BuuBear
06-02-2007, 04:58 AM
I'm only guessing but, seems tops like to fuck and get sucked, and bottoms like to suck and get fucked....
WHere does that leave us that love to get sucked, want to get fucked, love to suck, but eh (only partly interested in fucking), I mean I would with the right person but....
62des
06-02-2007, 05:23 AM
You gotta be gay saying you'd rather get fucked and have to be a special one that you'd fuck. I din't even know that was possible. Any reason for this?
BuuBear
06-02-2007, 05:26 AM
Yeah, if ya can get it up you can fuck, To me sex is more than just a physical connection....
Vala_TS
06-02-2007, 05:35 AM
It's called being a "switch" or being versatile.
Vala,
trannybanger
06-02-2007, 06:17 AM
:2cent
Ponch has great hair... man that guy got some ass back in the day!
ARMANIXXX
06-02-2007, 06:22 AM
:2cent
Ponch has great hair... man that guy got some ass back in the day!
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lol
I thought John was cool.
BuuBear
06-02-2007, 06:27 AM
Thank You Lady Vala!!!!
*smoochies*
TJ347
06-02-2007, 06:31 AM
From Wikipedia... Hopefully it helps answer your question COMPLETELY.
In the context of human sexual behavior, a top is an insertive or dominant partner, or a person who prefers the insertive or dominant role, and a bottom is a receptive partner (that is, a partner who is penetrated or submissive).
A person who enjoys both topping and bottoming is called versatile or a switch; the act of doing so is called switching.
These terms are used among gay men, BDSM practitioners, in some lesbian circles, and are gaining use among some opposite-sex couples too. For example, the act of pegging involves a female top and a male bottom.
Top and bottom in sex
The top need not be physically on top of the other partner though this is often the case.
"Top" can also be used as a transitive or intransitive verb meaning to sexually penetrate (someone).
In some American contexts, "tops" sometimes identified themselves by wearing a set of keys on the left side of the belt or a color-coded handkerchief in their left rear pockets, in this system the top did not always penetrate the bottom nor was he always the "active" partner, rather the "top" role would be different from act to act. This practice, called flagging, began in the gay male subculture.
Bottom
"Bottom" can also be used as an intransitive verb meaning to be sexually penetrated by: to bottom for someone.
Beginning in the 1970s, bottoms sometimes identified themselves by wearing a set of keys on the right side of the belt or a handkerchief in their right rear pocket. In this system the bottom was not always penetrated, nor was he always the "passive" partner. Rather, the "bottom" role was different from act to act, as signified by the color of the handkerchief. The practice is used much less today.
Switch or Versatile
To be versatile is to be willing to alternate as either or both a penetrative or receptive partner in sex; this is primarily used for homosexuals in reference to anal sex. A switch lesbian enjoys being alternately the active partner and the receptive partner, for example while engaging in oral sex or while using a strap-on dildo.
Slang & related terms
Common slang terms in some gay communities include: pitcher (top), catcher (bottom), and switch-hitter or flip (versatile). In some languages "passive" and "active" are always used, rather than "bottom" or "top". Some gay men dislike the term "bottom" as they feel it has negative connotations, and prefer not to use that term or the corresponding "top".
In Japanese bondage and sexually themed anime and manga, especially shounen-ai and yaoi, a top is referred to as seme, a term from kabuki and martial arts. A bottom is referred to as uke, also a term from marital arts.
Power top refers to both a sexual and hierarchical position in a sexual relationship between men. The "power" in the term refers to the fact that the person is more dominant in non-sexual situations. It may also be used to describe a top who has lots of stamina. Contrast with powerbottom.
The term Total Top is used to describe a man who exclusively tops.
Top and bottom in BDSM
In BDSM, a top is a partner who takes the active, dominant role in sexual play (such as in flogging, bondage, servitude, humiliation). The top performs acts such as these upon the bottom, who takes on the submissive role for the duration of a scene. (Note: bottom has significant connotative differences from submissive or slave.)
A top filling the dominant role is not necessarily a dominant, and vice versa, and a bottom is not necessarily submissive. At one end of the continuum is a submissive who enjoys taking orders from a dominant but does not receive any physical stimulation. At the other is a bottom who enjoys the intense physical and psychological stimulation but does not submit to the person delivering them.
Top
The top may sometimes even be the partner who is following instructions, i.e., they top when, and in the manner, requested by the bottom. A person who applies sensation or control to a bottom, but does so to the bottom's explicit instruction is a service top.
Topping from the bottom is a related BDSM term, meaning a person who wants to be dominated but simultaneously direct the top to do it according to their wishes. Topping from the bottom is usually considered poor practice amongst lifestyle BDSM devotees, although fairly common amongst the "BDSM curious" or newcomers who have had submissive fantasies but lack experience with a sexual dominant.
Some people see all BDSM experience in the hands of a competent Dom/me as teaching limits and self-discipline, and therefore argue that setting hard limits is itself a subtle form of topping from the bottom, arguing there should be total trust and no preset assumptions. They would instead tend to view the concept of hard limits as another example of attempts by the sub to retain control and dictate to the dom/me what dominance is or is not okay, rather than experiencing genuine surrender and allowing trust to direct the scene. This is a minority view which although generally acknowledged, is not shared by most practitioners.
Contrast this with the pure dominant, who might give orders to a submissive, or otherwise employ physical or psychological techniques of control, but might instruct the submissive to perform the act on him.
Dominant
A dominant is one who enjoys performing any of a variety of BDSM practices upon a submissive; or one who holds a dominant position within a relationship based upon dominance and submission (D/s). This enjoyment can spring from a simple desire for dominance or an enjoyment of the interplay of wills involved in such a scenario. A male dominant is often called a Dom; a female, a Domme or dominatrix.
The main difference between a dominant and a top is that the dominant ostensibly does not follow instructions, although they are limited by what the submissive is willing to do.
Bottom
It should be noted that for bottoms who are not submissive, the bottom is most often the partner who is giving instructions—the top typically tops when, and in the manner, requested by the bottom. Failure to choose a trustworthy top can be very dangerous (see safeword), and even a trustworthy but overzealous top can inflict severe pain or injury by failing to pay attention to the bottom.
Submissive
A submissive is one who enjoys having any of a variety of BDSM practices performed upon them by a dominant; or one who holds a submissive position within a relationship based upon dominance and submission (D/s). This enjoyment can spring from a simple desire for submission or an enjoyment of the interplay of wills involved in such a scenario. A submissive is also referred to as a "sub", where the dominant in a D/s relationship is the 'Dom.'
The main difference between a submissive and a bottom is that the submissive ostensibly does not give instructions, although they do set limits on what the Dominant can do.
There are also indications that submissives substantially outnumber Dominants, in both males and females. Professional Dominants provide stimulatory services (which may or may not include sex) for those unable to find a compatible partner for this activity.
There are some indications that preference in D/s activities follows a 'compensatory' pattern, with people who have much power and responsibility in real life often preferring a submissive role; no hard scientific data to either confirm or reject this hypothesis seem to exist, however.
In many BDSM communities, there is a distinction between a submissive and a slave. In this context, a slave's goal is surrender and obedience. In contrast, a submissive tends to expect some gratification in return for his or her submission.
Switch
In BDSM, a switch is someone who participates in BDSM activities sometimes as a top and other times as a bottom or (in the case of domination and submission) sometimes as a dominant and other times as a submissive. Switches are very common; partners may switch roles based on mood, desire, or to allow each partner to experience their preferred activity. For example, a switch may be in a relationship with someone of the same primary BDSM orientation (e.g., two dominants), so switching provides each partner with an opportunity to realize his or her BDSM needs.
It is also common for people to switch with different partners, such as when a person acts exclusively as a top with one partner and exclusively as a bottom with another.
The act of "switching" may also refer to a spontanaeous reversal of roles, initiated by the bottom, who then takes control.
A person who engages in self-bondage can be viewed as taking both roles simultaneously.
Contrast between "top" and "bottom" in sex vs BDSM
The terms "dominant" or "active" have been used for "top" in sex, and the terms "submissive" or "passive" have been used for "bottom", though these may be confusing as the sex in question need not be part of a dominance relationship, nor is the bottom necessarily "inactive" or less "active" than the top. By extension, the term "top" is also used in BDSM to mean a partner who applies stimulation to another, and who may or may not be dominant.
Also, a top in BDSM need not be the 'insertive' sex partner; for example, a female dominant may command her submissive to penetrate her.
62des
06-02-2007, 06:33 AM
What is this world cumming to? lol
trannybanger
06-02-2007, 06:45 AM
the sad thing is.... someone had to type all that into wikipedia...
TJ347
06-02-2007, 06:47 AM
the sad thing is.... someone had to type all that into wikipedia...
So true...
And how funny is this:
Beginning in the 1970s, bottoms sometimes identified themselves by wearing a set of keys on the right side of the belt or a handkerchief in their right rear pocket. In this system the bottom was not always penetrated, nor was he always the "passive" partner. Rather, the "bottom" role was different from act to act, as signified by the color of the handkerchief. The practice is used much less today.
My question is, is "the practice" used at all today? :lol:
BuuBear
06-02-2007, 06:50 AM
Don't know, Good Question TJ
I remember the old bandana in the pocket thing in the 70's. No one could remember which was which and it varied in different parts of the US.
There was the small diamond stud in the right or left ear that was used too,but there were the same problems with it. Plus a lot straight guys wore 'em,made for lots of fights.
Too much good weed and Quaaludes in the 70's for anything so complicated to work.
chefmike
06-02-2007, 10:16 AM
If you are getting fucked in the ass then you are most likely a bottom...
trannybanger
06-02-2007, 05:06 PM
and if you are sucking some cock you are most likely a cocksucker...
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