Hoe or No?

[TJ347]

Here's the thing...

I'm talking to this girl a week and a few days now, who seems to have a genuine interest in me, and seems cool as hell thus far. She made it clear that she's looking for a relationship, and while I'm generally closed to that, I allowed for that possibility.

So, the other day, I'm at her place and she calls me over to her computer, whereupon she proceeds to show me email after email from dudes all over the damned place. I find out in short order that she's got a little website or whatever.. no big deal. In the course of continued conversation though, I find out she's not just posing, but fucking on the site too, though she points out that "it's a steady cast of people", and not just some random dudes. Now, the decision has already been made, but what would you do in this situation?

[Jericho]

Strap on a condom and prepare for stardom. 8)

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

I'm only going to say but so much because this shit has happened to me a few times and a few of the heathens reside on HA. Dude it is what it is, porn stars have done it for decades, married life at home, fucking some next schmoe the next day. Me personally, I wouldn't call her a hoe, but I'd rethink the situation depending on the level of dickdown beatings per day she's receiving, because you'd have to outperform that on a constant basis.

[Jericho]

Strap on a condom and prepare for stardom. 8)

OR, it is what is.
No need to let it intrude on real life.

[TJ347]

The thing is Jericho, fucking on film does intrude on "real" life. It's one thing to play a killer in your average movie, as you're only playing a role and at the end of the day, you didn't really kill anybody. However, in porn, although your character might be make-believe, you're really fucking. That fact doesn't go away when filming stops.

Anyway, JWBL's comment about having to outperform the "dickdown beatings" she gets is something I thought about a good bit the last few days, especially after seeing one. Nothing like trying to think of a woman as potential relationship material after seeing her get plowed something vicious by a guy who resembles Ving Rhames, I'll tell you what. No, sir... this is another one that won't last too long at all.

[TomSelis]

I think the big question to ask yourself is: What do you want from her? Do you want to just have sex with her or do you want a real relationship?

It sounds like you're already second guessing the relationship part, that leaves sex. If you're ok with being one of many, put on your wetsuit and jump in! If not, walk away.

[Azanti]

It depends where you want things to go from here.

The future is generally more important than the past, the past will only intrude as much as you both let it. It's important to discuss it, but not to dwell on it.

Whatever you decide, good luck with it. If you think she is pretty special, give it more time.

[CORVETTEDUDE]

Take heed to the comment made so eliquently by TomSelis. Figure out what you want out of the deal. And, you didn't really say just what kind of 'relationship' she was referring to. Need more data!!!

"Dude"

[Jericho]

The thing is Jericho, fucking on film does intrude on "real" life. It's one thing to play a killer in your average movie, as you're only playing a role and at the end of the day, you didn't really kill anybody. However, in porn, although your character might be make-believe, you're really fucking. That fact doesn't go away when filming stops.

I would disagree.
But, i don't have to make the distinction, so it's easy for me to say that. :shrug


Anyway, JWBL's comment about having to outperform the "dickdown beatings" she gets is something I thought about a good bit the last few days

And you have to outperfom him because...?

[yodajazz]

I will just say that a relationship is a lot more than sex. You will spend a lot of time trying to figure out what to eat for dinner. But really it is more about quality time and doing things together, besides sex.

Then you will have to trust one another in your separate lives also. I believe that, that could be a major issue. Just be honest about how you feel to her and yourself.

To some extent, sex can be just entertainment; putting on a performance, not true intimacy. Buying furniture, takes comittment. Some people do that before they are ready in the relationship.

It could possibly work. You two would have to plan some kind of future together, short and longer term. Career choices would be a major part, I think. Let know what you decide.