How come some guys get all the girls?

[peggygee]

How come some guys get all the girls?

No, not this guy.

http://i92.photobucket.com/albums/l2/magi43/sexaddict.jpg

Some members on this forum have been in
a number of LTRs. Hell, a few even are are
married to transwomen.

What's their secret?

Location, good luck, good looks, good d... :oops:

What's the deal?

:shrug

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

not some guys, the men......................

let me redirect ya

http://www.hungangels.com/board/viewtopic.php?t=19387

[whatsupwithat]

Okay...here's my story:

I was in a 13.5 year relationship with a transwoman. We lived together that entire time. That ended about 4 years ago.

Since then, I've met and gone on many dates with people. I've even traveled halfway across the country to meet someone.

But I haven't had any LT relationships or even sex with those people. The reason? Celibacy. It started out as a choice. I needed some time by myself after all that time with someone else. But over time it's made me look at people in a much different way that would be really hard to explain here on a forum. In short, I don't just want to get my rocks off with someone because they look good.

Don't get me wrong, I've met some amazing and intelligent and beautiful and sexy girls, but finding someone special, someone that you want to spend time with, share your fears and desires with, become intimate with...and who wants to do that with you...is very difficult. Very. I'm trying, though.

[hwbs]

im just genuine and shoot str8 from the hip.... im not rich or some prize...I will be blunt on this response....a lot of the crazies on here that approach the girls like their own personal playground , makes it very easy for a guy like me to date a ts....its really that simple

[peggygee]

I've read all the answers by Hollywoodbuckstrap, whatsupwithat,
JWBL (on re-direct) and they were as I expected, and if they portend
what will be coming from other guys that have been in relationships,
then the verdict may be somewhat straightforward.

Some guys just ain't handling their business.

But the answers and responses that I have read from these three ring
true, and valid to me.

So I have to ask what's so hard about
stepping to a woman correctly.

http://i92.photobucket.com/albums/l2/magi43/toocomplicate-1.jpg

It ain't rocket surgery. :smh

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

not every man has to step to a woman, some of us have been fortunate enough to be able to just show up somewhere and spark a woman's interest............

it becomes rocket surgery (lol) when you get someone that goes after someone THEY KNOW THEY SHOULDN'T BE INVOLVED WITH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Girls always go through the phase of the bad boy, and guys always go through the phase of the slutty type chick............. It's times when the guy seeking the slutty chick mentality from a genuinely good girl pop up that we get questions like this.

[goldensamba]

It's all in your appraoch. I grew up with 4 sisters and no brothers so I learned at a yound age. A little confidence, and being yourself and let the chips fall where they may. Leave the cheesy lines and your roll of bills at home. Most women you will want to spend any time with don't care about any of that. They want a genuine guy who will be supportive and commited and not full of crap.

And women are like other animals in that they sense fear....one wiff of a lack of self confidence and you are in an uphill battle.

That's what works for me anyway.

Sounds like you need "Hitch" lol

[TheOne1]

animal instict goes along way....ya animals

http://www.eros-ny.com/sections/new_york_escorts/theone

[hippifried]

They don't get all of them. Just the ones you're interested in. :lol:

[wendy48088]

How come some guys get all the girls?

...What's their secret?

...What's the deal?

...

My answer may not be very romantic, but having a job (source of legitimate income) is important. It is a tough job market out there for many, but getting off the couch and doing something is important.

I guess I should also add the obvious - not be a heavy drug user or alcoholic, not be recently released from jail for murdering his last girl-friend, etc.

Aside from being able to hold a job and not have any extreme negatives, I would say also being able to do all the normal "guy" stuff:

From taking out the trash and the recycle bin, to working on the cars (oil change, replacing headlights / brake turn signal lights out on the car so the cops don't have an excuse to pull you over) to fixing the light switch on the wall (trip to Home Depot plus find out which circuit breaker turns off the power to the switch first) to the toliet that won't flush when you hit the lever (rusty broken chain from the handle inside the tank to the flapper valve at the bottom of the tsnk), etc. etc. etc.

Like I said, not very romantic...

Of course the average, normal guy who can do all that still may not to be able on those merits alone to date Allanah or Vicki or Danielle or Gia, or any of the other hot TS super-stars, but they will have a shot at the average, normal genetic or transgendered woman who is in the market for a man, I would think...

[LTR_Seeker]

I been seeking ltr in these rooms for years i have no luck its depressing peggy.

[blckhaze]

Looks and money bring them in. Honesty and a sense of humour keeps them coming back. The latter works for me. When a person feels comfortable with you, theyll come back. Learned that from my mother and grandmother.

[peggygee]

How come some guys get all the girls?

...What's their secret?

...What's the deal?

...

My answer may not be very romantic, but having a job (source of legitimate income) is important....

I guess I should also add the ovbious - not be a heavy drug user or alcoholic, not be recently released from jail for murdering his last girl-friend, etc.

Aside from being able to hold a job and not have any extreme negatives, I would say also being able to do all the normal "guy" stuff:

From taking out the trash and the recycle bin, to working on the cars (oil change, replacing headlights / brake turn signal lights out on the car so the cops don't have an excuse to pull you over) to fixing the light switch ...

Like I said, not very romantic...

Of course the average, normal guy who can do all that still may not to be able on those merits alone to date Allanah or Vicki or Danielle or Gia, or any of the other hot TS super-stars, but they will have a shot at the average, normal genetic or transgendered woman who is in the market for a man, I would think...

I asked this question based upon on the many statements that I have
heard from the guys saying that they can't find Ms. Right.

As I pointed out some men seem to have little to no problem being
in relationships (LTR / marriage), whereas others bemoan the fact
that they can't seem to find anyone.

From your answer and the previous ones, it seems as if just being a
decent guy should do the trick (no pun intended :oops: )

In previous posts I have addressed the issue of all guys wanting the TS
superstar.

'People in Hell, want ice water', hope that works out for them. :shrug





Looks and money bring them in. Honesty and a sense of humour keeps them coming back. The latter works for me. When a person feels comfortable with you, theyll come back. Learned that from my mother and grandmother.



I'm not sure that's true for all women, particularly the women that have
their own money, and are able to look beyond the supeficiality of
looks.

Though I may concede that might be the case for younger women, but
what do I know, I haven't been young in a while. :wink:

I do agree about honesty, and humor, they are in the at the top three
of my list right up there with intelligence.

Sounds like Mama, 'and them' raised you well. 8)




So, me being the educated, professional black man won't approach based on the observation on what is out there. 99% of the women are the same, they just won't admit it. So why would I, waste my time on some females who has a preference that I don't resemble? I would never approach another as long as I live.

You have two types of females here;

1) That has been around the block more than a few times and has one or few more children running around. Baby father drama.

2) The one without kids, but is so conceited she can't even believe it. May be educated, but has her preference set. Loves to reject because she has no strings attached. (children, baby father drama) and loves the Materialism along with the thugs.

The pickings up here are so slim, you might as well be gay.


Unisex, we allways come back to this point, 'baby mama drama'. http://i92.photobucket.com/albums/l2/magi43/baby-14.gif

For the life of me, I don't know where all these 'Sistahs' are that you are
encountering that are knocked up or want to be knocked up.

We clearly roll with different people, and I'm not strictly referring to my
O.G. crew, but my Nieces, cousins, and the other young females, they
ain't trying to be in a 'family way' prematurely.

In previous discussions you and others have managed to sway my
opinion somewhat about the 'badboy complex'.

But 99% being conceited, wanting to get knocked up, or wanting the
bad boy, just seems statistically unreasonable.

[Fox]

Rent this.

http://ec1.images-amazon.com/images/I/51ZAQ89E8VL._SS500_.jpg

http://www.amazon.com/Def-Jams-How-Be-Player/dp/6304676115

There's a scene where he's at a party and looks for the most unappealing woman (who was actually cute) and asks her to dance, which caught the eye of other women, and one hottie in particular. "If she got his attention, imagine what I could do!" kinda thing.


Seriously though, confidence and trial and error are what got me action (though, admittedly, not a lot).

Um... keep trying? :shrug

[2pert4ya]

well i meet and have relationships and hook ups with the ladies cause maybe im tall and nice lookin naw its cause i act the same around everyone silly as hell and i talk a lot of shit. and also i threat them like regular folks not on a pedistle(i cant spell), unless shes my girl then shes up there but its looks and personality

[goldensamba]

I'm not sure that's true for all women, particularly the women that have
their own money, and are able to look beyond the superficiality of
looks.


Where are these women? LOL The number of women who fit this category are so few and far between it's pathetic. We have become a society that only cares about status and money. Until little girls stop seeing constant images of Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian and Nichole Richie and all the other losers who do nothing but drink and party and live on someone else's dime then that isn't going to change. These types of girls (surely they cannot be considered women) have never accomplished anything in life but for some reason are held up as something to aspire toward.

Being born and raised in Southern California they don't come any more pretentious than right here in good old LA.

[casper]

How come some guys get all the girls?

What's their secret?

What's the deal?

:shrug

Just lucky I guess... :shrug