Falling in love with Escort

[mp.rodriguez21]

She poping she rolling she rolling
She climbing that pole and
I'm in love with a stripper
She tripping she playing she playing
I'm not going nowhere girl, I'm staying
I'm in love with a stripper

[TrueBeauty TS]

I need some advice,I have seen a Ts escort who I can not stop thinking about,she was so nice,caring and my time with her was a true girlfriend experience.
I had to pay £250 but thought it would be a one off and I would not see her again,however I can not stop thinking about her and am to see her again.
There is no way I can afford to keep this up.I am in a real dilema and do not know where to turn.I think I have fallen for her but am of course sure she was only doing her job when spending time with me.


:roll:


Ask her if she would be willing to see you socially. If she says no, then she was only doing it for the money. Then move on. Seems pretty simple to me.



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[THETRUTH]

I will let you in on a little secret. She is stringing you along to take your money.

[slinky]

How is she stringing him along? As far as we know, she ain't said shit to him.

[InHouston]

And remember, the sweet and caring side that she has shown you has been shown to countless other customers as well, who ironically some of which might be feeling exactly the same way you do. She's doing her job, and is obviously smart enough to know that men respond positively to sweet girls, and that will keep them coming back. You could always tell her how you feel about her, and she will either be interested in something else with you, or simply business. Ask her to be honest with you so you won't be left wondering, and get emotional closure on her if need be.

But ... I think you're confusing love for what I see as simply 'good service'.

Know the difference.

[Quinn]

Move along and forget about her. You'll be better off for it whether she's interested in you or not.

-Quinn

[tsmandy]

I feel so silly that I let myself fall for someone who I basically paid to be nice to me.
The only possibility of a relationship with her would be as a paying customer,what a fool I am.
Sometimes I wish I could switch my feelings off and be emotionaly cold!

Hi Trevis,

If you feel like you are falling in love with her, then she is obviously good at making connections that are strong and real when she is with someone. Respect that once in a lifetime experience and move on.

Things will get weird for the both of you real fast as soon as you start talking about love, I know for me that was always a huge buzzkill. Why? Because guys who have seen me for an hour or even six, know nothing about me, and are obviously not in love. Take a step back, go see a different girl, respect that she is just doing her job, what you paid her to do.

[Luna555]

I agree with Mandy...


Ive seen some guys and then on their later session with me they tell me they like me and want to see me socially...He knows nothing about me....I hope they know that it is my job. I dont know I feel like sometimes some guys dont get that. :roll: :shrug :shrug

[crayons]

I need some advice,I have seen a Ts escort who I can not stop thinking about,she was so nice,caring and my time with her was a true girlfriend experience.
I had to pay £250 but thought it would be a one off and I would not see her again,however I can not stop thinking about her and am to see her again.
There is no way I can afford to keep this up.I am in a real dilema and do not know where to turn.I think I have fallen for her but am of course sure she was only doing her job when spending time with me.

it's simple: you paid the girl to make you feel that way. if it wasn't for your money, she'd never have been there in the first place. don't you realize that?

[TheOne1]

tell her you are going to rescue her from the escort business and marry her...


10 marriages later, its worked for me

[LTR_Seeker]

Yeh but Luna youre just magnifcient of course i talked with for long while your nice lady who salt of the earth material.

[PapiBear]

You know what happens when you assume, so don't do it.

1. See her again. You might not feel that way about her a second time.

2. Ask her if she'd grab a tea; talk to her. Find out who she is.

3. Tease her. Tell her she's hot. Make her laugh. Try some Kino.

4. Ask her to help you do some clothes shopping. When you're setting up the appointment tell her that you hate flakes and ask her if she's the kind of person who flakes out on people. While you're out shopping, stop for a glass of wine.

5. Invite her along when you're getting together with some friends.

6. Ask her to come to the gym and help you train.

If she does any and all of these, you're well on your way to having a girlfriend. If she flakes or strings you along, then find yourself a differnt object of desire.

In fact, until you become a couple, you're better off dating other women too--it will stop you from coming across as a needy and clingy wussy.

Know what I mean?

[PatrickFromNYC]

I agree with Mandy...


Ive seen some guys and then on their later session with me they tell me they like me and want to see me socially...He knows nothing about me....I hope they know that it is my job. I dont know I feel like sometimes some guys dont get that. :roll: :shrug :shrug

Luna:

Don't fault a guy for liking you, your adorable!! Its only normal to have an attraction for someone you have been intimate with

[PatrickFromNYC]

I agree with Mandy...


Ive seen some guys and then on their later session with me they tell me they like me and want to see me socially...He knows nothing about me....I hope they know that it is my job. I dont know I feel like sometimes some guys dont get that. :roll: :shrug :shrug

Luna:

Don't fault a guy for liking you, your adorable!! Its only normal to have an attraction for someone you have been intimate with

Uh?




Luna said it is her JOB to make the guys feel that way. They feel good and she's made $150, $200 or more. Got nothing to do with intimacy, it's a BIDNESS transaction. What's love go to do with it?



"He knows nothing about me....I hope they know that it is my job. I dont know I feel like sometimes some guys dont get that. :roll:" Luna

Your wrong Braveman.....Just because its a BUSINESS transaction doesn't mean people turn off their feelings....if a guy spends time with someone who is adorable and kind its only natural to develop feelings regardless of the situation in which they met .....Christ, I first met my ex-GF during a contract negotiation !!

[Clind]

I agree with Mandy...


Ive seen some guys and then on their later session with me they tell me they like me and want to see me socially...He knows nothing about me....I hope they know that it is my job. I dont know I feel like sometimes some guys dont get that. :roll: :shrug :shrug


of course he don't know anything about you ,this is the reason that he want to go out with you to know it s other better .......are you joking? :smh
(i don't understand some women)

...and also he knows that this is your job nad that's the reason that he is giving you money ,what means that ?he can not have feeling's for you ?..............
what's this ideas? i dont understund at all
:? :( :? :( :?:

[Clind]

I agree with Mandy...


Ive seen some guys and then on their later session with me they tell me they like me and want to see me socially...He knows nothing about me....I hope they know that it is my job. I dont know I feel like sometimes some guys dont get that. :roll: :shrug :shrug

so what?of course ''He knows nothing about me...'',that's the reason that he want to meet you to know each other better......... :? :( :? :( :? :(

[Clind]

I agree with Mandy...


Ive seen some guys and then on their later session with me they tell me they like me and want to see me socially...He knows nothing about me....I hope they know that it is my job. I dont know I feel like sometimes some guys dont get that. :roll: :shrug :shrug

so what?of course ''He knows nothing about me...'',that's the reason that he want to meet you to know each other better.........

[DJ_Asia]

Move along and forget about her. You'll be better off for it whether she's interested in you or not.

-Quinn

Amen to that!

No shame in it man...if you fell for her then shes prolly really good at what she does and has many "benefactors"(gotta love that term!)

Take it from a guy who has fallen in love w/ a fair share of escorts,thinking that since i met them socially as opposed to paying that things would be cool...

WRONG!

[PapiBear]

Here's the real question you should be asking: are you behaving in a way that is attractive to her? To quote David Deangelo, "attraction isn't a choice." That is, you can't convince her to be attracted (money, flowers, being really super duper nice) but you can spark her attraction for you. And once you do that, it doesn't matter whether you're a cleint or not.

Of course, it's already kind of hard to spark attraction if you're paying her money to lick her, um, boots and whimper while she bosses you around.

[CORVETTEDUDE]

"trevis'....This isn't going anywhere, KILL IT!(Not the escort, the idea) :shrug

[LBCDO]

I dont know about a lot of the suggestions a lot fo these other people have, but I will give you my technique if a bitch is gold digging. Ive pulled girls that I paid before and I had the same doubts.

Invite the girl to get something to eat. Do it in a way that doesnt make you seem thirsty. Then just analyze her from the conversation. If you get a convo going, thats a plus. Now after the food is gone, if you keep talking and talking or you get invited in to watch some TV or something, then you're in there. Now if you invite her to get something to eat and you end up being forced to buy something to go and she leaves right after, she doesnt have any real interst in you, jsut your money.

Now some girls are slick, but just look at the situation from the outside in. Its simple to tell guenuine interst.

PS - when i say get somethign to eat, i dont mean like a $100/plate meal. Something simple. Then you look like someone desperate

[stewmeat]

I need some advice,I have seen a Ts escort who I can not stop thinking about,she was so nice,caring and my time with her was a true girlfriend experience.
I had to pay £250 but thought it would be a one off and I would not see her again,however I can not stop thinking about her and am to see her again.
There is no way I can afford to keep this up.I am in a real dilema and do not know where to turn.I think I have fallen for her but am of course sure she was only doing her job when spending time with me.

You are probably just lonely or coming out of a previour relationship. From what you describe, it is lust.

Been there and done that. After my divorce from a gg, I got a vicious fucking from a shemale who I thought looked like my ex.

Since I was practically a virgin to the shemale experience, "she popped my cherry" and I was in love. I was the complete love lusting bitch that is always hanging on the guys balls...Until I saw her with another dude a few days later. I decided to date other shemales to get over my hurt.

I only lost a few hundred dollars, but they were well spent, no complaint there.

I say date other equally beautiful shemales and you will wake up and want all of them, not just one.

You will become a Dogg! :D :D :D :D

[whatsupwithat]

sounds like you were searching for something, that you were vulnerable, and that you allowed yourself to believe. while its cool that sexual sparks may fly during an encounter, you have to realize they are just that...sexual sparks.

follow luna and mandy's advice.

and chin up...it happens to the best of us.

[TJ347]

You know, I will never understand how some people, despite claiming to want someone who will love them for who they are, fail to see that their own emotional unavailability is to blame for the fact they feel alone in this life. This is something I've especially noticed with many escorts.

A seemingly normal girl suddenly claims, despite originally holding an entirely different position on the matter, that she doesn't believe in love, and subsequently undergoes a personality change whereby she becomes the opposite of who she previously was, and considers this progress. She separates herself emotionally from her job as an escort, or so she thinks, failing to realize that a disgust for men grows ever larger in the recesses of her mind with every client she sees, and will negatively impact her ability to have a stable, loving relationship with any man, ever. At long last, her career as an escort ends, and lo and behold... her experiences have left her mistrustful, bitter and lonely, and despite now wishing she could find love, her psychological scars make doing so impossible, because she can no longer open herself up to receive it. :idea:

I'm not going to reference any specific person. I just wanted to say that if you don't believe in love, or that you can be loved, what joy do you get from living your life? This may seem off topic to some, but I know there are a few people who will understand exactly what I'm talking about, and why. LGHY

[TJ347]

Move along and forget about her. You'll be better off for it whether she's interested in you or not.

-Quinn

Hadn't seen this earlier. So very, very true. Kudos again, Quinn.

[TJ347]

Yeah, I'm a little late getting back to this one... Sue me.

Anyway, I get what you're saying Nicole. It's just that I've found that escorting produces some extremely jaded women beyond all hope of having a meaningful relationship later.

I've seen people change 180 degrees, becoming people I don't even know anymore, and people they ultimately don't know anymore either. It hasn't ended well in the cases I've seen... Drugs and suicide, if you must know. Surely that isn't the way it goes for all, but I'd be willing to bet for some of the younger ones who get caught up and turned out...

I may have loved them at one point, but once they get to whoring, they're gone for good as far as I'm concerned. I just don't have the emotional capacity to keep going through that repeatedly. Good luck to them though.

-edit-

Just wanted to add that a girl I'd met in Newark, NJ a while back who escorted and wound up on dope committed suicide a few weeks back I found out earlier today. She was 28 years old, too. That's two out of five escorts I've personally befriended who are now dead, the other two on dope and so slowly dying. The other is MIA. Somebody needs to warn people that just because some people do something doesn't mean it's for everybody.

[MacShreach]

God I'm LOL at this one. Not in a cruel way.

I don't believe there's ANY man-- well that has a soul anyway-- that uses escorts that has NOT fallen in love with one. I do it all the time, and then I look at myself, kick my arse and move on. DJAsia, cool for you to be the first that was man enough to admit it.

The trick-- as was explained to me by a very wise lady many tears ago-- is to split yourself up into several characters. Then you can have a character who's in love with this girl, and a character who isn't ruining his life and being a laughing-stock. Sorry to be blunt.

Some of the girls I know are genuinely sweet, lovely people, and in another life, yes, maybe. But what you have is a professional relationship. Part of what a good courtesan does is make a man feel passionately, totally loved. But it's part of the act, never forget that. For her you're repeat business (and at those prices, bloody good business.)

And I would not want to seem harsh but your chances, not that they really exist anyway, with a TS, will also be affected by what you did together. IE if she "topped" you, forget it.

Women are so much better at this shit than men. Learn from the girls.

[MacShreach]

I like keeping my life compartmentalized.

Damn that's the second time I've agreed with you this week. What's going on?

[PapiBear]

LBCDO is spot on. Right now you're in love with a fantasy. That's fun, but it doesn't last.

So, write this on your forehead: YSSUW. Now look in the mirror and give yourself a good slap.

Now, if you can go see her without being desperate, or trying to buy her affection, maybe you can have some real fun. But the moment she smells the wussy in you, you're meat.