. I like sex, I like getting paid for sex, can't think of anything that would be more fun.



Do thos who do work as such as a pre-op fear losing perhaps the last option for making money if they transition fully?


Not me, I think that when I get surgery I will lose this small fetish world of trans-admirers, and be able to live in a much larger world where women can do all sorts of wonderful things.




Does anyone find these questions offensive? or out os place?

they can be intense to recall, but we all have the choice to participate as much as we want.

best of luck,
mandy
http://mandytgirl.com

Kirsty
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[hondarobot]

It's pretty odd, especially when you have no desire to correct your birth gender, have no attraction to men, and are not really concerned about that.

Most people here are just guys looking to suck cock and not feel gay about it.

What ya gonna do?

[Night Rider]

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[hondarobot]

It's pretty odd, especially when you have no desire to correct your birth gender, have no attraction to men, and are not really concerned about that.

Most people here are just guys looking to suck cock and not feel gay about it.

What ya gonna do?

That quote pretty much sums you up honda. You're apparently a non-op TS, lesbian sort of thing with no attraction to men. They were your own words. You're also a cockhound so what exactly is odd about it?

Great job. You're an idiotic troll who posts way way to often. Does anyone think you shouldn't shut the fuck up? I don't mean the trolls.

[Leverage87]

Well, actually I don't mind Nightrider, I really have no problems with anyone.

[Night Rider]

deleted on behalf of hypocrites anonymous

[Night Rider]

deleted on behalf of hypocrites anonymous

[hondarobot]

hondarobot, I'm not going to hi-jack the thread but I think you should think before you write bullshit. That's like me saying to someone "that's odd, you post way too much and you're a bit opinionated"

Wise the fuck up you loser

You're mentally ill. It's was fun for awhile, but you should seek some sort of help. Or not. You could run around in the cage like some other trolls have. It's fun to watch.

You have no business here. But keep it up. What else would you do?

[Night Rider]

deleted on behalf of hypocrites anonymous

[hondarobot]

You're mentally ill. It's was fun for awhile, but you should seek some sort of help. Or not. You could run around in the cage like some other trolls have. It's fun to watch.

You have no business here. But keep it up. What else would you do?

I'm mentally ill?



Would this be a case of the pot and the kettle?

Yeah no kidding. Honda you scare the girls away, your a fucking obsessive man - you make yourself a target and love the attention.
Go away and get some help. You scare more people here - and post more wasteful posts than anyone.
Take a long hard, sober look in the mirror.
seanchai


The general themes in these bizarre outbursts are generally either related to my nearly psychotic pursuit of superstar Vicki Richter, or the fact that I believe I am in fact, uh, a woman.

COO COO

Yes, you are mentally ill. You post constantly here. You're a dumb ass. That's pretty obvious to everyone.

Make a fool of yourself some more. Why not? I'll still be here.

[tsntx]

Great job. You're an idiotic troll who posts way way to often. Does anyone think you shouldn't shut the fuck up? I don't mean the trolls.

says the jackass that is desperately trying to hijack yet another GOOD thread.... way to be a fucking douchebag, faggot

[OEMEnemyNum1]

You're mentally ill. It's was fun for awhile, but you should seek some sort of help. Or not. You could run around in the cage like some other trolls have. It's fun to watch.

You have no business here. But keep it up. What else would you do?

I'm mentally ill?



Would this be a case of the pot and the kettle?

Yeah no kidding. Honda you scare the girls away, your a fucking obsessive man - you make yourself a target and love the attention.
Go away and get some help. You scare more people here - and post more wasteful posts than anyone.
Take a long hard, sober look in the mirror.
seanchai


The general themes in these bizarre outbursts are generally either related to my nearly psychotic pursuit of superstar Vicki Richter, or the fact that I believe I am in fact, uh, a woman.

COO COO

Yes, you are mentally ill. You post constantly here. You're a dumb ass. That's pretty obvious to everyone.

Make a fool of yourself some more. Why not? I'll still be here.




Oh, I didn't realize you were a woman. Where is your HHA status?

[Night Rider]

deleted on behalf of hypocrites anonymous

[hondarobot]

Great job. You're an idiotic troll who posts way way to often. Does anyone think you shouldn't shut the fuck up? I don't mean the trolls.

says the jackass that is desperately trying to hijack yet another GOOD thread.... way to be a fucking douchebag, faggot

Why the hell did you post that? Nice job at jumping the shark, I guess.

:roll:

[justatransgirl]

It's pretty odd, especially when you have no desire to correct your birth gender, have no attraction to men, and are not really concerned about that.

Most people here are just guys looking to suck cock and not feel gay about it.

What ya gonna do?

That quote pretty much sums you up honda. You're apparently a non-op TS, lesbian sort of thing with no attraction to men. They were your own words. You're also a cockhound so what exactly is odd about it?

Great job. You're an idiotic troll who posts way way to often. Does anyone think you shouldn't shut the fuck up? I don't mean the trolls.

Yes - I think you should BOTH shut up. This is a thread where people opened themselves up to hopefully make some difference for other trans women who find this site.

And you guys turn it into a typical HA fight. Grow up children. Have some respect for other people on this site.

Sheesh,
TS Jamie :-)

[Night Rider]

It's pretty odd, especially when you have no desire to correct your birth gender, have no attraction to men, and are not really concerned about that.

Most people here are just guys looking to suck cock and not feel gay about it.

What ya gonna do?

That quote pretty much sums you up honda. You're apparently a non-op TS, lesbian sort of thing with no attraction to men. They were your own words. You're also a cockhound so what exactly is odd about it?

Great job. You're an idiotic troll who posts way way to often. Does anyone think you shouldn't shut the fuck up? I don't mean the trolls.

Yes - I think you should BOTH shut up. This is a thread where people opened themselves up to hopefully make some difference for other trans women who find this site.

And you guys turn it into a fight. Grow up children.

Sheesh,
TS Jamie :-)

Don't tell me to shut up Jamie, if you don't want it hi-jacked then don't open your mouth.

He was saying Kirsty's sexuality was odd and all I pointed out was that he claimed to be exactly the same. Then he attacks because he's a mental case. Until you know what you're talking about don't tell other posters what to do.

[hondarobot]

I am going to shut up. I think this forum sucks again, and it's always kinda been suckish, but we had some good times. They just weren't really that good, though. Honestly.


:shrug

[ironx]

... deleted out of respect..

[Caleigh]

If you guys had any real common courtesy you
would go back, edit all of your posts in this thread
to nothing and maybe LISTEN rather than jumping
in when the thread is specifically aimed NOT at you.

[Night Rider]

:P

[justatransgirl]

Don't tell me to shut up Jamie, if you don't want it hi-jacked then don't open your mouth.

He was saying Kirsty's sexuality was odd and all I pointed out was that he claimed to be exactly the same. Then he attacks because he's a mental case. Until you know what you're talking about don't tell other posters what to do.

DON'T THREATEN ME YOU LITTLE PISS ANT!!!

TS Jamie

PS - Kirsty, and the other girls who tried to open their hearts I'm really sorry your thread got turned into this. I apologise, but I will not be disrespected.

[Night Rider]

Don't tell me to shut up Jamie, if you don't want it hi-jacked then don't open your mouth.

He was saying Kirsty's sexuality was odd and all I pointed out was that he claimed to be exactly the same. Then he attacks because he's a mental case. Until you know what you're talking about don't tell other posters what to do.

DON'T THREATEN ME YOU LITTLE PISS ANT!!!

TS Jamie

How the fuck did I threaten you? You've nothing to say so you make up a blatant lie. Pathetic. You tell me to grow up and then you call me a "little piss ant"

I can't ever remember calling you names, so you've just made an asshole out of yourself. I'm surprised you've went two posts without mentioning Jessica. Jessica this, Jessica that....who gives a fuck.

[tsntx]

Allanah,

Please, mama, delete all the posts here that were not written by the girls.

ill see your allanah and raise you NYCe


please delete and ban both of their accounts... its way over due on honda

[Kirsty Scott TG]

Thanks you so much to the girls who have replied so far...... This is an issue which I personally am very keen on finding answers too for my own future. I also hope any girl who has questions will benefit in the long run ......

Jamie I would have loved to have read your reply, please don't let others ruin things .......

As for any doubt over my sexuality .....

I will edit this out later as it has no relevance other than confirm that those who think they no someone would be better to avoid jumping to conclusions ....

and if you can get that wrong so easily when I have pics all over my paysite and my photoalbum you cartainly can't know how my mind is working ....

Now please let the girls answer the questions

Kirsty
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[BrendaQG]

These are incredibly serious questions for the girls who are either going through or have transitioned. I'd be grateful for some honest answers ....

When did you decide was the moment you had to transition?

I had two moments like that and one where I felt I needed to go back to live as a man for a while. The first one was when I was 13. I started taking hormones and about a year latter I started 9th grade. The effect the mones had on my body was such that to any who did not know me from grade school I appeared to be a girl. After living like that for 7 years I was in a difficult sitaution (there was a thread about this). I had to choose between the education I wanted and the life I had been living.


Did something in particular happen as a catalyst to say now is the time?

What made be come back to living as a woman was not just one thing. For me life as a man was living death. I had some good friends and high points but I was quite depressed most of the time. What really brought me back was that I had promised myself that living as a man was only a temporary solution to a short term problem.


Did you have plenty support to make the decision fairly easy?

No!


Did you go through a breakdown?

No! I just had constant low grade depression.


Did you just have to do it , make a hard decision with a lot to lose? and did you end up losing what you feared you would? Has anyone regretted it?

Didn't really have much to loose, the only things I own are my car and my PC. No regrets.


When did you start seeing your doctor about it?
I did not see a doctor for prescribed, legal hormones until late 2005.


How long did you fight against the desire/need to transition?

Lived as a male from age 21-25.


Do those who do porn/work in the sex industry do so out of choice or because they feel there is no option?
My only other support is student financial aid which is just enough to live off of if you live very cheaply. If I want to be able to afford the operations I want/need anytime soon I must work.


Do thos who do work as such as a pre-op fear losing perhaps the last option for making money if they transition fully?

I am fortunate to have some education. I am certain that with it after SRS is paid for I will be able to do just fine. These operations just cost so much money. Looking at the starting pay of most jobs I am qualified for I would not be able to afford it just by working such a job.


Does anyone find these questions offensive? or out os place?

Nope. On HA it seems that just about anything goes. :-)

[chefmike]

Great job. You're an idiotic troll who posts way way to often. Does anyone think you shouldn't shut the fuck up? I don't mean the trolls.

says the jackass that is desperately trying to hijack yet another GOOD thread.... way to be a fucking douchebag, faggot

Good call, Jen. Fembot is a total waste of oxygen(not to mention bandwith)...he(?) really needs to hurry to the nearest tall building and take a flying leap...sayonara jizzmopper!!

[chefmike]

And as for moi, I'll jump into any motherfucking thread that I want to, ladies!

Got that?

If you don't I will be glad to reiterate with my pimp hand!!

Don't make me raise it again, bitches!!

[KiraHarden]

These are incredibly serious questions for the girls who are either going through or have transitioned. I'd be grateful for some honest answers ....


When did you decide was the moment you had to transition? I decided Feb 03 and started Tranistion Sept O4




Did something in particular happen as a catalyst to say now is the time?

I was rushed to hospital after I OD in 2003, and had to drink this Liquid Charcol goo. I was killing myself with drugs hiding from my feelings, I decide to accept who I was and transition that day. I havent had the need or desire for drugs since I accepted being a TS female.



Did you have plenty support to make the decision fairly easy?
Yes my Father esp, and my family has been there for me.




Did you go through a breakdown?
Yes going thru rehab
Scott TG"]Did you just have to do it , make a hard decision with a lot to lose? and did you end up losing what you feared you would? Has anyone regretted it?

I just had to do it, I didnt want to die a man. I fiqured no loss of family, friends , money, or even a job = the loss of my life. No I didnt lose much, just a close guy friend who was like a brother to me. Im sure my ex friend does hate my choice.


When did you start seeing your doctor about it?
July 04


How long did you fight against the desire/need to transition?
Since age 4


Do those who do porn/work in the sex industry do so out of choice or because they feel there is no option?
There's always a option. I have a good job, but I enjoy escorting/porn on the side its not my life. It helps for my future surguries.


Do thos who do work as such as a pre-op fear losing perhaps the last option for making money if they transition fully?
NO!


Does anyone find these questions offensive? or out os place?
Not at all

Kirsty
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[Night Rider]

I'm sorry - I have removed my post thanks to NightRider and Hondarobot and their infantile hijack of what was a pretty good thread.

I tried opening my heart to the members of this site to answer Kristy's question honestly.

Other girls have too and you dudes trash it.

GROW UP.

Sheesh,
TS Jamie

I edited all my posts about honda and you keep up the bitching. YOU grow up. All I did was respond to hondarobot, so you're contradicting yourself by moaning. If you wanted to stay on topic that bad you'd shut up and let the mods deal with it. You PMd me last night with bullshit about the ONLY reason you come here is to promote your website so why the fuck bother with all this. You're full of shit Jamie.

[hondarobot]

Allanah,

Please, mama, delete all the posts here that were not written by the girls.

ill see your allanah and raise you NYCe


please delete and ban both of their accounts... its way over due on honda

I just did a "Hondarobot" search for the hell of it, and found this thread. Why would you post that? Seriously, I don't get it. What would you have against me?

[MacShreach]

What would you have against me?

I have no idea but maybe she doesn't like molesters. It is pretty creepy, HR.

And now I think on it, it's not the only creepy thing about you.

[MrsKellyPierce]

Oh you know I couldn't cut it as a man so I transitioned to a girl. Isn't that what most people think?