Ying/Yang

[SleeplessInSeattle]

Do you think that sexual attraction has a lot to do with the mind of the person you are with?

Granted, there is the undoubtedly the physical attraction to t-girls. But, for me at least, much of the gratification comes from something more.

I haven’t yet figured out exactly what that something more is, but I do know that (everything else being equal) a gal with a sharp mind and senses tends to have a more vivid imagination which can enhance a sexual encounter.

It’s like there’s the obvious physical gratification. But there’s rare and warm/fuzzy feeling that one may get after having one’s mind f%$#ek with…in a loving way, that is.

I have been around the block and back on this. For me, I think the fundamental attraction is the integration of the feminine combined with the raw masculine sexuality, which is appealing on many different levels.

And, the few gals I’ve been with, I would have to say that my best times were not necessarily the most attractive of the lot. Rather…they had a combination of the physical and mental gymnastics. What I mean to say is that they really understood the ying/yang of their sexual nature and were fluid and free with it.

I think that ying/yang understanding is a rare thing. My impression is that some are either uncomfortable with it and retreat to the purely feminine side, while others gravitate to the other. What I find fascinating is when there is a balance and/or your partner can shift effortlessly from one end of the spectrum to the other.

But…I don’t really know the point of this other than to say, HI…I’m the new kid on the block.

SleeplessInSeattle

[Ecstatic]

Welcome, Sleepless, and I agree with you, the mind is the most important sex organ, lol. If there's no connection mentally with my partner, then the sex is just empty (though, to quote Woody Allen, "as empty experiences go, it's one of the best").

[Overlord Abomination]

Wait so you 2 are saying you cant have completly mind blowing sex with a total stranger:?: Someone you know absolutely nothing about and only share The desire to rip off each others close and fuck like A bear and a shark?

[Ecstatic]

Not at all, OA: even if you've never met the person before and will never see her again, of course you can have completely mind blowing sex with her. But the key to that, for me anyway, is that our minds are engaged as well as our bodies, that we connect on more than a purely physical level. It's not about how well or long you've known someone, it's about how you connect at the time. And even "empty" sex can be great, but it's never anywhere near as great as when that deeper connection happens. I don't mean you have to be in love, or know the person well, or have deep conversation before or after, but that you're in tune with one another mentally as well as physically.

A bear and a shark: how the hell would those two get it on?

[Overlord Abomination]

Not at all, OA: even if you've never met the person before and will never see her again, of course you can have completely mind blowing sex with her. But the key to that, for me anyway, is that our minds are engaged as well as our bodies, that we connect on more than a purely physical level. It's not about how well or long you've known someone, it's about how you connect at the time. And even "empty" sex can be great, but it's never anywhere near as great as when that deeper connection happens. I don't mean you have to be in love, or know the person well, or have deep conversation before or after, but that you're in tune with one another mentally as well as physically.

A bear and a shark: how the hell would those two get it on?

Yea I know what you mean, When you connect with someone the sex is far better and when your done having sex theres actually a moment where the world can do no wrong. Im a shallow little fuck so Im not gonna lie, Ive equated all sex to An hour,30 minutes, 15 minutes whatever, Of pure pleasure and whens its all said and Done I can go back to watching TV. Its not that Im not a romantic But more or less Im too carefree.

You see the bear puts his penis in the shraks blowhole...I dont quite think a bear can fuck a shark actually.

[Ecstatic]

So long as neither the bear nor the shark attempts to blow the other...ouch!

To put it in terms of that "moment when the world can do no wrong," I've had good but quite shallow and empty sex where that moment scarcely lasts beyond the orgasm, and since I can have an orgasm for free on my own, why pay someone 200 or 300 dollars for the same thing? But when the sex has been awesome and the connection is made, I feel that moment for hours and even days afterward. Now that's worth paying for.

[Felicia Katt]

You see the bear puts his penis in the shraks blowhole...I dont quite think a bear can fuck a shark actually.

Sharks, being fish, do not have blow holes. They have gills. Dolphins, on the other hand, as mammals, do have blowholes. There are also instances of dolphins engaging in sexually playful behaviour with human swimmers. But not with bears, unless you meant large, hairy men :)

Felicia

[SleeplessInSeattle]

I think E summed it up pretty well, and OA gives a different perspective on things.

I suppose the 'connection' is different for each person. Personally I find that the 'mind' thing is enhanced by a certain degree of creativity and exploration, as it were.

Perhaps it's hit-or-miss in the environment of escorting...at least from the perspective of the client. Yet, I wonder about the other side...whether there's a similar feeling of satisfaction from the 'connection', or whether it's really just a business and physical transaction.

I suspect that there maybe a sort'a reciprocity in that. That is, fundamentally we all need to be loved on one level or another.

Felicia...you've got a great sense of humor and wit! I usually can think of something funny to say, but I think you've topped it.

Cheers.

SleeplessInSeattle

[SleeplessInSeattle]

...one more thing, since I apparently can't sleep tonight.

Since I've been involved with t-girls, I feel a greater sense of my own feminine and male aspects. I think those dynamics exist in all of us...and for some, come through stronger and lesser depending on the individual.

What I am discovering is that my exploration of my own sexuality apparently has some (I don't know what yet) similarity to the gals I date.

I know that may sound bizzare.

I haven't figured it out yet.

SIS

[Overlord Abomination]

There are also instances of dolphins engaging in sexually playful behaviour with human swimmers.

Funny you say that I cant remember the website where the guys describing it, He's basically screwing a dolphin and calls it the best time of his life...Thats some disburbingly hilarious stuff.

Sharks dont have blowholes? Well is this before or after the bear comes in contact with it. Ok So heres the scenerio. A bear Whacks that bitch ass shark with one of its Machete like hands. So now the Shark is bleeding and has cut in the top of his...eh...head? So it goes 'You pussy why'd you do that' But the bear can't hear...He's horny as hell and is gonna fuck some fish. So the bear jumps on top of the shark and starts humping. Unfortunately The bear is a premature ejaculator and busted a fat one in the sharks new blowhole. Violated and Bleeding the shark swam away, But this crude sexual act was all the shark needed to declare war. From this day on this event sparked the rivalry between BEAR VS SHARK

See now once you take that into consideration, Shit Sharks do have blowholes.

[SexxxyJade]

Well I can relate to what you are saying on a diferent level i guess. I was talking to this dude on the phone for about three months. He seemed mature, we had great convo, he made me laugh, he was just an overall sweet person. When we finally did meet he was far from what i would normally be attracted to. He wasn't extremly ugly just not sumthing i wold normally go for. In other words, if i saw him in thes streets he wouldnt be a head turner. But being that we had built a rapport and he turned me on so much with conversation, i was still attracted to him. It didnt matter that he wasn't my type, there was still sumthing there internally that made me Hott Mind over body worked for me in this case because the sex ws great!!!!!

[Adam_Thompson]

Well I can relate to what you are saying on a diferent level i guess. I was talking to this dude on the phone for about three months. He seemed mature, we had great convo, he made me laugh, he was just an overall sweet person. When we finally did meet he was far from what i would normally be attracted to. He wasn't extremly ugly just not sumthing i wold normally go for. In other words, if i saw him in thes streets he wouldnt be a head turner. But being that we had built a rapport and he turned me on so much with conversation, i was still attracted to him. It didnt matter that he wasn't my type, there was still sumthing there internally that made me Hott Mind over body worked for me in this case because the sex ws great!!!!!

Thanks Jada... I do try my best 8)

[Overlord Abomination]

Im officially the only person that enjoys Sex without a connection, and I may just be the only person that doesnt believe in mental attraction over physical desire. Im so shallow its beautiful.