Rough Sex...........................

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

Is the concept of women liking 'Rough Sex' a myth that should only be played out in XXX films?!?

[CORVETTEDUDE]

Not Exactly!!!

[Quinn]

I've dated a number of women who enjoy, regularly or occasionally, rough sex. Given that there is at least a segment of the female population who enjoy it to varying degrees, I don't have a problem seeing it in porn.

-Quinn

[Nooksack]

My g/f actually enjoys rough sex more often than nice, soft sensual sex. But then again, I guess "rough" needs a little defining. She likes having her hair grabbed, gettin' slammed hard (and returning the favor), loves to dig her nails in, biting, etc...

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

I've had chicks (gg & ts) that have vowed to never fuck me again saying I was too rough, or took too long, or my personal favorite I've heard more than 3 times "oh I didn't make you cum so you must not have liked me"

lol, no babe if you could make me cum that means you're a legendary fuck which is rare

thanks for the replies dudes, keep em coming

[tubgirl]

careful what you post. i hear legend logging in now...

[Willie Escalade]

Rough sex is great, but sometimes I feel that I need to get my partner's definition of rough sex out of the way.

[Legend]

It would be curious to know ms.richter's answer,she alluded to enjoying that in her blog a while ago.

[hondarobot]

Legend, the point has been made.

I'd appreciate it if you knocked off the VR stuff. OK?

[mbf]

Is the concept of women liking 'Rough Sex' a myth that should only be played out in XXX films?!?


sorry, hat to bump that one :lol:

NO, its not a myth. yet you will probably not find many chicks that are into doin it rough

but I know a petite asian chick (a TS btw...) that you would never expect to like the rough side. but she would only do you if you`d fuck her real hard, she is even into beeing chocked and stuff like that

personally I think such preferences are not really favourable with me - choking people has never been much of interest to me. yet, a solid hard poundering is enjoyable.

[slinky]

Choking can be fun if you are into it. I've found it very hard to find GG's who are willing to do it, though (choke, not get choked)

[tsntx]

im a huge, pun intended, fan of lee stone and he does a lot of rough sex porn and almost every girl he works w/ is asian... and anytime ive seen REALLY rough sex in porn its w/ asains... always wondered what the reason for it was, whether it be bc its a cultural thing, or a porn thing, or trying to be famous for something porn etc etc

[Mami-Liiciouz]

gimme gimme MORE! Hard daddie! LMAO! Dont mind me ::Slowly Exits::

[hondarobot]

im a huge, pun intended, fan of lee stone and he does a lot of rough sex porn and almost every girl he works w/ is asian... and anytime ive seen REALLY rough sex in porn its w/ asains... always wondered what the reason for it was, whether it be bc its a cultural thing, or a porn thing, or trying to be famous for something porn etc etc

I've wondered about that as well. Back when I was a video store guy, I had a lot of weird conversations with a number of people.

There was this one girl, she always came in with a very submissive female "friend" of hers. Her friend never talked. But the girl in question use to always rent bondage porn (I know, I get what was going on with those two). But she mentioned once that she had just got back from Japan and was looking for some really rough porn.

I made the mistake of saying "I don't know why the Japanese are so into that scene. We don't have any in stock. It makes you wonder if that sort of kink is a result of a country getting nuked."

It was admittedly a stupid comment. She gave me a look like "If you were in my dungeon now. . .", said some stuff about different cultural this and that. But I think I was right. Germany, Japan, France, all got their asses kicked in world wars. Huge kinky scenes in those countries now.

That theory doesn't explain Brazil, though. I think Brazilians just like to have fun.

I really don't know. I've never been to Japan, and I don't plan on going.

[derrick60053]

i deleted my original post. apologies to those who saw it. the pics were in poor taste. dont know what came over me.

[SarahG]

im a huge, pun intended, fan of lee stone and he does a lot of rough sex porn and almost every girl he works w/ is asian... and anytime ive seen REALLY rough sex in porn its w/ asains... always wondered what the reason for it was, whether it be bc its a cultural thing, or a porn thing, or trying to be famous for something porn etc etc

I've wondered about that as well. Back when I was a video store guy, I had a lot of weird conversations with a number of people.

There was this one girl, she always came in with a very submissive female "friend" of hers. Her friend never talked. But the girl in question use to always rent bondage porn (I know, I get what was going on with those two). But she mentioned once that she had just got back from Japan and was looking for some really rough porn.

I made the mistake of saying "I don't know why the Japanese are so into that scene. We don't have any in stock. It makes you wonder if that sort of kink is a result of a country getting nuked."

It was admittedly a stupid comment. She gave me a look like "If you were in my dungeon now. . .", said some stuff about different cultural this and that. But I think I was right. Germany, Japan, France, all got their asses kicked in world wars. Huge kinky scenes in those countries now.

That theory doesn't explain Brazil, though. I think Brazilians just like to have fun.

I really don't know. I've never been to Japan, and I don't plan on going.

Can't speak for Japan but I have seen the argument made that in Europe it goes back to the dark age period for alot of these practices. Take airgames, the story goes that it got started as a practice in the west after people watching town square hangings realized the orgasms the prisoners were getting when being executed...

[evilash]

I gone done had ruff sex only once an i dint like it at all, I gone done hook up wit dis shorty an we went back to her place to go fuck. Yo i was gittin my swerve on an yhen i hear da door open and dis man come runnin in wit a kane an fucked me up in da head wit it while i was still fuckin da bitch, yo dat shit hurt. She gone done didnt tell me she had a husband.

[hondarobot]

"airgames"? I'm not sure, but I can imagine what that means, the cutting off your air supply to get the "Super Massive Orgasm". I don't get that. I don't need that great of an orgasm.

That's just stupid. Most people are honestly kinda weird.

[SarahG]

"airgames"? I'm not sure, but I can imagine what that means, the cutting off your air supply to get the "Super Massive Orgasm". I don't get that. I don't need that great of an orgasm.

That's just stupid. Most people are honestly kinda weird.

Not my thing for sure, I have had enough air supply related near death expirences thanks to my asthma.

I have alot of friends who do it regularly.

[hondarobot]

The thing with any extreme activity is, once you take a taste, you'll probably just keep going further.

It's like drugs. Heroin is apparently an unbeatably amazing substance, at least from I've heard. That's precisely why I've never used it. You shouldn't fly too close to the sun. Your wings will burn off.

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

I'm not choking any woman period, especially during sex. Even if she asked me, and believe me I've had some fine ass chicks ask me to do some insane stuff during sex: my favorite being "smack my face and call me a bad nun!!!!!!!!!!!!!" I pulled my pants up and left that nun alone, she keeps calling but I won't pick up (lol)

[francisfkudrow]

I know two girls that like rough sex... one of which I've slept with (and she would occasionally mention that she wish I'd be rougher)... As for the other, that's just what she says she likes in conversation; I don't know from experience.

[slinky]

I'm always amazed on the internet message boards, whether straight, TS or whatever, in the end, how vanilla most people's sex lives are.

[mbf]

I'm always amazed on the internet message boards, whether straight, TS or whatever, in the end, how vanilla most people's sex lives are.

well, the real freaks are probably busy suffocating and choking each other and dont have time to hang around a messege board :lol:

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

funny how we're talking about this and I saw a commercial earlier with Ben Stiller for his latest flick. He marries a chick and in the commercial she's riding him telling him to slap her around during some rough cowgirl positioned sex..................

[alpha2117]

Trivia: The term "Well Hung" refers to the erection men would get when they were hung. It has something to do with the changes in blood flow. Women were apparently the most enthusiatic watchers of public hangings.

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

bump for a thread that needed to be revived

[MacShreach]

I gone done had ruff sex only once an i dint like it at all, I gone done hook up wit dis shorty an we went back to her place to go fuck. Yo i was gittin my swerve on an yhen i hear da door open and dis man come runnin in wit a kane an fucked me up in da head wit it while i was still fuckin da bitch, yo dat shit hurt. She gone done didnt tell me she had a husband.

I just want to say that this was one of the funniest posts I've read on here in a loooong time. Had me in stitches.


Nice one.

Anyway-- to the point-- are there people saying scratching, biting, hands on throat and such like count as rough sex?

Damn I thought that was vanilla.....You have to watch it with a pro, though, they don't like you leaving marks, so be nice and ask first...

Had one girl though and I started biting her arse, just a little bit to start, see if she was into it, and she was coming the usual "no marks, no marks..." But I just went on biting, harder and harder and pretty soon she was begging for more, just went wild.....Happy days.....

[Night Rider]

no babe if you could make me cum that means you're a legendary fuck which is rare

Very rare indeed.... :frustrated

[blckhaze]

some like it rough some dont. but i do run into those innocent girls, than the sex covo gets started and she amazes the whole table sayin she like its hard, fast and hard. Damn those freaky church girls :P

And on the girls getting mad by no nut from you, they take that shit personal. especially if it happens more than once. Like their shit is broken or something.

[tall, dark & Handsome]

I have to say I only like rough sex in a short term relationship
(Aka. I am never going to see this person ever again)
or in the begining of a long term relationship. And i can get pretty rough. some girls really love it. I had one girl in high school who was like I want you to rape me, and a number of simillar experiences since.

When I do rough sex it tends to be because I am on a role and getting laid all the time by different girls and it is something different. Having just gotten out of a 3 year relationship I am hoping I am hitting one of those patches right now.
:P

I really do prefer a more nurturing sexual experience though

[Steve-Oh]

Trivia: The term "Well Hung" refers to the erection men would get when they were hung. It has something to do with the changes in blood flow. Women were apparently the most enthusiatic watchers of public hangings.

Whoever made that up obviously had a small penis and had no idea of what it's like to HANG. :wink:

[whatsupwithat]

all sex is good. rough, sensuous, slow, fast, hard, soft...it's all good and each plays a part in any one single sexual experience...or, in my eyes, it's not a very good sexual experience. :)

[Hazel Tucker]

Everything in moderation. I like things to start off slow and work their way up. I once had a guy pull my hair in the beginning and i almost belted him...i guess I'm more into the spanking and wrestling with care type deal. But i dunno sometimes I can't not agree with John, "sometimes love don't feel like it should...it hurts so good...." lol.

[suckseed]

By way of an answer....here's a letter from a woman I met this summer. We met on CL and were discussing becoming sex partners.

Ok – I have removed the post from Craigs List and do not expect any further interruptions from outside responses to my ad.

Here is how I hope to see this progress.

First, I have a very strict rule about NOT seeing anyone that knows my husband socially. My first name is very unique so if I hand it out and you know my husband, you will probably realize who I am. So in an effort to eliminate my concern about any possible mutual friends, I’d like you to tell me your first name and specifically what part of town you are in – for example, I am in Tigard – near 72nd and Bonita.
Once we establish we don’t know each other, I will gladly send you both my name and a pic.

Next, if you don’t mind, I’d like to engage in some question and answers about experience and YOUR limits. I think I have been fairly up front about mine, safe sex is always going to be one of them – at first, even with oral. If we start seeing each other regularly, I would happily relax that rule provided we both get tested for Aids and Herpes, specifically, and are able to trade a current clean bill of health.

I will try to meet with you face to face between this and next week – unless the email correspondence falls apart before then. I am taking a night class at PCC 2 nights a week, it is rather complicated and we are coming into finals. Between class and the homework, it has proven to be time consuming so I am looking for small windows of time that we can actually make that “connection”.

I can honestly say that after March, weeknights are going to be very available… I do go to the gym in the evenings a couple nights a week so please confirm if there is a time or day that is too late to meet.

The reason I was intrigued by your email was that you either said something about yourself or you actually went that extra step to read my ad and tell me something about a “great night”. So here is my trade… it may help you to start to grasp a little bit how MY mind works. And we both know that a true Dom LOVES to know how his subbie’s mind works.

A “great evening” – role play scenario, for example:

I have come to your house / room already dressed for the school girl game. You have left the door unlocked but as instructed, I knock a couple times and let myself in. I wander in calling out to you “Headmaster?”

I find you sitting at a desk, the room is lit for ambience – not necessarily dimly lit, unless you prefer it that way. You have a straight high back chair sitting across from your desk facing you and you instruct me to sit down.

You explain that while I have been attending your boarding school, you have been watching me grow and have decided that I am suitable for a very exclusive sorority. You explain that it takes a very special type to be selected and that you have contacted my step father and procured a permission slip for me to be tested, trained and if possible, accepted to this unique opportunity.

You further explain that the program requires my endurance, obedience, attention to detail and that I am willing to swear my virtue to the program.

I am flattered and mystified by the opportunity and begin to tell you how I am up for the challenge.

You smile and confirm that I am. You then tell me that it is not necessary for me to speak, that I need to only listen and only speak when I am asked a direct question. You then ask me if I am a virgin.

Afraid that you will not give me this opportunity if I am not, I lie and say “yes”.

You get up from the desk saying “good, let’s check, shall we?” You then inform me that you have heard rumors to the contrary and that if I say that I am a virgin there is a way to confirm the truth.

I lower my eyes and confess that I have lied.

You remind me that the school has a standing policy of corporal punishment for lying but this program’s corporal punishment is much more severe. If I wish to continue with the application process, we must get this infraction out of the way at once.

Realizing my lack of virginity does not preclude me from the program, I agree to face the more extreme punishment for lying.

You instruct me over to the desk where I am told to bend over and lay my face sideways on the desk. I comply and you then affix restraints to my ankles binding them together. You bind my knees together with rope. You also put my wrists in restraints and tie my hands down in front of me to the legs of the desk. I start to protest and you remind me that I have not been asked to speak.

You lift my skirt and slide my panties down to my ankles exposing my ass with the lips of my pussy peaking out between my legs. You then select the spanking method of your choice: paddle, crop, belt, slapper, flogger, ruler… and begin spanking my ass and upper thighs – slow and light at first to warm the flesh but slowly working into punishing blows until finally I cannot help but cry out and beg.

You slide your hand between the crease my bound legs running your finger between the lips of my pussy and note that I am dripping wet. You begin to comment on my wetness both chastising my promiscuity and praising me on how well I will fit into this program.

You work my juices up through the crack of my ass and across my anus lubing me with my own excitement. You then take a moderate plug with a head that gradually increases in size as it enters my ass so that by the time it is fully in my ass it is comparable to a large plug. You slide past the external in internal sphincters feeling the resistance as I start to cry out and tug at my wrist restraints. You continue to work the plug into my ass until I have fully accepted it and my outer sphincter has cinched around its base holding it in place.

You leave me there as you move over to the set up where you will tie me to: a whipping post, over head frame, beam, heavy duty eyehooks mounted in a support beam overhead… whatever method you have chosen to use restraints that tether me from above.

Once you are ready, and once I have been waiting long enough, you untie my hands and knees, disconnect the adjoining restraints from wrists and ankles (but do not remove the restraints) and you lead me to where I will be tied with my arms overhead. Before you tie me, you instruct me to take off my blouse and bra.

I hesitate as I begin to realize that this “program” isn’t quite what I expected. I stammer as I try to decide whether to question or protest and you slap me firmly in the face (being an experienced Dom you know where it is ok and not ok to slap my face, right?). I am shocked and my hand rises to my face.

You repeat the command for me to disrobe and I gingerly comply. You demand for me to move faster, your voice growing irritated and impatient.

You tie my hands together and bind them high above me pulling me up to my tippy toes. I start to squeak at the strenuous position. You leave and return with a ball gag which you force into my mouth and strap firmly into place. Now you step back and admire what you have to work with.

You come around behind me, your arms around me with your hands moving over my breasts. You take each nipple between your thumb and forefinger and roll them feeling my body tense and hearing my confused moan as the pain stimulates my pussy to drool even more.

You remove my skirt and spread my legs forcing me to use the strength of my hands on the restraint above me to support my weight.

I am so wet I am dripping and you sigh, commenting how pleased you are that I will work out well in this training program.

You come around the front of me and pinch my nipples while adhering clothespins. I struggle at the pain and you smile with pleasure at my endurance.

You kneel down before me and affix a spreader bar to each ankle cuff forcing my legs apart. You then use more clothespins to pin my lips to my labia minor opening my pussy lips permenantly.

You stand with a riding crop in hand and begin to gently slap at the clothespins on my breasts and pussy watching me writhe and cry out. You come around the back of me and begin to flog me across my back and ass careful not to pound directly on my spine or small of my back. The flogger is alternated with other spanking tools as you warm my hide and prepare me to accept the cane.

At this point I am struggling and fighting the restraints. You are careful to watch my hands and wrists as they have supported my weight for some time and you don’t want them to turn very blue.

You bring me down to my feet (still spread wide by the bar) and connect my wrists behind my back, running the rope through the wrist restraints and pulling my arms upwards behind me forcing me to bend forward. You then commence with the caining as I cry out beneath the gag.

My body is shaking from pain and you stop. Standing behind me you begin teasing my clit slowly – stimulating it gently so bring me to orgasm. You know that if you can make the orgasm come to me slowly it will last so much longer so everytime you send that I am close you slap my ass or tug at my clothespinned pussy or tits bringing me back from the edge.

I am shaking uncontrollably, my body aching to come and finally you bring me to orgasm holding my ass close to you as I buck and ooze down my legs. You then remove the clothespins from my pussy hearing me cry out and feeling my whole body flinch at the pain as each one is removed.

Finally, you remove your pants and bring the head of your throbbing cock to my pussy. You tease my hole and feel me try to press into you. I start to plead in the gag and you smile as you know that the tide has turned and the training is taking well.

You release my ankles and wrists, grab me roughly by the hair and drag me harshly to the desk where you bend me over the desk and push me down so my clothespinned breasts are pressed firmly against its surface.

You enter me with force, swirling your penis to stretch my tight, unused pussy. You grab my hips and begin fucking me forcefully pulling your strokes back so they are long and so they give you more distance to cover when you pound inward up against my cervix. You continue fucking me hard until you think you are close to coming – you pull out and let the throb of the pending orgasm disapate while you start working the ass plug in and out of me with force.

I start to cry out under the gag in protest of your violating my ass. I may not be a virgin, but you know I am still too inexperienced to have engaged in anal sex yet. I pull my hands down to cover my ass and you stop.

You bind my wrists together and tie my elbows together to limit my movement and to give you full access to my ass without resistance. You return your attention to my anus sliding the larger part of the plug in and out past both sphincters.

You take the plug out and press your head up to my tight anus, forcing her open and leaning into me. You feel your head slide past the second sphincter and finally my ass is accepting you as it sucks you in.

You slide the strokes in slow and long at first making the sphincters spasm and dilate. Then you lean in and begin fucking me with rhythm quickly building up to the same force that you used when you were in my pussy. You try to turn your mind to other things to prolong my ass rape and you can hear my voice change from resistance to total submission. I begin milking your cock with my ass and spreading my legs apart to feel you reach me deeper.

Now you let your mind focus and begin fucking me with intention becoming very vocal about how you own me and how my ass is yours and that I will always succumb to bring you such pleasure.

I moan in agreement as you keep fucking me faster and harder until finally you come.

You pull out and leave me on the desk telling me not to move.

I obediently wait until you return and then you slide me to the floor and instruct me to crawl behind you as you lead me into another room. I follow along behind on all fours without hesitation….

That night has just begun…

Does any of this fit your tastes? Not enough? Too much?... tell me…

[justatransgirl]

Rough sex yes - being with a real man you knows what he wants and isn't afraid to make me do it... yes.

Beating me up, no...

I've "belonged" to two masters. One was a bordeline psycho and I'm lucky I left when I could (this was years ago when I was in my 20's). The other was great - I totally miss him, and incidentally was a cop - since retired...

I loved being his slave He liked to handcuff me and stuff and make me suck his cock, and sometimes he'd fuck me in public. Sometimes he'd hang me by my wrists for a couple of hours until I was like catatonic then he'd come up behind me and do me, or sometimes throw me on the bed handcuffed and take me.

But I like it soft, slow and sensual too...

Moderation in all things I guess.

Now - where are the real men on this site...

Giggle,
TS Jamie :-)

[suckseed]

Being hung with much weight on one's wrists is just one of the ways that someone can get hurt with this stuff. While the woman who wrote the letter and I did not end up getting together, she did recommend a good book for anyone interested in BDSM. It's called Screw the Roses, Give Me the Thorns, and it's written by a couple who are partners. I recommend it highly. If you're interested, look it up at Amazon and read what people have to say about it.
I'll add that for me, even the wildest sex can't compensate for not being attracted in the first place. And I'd take missionary position sex with someone I actually have feelings for over hanging from a trapeze with someone I'm not into physically. (Luckily those aren't the only two choices!)